Ancient Intelligence

I land the ‘mental load’ conversation in this episode. This is part 2 of a two part exploration.

In this episode I break down why the idea of ‘mental load’ takes away from our biological inclinations as men and women. The truth is there is no such thing as invisible labor & visible labor. There is men’s labor and women’s labor and we’ve lost sight of that as a society due to industrialization and modernization.

Listen in to learn about how the sacred separation between men and women got lost, what would happen if boys were on an equal playing field with girls, why there is no such thing as 50/50 in relationships, how the idea of ‘mental load’ is actually extremely sexist, and more.

I reference Mary Harrington, author of Feminism Against Progress & her recent writing via her substack, the reactionary feminist.

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 - 00:30 Episode Trailer And Intro

00:30 - 01:06 I'm finally back home

01:06 - 03:02 Should men be doing 50% of household labor

03:02 - 06:37 What is Mental Load?

06:37 - 07:42 Feminism against progress

07:42 - 09:21 Stop treating men like hairy women

09:21 - 10:43 Does childbirth expand sex differences

10:43 - 13:19 Did modernization create sexist or genderless roles

13:19 - 15:15 We've been helping girls at the cost of boys

15:15 - 17:20 Are women fulfilled

17:20 - 19:22 Gender used to be vernacular

19:22 - 20:50 The importance of preserving same-sex spaces

20:50 - 23:01 Are men and women different?

23:01 - 24:58 Why doesn't the Mental Load conversation land?

24:58 - 27:44 Men don't fit in to women's spaces

27:44 - 29:28 Women just want to feel safe

29:28 - 30:40 Final thoughts and key takeaways

30:40 - 31:19 Outro
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In this episode I dive into the conversation about mental load and why it doesn’t land with men. Women talk about this so often but don’t understand that the entire conversation is laced with a deep lack of respect for men.

Listen in to learn about a story from an elder woman from my family, how men and women fundamentally don’t share the same language of respect, how men thrive in hierarchies, why ‘she’s the boss’ kills relationships between men and women, and why the ‘mental load’ debate will never actually land on a solution if we keep going the way we are.

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 - 00:53 Episode Trailer and Overview

00:53 - 01:53 How women disrespect men without knowing it

01:53 - 04:58 This is what men want to experience

04:58 - 05:52 Men and women have different ideas about what respect means

05:52 - 07:26 It's more impactful to a man to be respected than to be loved

07:26 - 08:52 The best definition of respect I've ever heard

08:52 - 10:59 Men understand and live by hierarchies in a way that women don't

10:59 - 12:24 Men take each other at face value

12:24 - 13:51 How women inappropriately question men

13:51 - 17:55 Why couples splitting 50/50 is a flawed idea

17:55 - 20:04 The outcomes of the 'Mental Load' Conversation

20:04 - 22:00 What do men really want?

22:00 - 24:30 Avoid this if you want your husband to be the CEO of your family

24:30 - 24:57 Final takeaways and thoughts

24:57 - 25:35 Outro
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In this episode I sat down with Shah from his ‘This is Shah’ channel - https://www.youtube.com/@thisisshah

We dove into why the divorce rate is so high and what’s happening with modern dating and relating? Shah is extremely knowledgeable about family law and the court systems and we have an extensive conversation about dowry and bride price systems from the past.

Listen in to learn about whether the dowry has wisdom we could implement today, why caricatures of men and women are shaping modern dating dilemmas, Barbies and Bugattis, whether Andrew Tate would become monogamous if he was presented with a dowry, what the purpose of a prenup is and why it began, what the three stages of relating are based on David Deida’s work are, which stage are we in now, how we can define actually love? And so much more.

Such a great conversation with Shah, enjoy.

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 - 00:30 Episode Trailer and Intro

00:30 - 01:39 Episode Overview and 'This is Shah' Introduction

01:39 - 03:40 Who is 'This is Shah'

03:40 - 04:44 Is a dowry a sacrifice?

04:44 - 06:59 Is a dowry tantamount to buying someone

06:59 - 09:33 Bride price is a compensation for labour value lost by the bride's family

09:33 - 10:35 Why did we move from bride price to dowry

10:35 - 12:44 When did people start hating dowry and bride price rituals

12:44 - 14:53 Did feminism start because men stopped paying dowries?

