Ambition Without Compromise

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In this deeply personal episode, Monique shares the behind-the-scenes story of her biggest self-investments—from surprise trips and $15K coaching programs to community spaces that changed everything. She walks us through the fears, mindset shifts, and identity upgrades that come with choosing yourself.

As busy ambitious women, we don't have time to piece together every self-help book and DIY our way to transformation. You don’t have to do this alone. Monique is spilling all the tea as she discusses the financial aspects of her investments, the importance of mentorship, and the invaluable lessons learned along the way. 

This conversation is your reminder that betting on yourself isn’t just bold—it’s necessary. 

GEMS DROPPED

“I ​want ​to ​be ​a ​solution ​to ​isolation. Self-investment ​is ​one ​less ​thing ​that ​you ​need ​to ​figure ​out ​and ​DIY—to let someone else hold you. This ​is ​how ​I ​have ​been ​held ​and ​continue ​to ​find ​ways ​to ​make ​sure ​that ​I ​am ​held, ​and ​I'm ​making ​sure ​that ​I ​take ​my ​skills ​and ​offer ​it ​to y'all.”

“​I ​have a ​firm ​belief that if you are not willing to invest in the thing that you are offering to other people—then what are you doing in that profession?"

“​The networks we were building a decade ago may not serve the vision we’re trying to live out now. ​It's ​a ​lot ​more ​efficient ​​and ​it's ​a ​lot ​more ​effective to ​be ​in ​community ​with, ​​in ​council ​with ​someone ​or ​some ​group ​that ​gets ​it, ​that ​is ​trying ​to ​do ​the ​same ​or ​very ​similar ​things ​that ​you ​are ​trying ​to ​do.”

“​I ​know ​many ​of ​y'all ​listening ​are ​good ​students. ​You're ​like, ‘​I ​can ​learn ​anything. You ​can ​put ​me ​in ​front ​of ​a ​stack ​of ​books, ​baby, and ​I ​will ​read ​the ​research ​papers. ​I ​will ​watch ​all ​the ​videos ​and ​the ​documentaries. ​I ​know ​how ​to ​learn ​things’. ​It ​is ​not ​the ​same ​thing ​as ​forming ​a ​whole new ​self -concept.​ That ​requires ​relationship, that ​requires ​a ​new ​environment, it ​requires ​challenging ​limiting ​beliefs ​and ​somebody ​that ​can ​help ​you ​see ​your ​blind ​spots. ​If ​you ​want ​to ​do ​that ​with ​speed ​and ​not ​isolated, ​​it's ​available ​to ​you.”

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Are you feeling overwhelmed and overworked? In our latest episode, Monique explores the transformative power of rest and how it can revolutionize your productivity.

Drawing inspiration from a recent gathering of high-achieving Black women, she addresses the overwhelming exhaustion that often accompanies leadership roles, motherhood, and societal pressures. Monique also introduces seven actionable steps to help us combat overwhelm and create meaningful space in our lives. From fostering community support to establishing clear priorities and making time visible, she provides a roadmap for reclaiming control over our schedules.

Tune in now to discover how rest can be your greatest ally in achieving your goals!

GEMS DROPPED

"We ​point ​to ​time ​management ​just ​because ​it ​is a ​buzz ​phrase for when things start to feel out of whack, when your focus is too scattered and spread. You look back over a day or a month and think: I was busy and ​I ​know ​I ​got ​some ​things ​done, but what just happened? And ​why ​do ​I ​feel ​like ​nothing ​is ​getting ​done although ​I'm ​doing ​all ​of ​the ​things? What ​this ​actually ​ends ​up ​boiling ​down ​to ​is ​less ​about ​time ​management and ​more ​about ​the ​courage ​to ​actually ​stop ​everything. An ​aggressive ​stop can feel impossible. It can feel indulgent.”

"With growth comes breaking. When something new is born, something else has to die. ​And ​taking ​account ​of ​that ​and ​anticipating ​it ​ahead ​of ​time, ​before ​you're ​too ​broken ​to ​pull ​yourself ​back ​together. ​That's a ​tough ​practice."

