Ancient Intelligence

Boys and men are driven by a foundational fear that modern culture has forgotten about - the enemy. The inner drive that boys and men have is to defeat the enemy and keep us safe - this is one of the most noble things that exists in our world and yet it is ignored and misunderstood today.

In this episode I break down why boys are naturally drawn to competition, strategy fighting, and testing themselves against opposition. Based on Joyce Benenson’s book, ‘Warriors & Worriers’ I explain the natural skills and behaviors that boys have and why we should uplift and support them.

Listen in to learn about how boys brains function differently than girls, why boys communicate, how they play, why they are such great innovators, and much more.

Next week I will be diving into the psychology of girls.

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 — INTRO; Fluid Intelligence Teaser 

01:33 — Joyce Benenson & "Warriors and Worriers"

02:54 — The Core Male Fear: The Enemy 

05:32 — Rough & Tumble Play Psychology 

06:00 — The Balloon Study: Hitting vs. Hugging

07:58 — The Empathy Study: Brains & Electric Shocks 

10:32 — Cultural Critique: Decriminalization & Safety 

12:28 — "Killing the Dragon" & Securing the Family 

14:38 — Peak Fluid Intelligence (Ages 18-25) 

16:32 — Single Focus vs. Relationship Connection 

18:19 — The Street Crossing Analogy 

19:57 — The Education Crisis for Boys 

21:33 — Male Communication Styles & Directives 

22:54 — Conflict Resolution: The Valuable Relationship Hypothesis 

27:07 — Outro
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One thing that gets missed often in discussions about men and women is how little men around the world experience non-sexual touch and affection. This goes hand in hand with the lack of care our culture exhibits towards men.

Listen in to learn about three myths and truths reflecting men, the data behind touch, how testosterone and attachment work together, the origin of the word wife, and much more.

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TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 — Intro: The Crisis of Non-Sexual Touch 

00:44 — Welcome Back & "Year of the Horse" 

01:43 — True North Mastermind Announcement 

05:09 — The Touch Deficit in Boys 

06:25 — Testosterone & Delayed Attachment 

07:56 — The "Man Up" Narrative 

09:40 — Myth: Men Just Want Sex 

11:00 — The Sterilization of Affection in Society 

13:00 — Social Differences: Slumber Parties vs. "Go Play" 

14:32 — The Shift at Age Six: Joining the "Men's Tribe" 

15:54 — When Sex Becomes the Only Outlet for Touch 

16:51 — Myth: Men Lack Emotional Expression 

17:48 — The Fear of Overwhelming Emotion 

19:40 — Men’s Fear of Their Own Sexuality 

20:56 — The Origin of the Word "Wife" 

22:20 — The Male Archetype: Protector & Provider 

24:00 — The "Cosmic Wife" & The Power of Trust 

26:51 — Outro
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Happy New Year Everyone!

In this episode I unpack why healthy male power is actually a force for good in the world and why the true danger lies in powerlessness.

I trace how unacknowledged boys can grow into passive or angry men and I talk about the three most important ways that a young boy finds his healthy power as he grows up.

Listen in to learn about the differences between male and female power, why being of service in the world is impossible without power, the difference between power and force, and so much more.

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 — Intro: Power & Male Happiness 

01:05 — Client Wins: Vision & Success 

02:46 — The Healer’s Story: Releasing Trauma 

03:38 — The Spectrum of Powerlessness: Rage vs. Passivity 

05:37 — The "Nice Guy" & People Pleasing 

06:41 — Defining True Power vs. Force 

08:23 — The Extreme Consequence of Isolation 

10:51 — Phase 1: Affirmation from Mother 

12:52 — The Trap of the "Mother’s Son" 

14:37 — Phase 2: The Father’s Nod of Approval 

16:08 — Phase 3: Self-Mastery & Purpose 

17:45 — The Impact of a Critical Father 

18:44 — Three Traits of an Attractive Man 

20:54 — Releasing Trauma from the Body 

22:21 — Female Power: Devotion to Love 

24:07 — Attraction: Male Power & Female Devotion 

25:39 — Balancing Internal & External Worlds 

27:07 — Mastermind Announcement 

28:33 — New Year Wishes

30:09 — Outro
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In this episode I break down gamma bias - what it is, why it matters, and how it’s hurting relationships between men and women. I break down the 4 areas of gamma bias and how it shapes headlines, culture, and media reporting. I look at data around domestic violence and women in universities.