14:53 - 17:25 'You're a high status man if you can manage a housewife'

17:25 - 19:11 Courtly love and romance used to be separate from marriage

19:11 - 21:16 Love means something different to almost everyone

21:16 - 22:36 Alex and Leila Hormozi's relationship

22:36 - 23:54 What is love?

23:54 - 25:16 Dowry payments are much like child support payments

25:16 - 28:08 Why prenups are funny to me

28:08 - 29:29 The three stages of relating

29:29 - 32:05 Andrew Tate is the male version of The Barbie ideal

32:05 - 32:46 What is the number one thing that any woman wants

32:46 - 35:19 The Quiet Man

35:19 - 37:09 The second stage of relating

37:09 - 39:45 Dowry societies see fewer divorces than bride price societies

39:45 - 41:50 Society has abandoned initiations

41:50 - 43:46 Does being religious reduce divorce rates?

43:46 - 47:20 Your upbringing determines your choice of romantic partners

47:20 - 48:30 Did no-fault divorce make it too easy to separate

48:30 - 52:03 Did industrialism ruin it for women

52:03 - 53:57 Why I believe hooking up is bad for you

53:57 - 55:50 What do you bring to the table?

55:50 - 58:26 What is a good romantic scenario when two people meet

58:26 - 01:01:50 Look at their credit report before getting married

01:01:50 - 01:02:48 How to really lower divorce rates

01:02:48 - 01:05:28 The only good thing about red pill 

01:05:28 - 01:06:12 The Romance game

01:06:12 - 01:07:04 The hedonism wall

01:07:04 - 01:12:21 Can women stick with you when you have nothing

01:12:21 - 01:13:18 Is income separate from attraction

01:13:18 - 01:17:35 Are there other men besides Nice guys and Bad boys

01:17:35 - 01:21:09 What is missing from how we behave these days?

01:21:09 - 01:23:35 My take on how to change the world of dating

01:23:35 - 01:26:37 how would I get Andrew Tate to be monogamous

01:26:37 - 01:28:40 Beauty that inspires action in a man

01:28:40 - 01:29:45 The one point men should take from this conversation

01:29:45 - 01:30:49 Key takeaways for women

01:30:49 - 01:31:27 Outro
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In this episode I dive into my experience after a women’s only temazcal (sweat lodge) experience that awakened something beautiful inside me. We got into maternal and paternal lineage, the female initiation of childbirth, vision quests, the sacred gifts men and women carry, and more.

I talk about women’s responsibility to pray for men, the double power of singing our prayers, and the art of revealing ourselves. I also explain in more detail the concept of holding space and how the Ancients knew all about what is now referred to as ‘parts’ work by psychotherapists.

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 - 00:24 Episode Trailer and Intro

00:24 - 00:53 Episode Overview

00:53 - 02:36 What does it mean to be a woman

02:36 - 03:06 I fixed my Blue Yeti Mic

03:06 - 06:00 My first sweat lodge experience

06:00 - 07:09 A sweat lodge resembles the uterus

07:09 - 09:06 Childbirth is a woman’s initiation

09:06 - 12:09 maternal and paternal lineage

12:09 - 13:52 Is it a woman's responsibility to pray for her man?

13:52 - 16:24 Does singing your prayers make them twice as strong?

16:24 - 17:04 We're so hyper-individualistic in the real world

17:04 - 19:08 How to stop being afraid of revealing your true self

19:08 - 21:49 Fighting the urge to people-please

21:49 - 23:31 the art of revealing

23:31 - 26:08 A better way to get your needs mett

26:08 - 29:45 How women can hold space for men

29:45 - 31:18 The healing power of a woman’ intuition?

31:18 - 33:17 Men rarely get nonsexual touch

33:18 - 33:59 Closing Remarks

34:00 - 34:39 Outro
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In this episode I dive into one of the most attractive things that men can do and why so many have lost it. I get into my impressions on the death of the old way of masculinity and what is being ushered in now.

Listen in to learn about the difference between informing and connecting, mature masculinity, whether we are regressing, male muses, and much more.