“For ​my women ​of ​color ​and ​moms, ​the ​courage ​​to ​stop ​everything ​feels ​like ​we're ​taking ​something ​away ​from ​someone ​else. ​To ​stop ​for ​ourselves ​feels ​like ​theft. ​To rest can feel spoiled, privileged, or entitled—but that belief is cultural conditioning. We’ve been trained to demonize the part of us that wants to rest, that needs a break. If you're not producing, then who are you? What are you worth? That lie holds us back. What ​I've ​discovered is the less I do, the more I get done. And ​I ​want ​to ​offer ​that ​to ​you ​today. ​The ​less ​you ​do,  ​the ​more ​you ​can ​get ​done. ​”

“Stopping for yourself is not selfish—it’s strategy. Build a practice that includes rest, not as a reward, but as part of the process."

“​When ​we ​give ​ourselves ​away, ​we ​give ​our ​energy ​and ​our ​time ​away ​for ​other ​people ​to ​control, ​for ​other ​people ​to ​tell ​us ​what ​we ​can ​and ​should ​do ​with ​our ​time ​and ​our ​energy. There's a ​cost. And ​you're ​probably ​suffering ​that ​cost ​if ​this ​is ​the ​existence ​that ​you're ​in ​right ​now ​where ​you're ​not ​creating ​aggressive ​space ​for ​yourself.”

“Whether ​you ​work ​for ​yourself ​or ​you ​work ​for ​someone ​else, ​​it's ​incredibly ​important ​to ​create ​sacred ​space ​for ​yourself and ​to ​do ​so ​as ​aggressively ​as ​you ​possibly ​can ​​and ​to ​hold ​it ​​firm. ​Do ​not ​let ​others ​in. Not ​only ​can ​you ​not ​let ​other ​people ​onto ​your ​calendar, ​you ​can't ​let ​your ​little ​productivity ​self ​in ​either. Focus ​on ​what ​you ​need ​and ​what ​those ​priorities ​are ​and ​let ​it ​flow.”

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Motherhood is a transformative journey that ambitious women in leadership find themselves contemplating. For many, the thought of becoming a mother can evoke feelings of fear and uncertainty. How will this new role affect my professional impact? Will I lose my sense of self? These are common concerns, and in this episode, Monique addresses them head-on, offering insights and encouragement for those navigating this complex decision.  

Join in as she candidly shares her own experiences and the profound changes that come with stepping into this new identity. And the importance of defining what motherhood means to you, identifying the resources you need to thrive, and embracing the support of your community.

📢As a special note, Monique is opening her coaching waitlist for March 2025. You can sign up through her website to receive updates and secure a spot for transformative one-on-one coaching.

MENTIONED

53 | The Safety Shift: Trusting Yourself in Times of Transformation

52 | Making The Scary Identity Leap

26 | When Achievement Is No Longer The Goal

15 | Learning To Dream First (CEO Series)

GEMS DROPPED

"The ​version ​of ​yourself ​that ​exists ​today, obviously ​she ​has ​evolved, ​she ​has ​grown ​and ​learned ​things ​over ​time. ​You're ​not ​the ​same ​woman ​today ​that ​you ​were ​a ​decade ​ago. That's ​part ​of what ​living an expansive ​and ​ambitious ​life ​will ​bring. ​You ​have ​to ​constantly ​be ​open ​to ​change, but ​there's ​a ​deeper ​thing ​that ​happens ​when ​we ​become ​responsible ​for ​other ​human ​lives.. It's ​a ​starker ​shift. So being afraid ​of ​what's ​going ​to change ​for ​you makes ​a ​lot ​of ​sense.”

“The ​version ​of ​you ​that ​you're ​about ​to ​get ​introduced ​to through motherhood, ​you ​can't ​really ​anticipate ​what ​she's ​gonna ​look ​like. You don't ​know ​who you're about to ​encounter and ​that is ​scary ​because you're like, ​can ​I ​count ​on ​her ​to ​still ​push ​forward ​my ​goals?”

“Take ​a ​moment ​to​ ask ​yourself the ​why ​behind the ​concern​ for becoming a parent ​for you ​in ​particular. This​ ​is ​really, ​really ​important. It's ​actually ​pretty ​critical ​to understand ​what ​is ​driving ​that ​fear ​for ​you.”