Listen in to learn about how gamma bias has eroded female accountability, why we don’t publicly celebrate men, and what it’s going to take to heal relationships between men and women on a macro scale.

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TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 — Intro: The "Bad Man" Narrative 

01:34 — True North Mastermind Announcement 

02:29 — Understanding Gamma Bias 

04:11 — Alpha vs. Beta Bias 

05:49 — The Four Quadrants of Gender Perception 

08:12 — Why Society Ignores Male Heroism 

09:50 — The "Default Bad" Narrative for Boys 

11:57 — The Data on Female Perpetration & Domestic Violence 

13:03 — Case Study: The Aurora Theater Shooting 

14:44 — Deconstructing Myths of Male Privilege 

17:08 — Female Privilege & The Education Gap 

18:35 — Victimhood Culture & The "Me Too" Fallout 

19:50 — The Silent Crisis: Homelessness, Suicide, & Sentencing 

21:09 — Evolutionary Biology vs. Modern Narratives 

24:05 — Creating a Future of Mutual Accountability 

27:24 — Final thoughts/Outro
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TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 — Intro & The Search for Freedom 

00:50 — Announcement: Special Program for Men

01:15 — The Pain of Not Being Seen 

02:02 — Understanding Overwhelm & Loneliness 

03:55 — Accessing Your Highest Potential 

04:23 — The Five Essential Human Needs 

05:16 — Introduction to the Mastermind Concept 

06:13 — Defining True North: Program Goals 

07:02 — The Ubuntu Philosophy & Tribal Wisdom 

08:04 — Breaking Negative Reinforcement Patterns 

08:42 — The Art of Receiving & Integration 

09:14 — Finding Your "True North" 

10:01 — Healing Through Relationship Dynamics 

11:22 — Integrity & Intimate Group Spaces 

11:59 — Curating a Space for Transformation 

12:53 — Quantum Leaps: The Hero’s Journey 

14:05 — From "Mr. Fix-It" to Self-Prioritization 

15:16 — Action-Oriented Coaching vs. Therapy 

16:11 — Attachment Theory & Somatic Work 

17:45 — Why This Approach Works for Men 

19:12 — Direct Feedback & Hotseat Coaching 

21:28 — Setting Three-Month Transformation Goals 

24:35 — Program Logistics & Commitment 

26:17 — Final Call to Action & Conclusion

29:21 — Final thoughts & outro
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I had the privilege of sitting down with Paul Elam for this enlightening conversation. Paul is a well known advocate for men’s rights. He is the founder of ‘A Voice for Men’ - the international conference on men’s issues. He inspired the making of ‘The Red Pill’ movie that aired in 2016. He’s been a men’s advisor and counselor for many decades now, and I appreciate how deeply he cares about supporting men.

It was a pleasure to talk to him and I learned so much - I know you will too!

We unpack the hidden assumptions about dating and marriage in the west under the ‘romantic model.' We also spend time getting to the bottom of why men are still so misunderstood in the west and what men need now more than anything.

Listen in to learn about the origins of the romantic model, different priorities of men and women, what’s missing from the mythopoetic movement, the change in male consciousness, the biggest killer of men, what a woman owes her marriage, being a ‘guardian of respect,’ and so much more.

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TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 — Intro & Preview: "Coddled Princesses" 

00:32 — Welcome: Introducing Paul Elam

01:53 — A Brief History of the Men's Movement 

02:36 — From 1920s Protests to the Mythopoetic Movement 

04:36 — The "Red Pill" Explosion & Its Flaws 

05:49 — The Missing Piece: Accountability for Women 

07:05 — The Critical Question: "What Do You Bring to the Table?" 