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 - 00:14 Intro and Welcome  

00:14 - 01:34 Masculinity and What’s Missing  

01:34 - 03:39 Loss of Purpose and Brotherhood  

03:39 - 05:10 New Masculinity and Presence  

05:10 - 07:50 Informing vs Connecting  

07:50 - 10:09 The Chair Metaphor and Emotional Blocks  

10:09 - 12:13 Warrior Archetype and Focus  

12:13 - 14:21 Attraction and Emotional Safety  

14:21 - 16:11 Archetypes and Transition Time  

16:11 - 18:45 Stages of Male Development  

18:45 - 21:51 Attachment, Culture, and Bonding  

21:51 - 22:04 Closing and Outro
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In this episode I share how two elder male teachers revealed something powerful - men who lead with clarity, depiction, and decisiveness don’t dominate the world, they are the ones that make it safe. From horseback riding to the Roman Empire, I delve into the connection between patriarchy, masculine leadership, and why the presence of elders is desperately missing in our society.

Listen in to learn what so many boys are missing from their mothers, why women hold privileges that men don’t, and what the three most important needs that men have.

Here is the essay that I reference called ‘The Secret About Men is Out - https://anyashakh.substack.com/p/the-secret-about-men-is-out

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TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 - 00:31 Trailer and Intro

00:31 - 00:51 Episode Overview

00:51 - 02:15 What we can learn from horses

02:15 - 03:31 What I learned about assertiveness 

03:31 - 05:07 Does assertiveness make a woman feel safe?

05:07 - 08:35 I love boxing

08:35 - 09:42 Is there are Jordan Peterson female equivalent?

09:42 - 11:05 The secret about men is out

11:05 - 13:27 What are the 3 things that men need

13:27 - 15:42 A man wants to be acknowledged and appreciated

15:42 - 16:00 The importance of a child's relationship with the opposite sex parent

16:00 - 17:16 Are men more preoccupied with death than women?

17:16 - 19:33 Being ready to die is actually freeing

19:33 - 20:46 What privileges do women have?

20:46 - 22:00 Internal work for men isn’t complete

22:00 - 22:56 Final thoughts and key takeaways

22:56 - 23:35 Outro
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In this episode I dive into why feminism was never really about what’s in the best interests of women. I talk about Phyllis Schlafly and the important role she played in delaying the ratification of the ERA (Equal Rights Amendment). I explore a different way to think about submission for men and women focused on alignment and partnership.

Expect to learn about the legacy of Phyllis Schlafly, female gullibility, why motherhood should be pedestalized, and much more.

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 - 00:33 Trailer and Intro

00:33 - 00:51 Episode Overview

00:51 - 01:58 Feminism’s misunderstandings

01:58 - 03:47 Does feminism have women's best interests at heart?

03:47 - 04:50 How much damage has feminism done to women?

04:50 - 08:14 Was Phyllis Schlafly a feminist?

08:14 - 09:02 Phyllis Schlafly thanking her husband for allowing her to be on stage 

09:02 - 12:57 What is submission really?

12:57 - 14:50 What was a couple's joint mission in the past?

14:50 - 15:47 This simple mindset change would change the world for the better

15:47 - 17:14 Are women more gullible than men?

17:14 - 19:08 Two meaningful things to understand about motherhood

19:08 - 20:16 How babies learn to speak

20:16 - 20:45 Final thoughts and key takeaways

20:45 - 21:23 Outro
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In this episode I dive into how romanticism came to life in parallel with feminism which had the western world do away with more pragmatic approaches to marriage and partnership. This had us lose the structure that once made family building and planning more viable and consistent. I introduce the concept of the gold pill that’s based on resurfacing the idea of the dowry from ancient times. In addition I talk about how feminism made way for entitlement and how that’s hurt relationships between men and women in a big way.

Expect to learn about my takeaways on the red pill, what is the gold pill and is it viable, Josiah Trenham’s three reasons to get married, the story of the biblical Raquel’s sacrifice, modern day dowrys, and much more.

Timestamps:

00:00 - 00:51 Episode Trailer and Intro

00:51 - 02:07 What is the purpose of Ancient Intelligence

02:07 - 02:41 Why are we not all blissful in relationships?

02:41 - 04:03 Josiah Trenham's 3 reasons to get married

04:03 - 06:58 Red pill vs Gold Pill

06:58 - 10:31 Should we reconsider the dowry?

10:31 - 12:01 Why did feminism create entitlement on behalf of women

12:01 - 13:55 Is love enough to marry on?