“As ​a ​leader, ​part ​of ​what ​I ​know ​my ​clients ​will ​get ​caught ​up ​in ​is hiding ​their ​motherhood ​identity ​or ​trying ​to ​minimize ​it. ​Trying ​to ​make ​themselves as low ​maintenance ​as ​possible. ​We ​need ​to ​release ​this ​low ​maintenance ​identity. ​This ​is ​the ​time, if ​there ​were ​ever ​a ​time, ​babes, ​for ​you ​to ​step ​into ​your ​high ​maintenance ​era. ​Becoming ​a ​mother, while ​leading ​big ​things is ​the ​time… ​I ​want ​you ​to ​give ​yourself ​full ​permission ​to ​embrace ​your ​want, ​to ​embrace ​your ​need, ​and ​to ​let ​the ​team know.”

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This week's episode dives into self-love and transformation! Join Monique as she discusses the importance of recognizing your worth and embracing your true self. 

Inspired by a profound coaching conversation with a client, she explores the concept of being "low maintenance" and its detrimental effects on women, particularly women of color. Monique unpacks the societal pressures that lead us to minimize our needs and accomplishments, urging us to embrace our bigness and the unique contributions we bring to the world.

This episode is a call to action for all women to acknowledge our worth, celebrate our achievements, and demand the support we deserve. Press play to start your journey to break free from the limitations of self-doubt and step into your full power.

📢As a special note, Monique is opening her coaching waitlist for February 2025. You can sign up through her website to receive updates and secure a spot for transformative one-on-one coaching.

GEMS DROPPED

“An interesting ​gift ​of ​having ​a ​strong ​reflection ​practice ​is ​that ​the ​reflection ​teaches ​you ​a ​lot ​around what ​did ​and ​didn't ​work ​right. What ​did ​I ​learn? ​What ​do ​I ​need ​to ​let ​go ​of? What ​were ​some ​of ​the ​strengths ​and ​the ​weaknesses ​of ​that ​season? ​What ​were ​the ​lessons? ​And ​now ​I ​get ​to ​take ​stock ​of ​what ​in ​me ​has ​changed ​and ​what ​that means ​for ​my ​future. ​It's ​not ​like ​the ​analytical ​sort ​of ​assessing ​and ​processing, it's ​something ​that ​has ​the ​fundamental ​elements ​of ​who ​I ​am.”

“The ​concept ​of ​being ​low ​maintenance, ​it's ​really ​a ​special designation ​that's ​reserved ​only ​for ​women. ​It ​was ​designed ​to ​keep ​women ​mentally ​busy ​with ​this ​impossible ​sort ​of ​dance ​and ​not ​having ​needs. And ​so ​what ​we're ​supposed ​to ​do ​is ​to ​be ​small.”

“​I ​think, ​hopefully, ​prayerfully, ​at ​some ​point, we ​have ​the ​opportunity to ​one ​day ​catch ​wind ​that ​something ​is ​off. Like, ​​how ​am ​I ​supposed ​to ​be ​small ​and ​need ​nothing, ​yet ​bear ​all ​this ​fruit, ​create ​all ​of ​these ​things and ​be ​the ​vessel ​for ​such ​huge ​transformation ​in ​the ​world? There's ​a ​discrepancy.”

“There ​are ​some ​baseline ​needs that ​we ​all ​have…ways ​that ​we ​can ​be ​more ​specific, ​to ​be ​more ​precise about ​how our ​bigness ​functions. When ​it ​comes ​to ​this ​level ​of ​acceptance ​and ​understanding ​about ​ourselves, about ​fundamentally ​who ​we ​are ​and ​what we ​have ​to ​offer baseline ​level, can't ​nobody ​take ​that. ​Nobody ​is ​going ​to ​shame ​you. And ​it ​just ​becomes an opportunity ​to ​exist ​more restfully, ​more ​peacefully. And is one of ​the ​greatest ​manifestations, ​I think, of self ​love.”

"We ​are ​making ​outsized ​contributions ​in ​the ​places ​and ​spaces ​that ​we ​care ​about, ​and ​we ​are ​not ​treating ​ourselves ​in ​accordance with ​that ​contribution. ​We ​think ​others ​deserve ​more ​than ​we ​do ​because ​there's ​this ​distortion ​that ​exists ​in ​who ​we ​actually ​are."

