Am I doing it wrong? For Doctors by Doctors.

Audio Note: We had some technical difficulties with this episode’s sound quality—thank you for bearing with us. The great content more than makes up for it, and we’ll be back to our usual audio quality in no time! 🎙✨

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In this episode, we're dishing out one of LEAST WELL-KNOWN but MOST POWERFUL steps in your 2025 goal-setting.

Listen to the episode to find out what!

Here are some other bonus things we discussed:

📈 The Importance of Reflecting on 2024: Why looking back honestly at your goals, successes, and challenges is crucial.

📈 Fantasy Planning: How overestimating time and energy can derail our ambitions and how to avoid this trap.

📈 The Power of Forgiveness: Why forgiving yourself for missed goals is the key to maintaining self-trust and staying committed to big dreams.

📈 Iterative Goal Setting: Using past experiences to refine your goals for the year ahead.

📈 Long-Term Perspective: Shifting from one-year milestones to multi-year visions for transformative growth.

📈 Permission to Be Ambitious: Set goals to grow, not just to achieve.

Build the ability to reflect on what worked and what didn’t in your year without judgment. Throughout our dream- and goal-chasing lives, we need to keep a good relationship with ourselves through the highs and lows. This means we need to embrace forgiveness as a necessary step in our journey.

💌 We want to hear from you! What big dreams are you chasing in 2025? Are you going to add in this step of forgiveness into your goal-setting process?

Thank you all for being here with us, and cheers to a fantastic start to 2025. See you next week!

Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎

📽 Kristeen's Youtube: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3JaSHBE⁠⁠

👋 Kristeen's Instagram: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/4aKX5mq⁠⁠

📽 Becc's Youtube: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3TQbLKl⁠⁠

👋 Becc's Instagram: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3QgkTqT⁠⁠

💌 Want FREE 1-line mindset upgrades every M/W/F to make you more UNSHAKEABLE? 💌 Just drop your email here: https://doctorbecc.myflodesk.com/mindsetmoments

💜 In the Dare, Darling Group Coaching Membership, Doctor Becc makes empathetic doctors UNSHAKEABLE. ⏭️ WANT TO KNOW MORE or apply for a spot in the next cohort? 👭👭👭 https://www.doctorbecc.com.au

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Hey beautiful friends & doctor humans!

Kristeen Barker and Doctor Becc, and welcome back to *Am I Doing It Wrong?*, the podcast for doctors by doctors.

And today, we've got some wishes for this holiday period for you.

Whether you celebrate Christmas or not, for many of us this is a unique opportunity in the year where the working world slows down and even gives us collective permission to stop.

We want you to take advantage of that.

We think there are 2 intentions for Christmas:

(1) a break

(2) a time for joy

So these are our 2 wishes for you.

And a soecial thank you to the many of you who are working to keep our healthcare sysem runnkng over Christmas. It’s not a small sacrifice.

Let us know if you're a doctor working over the Christmas period so that we can thank you! 💌

Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎

📽 Kristeen's Youtube: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3JaSHBE⁠⁠

👋 Kristeen's Instagram: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/4aKX5mq⁠⁠

📽 Becc's Youtube: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3TQbLKl⁠⁠

👋 Becc's Instagram: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3QgkTqT⁠⁠

💌 Want FREE 1-line mindset upgrades every M/W/F to make you more UNSHAKEABLE? 💌 Just drop your email here: https://doctorbecc.myflodesk.com/mindsetmoments

💜 In the Dare, Darling Group Coaching Membership, Doctor Becc makes empathetic doctors UNSHAKEABLE. ⏭️ WANT TO KNOW MORE or apply for a spot in the next cohort? 👭👭👭 https://www.doctorbecc.com.au

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Hey beautiful friends & doctor humans!

Kristeen Barker and Doctor Becc, and welcome back to *Am I Doing It Wrong?*, the podcast for doctors by doctors.

In this week’s episode, we're redefining imposter syndrome - what it ISN'T and what it IS.

Together, we explore how our confidence doesn’t always have to rely on competence, and why rethinking the narrative around imposter syndrome can be the key to thriving in medicine.

Our Key Points on Imposter Syndrome:

🧠 What is Imposter Syndrome, Really? We question this syndrome and whether there's actually anything to panic about here.

🧠 Imposter Syndrome - Redefined. We talk about what Imposter Syndrome is: this doubting your good-enough-ness and belonging.

🧠 Cultural Pressures in Medicine: The hidden influence of medical culture on our self-perception and how to break free from unrealistic expectations.

🧠 Confidence vs. Competence: Why tying your confidence to your competence might be holding you back—and how to flip the script.

