An A to Z of Sex with Men

Our final episode of season 2 is all about Zones (the erogenous kind).

This week our format is a little different. Instead of our usual 'extensive research', we take you through nearly every erogenous zone we and the internet can think of and tell you our own personal feelings about them.

We then discuss our zones-related film, which this time is 'The Piano!' It was intense we loved, but we loved it (and keep away from the darker aspects of it in our discussion).

THANK YOU for coming on our journey with us this far, and stay tuned for future projects!

TW: There are no specific trigger warnings for this episode.

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In our penultimate episode we turn our minds back to our younger and less experienced days and discuss the tumultuous world of sex and relationships from the perspective of 'the youth'.

It's not all anecdotal of course. We do our usual 'extensive research' and find out what the youth of today think about it all, as well delving a little into relationships with large age gaps.

This week's youth-related film is 'Everybody's Talking About Jamie'. We probably won't be talking about it much in the future, but there were some things we liked about it!

TW: There are no specific trigger warnings this week.

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It is finally time to release our A to Z LIVE SHOW!!

In this first ever collaboration with the absolutely incredible Glitter & Titter Cabaret, we welcome special guests April Fiasco and Gigi Vin Rouge!

Gigi is a stand-up comedian and burlesque artist

Of course, no Glitter n Titter show would be complete without compere extraordinaire, Gemma Layton, and the one who makes it all happen, the indomitable Ms Larissa Thorne!

There are songs, games, burlesque acts (audio only), and a lot of 'dirty talk' stories from us and our guests.

We had so much fun doing this episode, and we hope you have (almost) as much fun listening!

Extra special thanks go to: Tom the Tech, who has a couple of voice cameos and is the reason you can hear us at all; Stormina Teacup, who you won't hear, but who was making sure the show ran smoothly with her incredible stage management skills; our fabulous photographer @corsmedia; and our magnificent audience who made the show the success that it was!

We would also like to thank and pay tribute to two friends of the podcast who passed away this year:

Trixi Tassels was a friend and mentor to us both and was in the audience for our live show. We wouldn't be the performers, or people, we are without her, and her support meant so much to us.

Flavio Buonerba was not in the audience, but we would never have had the courage to put on a live show without his encouragement. He generously shared his time and expertise recording and editing some episodes of our show, even guesting on episode X of series 1. The show would not be the calibre it is without him and we will always remember and love him for that.

Keep up with our performers here:

April Fiasco

instagram: @aprilfiasco

twitter: @aprilfiasco_

Gigi Vin Rouge

instagram: @gigivinrouge

Gemma Layton:

instagram: @theonlygemmalayton

Ms Larissa Thorne:

instagram: @mslarissathorne

twitter: @msthorne2

facebook: @mslarissathorne

Follow Glitter & Titter Cabaret here:

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And of course keep up with A to Z with Men here:

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This week is all about friendships and relationships that come with added 'benefits'. We discuss the pros and cons of a typical 'with benefits' type setup, and explore what the 'benefits' actually are - is it just sex, or is there more to it? Can you, in fact, have a non-sexual friendship with benefits? We also look back fondly on our own 'with benefits' friends of the past.

This week's 'with benefits' related film is 'Y tu mamá también' directed by Alfonso Cuarón. We thought it was an excellent representation of these types of relationship, which navigates a beautiful line between humour and pathos.

TW: There are no specific trigger warnings, but the film discussion touches on the topic of terminal illness, in case anyone's feeling particularly sensitive to that right now.

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Episode P was devoted to Penis, so it's only right that episode V should be all about the Vulva!

And we're not alone, as joining us this week is the lovely professional hula-hooper and graphic designer, Beth!

As we vivaciously vocalise about various things vulvic, we learn about similarities (and differences) in the arousal of different genitals, and discover that the vulva-owners among us know shockingly little about vulvic anatomy.

Our vulva-related film this week was Park Chan-Wook's 2016 film, The Handmaiden. The overall consensus was that we loved it, and were generally happy with the vulvic representation.