“We ​all ​deserve ​to ​have ​our ​distorted ​mirrors ​absolutely ​demolished ​​and ​to ​see ​ourselves, in ​our ​true ​radiance ​and ​all ​of ​our ​unique ​nooks ​and ​crannies ​and ​ways ​of ​being ​as ​beautiful ​and ​worthy ​of ​support and ​love, ​​especially ​from ​ourselves.”

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Is the pursuit of success weighing you down? In this episode, Monique uncovers how ambition can sometimes come at the cost of our deepest dreams.

Listen in as she shares compelling stories of women balancing leadership, motherhood, and personal fulfillment. Through the lens of the 'Giver,' the 'Grinder,' and the 'Pleaser,' she reveals how these identities shape our paths—both fueling and restricting us.

Tune in to learn how to break free from outdated roles, redefine success on your terms, and step into a future of authentic fulfillment.

📢As a special note, Monique is opening her coaching waitlist for March 2025. You can sign up through her website to receive updates and secure a spot for transformative one-on-one coaching.

MENTIONED

53 | The Safety Shift: Trusting Yourself in Times of Transformation

52 | Making The Scary Identity Leap

26 | When Achievement Is No Longer The Goal

15 | Learning To Dream First (CEO Series)

GEMS DROPPED

"Everything ​that you are ​doing could be ​mission ​oriented. ​Everything ​that you are ​doing ​could be ​impact ​driven.​ And ​then ​the ​thing ​that ​is ​not ​getting ​done ​is ​the ​thing ​that you ​desire ​most ​deeply. ​So ​the ​thing ​that you ​wanted ​most is ​the ​thing ​that is ​also ​being ​put ​at ​risk."

"When ​you're ​in ​a ​perpetual ​state ​of ​grind ​over ​years ​and ​years ​and ​years ​and ​years, ​your ​whole ​identity ​begins ​to ​form ​around ​that. ​And ​it's ​really, ​really ​challenging ​to ​see ​how ​it's ​possible ​to ​set ​that ​down ​and ​to ​still ​succeed. ​How ​to ​be ​any ​other ​way even ​when ​you ​know ​what ​is ​at ​stake."

"We ​think ​that ​just ​because ​this ​is ​​the ​version ​or form ​of ​winning ​that ​I've ​ever, ​always ​known ​that ​that ​is ​what ​winning ​is. ​That ​is ​what ​that ​looks ​like ​for ​me. ​That ​is ​what's ​possible ​for ​me. ​With ​the ​strengths ​that ​I ​have, ​with ​the ​weaknesses ​that ​I ​have, ​with ​the ​perspective ​that ​I ​have, ​the ​background that ​I ​have, that ​is ​how ​I ​must ​win. But, ​no, ​that is ​just ​how ​you ​happen ​to ​have ​won ​for ​this ​period ​of ​time. ​Winning can look different."

“The ​ways ​that ​we ​need ​to ​be ​must ​evolve ​if ​we ​want ​our ​successes ​to ​evolve, if ​we ​want ​to elevate ​ourselves. ​We ​constantly talk ​about ​elevating ​our ​voices ​and ​elevating, ​expanding ​our ​impact, those ​things ​don't ​elevate ​and ​expand, ​not ​truly, ​unless ​we ​do.”

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In today's fast-paced world, the pressure to conform to a certain image of success can be overwhelming. Many of us are familiar with the archetype of the "4am CEO," a figure that embodies relentless ambition and productivity. But what happens when this pursuit of success starts to overshadow our true selves? 

In this week's episode, Monique dives into the journey of identity evolution and the fears that accompany significant life changes. Building on her previous discussions about identity leaps, she reflects on the critical moments when we find ourselves on the brink of transformation, yet held back by fears surrounding safety and acceptance.

Join in as Monique guides us through the transformative process of letting go, embracing new identities, and ultimately finding peace in the pursuit of our authentic self.

📢As a special note, Monique is opening her coaching waitlist for February 2025. You can sign up through her website to receive updates and secure a spot for transformative one-on-one coaching.