08:52 — How We Got Here: Family Courts & The Romantic Model 

10:24 — Hostile Dependency & Asserting Autonomy 

11:24 — Contradictions: Feminism, Girlbosses, and Tradwives 

13:07 — The Origins of Gynocentrism & Courtly Love 

15:40 — Why the Romantic Model Failed After Divorce Stigma Lifted 

18:12 — Trying to Satiate the Insatiable 

20:22 — The "Simp" Dynamic: Groveling Breeds Resentment 

21:58 — Why "Wild Man" Retreats Avoid the Real Issues 

24:55 — Peeling Back Gynocentrism: Treating Each Other as Human 

26:28 — Evolution vs. Socialization in Attraction 

28:22 — The Paradox of Women's Unhappiness 

30:19 — Disconnection from the Feminine Body 

31:36 — The Necessity of Being Complete Before Relationships 

33:30 — Understanding How Men Are Manipulated by Shame 

35:49 — "Human Doings": Men's Value Tied to Provision 

39:11 — Paul's Stance: Rejecting Legal Marriage 

40:58 — Biblical Roles & The Myth of the 1950s Housewife 

43:40 — Critique of the "She Has No Worries" Mindset 

46:13 — Controversial Advice: Stop "Dating" Entirely 

48:51 — The Transactional Nature of Modern Dating 

50:00 — Debunking the Soulmate Myth 

52:41 — Men, Silence, and the "Defective Women" Therapy Model 

53:44 — Men Heal Through Action (The Michael Jordan Story) 

56:06 — The Erosion of Male Spaces & The Bystander Effect 

59:43 — Daniel Penny & The Risks of Male Protection 

01:01:49 — Personal Safety: Agency vs. Expecting Protection 

01:02:45 — Most Men's Issues Stem from Relationship Choices 

01:04:18 — The Mirror Test: Taking Accountability for Abusive Partners 

01:05:54 — Self-Esteem vs. Self-Respect 

01:08:35 — Paul’s Relationship Secret: Being the "Guardian of Respect" 

01:10:52 — Teaching Women the Definition of Respect 

01:13:23 — The Ultimate Power: Willingness to Walk Away 

01:15:09 — Conclusion & Where to Find Paul Elam
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In this episode I dive into an excerpt from G.K Chesterton’s essay, The Emancipation of Domesticity, which gives us an important insight about the roles of men and women. Chesterton argued that men are specialists and women are generalists and paired with the greater male variability, we can use this insight to uncover many of the cultural, domestic, and social issues that exist between us.

Listen in to learn about what Chesterton thought a woman’s duty was, why the west have the most free women on the planet, why modern women want to quit their high-status outside of the home jobs, why women are more geared towards generalization, and much more.

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 — Intro: Ancient Intelligence

01:22 — Announcement: True North Mastermind for Men 

02:53 — G.K. Chesterton & The Emancipation of Domesticity

04:35 — The Woman’s Duty: The Ultimate Generalist 

05:37 — Evolutionary Psychology: Competition vs. Connection 

07:16 — Industrialization & The Male Specialist 

09:12 — Are Women Second Class Citizens in the West? 

13:08 — Greater Male Variability & IQ Distribution 

14:05 — Understanding the "Mental Load" 

16:07 — A Story of Two Mindsets: The Club vs. The Podcast 

17:40 — How Industry Displaced the Generalist 

18:24 — The Happiest Women: Monetizing Passion 

20:30 — Final Thoughts  

21:17 — Outro
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This week I thought it would be interesting to do a deep dive into the ‘Cool Girl’ archetype because it’s so prevalent in our culture. Most of us can relate to either being her, knowing her, or dating her.

Listen in to learn about what drives the cool girl, how she relates to men, where her biggest pain point is, why the ‘nice guy’ is her opposite-sex mirror, and much more.

The first part of the video is all about the cool girl and her motives, while the second part of the video is an analysis of two films that help us paint the picture of distinction between the ‘cool girl’ and the ‘feminine woman.’ (My Best Friend's Wedding and The Fighter).

