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We’ve experienced a massive cultural shift from a ritual based to performance based society. I use the examples of matrimony and clothing to illustrate this. We’ve traded in ritual matrimony for elaborate weddings as well as appropriate dress for costumes.

LINKS:

Quote from beginning - Matrimony by Stephen Jenkinson

Advocate for children I mention - Katy Faust https://thembeforeus.substack.com/about‍ ‍

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 — Shift from Ritual to Performance

05:00 — Eras of Pair Bonding

11:00 — Performative Weddings Versus Ritual Matrimony

16:00 — Marriage in Performance Culture

20:00 — New Way of Relationship

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The masculine need for space contrasted with the feminine need for connection. Exploring some elements of polarity and differences in communication.

00:00 —Space as en essential element

04:00 — male well being and space

11:00 — feminine versus masculine communication

16:00 — John Muir is calling

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The data on young women and three big problems

Major data points also laid out here: https://anyashakh.substack.com/p/the-... Based on the recently published piece by The New Statesman: https://www.newstatesman.com/cover-st...‍ ‍

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 — Intro

01:27 — New data on young women in the West

04:14 — The big picture behind the data

05:35 — The most alarming statistics

07:00 — How anti-man sentiment is spreading

09:18 — Anti-man culture in everyday conversation

11:06 — Why criticism of women gets avoided

12:40 — The first big problem: confusion about men

14:56 — How feminism reshaped female identity

17:09 — What women were doing differently before

19:17 — Misplaced empathy and emotion-driven behavior

21:19 — Feeling unloved and looking for meaning

22:54 — The third problem: misunderstanding God

25:03 — Why women avoid wrestling with deeper truths

25:47 — God, masculinity, and authority

26:35 — The collapse of real community

27:00 — The three fundamental problems

28:08 — Outro

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In this episode I unpack one of the most misunderstood phrases in our culture - Behind Every Great Man Stands a Great Woman. I talk about why it’s not about comparison or jealousy, but authority and responsibility.

The moment it becomes a competition, the masculine and feminine dance is done.

Listen in to hear why a woman standing in front of her man will never be loved as deeply as she wants, the Captain of a ship analogy, why a woman’s creativity rests on protection, why historic couples like the Churchills and Adamses are a masterclass in this dynamic, and much more…

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 — Intro

01:19 — How the idea of “standing behind a man” came up

02:30 — Feminism and the shift in how women view support

04:03 — The umbrella analogy

05:12 — Masculine and feminine through a Christian lens

06:06 — Letting go of praise and front-runner status

07:08 — Why stability creates life

08:08 — Women’s fear of what others think

09:01 — The garden and the gardener analogy

10:12 — The unseen influence behind great men

11:00 — Phyllis Schlafly and public influence

12:14 — Defining a couple’s shared mission

13:05 — When partnership turns into competition

14:00 — “Never rely on a man” and trauma-based messaging

15:15 — Historical examples of women finding joy in support

16:38 — Spiritual emptiness and the search for meaning

17:55 — How we’re meant to live together

18:49 — What young boys are starving for

19:39 — Putting stakes in the ground

20:37 — Outro

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About This Episode

In this episode I sat down with Austin Milne aka Brother Oz - a deep thinking and passionate pastor from Vancouver who defends Christianity through apologetics and funny videos.

We connected in our shared desire to uncover what is good, beautiful, and true.

Listen in to learn about the purpose we have as men and women, why women want love and men want respect, why fatherhood comes from God, what are the consequences of feminine worship, why consensus culture is so dangerous, how to define masculinity and femininity based of God’s nature, and much more.

Connect with Austin:

https://www.youtube.com/@Brother_Oz

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00:00 — Intro

00:03:46 — Growing up in a Brethren community

00:06:46 — The turning point in faith

00:10:06 — How Christians understand God’s nature

00:13:12 — Christ revealed through the Old Testament

00:16:48 — Criticism, grace, and human weakness

00:19:58 — The soul, identity, and embodiment

00:23:22 — Why God can’t be divided into parts

00:27:04 — The image of God and the word

00:30:23 — Marriage, glory, and biblical symbolism

00:33:59 — A husband’s role in marriage

00:36:58 — Why so many young women distrust men

00:40:50 — Masculinity, being chosen, and purpose

00:44:33 — Why giving advice to women feels complicated

00:47:45 — Wild at Heart and masculine longing

00:50:44 — Women’s deeper fear of being unloved

00:54:05 — War, power, and masculine drives

00:57:43 — Free love, pair bonding, and social order

01:01:43 — Why some values are objectively good

01:05:25 — Monotheism, purpose, and hierarchy

01:08:50 — Why modern campuses feel disconnected

01:12:30 — Consensus vs Truth

01:15:37 — Community as protection from radical ideas

01:18:50 — Tension between male and female narratives

01:22:30 — Cultural trends and shifting beliefs

01:26:33 — Outro

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In this episode I explore the collapse of sex separated or sex sacred (as I like to say) spaces in our society. By charging into men’s spaces (i.e. Boy Scouts) women have actually lost so much of the respect and affection from men that they crave.

Listen in to hear why same-sex spaces aren’t about exclusion but protection, a story about an Aboriginal tribe’s view on it, a reaction to women entering Australia's bars for the first time in 1974, the confusion about female sexuality and empowerment, and much more.