MENTIONED

52 | Making The Scary Identity Leap

GEMS DROPPED

“We ​have ​identity ​needs. ​Safety ​at ​the ​identity ​level ​is ​very ​different ​than ​safety ​at ​the practical, ​tangible ​level. ​Safety, ​in ​terms ​of ​our heart’s needs, it operates ​very ​differently. And ​I ​think ​these ​are ​driving ​forces ​that ​are ​deeper ​and ​can ​be ​far ​stronger ​if ​we ​turn ​our ​attention ​to ​them ​and ​actually ​start ​to ​get ​real ​with ​what ​is ​trying ​to ​stretch ​and ​come ​from ​us.”

“I'm ​tired ​of ​money ​being ​this ​primary ​driver. ​I'm ​beyond ​that. ​​I ​know ​I'm ​in ​a ​system ​that ​requires ​money ​to ​sustain us, but ​I ​don't want ​that ​to ​be ​the ​thing ​that ​is ​driving ​all ​of ​my ​decisions ​anymore. ​I ​want ​to ​do ​the ​things ​that ​have ​been ​deemed ​frivolous. I ​want ​to ​spend ​more ​time ​in ​my ​garden. ​I ​want ​to ​spend ​more ​time ​cooking. I want to ​experience ​a ​season ​that ​lets ​that ​version ​of ​myself ​come ​to ​be. ​I ​want ​to ​get ​to ​know ​this ​version of ​myself ​where ​money ​is ​no ​longer ​the ​core ​driver. ​Like, ​what ​a ​privilege ​that ​would ​be. ​How ​incredible ​​would ​that ​be? ​It's ​a ​shame ​that ​that's ​a ​privilege. ​It shouldn't be ​a ​privilege.”

“​If ​you ​change, ​the ​world ​around ​you changes which means ​the ​relationships ​around ​you ​have ​to ​change. ​They ​can ​embrace ​it, you ​can ​figure ​out ​how ​to ​move ​forward ​together, you ​might ​have ​a ​rough ​patch ​or a ​season, ​but ​there's ​also ​the ​risk ​that ​that ​relationship is now ​lost ​or some ​of ​the ​core ​fundamentals ​that ​kept you ​connected ​before, ​are ​null ​and ​​void ​at ​this ​point.”

“If ​I'm ​evolving ​into ​a ​whole ​new ​world, ​there’s a version ​of ​myself ​where ​I'm ​not ​going ​to ​be ​your ​savior ​anymore ​because ​I'm ​relaxing ​into my ​own ​needs. ​I'm ​leaning ​into my ​own ​creative ​expression ​and ​like ​minded, ​equally ​yoked ​community, ​partnership, ​friendship…​the ​version ​of ​me ​that ​was ​required ​to ​uphold ​the ​nature ​of ​our ​past ​relationship, ​she's ​not ​going ​to ​be ​here. ​That ​undercurrent is ​a ​huge ​part ​of ​what ​will hold ​us back from ​evolving ​into ​the ​next ​version ​or ​the ​next ​stage ​of ​identity ​that ​is ​calling. ​I ​cannot ​overstate ​how ​deep ​that ​runs, ​how ​real ​that ​is ​for ​us.”

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Are you standing at the edge of a new chapter, feeling the pull of transformation, yet held back by invisible barriers? 

Join Monique as she uncovers the secrets to navigating identity shifts and breaking free from the self-doubt that keeps us stuck. Explore the thought-provoking questions that often paralyze progress, like 'Am I truly capable?' and 'Is this the right moment?' Through fresh insights and actionable strategies, Monique helps you reframe those doubts into empowering questions that inspire clarity, courage, and momentum on your journey of becoming.

📢As a special note, Monique is opening her coaching waitlist for February 2025. You can sign up through her website to receive updates and secure a spot for transformative one-on-one coaching.

GEMS DROPPED
"You're ​it. ​You're ​the ​one ​we've ​been ​waiting ​on ​to ​usher ​forward ​this ​next ​thing ​that ​has ​been ​placed ​on ​your ​heart, ​in ​your ​mind ​and ​your ​imagination ​to ​create ​in ​the ​world. Who ​is ​going ​to ​come ​through ​and tell ​you you're ​ready, ​tell ​you ​you're ​the ​right ​person ​for ​the ​job? ​No ​one. ​​No ​one ​is ​going ​to ​come ​through ​and ​affirm ​that ​for ​you.”