TW: mention of child abuse (1:23:23-1:23:47)

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Sources and recommendations:

Watch The Handmaiden here - https://homecinema.curzon.com/film/the-handmaiden/

This week is all about celebrating the things that don't get enough attention - i.e. the sexually, sensually, and romantically Underrated!

Based on the anecdotes and experiences of their social circle, Raphael and Jacinta look at the sex and relationship related experiences that are overlooked, but delightful none-the-less, be it a touch of the waist, a caress of a leg, or a comfortable silence.

This week's Underrated-related film is Gilda, because *that* glove peel...

There are no trigger warnings this week!

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Last season episode T was devoted to Turn-offs, so we thought it only right that this season T should be all about Turn-ons!

We look at top turn-ons in America and Western Europe, as well as unlikely places to be turned and unusual things to be turned on by. We obviously talk all about out own turn-ons, and how we discovered them, and discuss the sexiest scents.

Our film of the week is Happiness, an exploration of problematic and stigmatised turn-ons. This bit is full of trigger warnings, so listen to the film discussion with caution.

TW: 56:05-end (discussion of the film Happiness which deals with topics of rape, sexual assault, and sexual harassment of both adults and children, and suicide)

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Sources and recommendations:

https://www.thestar.co.uk/news/the-top-10-biggest-sex-turn-ons-for-men-and-women-in-south-yorkshire-have-been-revealed-818679

https://onlinedoctor.superdrug.com/atypical-arousal/

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This episode is all about that previously indefinable type of relationship, The Situationship.

With a lot of help from the glossy mags (and a lot of wading through the heteronormative monogamous agenda), Raphael and Jacinta work out what a 'situationship' actually is, and discuss whether they have ever had one. They look at the pros and cons of a situationship and conclude that (surprise, surprise) it all comes down to communication, really.

The situationship related film up for discussion is bernardo Bertolucci's The Dreamers starring Eva Green. They have a lot of effusively good things to say about it!

TW: coercion and sexual assault (1:01:07 - 1:03:03), discussion of suicide (1:09:29 - 1:11:50)

Sources and recommendations:

'10 Signs You're In a 'Situationship' - https://www.instyle.com/lifestyle/hump-day/what-is-a-situationship

'What Is a Situationship?' - https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-a-situationship-5216144#:~:text=A%20situationship%20is%20a%20casual,expending%20too%20much%20emotional%20energy.

'Stuck in a 'situationship'? It's the destructive dating trend that's ruling our love lives - and here's how to spot it' - https://www.glamourmagazine.co.uk/article/situationships?utm_source=Facebook&utm_medium=Social&utm_campaign=SocialFlow&fbclid=IwAR3OaiyeilvbJhCbmnC_wqzSs4CBXpKcAEAozneRJCufEsgsUWEYvb2FtpI

'A Beginner's Guide to Relationship Anarchy: Examples and How To Practice' - https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/what-is-relationship-anarchy

Buy a copy of The Ethical Slut here:

https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/54944.The_Ethical_Slut

Watch The Dreamers here:

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Dreamers-Michael-Pitt/dp/B00U1X9WB4

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It's time to talk about that word we hate so much, Rape.

Sadly, rape is something that a LOT of us are survivors of, and Jacinta and Raphael are no exception. It's so important to talk about it and that's exactly what they do. Sharing personal experiences; discussing the inadequate language around rape and sexual assault, and exploring how to support people who have survived rape.

This is a difficult episode with a lot of triggering content so please listen with caution.

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Raphael and Jacinta are back with a quip-filled, laughter-fuelled, fast-talking episode all about quickies! They are not alone though, joining them is none other than genealogist, socialite, and all round smutty guy, William Hall. Jumping from orgasms to red wine and white carpets, to blowjobs in the 'bog', sexy teeth-brushing, and #quickiesinthequeueforthequeen, they explore the meaning of 'quickie', the best places to have them, and the best people to have them with. They also have much to say on this week's film, 'Scenes of a Sexual Nature', which definitely oversold on the 'sexual' part. 

TW: none 

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