About the Episode and Guest

Cherish Amber, a seasoned queer sex, intimacy, and relationship coach, takes us on an extraordinary journey of self-discovery and acceptance. From identifying as bisexual at 15 to embracing her identity as a lesbian, Cherish shares the challenges and triumphs that have shaped her path. She offers poignant insights into the emotional and sexual differences between relationships with men and women, underscoring the authenticity and freedom she finds in her queer relationships. Cherish's narrative illuminates the power of safe queer spaces and underscores the importance of self-acceptance.

Listeners will gain valuable insights into the intricate relationship between pleasure, consent, and intimacy within the queer community. Cherish highlights her initiatives like coming out coaching and the Pleasure Zone at pride events, which encourage open conversations about pleasure. We dissect the orgasm gap in heterosexual relationships and the unique dynamics of sex in lesbian relationships, revealing how rethinking sexual expectations can significantly enhance relationship satisfaction. Cherish's practical wisdom, drawn from long-term lesbians, offers a fresh perspective on navigating intimate connections.

Our conversation further delves into the nuances of consent, using relatable analogies like offering a cup of tea to clarify that consent can be withdrawn at any time. We discuss the concept of arousal non-concordance and the importance of focusing on mutual pleasure rather than just achieving orgasms. Cherish shares practical tips for those new to lesbian relationships, emphasizing the importance of a safe and fulfilling sexual experience. From vaginal health and the impact of diet to the dynamics of sharing sex toys in long-term relationships, this episode is a treasure trove of insights aimed at empowering individuals in their sexual journeys.

(00:00) Queer Sex Coach Shares Journey

Cherish Amber shares her coming out journey, discussing labels, trauma, and the freedom of queer relationships.

(07:40) Exploring Pleasure, Consent, and Intimacy

Pleasure, consent, and challenges in queer relationships, including disparities in sexual experiences and rethinking expectations for enhanced satisfaction.

(18:32) Navigating Consent and Pleasure in Sex

Consent can be withdrawn at any stage, arousal non-concordance can create confusion, physical responses during assault are purely physiological, and mutual pleasure should be prioritized in sexual experiences.

(27:18) Exploring Sensuality and Communication in Sex

Nature's safe and fulfilling sexual experience for new or inexperienced lesbian partners, emphasizing connection, comfort, and acceptance.

(33:46) Exploring Vaginal Health and Pleasure

Nature's diversity of female anatomy, gentle and respectful intimacy, vaginal health and hygiene, and preparation for anal play.

(45:05) Sharing Sex Toys in Relationships

Toy preferences in lesbian relationships, sharing and practicality, online coaching services, upcoming episodes and mutual promotion.

Chapters

(00:48 - 02:15) Coming Out Journey and Relationships

(04:59 - 06:15) Exploring Sexual Identity and Labels

(13:41 - 15:34) Reimagining Definitions of Sex

(21:05 - 21:40) Consent and Arousal Incongruence

(26:24 - 27:39) Importance of Post-Sex Care

(29:26 - 30:46) Communicating Feedback During Intimacy

(33:08 - 34:04) Understanding Different Sexual Preferences

(43:15 - 44:37) Reusing Sex Toys and Hygiene

Learn More About Cherish Amber:

https://www.cherishamber.com/

Listen to my guest episode on Apple:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/finding-authenticity-through-self-discovery/id1733905628?i=1000659638682

Listen to my guest episode on Spotify:

https://open.spotify.com/episode/3VGYo0hv26KEAOBGgEIXcU?si=af5e6778f5ff4e78