🧠 Mindset Mastery: Practical tips to identify and challenge the thoughts that fuel self-doubt.

🧠 Confidence as a Skill: How to cultivate confidence in uncertain situations to enhance your performance and growth.

Your Next Steps:

Reflect

1️⃣ Do you WANT to feel confidence? Why and why not? (Uncover your confidence blocks + motivation)

2️⃣ How would your life be different if you could feel confident in a specific area?

3️⃣ Where are you doubting yourself? How are you defining competence here?

And... SHARE: Share your thoughts with us!

Drop a comment, send a DM, or connect with us on social media. We’d love to hear how you’re redefining your relationship with imposter syndrome. 💌

👫👭👬 Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎

📽 Kristeen's Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3JaSHBE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

👋 Kristeen's Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/4aKX5mq⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

📽 Becc's Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3TQbLKl⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

👋 Becc's Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3QgkTqT⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Do you need to start to VALUE YOURSELF & reclaim a life that's been hijacked by obligation and external validation? Join Dare, Darling, Doctor Becc's Group Coaching Membership where we MAKE EMPATHETIC DOCTORS UNSHAKEABLE. 

🔐 APPLY for a spot in the next cohort at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.doctorbecc.com.au.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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 Hey beautiful friends & doctor humans!

Kristeen Barker and Doctor Becc, and welcome back to *Am I Doing It Wrong?*, the podcast for doctors by doctors.

WE ARE GOING TO KEEP TALKING ABOUT THIS UNTIL WE CHANGE THE RHETORIC IN HEALTHCARE.

If you're going through a difficult time recently and you're JUST STARTING to treat yourself and talk to yourself more reasonably... AND THEN SOMEONE COMES ALONG and says something like,

☄️ "Just be positive"

☄️ "You're just being fragile"

When you've always been someone who criticises yourself (ahem, many doctors), this familiar dialogue can easily infiltrate your assessments of yourself.

This week, we’re diving deep into how to stay in your integrity when people give unsolicited dismissive 'advice'

And why we believe it’s okay - and even productive - to NOT just 'be positive' and to actually spend time experiencing the emotions your body is producing. We explore how we can navigate these interactions without letting others’ words derail what we know is best for us.

Join us, Doctor Becc and Kristeen, for an empowering discussion on how to stay grounded and in your integrity in the face of critical and misguided advice.

In this episode:

🫀 How to recognise when someone’s “advice” is actually dismissive and lacks logic and self-awareness.

🫀 Why it’s essential to embrace and validate our negative emotions rather than suppress them.

🫀 The problem with societal pressure to always “stay positive” and how it leads to a disconnect from ourselves.

🫀 The impact of toxic positivity in medical culture and why we need more compassion and open space for processing emotions.

🫀 Tools for processing unsolicited advice from a place of self-awareness and emotional resilience.

🫀 Why tuning into your values and recognising your own expertise on yourself is the key to making empowering choices.

Let’s keep this important conversation going AND CHANGE THIS DEFAULT RHETORIC IN HEALTHCARE! We all deserve better. If this episode resonated with you, share your thoughts, stories, or questions 💌

Speaking of MANAGING YOUR ENERGY & REJUVENATING, have you tried Kristeen's AFTER WORK UPWARD SPIRAL track? In just 5 MINUTES, Kristeen helps move up up the energy & emotional scale energy by directing your mindset to be able to go into your evening with intention and energy:

🔓🚀 https://tutorials.kristeenbarker.com/pages/doctor-wellbeing 🚀🔓

 👫👭👬 Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎

📽 Kristeen's Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3JaSHBE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

👋 Kristeen's Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/4aKX5mq⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

📽 Becc's Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3TQbLKl⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

👋 Becc's Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3QgkTqT⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Do you need to start to VALUE YOURSELF & reclaim a life that's been hijacked by obligation and external validation? Join Dare, Darling, Doctor Becc's Group Coaching Membership where we MAKE EMPATHETIC DOCTORS UNSHAKEABLE. 

🔐 APPLY for a spot in the next cohort at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.doctorbecc.com.au.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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 Hey beautiful friends & doctor humans!

In this episode of Am I Doing It Wrong, we dive into a common self-care misstep: thinking that JUST ANY time away from work will be rejuvenating.

Nope.

Just because you're not at work or working doesn't mean you're putting deposits in your energy bank.

In particularly in this episode, we dive into how we've fallen into the trap of mistaking *socialising* for a method or rest and rejuvenation. Maybe you can hear this in your thoughts too as you say, "I've had the weekend off and spent time hanging out and having fun with friends. So I should be refreshed for work on Monday".