13:55 - 15:42 Are feminists lying to themselves 

15:42 - 18:18 Is this why divorces are so rampant these days?

18:18 - 20:25 Women and Entitlement

20:25 - 21:37 The Romanticised Modern Fairy Tale

21:37 - 23:17 Men just want to be believed in

23:17 - 25:18 The story of Raquel and her sacrifice

25:18 - 27:22 Is female entitlement good or bad?

27:22 - 28:39 The two extremes that don’t work for us

28:39 - 30:06 Final thoughts and key takeaways

30:06 - 30:45 Outro
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Celebrating 100 episodes with wise woman, mentor, and friend Jamie Star Crawford.

We dive into the question, what is happening with modern women? We unpack the dissonance many women feel between who they are and who they’ve been told to be in the last 50 years. We talk about the prices women pay when we abandon priorities that actually align with our bodies, values, and spirit.

Expect to learn about the feminine gift of reflection and magnifying, lost art of female friendship, mosaic or diffuse style thinking.

Timestamps:

00:00 -00:26 Episode Trailer

00:26 -01:05 Guest Introduction and Episode Overview

01:05 -03:00 Ancient Intelligence beginnings

03:00 -04:22 Women’s priorities

04:22 -06:07 Who is Jamie

06:07 -06:58 Men love women who believe in the vision

06:58 - 09:57 The Grace of God allows you to be patient with others

09:57 - 12:30 What are women missing right now?

12:30 - 13:46 How did the relationship between men and women get so strained

13:46 - 17:02 Women don't need to be competing with men

17:02 - 20:55 At what point did women stop needing men

20:55 - 21:41 The insecure overachiever

21:41 - 25:37 What are the priorities for women?

25:37 - 27:14 Women don't want to be breadwinners

27:14 - 29:37 I don't think women want to do just nothing

29:37 - 33:21 Women desire to be valuable

33:21 - 35:00 What are women trying to create and express?

35:00 - 38:48 Men want to help

38:48 - 41:52 Every woman has the capacity for creative engagement

41:52 - 45:47 How crazy was it to not have mirrors for the majority of history?

45:47 - 49:04 The issue with being raised by a single mom

49:04 - 51:34 Getting rejected and finding partnership

51:34 - 54:06 The plight of single women

54:06 - 57:30 Don't give up on finding a relationship

57:30 - 01:00:26 Being prepared and having faith

01:00:26 - 01:04:29 Know yourself before trying to save your relationship

01:04:29 - 01:05:56 It's useless to take action on a mass scale

01:05:56 - 01:15:48 The beauty of female friendships

01:15:48 - 01:16:33 Final thoughts and key takeaways

01:16:33 - 01:17:12 Outro

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In this episode I dive into the nuances behind the dynamics between dads and daughters, especially when they are little. Father wounds or what many call ‘Daddy Issues’ impact a girl’s life in such profound ways and I address some of those here. I focus on dad’s embrace both physical and spiritual with their daughters and how when that is missing, there is a big emptiness that she will then go on spending her life trying to fill. I pepper in examples from pop culture, media, and films from Lily Phillips to My Best Friend’s Wedding and more.

Expect to learn about feminine power and grace, the link between dad wounds and boss babes, what female leadership actually looks like, and much more.

Timestamps:

00:00 - 00:32 Episode Trailer and Intro

00:32 - 01:14 Episode Overview

01:14 - 03:02 Tim Kennedy and his little girl

03:02 - 04:23 Dads and their own dad issues?

04:23 - 06:58 Getting to the bottom of Lily Phillips 

06:58 - 07:57 How damaging to a girl is a distant father?

07:57 - 09:01 Is Lily Philips deeply wounded?

09:01 - 11:20 What a healthy relationship between dad and daughter looks like

11:20 - 13:18 Women and Self-esteem

13:18 - 17:37 My best Friend's Wedding - the film

17:37 - 21:12 Feminine grace and vulnerability

21:12 - 22:57 This makes a woman sexy

22:57 - 26:00 A peek into Vladimir and Vera Nabokov’s love story

26:00 - 27:23 A woman is a man's true counterpart

27:23 - 28:32 Final thoughts and key takeaways

28:32 - 29:10 Outro
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