All the $#!T

Eaves-DROPs are stand-alone excerpts from the "All the $#!T" podcast to highlight key takeaways from these conversations.

Tom shares his experience with losing a child. After months of lingering depression, Tom ultimately realized the root cause was that he had never allowed himself time to grieve. A life-altering psychedelic trip helped him process the thoughts and emotions that had been suppressed deep inside and allowed him to work through his grief and come out lighter on the other side.

Tom reconnects with one of his college roommates, Jeff Sinclair, a Unified Mindfulness coach (jeffsinclairmindfulness.com). Tom and Jeff recount some stories from their collegiate a cappella days, as well as the twists and turns life has thrown at them since graduation. Jeff's approach to mindfulness is woven throughout this episode as he shares his experience with topics ranging from video game addiction, to losing a child.

This episode is packed with little nuggets of wisdom as Tom and Jeff discuss the importance of men finding a community and difference between compassion and empathy. Jeff also introduces Tom to the concept of WISE SELFISHNESS.

Eaves-DROPs are stand-alone excerpts from the "All the $#!T" podcast to highlight key takeaways from these conversations.

In this excerpt from "Can mindfulness offer a path to a happier, more meaningful life," Jeff shares his experience as a gaming addict and how he was able to break free. Tom and Jeff explore how a "Quest for Connection" is, for many men, at the core of both gaming addiction and our preoccupation with sports and competition in general.

Eaves-DROPs are stand-alone excerpts from the "All the $#!T" podcast to highlight key takeaways from these conversations.

In this excerpt from "Can mindfulness offer a path to a happier, more meaningful life?," Jeff talks about losing his son, Avery, and how he coped with that grief. He shares how having people to lean on, and not being afraid to talk about his feelings has helped him heal.

Tom and Will discuss the nature of addiction in the wake of last week's conversation with Tom's brother-in-law, Jason, who is a person in recovery. Will does not DENY that addiction is a real thing, but he believes everything boils down to personal choices and doesn't understand how someone could make a choice that derails their life. Tom shares his perspective and tries to help Will make sense of a topic that has catastrophic repercussions for millions of people and their families worldwide.

Trigger Warning: substance abuse, sexual abuse, and suicide are discussed in this episode.

Tom interviews his brother-in-law, Jason, who has battled addiction for most of his life. Jason shares how his childhood traumas led him down a dark path and how speaking out about these incidents has ultimately allowed him to regain his footing on his path of recovery. Jason also shares how his experiences have given him a new sense of meaning and purpose in the next chapter of his life.

Tom and Will talk about take-aways and lessons from last week's conversation with Scott. Will makes a note to double down on being present, attentive, and affectionate with his kids. Tom and Will discuss the value of friendship and debate the limits of getting to know your neighbors and the placement of lower-income housing.

Tom sits down with his father-in-law, Scott, for a raw and intimate conversation about manhood. Scott shares how his definition of what it means to be a man has evolved over time, from childhood through adulthood. He shares his experience reckoning with the fact that he didn't have the relationship he wanted with his father, and his sadness in realizing he ultimately did the same thing with his daughters. He shares invaluable insights on fatherhood, reflecting on his shortcomings, and how those painful lessons have made him a better man. It is a true master class in examining one's self and making changes from the inside out. This is a must-listen for men of ALL ages, and has particularly important notes for fathers ... and sons/daughters trying to navigate strained relationships with their fathers.

Tom and Will announce a major change to the show as they reveal ATS 2.0, which will feature interviews with other men, from all walks of life, with the goal of revealing common threads that unite us despite our perceived differences. Will provides an update on his health scare and Tom laments the loss of another vehicle and reflects on the way he dealt with the situation.

ATS is about to enter a new era, where Tom and Will speak with other men about their lives, the definition of "manhood" they were raised with, and how that definition has changed over time. Through these interviews, the guys hope to gain wisdom and perspective while sharing these lessons with other men. This new iteration of All the $#!T will fulfill the vision the guys had for the podcast when they came up with the original idea. First interview episode drops next week, when Tom interviews his father-in-law!

Tom and Will talk about how they spent the 4th of July weekend. Tom laments the death of the American Dream as he and Will compare the social "baseline" of generations past with the reality of today.