In fact, having MORE social time can actually create the need for MORE rejuvenation time. It's all about making sure you can listen to what your body & mind is asking for in the moment.

There are 2 main ideas we want to prompt you with

1️⃣ We want you to stop thinking something is wrong with you if you DON'T feel refreshed after a weekend socialising. For may of us, we have to recognise this as something that we want to invest energy in but that we don't *always* get energy back from.

2️⃣ We want you to be so clear about HOW YOU REJUVENATE so that when you want do, you can hit the right buttons to get that result.

In this episode:

🧠 Kristeen and Dr. Becc share personal stories of how, even with a break from

🧠 Reflecting on how grief, loss, and intense social commitments can amplify the need for personal time and self-connection.

🧠 Discussion on how social interactions, while meaningful, may still be exhausting due to the "hypervigilance" required to maintain energy and connection.

🧠 Importance of examining social expectations and giving yourself permission to step back and find peace alone, without guilt.

🧠 Reminders that even with loved ones, it’s okay if time together isn’t always relaxing. We don't have to make it mean it's not a 'good' relationship. Sometimes, what’s missing is reconnection with yourself first.

🧠 Practical advice on how to build authentic, fulfilling social interactions and ensure you’re meeting your personal needs too.

Have you got some self-care fails to share with us? We want to hear them! 💌

DOWNLOAD YOUR 5-MINUTE *BASICALLY MAGIC* ENERGY-MAKER:

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Hey beautiful friends & doctor humans!

💌 Want FREE 1-line mindset upgrades every M/W/F to make you more UNSHAKEABLE? 💌 Just drop your email here: ⁠https://doctorbecc.myflodesk.com/mindsetmoments⁠ 

💜 Do you need to start to VALUE YOURSELF & reclaim a life that's been hijacked by obligation and external validation? Join Dare, Darling, Doctor Becc's Group Coaching Membership where we MAKE EMPATHETIC DOCTORS UNSHAKEABLE. 

🔐 APPLY for a spot in the next cohort via ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.doctorbecc.com.au.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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Hey beautiful friends & doctor humans! 🧠🥂 

WELCOME to the last video in the UNSHAKEABLE MINDSETS Series. 

We're bringing this series to you on the poddy because doctors deserve to be able to show up as their most confident, calm and in control version of themselves in their lives. 

Don't they?

And these mindsets help you do that. Our general experience and upbringing in society has created so much confusion about what we should do, what's expected of us, what's our responsibility and what's the good/right answer for how to do life.

Our medical training and culture has only reinforced and taken that confusion and never-enough-ness to a-whole-nother-level.

Let's correct this together. 🧠

So that we can be unshakeable. 📈

Ready?

THIS SERIES will bring you mindsets to be unshakeable in 4 KEY AREAS:

Pillar 1️⃣ Your relationship with yourself

Pillar 2️⃣ Your relationship with uncertainty

Pillar 3️⃣ Your relationship with emotions (esp suffering)

Pillar 4️⃣ Your relationship with others

👑 These are my 4 pillars of being unshakeable. 

📚 Each with its own collection of mindsets that make you unshakeable. 

Welcome to Pillar 4 today: Your Relationship with Others

👉 These are the mindsets related to your relationship with OTHERS that make you unshakeable. 

This is usually the mindset pillar that my clients find the most life-changing because it is the place that we're often most confused an accidentally, innocently disempowered. In fact, most of us are implicitly and very explicitly taught disempowering mindsets when it comes to others.

This one's for my people-pleasers, over-givers and only-want-to-make-everyone-happy-ers 😉

I'm about to flip your world upside down for the better.

Which one of these mindsets do YOU think you need to be more unshakeable? Which one do you WANT to believe for yourself the most? Let us know in the comments! 💌

💌 Want FREE 1-line mindset upgrades every M/W/F to make you more UNSHAKEABLE? 💌 Just drop your email here: https://doctorbecc.myflodesk.com/mindsetmoments 

💜 Do you need to start to VALUE YOURSELF & reclaim a life that's been hijacked by obligation and external validation? Join Dare, Darling, Doctor Becc's Group Coaching Membership where we MAKE EMPATHETIC DOCTORS UNSHAKEABLE. 

🔐 APPLY for a spot in the next cohort via ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.doctorbecc.com.au.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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Hey beautiful friends & doctor humans! 🧠🥂 

WELCOME to the UNSHAKEABLE MINDSETS Series. 

We're bringing this series to you on the poddy because doctors deserve to be able to show up as their most confident, calm and in control version of themselves in their lives. 

Don't they?