“Am ​I ​the ​right ​person? Any ​version ​of ​this ​question ​is ​an ​absolute ​trap, ​and ​we ​have ​to ​let ​the ​question ​go. It's ​not ​about how ​do ​I ​get ​to ​that ​answer. It's ​the ​question ​in ​and ​of ​itself that ​is ​not ​useful.”

 ​“If ​we ​can ​equip ​ourselves ​to ​move ​through ​this blockade ​phase or ​protective ​barriers ​phase, ​and ​we ​can ​slide ​that ​barrier ​to ​the ​left. Slide ​the ​’am ​I’ ​person ​question barrier ​to ​the ​right ​and ​then ​get ​into, ‘​well, ​what ​is ​the ​identity ​that ​I ​am ​sitting ​in ​today ​that ​is ​no ​longer ​serving ​me,  ​that ​is ​keeping ​me ​stuck ​on ​the ​road, ​that ​is ​keeping ​me ​boxed ​in ​with ​these ​barriers?’ This ​is ​when ​we ​start ​getting ​into ​more ​useful ​questions.”

“However ​you ​believe ​timing ​takes ​place, ​whatever ​right ​timing ​means ​for ​you, ​that's ​what ​it ​will ​be. ​No ​one ​else ​can ​tell ​you if ​it's ​the ​right ​time ​to ​pursue ​the ​thing ​that ​you ​need ​to ​pursue ​now. ​​I ​think ​a ​better ​question ​is, ‘​am ​I ​willing ​to ​make ​the ​sacrifices ​or ​to ​make ​the ​investments ​that ​are ​required ​right ​now ​in ​order ​for ​me ​to ​step ​into ​this ​new ​version ​of ​myself?’ ”

“We've ​got ​to ​get ​more ​precise. ​We've ​got ​to ​get ​more ​practical. ​We've ​got ​to ​get ​more ​tangible ​and ​real. ​These ​questions ​have ​to ​be ​useful ​to ​actually ​help ​us ​arrive ​at ​what ​we're ​trying ​to ​arrive ​at. We ​need ​questions ​that ​force ​decision ​making.” ​

“​​​If ​it's ​yours, ​you ​can ​do ​it. ​You ​can ​set ​the ​timeline. ​You ​can ​set ​the ​look ​and ​the ​feel- the ​vibe and ​the ​pace. ​You ​get ​to ​set ​it. ​Just ​give ​yourself ​permission ​to ​stop ​asking ​questions ​that ​limit ​you, ​that ​keep ​you ​stuck ​and ​that ​keep ​you ​spinning around ​an ​old ​identity ​that's ​trying ​to ​hold ​on ​to ​you ​and ​keep ​you ​safe. And ​free ​yourself ​with ​questions ​that ​actually ​move ​you ​forward, ​ ​that ​spark ​creativity, ​that ​spark ​your ​inner ​problem ​solver, ​that ​give ​you ​something ​to ​grab ​onto ​so ​that ​you ​can ​grab ​onto ​the ​next ​thing ​and ​the ​next ​thing ​and ​start ​that journey ​forward.”

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In this episode, Monique shares her personal process for annual reflection, offering insights into how she evaluates the past year and sets intentions for the year ahead with clarity and purpose. Tune in to discover how embracing feminine energy and becoming more emotionally available can transform your approach to goal setting and personal growth. 

As you listen to this episode, you'll be inspired to reflect on your own journey and consider how you can set intentions that align with your values and aspirations. Happy New Year, and here's to a year of intentional living and personal growth!

📢As a special note, Monique is opening her coaching waitlist for February 2025. You can sign up through her website to receive updates and secure a spot for transformative one-on-one coaching.

MENTIONED
YearCompass
42 | Committing To Success That Heals You With Marla Teyolia
13 | Re-Mothering Ourselves

GEMS DROPPED
"I am caring less and less about my annual planning process as annual planning. I care very much about setting clear intentions for the time ahead."