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 — Intro

00:38 — The cool girl always loses  

02:24 — The gold in the shadow  

04:50 — She always seeks outside herself  

07:17 — The big mistake she makes  

09:45 — Men pick up on the low self esteem  

12:11 — Jungian frameworks  

14:38 — My Best Friend’s Wedding Analysis 

17:04 — Cool Girl Versus Feminine Woman 

19:30 — Feminine Vulnerability is strength  

21:57 — Female Psychology

24:23 — The Fighter Analysis  

26:50 — True Feminine Leadership  

28:37 — Outro
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In this episode, I unpack the question - could much of the frustration and difficulty in dating and mating be attributed to (at least in part) to hyper-elite women practicing what is known as ‘Reproductive Suppression’?

Vogue published an article titled ‘Is Having a Boyfriend Lame?’ Which prompted Rob Henderson to put forth his hypothesis about Reproductive Suppression in this brilliant piece titled ‘Girl Boss Gatekeeping’ - https://www.robkhenderson.com/p/girlb...

I draw on research from Rob Henderson and Dr. Dani Sulikowski as I break down female intragroup conflict and why all the body positivity, you don’t need a man, and red flag culture that seems like it’s in solidarity with women might actually be a covert strategy to keep women from finding mates.

Listen in to learn about how high-status females (including chimps) keep low-status females away from mates, how modern tech amplifies ‘aspirational’ lifestyles, why rom-coms feel like castration for men, how dark-triad traits correlate with anti-natalism, and much more.

This one is an evolutionary psychology nerding out episode - enjoy!

TIMESTAMPS:

00:53 —Intro 

01:03 —One on one coaching spots

03:15 — The Question of Elite Women as "Mean Girls"

05:00 — The Proximate and Ultimate Reasons for Elite Women's Behavior

06:16 — Intergroup Conflict and Covert Passive Aggression in Women 

07:36 — Unconscious Competitive Strategy to Keep Women from Mates 

10:12 —  Girl Boss, Body Positivity, & Female Entitlement 

13:16 — Technology, Consumerism, and the Tornado of Reproductive Suppression

14:37 — Heartbreak of Women Who Prioritised Career Over Family 

17:00 — Reproductive Sabotage: Disrupting Women's Mating Preferences 

18:01 — Demonising Traditional Masculine Traits & Rom-Com Castration

20:50  — Proximate vs. Ultimate Summary & Lying to Women

21:58 — Elite Women's Access to Resources and Protection

23:55  — Male Envy and Psychopathic Insanity 

24:50 — Dark Triad Traits and Lack of Introspection

25:52 — The Frustration of double standards

27:16 — Historical Examples: Elizabeth Cady Stanton & Victoria Woodhull 

28:54 — The Narrative of Oppression vs. Reality for Elite Women 

29:57 — The Twisting of Pain into Man Envy (Betty Friedan) 

31:17 — Conclusion & Call to Action for Harmony

32:24 — Outro
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In this episode I get into a soulful conversation about what it means to be a woman. I break down the three deep desires a woman has and how they are perfectly complementary to the three desires a man has. I get into why women don’t seem to be very inspiring to men these days.

Listen in to learn about what a woman’s rites of passage look like, what a woman teaches a man if she’s tuned in, what is missing from women in the mainstream, and much more.

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 — Intro 

00:35 — The Purpose of Womanhood 

01:14 — What Men vs. Women Truly Long For 

04:17 — The Core Wound: Feeling "Not Beautiful" 

05:33 — Womanhood's Power: Comfort with Uncertainty

06:22 — A Woman's Biological Rites of Passage

07:47 — Archetypes: Man as Logos, Woman as Eros 

09:16 — On Faith: Trusting the Unknown 

13:40 — Eros & Logos: Why Control Backfires

4:59 — Example: The 'Pretty Woman' Dynamic 

17:50 — Final Thoughts: Trust & PRO-Vision 

22:51 — Outro
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