Am I doing it wrong? For Doctors by Doctors.

Ever find yourself saying "yes" when you really mean "no"?

In this episode, Kristeen and Becc get honest about people pleasing — how it shows up in the lives of doctors (often without us realising), what it quietly takes from us, and what you can do to break the cycle.

We explore:
🧠 3 sneaky ways people pleasing shows up
😞 3 things it’s silently stealing from you
💡 3 practical tools to shift from pleasing to authentic professionalism

Whether you’re drowning in obligations, stuck in “yes mode,” or just wondering if this is part of why you’re so exhausted — this conversation is for you.

You’re not alone. And you can reclaim your time, your energy, and your why.

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👋 Becc's Instagram: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3QgkTqT%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0

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💌 Want FREE 1-line mindset upgrades every M/W/F to make you more UNSHAKEABLE? 💌 Just drop your email here: https://doctorbecc.myflodesk.com/mindsetmoments

💜 In the Dare, Darling Group Coaching Membership, Doctor Becc makes doctors who feel never enough UNSHAKEABLE. ⏭️ WANT TO KNOW MORE or apply for a spot in the next cohort? 👭👭👭 https://www.doctorbecc.com.au

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Hey, Doctor Humans! 👩‍⚕️👨‍⚕️

In this episode, we’re diving into an unexpected way to use ChatGPT (aka Sparks, Kristeen's AI bestie) to simplify everyday life—starting with meal planning and grocery shopping. If you’ve ever felt the cognitive load of figuring out what to eat, making sure you have the right ingredients, and dreading the grocery store, this one’s for you!

Kristeen shares her genius AI hack that’s changed the game for her weekly grocery planning, helping her stay organized and avoid those dreaded “trip of shame” supermarket runs. 🛒✨ But it doesn’t stop there! We also chat about:

✔️ How AI can streamline repetitive tasks (so you can spend less time on life admin and more time doing what matters)
✔️ The power of Custom GPTs to personalize AI for your needs
✔️ AI-powered ways to reduce mental resistance and get things DONE
✔️ How AI is already making waves in clinical practice—and why we refuse to get left behind

Whether you’re an AI skeptic or already besties with your own ChatGPT, this episode will spark (pun intended) some ideas on how to make life a little easier. Let us know in the comments—how are YOU using AI to level up your personal or professional life? 🚀

🔗 Resources mentioned:

• Woolworths Online Shopping (for our Aussie listeners!)
• ChatGPT Custom GPTs (for those curious about making AI work exactly how you want it to)

🎧 Listen now and let’s make life less exhausting, one AI hack at a time!

Think you're just "a bit tired" or "pushing through" another long clinical shift? Think again. That low-key buzz in your body might not be caffeine—it could be chronic nervous system activation. 🧠💥

In this powerful episode of Am I Doing It Wrong?, Doctor Becc (Dr Rebecca Nothrop) and Kristeen Barker break down the silent stress response that so many doctors unknowingly operate from—and how it's quietly hijacking your energy, clarity, and well-being.

Whether you’re running on adrenaline without realising it, skipping lunch again (guilty), or feeling wired-but-exhausted by 10 a.m., this one’s for you.

You’ll learn:

• The subtle signs you're stuck in fight-or-flight mode (spoiler: it’s not always a racing heart)

• 3 science-backed, real-world tools to actually reset your parasympathetic nervous system

• How to weave calm into your clinical day—without needing extra time, yoga pants, or a retreat in Bali

Doctor Becc shares a game-changing moment of self-awareness mid-shift, and Kristeen reveals how adrenaline used to fuel her registrar years without her even knowing it. This is the kind of wisdom that comes from being in the trenches—and finding a better way out.

👉 Feeling this episode? Let us know! Drop a comment, leave a review, or share it with a colleague who needs less sympathetic in their life. We love hearing how you're doing this doctor life—your way. 💬💛

Here's what we all know, even if you put a lid on it, those tears are still going to boil over. What you don't know is the lid only makes those tears MORE FORCEFUL. 🫀 ⚡️Ever felt totally thrown off by a stressful moment—only to realize, nothing actually happened? Welcome to being human, Doctor.In this episode of Am I Doing It Wrong?, Doctor Becc (Dr Rebecca Nothrop) and Kristeen Barker unpack the emotional rollercoaster that so many doctors experience—but rarely talk about. From dinner table panics to near-miss dog rescues, they take you through real-life moments when the nervous system goes DEFCON 1… even when everything ends up being fine.But here’s the juicy bit: they’ll show you exactly how to intercept that stress spiral before it hijacks your whole day. With powerful analogies (hello, boiling pasta pot), quick-to-use mindset tools like the “Of course” technique, and heartfelt validation that your feelings are always valid (even when your brain is making stuff up), this episode is your new emotional first aid kit.You’ll learn:🫀 Why “toxic positivity” and “just think positive” don’t actually help (and what to do instead)🫀 How to stop invalidating your own emotions (guilty!)🫀 The difference between spark, fire, pot, and stove—and why that matters for your stress🫀 Practical tools for not just surviving, but thriving in your doctor life, especially during exam seasonThis one’s a warm hug, a reality check, and a nervous system reset all rolled into one.👉 So tell us, beautiful doctors—what’s your “spark-fire” story? Have you tried the “of course” technique? Leave a review, drop us a comment, or send us a DM. We love hearing how these tools are landing with you.🎧 Subscribe, share with your favorite stressed-out colleague, and don’t miss the next episode—we’re diving into calming your nervous system in actual minutes. Let’s do this, doctors!