And these mindsets help you do that. Our general experience and upbringing in society has created so much confusion about what we should do, what's expected of us, what's our responsibility and what's the good/right answer for how to do life.

Our medical training and culture has only reinforced and taken that confusion and never-enough-ness to a-whole-nother-level.

Let's correct this together. 🧠

So that we can be unshakeable. 📈

Ready?

THIS SERIES will bring you mindsets to be unshakeable in 4 KEY AREAS:

Pillar 1️⃣ Your relationship with yourself

Pillar 2️⃣ Your relationship with uncertainty

Pillar 3️⃣ Your relationship with emotions (esp suffering)

Pillar 4️⃣ Your relationship with others

👑 These are my 4 pillars of being unshakeable. 

📚 Each with its own collection of mindsets that make you unshakeable. 

Welcome to Pillar 3 today: Your Relationship with Emotions

👉 These are the mindsets related to your relationship with EMOTIONS that make you unshakeable. 

This is my personal favourite because it has been the most IMPACTFUL for me in terms of creating FREEDOM and POWER. Which one of these do YOU think you need to be more unshakeable? Which one do you WANT to believe for yourself the most? Let us know in the comments! 💌

💌 Want FREE 1-line mindset upgrades every M/W/F to make you more UNSHAKEABLE? 💌 Just drop your email here: https://doctorbecc.myflodesk.com/mindsetmoments

🔐 APPLY for a spot in the next cohort via ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.doctorbecc.com.au.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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Hey beautiful friends & doctor humans! 🧠🥂

WELCOME to the UNSHAKEABLE MINDSETS Series.

We're bringing this series to you on the poddy because doctors deserve to be able to show up as their most confident, calm and in control version of themselves in their lives.

Don't they?

And these mindsets help you do that. Our general experience and upbringing in society has created so much confusion about what we should do, what's expected of us, what's our responsibility and what's the good/right answer for how to do life.

Our medical training and culture has only reinforced and taken that confusion and never-enough-ness to a-whole-nother-level.

Let's correct this together. 🧠

So that we can be unshakeable. 📈

Ready?

THIS SERIES will bring you mindsets to be unshakeable in 4 KEY AREAS:

Pillar 1️⃣ Your relationship with yourself

Pillar 2️⃣ Your relationship with uncertainty

Pillar 3️⃣ Your relationship with emotions (esp suffering)

Pillar 4️⃣ Your relationship with others

👑 These are my 4 pillars of being unshakeable.

📚 Each with its own collection of mindsets that make you unshakeable.

Welcome to Pillar 2 today: Your Relationship with Uncertainty

👉 These are the mindsets related to your relationship with uncertainty that make you unshakeable.

Watch the video with all the useful visuals HERE ON YOUTUBE 🎬

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💌 Want FREE 1-line mindset upgrades every M/W/F to make you more UNSHAKEABLE? 💌 Just drop your email here: https://doctorbecc.myflodesk.com/mindsetmoments💜 Do you need to start to VALUE YOURSELF & reclaim a life that's been hijacked by obligation and external validation? Join Dare, Darling, Doctor Becc's Group Coaching Membership where we MAKE EMPATHETIC DOCTORS UNSHAKEABLE.

🔐 APPLY for a spot in the next cohort at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.doctorbecc.com.au.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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Hey beautiful friends & doctor humans! 🧠🥂

WELCOME to the UNSHAKEABLE MINDSETS Series.

We're bringing this series to you on the poddy because doctors deserve to be able to show up as their most confident, calm and in control version of themselves in their lives.

Don't they?

And these mindsets help you do that. Our general experience and upbringing in society has created so much confusion about what we should do, what's expected of us, what's our responsibility and what's the good/right answer for how to do life.

Our medical training and culture has only reinforced and taken that confusion and never-enough-ness to a-whole-nother-level.

Let's correct this together. 🧠

So that we can be unshakeable. 📈

Ready?

THIS SERIES will bring you mindsets to be unshakeable in 4 KEY AREAS:

Pillar 1️⃣ Your relationship with yourself

Pillar 2️⃣ Your relationship with uncertainty

Pillar 3️⃣ Your relationship with emotions (esp suffering)

Pillar 4️⃣ Your relationship with others

👑 These are my 4 pillars of being unshakeable.

📚 Each with its own collection of mindsets that make you unshakeable.

Welcome to Pillar 1 today: Your Relationship with Yourself

👉 These are the mindsets related to your relationship with yourself that make you unshakeable. Which one of these do YOU think you need to be more unshakeable? Which one do you WANT to believe for yourself the most? Let us know in the comments! 💌