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 — Intro

02:05 — Why privacy and boundaries matter

04:23 — When women overshare in front of men

06:04 — The push to make men and women interchangeable

08:03 — Misunderstanding masculine boundaries

10:10 — Why same-sex spaces matter

11:57 — The Aboriginal tribe example

14:29 — Why male intrusion changes the environment

15:29 — The problem with public eroticism

17:29 — The misunderstanding of female empowerment

20:18 — The container is wrong

21:23 — Boundaries, sacred spaces, and women’s lodges

22:46 — Men’s groups and healing the feminine

23:39 — What this could look like for women

24:37 — Outro

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In this episode I break down a common pattern that I see in relationships - men falling into the wrong relationships out of a scarcity mindset. This causes disempowerment, resentment, and frustration for everyone.

Listen in to learn about the mismatch between men and women in the early stages of dating, the key biological and hormonal differences (back by Huberman Research), how certain behavior from men can trigger pre-mature attachment from women, what it looks like when a man doesn’t lose his frame, and much more.

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 — Intro

01:46 — How relationships get misled from the start

04:14 — Desire phase vs commitment phase

06:18 — Why men need to lead the stages properly

08:06 — Why women read future signals too early

10:15 — Future talk and false intimacy

12:23 — What happens when polarity collapses

14:30 — A healthy example of pacing and attachment

16:30 — Why respecting the stages matters

18:38 — Outro

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About This Episode

13:17 ** Correction - I meant 800% (not 1800%)

This is PT 2 of Flirting and Courtship where I pick up from where I left off in PT 1 (Medieval Europe). In this episode I take us from Renaissance through the Colonial Era through the Victorian era into the Industrial Revolution and the turn of the twentieth century.

PT 1 -    • Flirting and Courtship Pt 1 - Vikings, Rom...  

In this episode I explain what the biggest distinctions were in courtship and flirtation before and after the Industrial revolution.

Listen in to learn about how we invented the concept of dating and why, what the three biggest changes were that brought on the shift in how young people got together, the major distinctions between courtship and dating, and much more.

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 — Intro

02:24 — Courtship moves into the public sphere

04:39 — How pre-industrial courtship worked

06:55 — Romance starts reshaping expectations

09:23 — What love starts to mean

11:47 — Rules and structure begin breaking down

14:06 — The rise of a new “third space”

16:18 — The idea of the “charity girl”

18:12 — How courtship was changing

20:36 — What broke down over time

23:01 — Outro

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In this episode I explore the myth and history behind the courtship practices of a few select ancient societies.

Listen in to learn why courtship was known as the most dangerous pastime for the young Icelandic man, where the origins of the madonna/whore complex may have come from, the difference in courtship between Rome the Republic and Rome the Empire, how did Romans think about matrimony, what was the chivalric code of honor, the medieval origins of ‘happy wife, happy life’ and much more.

RESOURCES:

https://www.vikinganswerlady.com/

https://www.youtube.com/@JacksonCrawford

https://feminaeromanae.org/matrimonium.html

https://www.supersummary.com/the-art-of-love-ovid/summary/

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 — Intro

02:18 — Pre-Christian views on relationships

04:05 — Influence and control dynamics

06:12 — Why it seemed appealing

08:20 — Marriage as a social structure

10:07 — Psychological roots of attraction

12:15 — The “third way” idea

14:12 — How things used to be different

16:08 — Consequences and exile

18:20 — Purpose beyond procreation

20:35 — Marriage tied to wealth and land

22:42 — Honour, loyalty, and core values

24:50 — Masculinity and Chivalric Code

27:05 — Understanding infatuation

28:55 — Final takeaways

30:22 — Outro

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In this episode I am joined by the lovely Rivkah Krinsky - wife, mother of 8, matchmaker and founder of One Soul matchmaking, podcast host, and health coach.

We explored what it means to have faith as a Co-creator with God as we touched on dating, marriage, motherhood, and more.

Listen in to learn about the Kabbalistic wisdom behind soulmates, why women are the foundation of faith, the difference between love and infatuation, as well as a few biblical stories and Jewish wisdom thrown in the mix.

Connect with Rivkah:

From the Inside Out Podcast - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs3Ysmgqfam1prT2qn9YPqg

Onesoul.org

https://www.instagram.com/rivkahkrinsky/

Resource Discussed:

Hannah's Children by Catherine Pakaluk

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00:00 — Intro

00:03:43 — Background and personal story

00:07:27 — Purpose and mission in life

00:10:59 — Traditional roles and dynamics

00:14:53 — Why dysfunction shows up

00:18:24 — Early reflections on relationships

00:22:16 — Agreeing on core ideas

00:25:38 — Importance of honesty and authenticity

00:29:19 — Reinforcing key relationship dynamics

00:33:20 — Self-improvement and influence

00:36:55 — Appreciation for the perspective

00:40:28 — Transition in conversation

00:44:21 — Work and daily life pressures

00:47:58 — Career ambition and struggle

00:51:31 — New paradigm in relationships

00:55:18 — Expanding on the idea

00:58:55 — Deeper reflection

01:02:38 — Philanthropy and meaning

01:06:17 — Real-life social examples

01:10:14 — Personal life reflection

01:13:47 — Outro

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