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📽 Kristeen's Youtube: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3JaSHBE⁠⁠

👋 Kristeen's Instagram: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/4aKX5mq⁠⁠

📽 Becc's Youtube: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3TQbLKl⁠⁠

👋 Becc's Instagram: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3QgkTqT⁠⁠

💌 Want FREE 1-line mindset upgrades every M/W/F to make you more UNSHAKEABLE? 💌 Just drop your email here: https://doctorbecc.myflodesk.com/mindsetmoments

💜 In the Dare, Darling Group Coaching Membership, Doctor Becc makes doctors who feel never enough UNSHAKEABLE. ⏭️ WANT TO KNOW MORE or apply for a spot in the next cohort? 👭👭👭 https://www.doctorbecc.com.au

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Are you brave enough to be that doctor?

In this heartfelt and fiercely real episode of Am I Doing It Wrong? — the podcast for doctors by doctors — Doctor Becc (Dr Rebecca Nothrop) and Kristeen Barker open up the emotional floodgates on one of the toughest challenges in medicine: speaking up when something isn’t right. 

Whether it’s toxic gossip in the tea room or uncomfortable political clashes around the ward, the cost of staying silent can be far greater than the risk of speaking out.

⚡ Doctor Becc and Kristeen Barker dive into:

• Why doctors often don’t speak up — and what stops us

• The unseen ripple effect of hospital culture and public shaming

• Real-life moments where staying silent wasn’t an option

• How to sit with the discomfort of being “the unpopular one”

• The art of speaking truth with empathy (and surviving the fallout)

This episode isn’t about telling you what’s right or wrong. It’s about helping you build your own inner compass, find your voice, and stand by your values — even when it’s scary, uncomfortable, or unpopular.

🌱 Expect plenty of laughs, a few emotional gut punches, and that signature Doctor Becc & Kristeen warmth as they ask the real questions: Am I doing it wrong… or am I just being brave?

💌 We want to hear from you!

Have you got a personal experience here? We'd LOVE to hear it and be inspired. Or to have a look at the challenges together.

Maybe you want to prepare yourself for what's right for you in the next situation?

⬇️ Let's talk about it in the comments.

Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎

📽 Kristeen's Youtube: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3JaSHBE⁠⁠

👋 Kristeen's Instagram: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/4aKX5mq⁠⁠

📽 Becc's Youtube: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3TQbLKl⁠⁠

👋 Becc's Instagram: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3QgkTqT⁠⁠

💌 Want FREE 1-line mindset upgrades every M/W/F to make you more UNSHAKEABLE? 💌 Just drop your email here: https://doctorbecc.myflodesk.com/mindsetmoments

💜 In the Dare, Darling Group Coaching Membership, Doctor Becc makes doctors who feel never enough UNSHAKEABLE. ⏭️ WANT TO KNOW MORE or apply for a spot in the next cohort? 👭👭👭 https://www.doctorbecc.com.au

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Hi, friends! It’s Kristeen Becc here, and we are so excited to have you join us for today’s episode where we talk all things friendship.

As doctors, we often feel stretched thin between work, family, and other commitments, leaving little time for friendships. In this episode, we explore how to foster deeper, more meaningful friendships—even with limited time.

We'll be shining light on the limitations of "catch-up culture" and together setting the goal of creating shared experiences which truly strengthen relationships and enrich your life.

We hope you love this episode and share with all the friends you want to make memories with.

And if you are enjoying the poddy don't forget to subscribe and leave us an honest review.

Thank you so much for being here and we looking forward to hanging out with you again very soon.

Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on social media! 🌎

📽 Kristeen's Youtube: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3JaSHBE⁠⁠

👋 Kristeen's Instagram: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/4aKX5mq⁠⁠

📽 Becc's Youtube: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3TQbLKl⁠⁠

👋 Becc's Instagram: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3QgkTqT⁠⁠

💌 Want FREE 1-line mindset upgrades every M/W/F to make you more UNSHAKEABLE? 💌 Just drop your email here: https://doctorbecc.myflodesk.com/mindsetmoments

💜 In the Dare, Darling Group Coaching Membership, Doctor Becc makes doctors who feel never enough UNSHAKEABLE. ⏭️ WANT TO KNOW MORE or apply for a spot in the next cohort? 👭👭👭 https://www.doctorbecc.com.au

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Hi there beautiful friends and doctor humans!

It’s Kristeen and Doctor Becc here. We're so glad you're joining us today for another heartfelt chat.

