Last month, a faculty member at Trinity School NYC (Ellie and Carrie's alma mater) left the school after being secretly filmed by Project Veritas during what she thought was a date. In the widely disseminated video that was catnip for CRT-fearing conservatives, she reveals that she takes her full self—including her leftist political agenda—to her job, where she says “white boys … a huge contingent of them,” are “just horrible.”
The latest pendulum swing back toward tradition in private schools (see Ginia Bellafante last month in the NYTimes), the headmaster's email announcing her departure claimed it was the school’s responsibility to “nurture children as they become responsible citizens" by rejecting “discrimination of any kind” and espousing the importance of “a diverse, inclusive community.”
In this episode, Ellie and Carrie speak with friend and fellow Trinity alumna Sara Frost (@spooningwithsara), unequivocally That Girl—albeit with a heart of gold—in high school. The faculty member's political statements did not surprise (or particularly disturb) us alumnae, who recall parents labeling the history department “socialist summer camp" (we read Howard Zinn) when we were students. As for her thoughts on wealthy white boys—well, we lived them. When we were there, Trinity, despite its academic leftism, fostered neither a nurturing nor progressive student culture.
Looking to Amia Srinivasan’s “The Right to Sex,” Ellie, Carrie, and Sara discuss the politics of sexual surveillance in “the swamp”—the student lounge to which white male students (largely those not on financial aid) felt entitled. In retrospect, they realize that many girls who spent free periods in the swamp were welcome there partly due to their "fuckability." But fuckability, Srinivasan reminds us, “is not some good that should be distributed more fairly. It isn’t a good at all.” Citing sociologist Katherine Cross, she implores us to ask ourselves what certain women get from topping white men’s hierarchies of desirability. In other words, what are the wages of being in someone else’s pecking order? Meanwhile, what happens when one is implicitly (or in Ellie’s case, explicitly) unwelcome in the swamp? And why are girls wronged by boys often ostracized when those boys are punished?
Other topics discussed include Trinity’s insularity, owed in part to its prison-inspired architecture, and its inability to handle students who learned differently or were unwilling to make themselves sick in pursuit of perfection. "Labore et virtute" is fine to a point—but what ever happened to curā?