“I ​spent ​a ​lot ​of ​years ​in ​more ​of ​my ​masculine ​energy ​in ​building ​this ​business. ​And ​after ​having ​baby ​number ​two, we ​didn't ​have ​it ​in ​us ​to ​continue ​to ​keep ​that ​up ​in ​the ​same ​way. ​And ​so I ​had ​to ​trust ​that ​the ​seeds ​that have ​been ​planted ​in ​those ​previous seasons ​would ​allow ​me to gently reap ​what ​had ​been ​sown. So ​in ​2024, ​I ​came ​into ​the ​year ​with ​a ​clear ​focus ​​on ​depth ​and ​well ​being ​and ​how ​those ​two ​interact ​both ​for ​me ​personally ​and ​professionally. Embracing ​this ​was ​about ​embracing ​a ​more ​feminine, ​energetic ​approach which is ​a ​lot ​more ​about ​what ​you ​can ​attract. It's ​a ​creative ​energy ​that ​is ​not ​about purely ​execution ​or ​hunting. ​It's ​about ​believing ​that you ​can ​experience a ​holistic ​well ​being. Because ​I ​decided ​that, ​this ​is ​the ​highest ​grossing ​revenue ​year ​for ​my ​business, ​which ​is ​wild ​because ​I ​did ​the ​least.”

“I'm ​really ​proud ​of my ​decision, ​my ​commitment ​to ​continuously coming ​back into ​a ​feminine ​posture ​of ​receiving ​and ​not over ​exerting ​myself. Resting ​in ​the ​magnetism, ​the ​attraction ​and ​the ​abundance, and ​just ​allowing ​for ​things ​to ​unfold ​in ​my ​favor.​ I ​mean ​down ​to ​like ​little ​things ​with ​grandparent ​help ​and ​things ​like ​that, where ​before ​I ​used ​to ​be ​like, ​no, ​I ​need ​to ​be ​the ​one, ​or ​no, ​I ​shouldn't ​stay ​on ​the ​trip ​this ​one ​extra ​day. ​It ​was ​just ​like, ​no, ​the ​help ​has ​been ​offered. ​Receive ​it, ​receive ​it ​fully.”

“My ​goal into ​next ​year ​is ​to ​start ​being ​more ​emotionally ​available. ​I ​realized ​that ​I ​have ​been ​robbing some ​of ​my ​closest ​relationships of ​the ​fullness ​of ​who I am. My ​daughter ​deserves ​to ​see ​what ​it ​looks ​like ​for ​a ​grown ​Black ​woman, ​the ​leading ​grown ​Black ​woman ​in ​her ​life, ​to ​experience ​emotion ​so ​she ​knows ​it's ​okay ​for ​her ​to ​experience ​the ​full ​range ​of ​emotion.”

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Welcome 2025 with us as we celebrate our 50th podcast episode! 🎉

Join Monique as she reflects on the top five episodes—ranked by downloads and impact—exploring themes like embracing change, prioritizing well-being, and balancing humanity with wealth.

 Monique also shares exciting news about her upcoming speaking engagement at Rachel Rogers' ROI Millionaire Summit, a conference aimed at empowering marginalized identities to achieve financial success.

Whether you're a long-time listener or new to the podcast, this episode serves as both a guide to the most impactful episodes and a celebration of the journey so far. Thank you for being a crucial part of our community. Here's to another year of growth, reflection, and ambition. 

📢As a special note, Monique is opening her coaching waitlist for February 2025. You can sign up through her website to receive updates and secure a spot for transformative one-on-one coaching.

TOP 5 EPISODES
#1) Episode 25 | Avoiding The Real Work
#2) Episode 26 | When Achievement Is No Longer The Goal
#3) Episode 27 | Scaling Your Humanity With Your Wealth
#4) Episode 29 | Betting On My Wellbeing: Sharing My Practices
#5) Episode 01 | Embracing Your Next Season - How To Let Go Of What's Holding You Back

HONORABLE MENTIONS
#6) Episode 32 | The Right Time Is Not Coming
#7) Episode 30 | How I Became A Podcaster - 1 Year Anniversary Episode!
#8) Episode 12 | Allowing Your Ambition To Evolve with Jereshia Hawk
#9) Episode 31 | When Will It Ever Be Enough?
#10) Episode 28 | Beneath The Struggle To Ask For Help

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• Where Monique is Speaking:  ROI Millionaire Summit by Rachel Rodgers Jan 15-17 2025 in Huntington Beach California.  My session is the afternoon of Weds, Jan 15 for Golden Ticket holders... get your tickets here!
• Book: We Should All Be Millionaires by Rachel Rodgers

GEMS DROPPED
"Take a moment to appreciate yourself for having the level of integrity with yourself that you have had, no matter how big or small the commitment."