In this episode, we’re diving into a topic we know many of you will relate to: the tension between wanting to be good, kind, and giving while learning to balance that with the realities of life and our human limits.

1. The Myth of Goodness:

Being "nice" or a "good person" often comes with perfectionistic definitions that set us up for self-doubt.

2. Perfectionism’s Trap:

High performers, like doctors, are especially prone to believing they must operate at 10/10 all the time. This mindset not only leads to burnout but also undercuts our ability to appreciate our efforts.

3. Redefining Goodness:

Instead of striving for perfection, we can focus on showing up with authenticity and giving our best within the energy we have each day.

4. Boundaries Are Key:

Being kind to yourself and setting healthy limits allows you to sustainably care for others without depleting your own reserves.

5. Rejecting Perfectionistic Thinking:

Learning to validate our own efforts, even when they’re not “perfect,” creates space for compassion and growth.

We’d love to hear your thoughts on this episode! Have you ever struggled with perfectionism or doubting whether you’re "good enough"?

Share your insights or stories with us by leaving a comment or sending us a message. If this conversation resonated with you, please share it with a friend and help us spread the word. Don’t forget to subscribe for more meaningful conversations—we’ll see you in the next episode!

Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎

📽 Kristeen's Youtube: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3JaSHBE⁠⁠

👋 Kristeen's Instagram: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/4aKX5mq⁠⁠

📽 Becc's Youtube: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3TQbLKl⁠⁠

👋 Becc's Instagram: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3QgkTqT⁠⁠

💌 Want FREE 1-line mindset upgrades every M/W/F to make you more UNSHAKEABLE? 💌 Just drop your email here: https://doctorbecc.myflodesk.com/mindsetmoments

💜 In the Dare, Darling Group Coaching Membership, Doctor Becc makes empathetic doctors UNSHAKEABLE. ⏭️ WANT TO KNOW MORE or apply for a spot in the next cohort? 👭👭👭 https://www.doctorbecc.com.au

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Hi, friends! It’s Kristeen Barker and Dr. Becc here, and we are so excited to have you join us for today’s episode.

We’re talking about something that hits close to home for so many of us—traits we’ve been told are “bad” but are actually game-changers when it comes to leadership, self-growth, and making an impact.

We want to give you access to these these incredible traits. AND FIRST, we need to clean up our ICK about the words.

You'll have to listen to the ep to hear which traits we're talking about!

⏭️ Did anything up for you when you heard these words? We’d love to know! Drop us a DM, comment on social media, or leave us a review to share your thoughts. Let’s start a conversation about how we can reframe these ideas and grow together.

Don’t forget to subscribe, share this episode with a friend who needs a mindset shift, and tune in next week for more!

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In this episode, we’re sharing small, practical tweaks that make achieving your goals a breeze. Think “low-hanging fruit” that clears the path to better habits and bigger wins.

From walking routines to morning hacks, you’ll wish you knew these tips sooner! Let’s make this the year you actually stick to your resolutions—without the struggle.

KEY POINTS:

Start Small, Win Big

Success isn’t always about motivation or discipline—it’s about identifying friction points in your routines and fixing them with simple systems.

Key Examples from Kristeen and Becc

Kristeen’s Walk Fix: Keep an “outdoor box” in your car with all-weather essentials so you’re always ready for a spontaneous walk.

Becc’s Morning Hack: Use comfy yoga pants for early walks to eliminate resistance and start your day effortlessly.

Always be Hydrated: Place a bedside cup or bottle with a straw to ensure you hydrate first thing in the morning.

Make It Easy, Not Hard

Systems > willpower. Reassess the small hurdles keeping you from your goals, like packing gym gear or keeping chargers in your bag.

Permission to Choose Convenience

Sometimes the upfront “cost” of convenience pays off in sustainable habits and a better quality of life.

What’s one goal you’ve struggled to stick to this year? Reflect on where friction exists in the process and share your insights with us! We’d love to hear your stories and strategies—DM us on Instagram, email us, or leave a review with your thoughts. Let’s make 2025 your easiest and best year yet. ✨

Audio Note: We had some technical difficulties with this episode’s sound quality—thank you for bearing with us. The great content more than makes up for it, and we’ll be back to our usual audio quality in no time! 🎙✨

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Welcome back our beautiful friends and doctor humans!

In this episode, we explore a transformative SIMPLE YET EFFECTIVE framework to help you set meaningful goals and create a fulfilling life in 2025.

We're going to think your life as a business to borrow from those powerful strategic planning processes.

What’s your mission? What are your values? And how will you allocate your resources to make it all happen? These three questions are game changers for clarity, focus, and intentional living. Grab a cozy drink, settle in, and let’s dive into creating your best year yet!

Here's some cliff notes to follow along with the 3 steps:

Actionable Steps:

💌 We ALWAYS love to hear from you! What’s your word for the year? Share your answers with us in the comments or on social media—we can’t wait to cheer you on.

And if you found this episode helpful, please share it with a friend who’s ready to make 2025 their best year yet!