All the $#!T

Tom and Will tackle one of the most sensitive, shame-ridden, and serious topics young people face: sexual abuse.

A young listener suspects his friend is being sexually abused by a family member and wants to help. Tom draws on his personal experience with sexual trauma to offer guidance in how to move forward. He also tries to explain how the internal conflict - heavy with guilt and shame - can be a barrier to victims in coming forward and seeking help in situations like this.

Tom invites his friend Elvir to join the podcast for a conversation about struggling with academics. Elvir’s experience coming to this country as a refugee in the 8th grade without speaking English, as well as his garbage GPA in high school, offers a unique perspective on overcoming academic challenges and negative self-talk. Tom cautions this young woman against getting trapped in the lie that she is “dumb.” 

EavesDROPs are stand-alone excerpts from the "All the $#!T" podcast to highlight key takeaways from these conversations.

Tom and Annah tackle one of the most HUMAN challenges we all face: learning to love who we see in the mirror. Annah shares her experience living with a negative self-image and laments the years she spent trying to be what she thought OTHERS wanted her to be, rather than learning who she was and what SHE liked.

This is a message for all the young women out there, encouraging them to cut the bonds of social expectations and discover their true, authentic selves.

With Will being unavailable due to a medical procedure, Tom drafts Annah to pinch hit and help answer some questions for young women!

Tom listens as Annah takes over the show and shares heartfelt wisdom and perspective on the topics of eating disorders and dealing with a negative self-image during the tumultuous high school years.

Tom and Will add a new twist to the show, tackling questions from teens about the challenges they’re facing in their lives. 

One young person with an interest in running for class counsel is having second thoughts at the last minute, questioning whether or not they’re capable of leading. They are intimidated by other kids, who are low-key bullying this individual for being a bit different. Tom and Will encourage them to GO FOR IT, while sharing their own experience with impostor syndrome, self-doubt, and leadership.

Another young person is complaining about fatigue and back pain after their first few days at a new (first) job. Tom and Will throw a little tough love their way, offering a few ways to mitigate the initial discomfort, and encouraging them to start taking their health and fitness a little more seriously. 

Tom and Will adopt Bolek’s “go with the flow” approach to life in this meandering conversation, which includes a heated debate on trans athletes’ right to compete while lamenting their own diminishing athletic prowess. Tom suggests a method to help women appeal to the “protector” mentality in their men when they want them to do something. The guys also applaud the tenacity and courage of immigrants, while recognizing their own privilege despite lackluster SAT performances. Will calls Tom out for starting CrossFit out of jealousy, which leads to sharing stories about getting into fights as younger men.

EavesDROPs are stand-alone excerpts from the "All the $#!T" podcast to highlight key takeaways from these conversations.

Will’s throw-away comment about introducing his daughter to professional women’s soccer “before women’s soccer is filled with men” sparks a debate about whether or not trans athletes should be allowed to compete based on the sex they identify with.

Tom talks with his friend, Bolek, about growing up in the United States as a child of immigrants in New Jersey's Polish community. From helping his dad prepare tax returns for other immigrants (starting at age 5), to ultimately becoming an elite orthopedic surgeon, Bo shares his story of overcoming obstacles to realize his version of the American Dream.

EavesDROPs are stand-alone excerpts from the "All the $#!T" podcast to highlight key takeaways from these conversations.

Bolek talks about his "side hustle" helping his father prepare tax returns for other immigrants. He reflects on the cultural differences growing up in Edison, New Jersey's Polish community, reconciling his experience with that of his American friends, and reflecting on his parents' experience in a new country.

Tom and Will highlight their weeks, punctuated with bad parenting and an encounter with an endangered timber rattlesnake. The guys then dive into their takeaways from last week's conversation with Jeff, celebrating "wise selfishness," and discussing the difference between empathy and compassion. Tom shares how a psychedelic experience helped him process the loss of his child and acknowledges that men struggle with this topic.