"The work that actually unlocks the success that we're deeply craving is the work that we're avoiding."

"When you share from the vulnerable place, you create powerful influence and connect with people as a leader."

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Have you ever felt the pull to close one chapter of your life and start a new one, only to be held back by an invisible ball and chain? 

This episode tackles the heart of that struggle, exploring how we can make meaningful shifts in how we work, live, and perceive ourselves. Join Monique on this live broadcast episode as she discusses how to break free from old identities, embrace personal evolution, and seek permission from within. 

Tune in for a transformative conversation that challenges you to rethink the rules you've lived by and invites you to create from a place of artistry and authenticity.

📢As a special note, Monique is opening her coaching waitlist for February 2025. You can sign up through her website to receive updates and secure a spot for transformative one-on-one coaching.

GEMS DROPPED
“Once ​we've ​reached ​a ​certain ​level ​of ​achievement ​and ​success ​in ​our ​lives, ​oftentimes ​then we ​have ​the ​privilege ​of ​looking ​up ​and ​creating ​from ​this ​place ​of ​artistry, ​like ​actually ​being ​a ​creative, ​taking a paintbrush to ​blank ​canvas ​and ​building ​from ​scratch. ​How we ​see ​the ​world, ​how we ​want ​things ​to ​be, ​how we ​want ​to ​exist. ​And ​that ​level ​of ​freedom ​can ​come ​with ​a ​lot ​of ​fear ​and ​it ​can ​be ​disorienting. ​But ​it ​is ​the ​place ​that ​we, ​I ​think, ​all ​deserve ​to ​be ​at.”

“I ​think ​the ​top ​two ​reasons ​that ​I ​hear ​from ​people ​who ​are ​scared ​to ​pivot, ​who ​are ​scared ​to ​make ​the ​leap: ​number ​one, ​there's ​some ​scarcity ​thing ​going ​on ​around money. ​But ​I ​think ​that ​the bigger ​driver ​is ​something ​around ​this ​invisible ​audience ​that ​is ​judging ​our ​every ​move. ​The ​language ​that ​people ​use ​constantly ​is ​’I ​get ​scared of ​what ​people ​will ​think ​or ​what ​people ​will ​say’. Like, what people? Who ​are ​you ​talking ​about? ​Who ​specifically ​are ​you ​referring ​to? ”

“Usually ​there ​are ​specific ​relationships, there ​are ​specific ​groups ​of ​people ​that ​we ​have ​related ​to ​in ​a ​certain ​way, ​who ​have ​seen ​us ​occupy ​a ​certain ​identity, ​who ​have ​seen ​us ​in ​a ​certain ​light ​that ​we ​don't ​want ​to ​break ​our ​current ​image ​with ​them. ​We're ​terrified ​of ​becoming ​something ​unrecognizable ​to ​​these ​people ​or ​a ​specific ​person. ​And ​​the ​way ​these ​show ​up ​in ​our ​thoughts ​and ​in ​our ​minds ​that ​then ​influence ​our ​actions ​is ​what ​I've ​been ​calling an ​invisible ​audience.”

“There's ​a ​physiological ​connection ​to ​the ​ways ​in ​which ​we ​are ​not ​allowing ​ourselves ​to ​show ​up ​in ​the ​fullness ​of ​who ​we ​are and ​we've ​created ​all ​of ​these ​rules ​around ​these ​old ​identities ​that are no ​longer ​going ​to ​serve ​us. ​We ​have ​created ​all ​of ​these ​limitations ​and ​rules ​and ​constraints ​based ​off ​of ​old ​spaces, ​places ​and ​identities ​that ​we've ​had ​to ​occupy ​or ​that ​we've ​chosen ​to ​occupy ​in ​the ​past and ​that ​stuff ​is ​sticking ​with ​us.”

"Sacrifice is meant to be temporary. It is not meant to be the end all, be all, forever state of things."

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