You know that feeling when you open a brand-new planner - full of hope - only to find yourself totally uninspired or overwhelmed by it, the moment you start to use it?

That’s me - every time.

I have never found a planner that works for me. I want something that feels simple and enjoyable to use, while actually helping me to do the things I want to do. But I have always found that traditional planners are simply not designed for creative, busy, slightly-chaotic brains like mine. They’re too grey, too rigid, too boring.

So for some time now I’ve been dreaming of creating Project You life design tools that do work for brains that need simplicity, inspiration and dopamine colours to stay on track and engaged in their plans.

Tools that will help you and me design our lives, plan our weeks, and turn our dreams and ideas into reality (without burning out in the process).

And so in today’s Pep-Talk I dive into the topic of getting things done - and the importance of getting all the to-dos out of our heads, onto a page and into a system.

I invite you to take a look at the systems that you are currently using - what’s working and what’s not - and what you could add to make your system even more effective.

And then I’d love to hear from!

💡 I’ve made a super-quick survey

to find out what’s missing for you when it comes to planning, staying on track, and getting things done and what Project You life design tools and support you’d most love me to create next!

I’m running a live brainstorming event!

If you want to dive even deeper into this with me, join me live on Monday 4th November, 7pm UK time, when we’ll brainstorm together and start shaping what the new tools and system could be. I already have a lot of ideas to discuss with you, but I really want to hear your thoughts and ideas - and what you actually want.

So excited to see what new Project You life design tools grow out of this! 🥳✨🗓️✨

x Selina

Happy Monday! How was your weekend? It’s been gloriously sunny here in London, but those colder, darker days are definitely on their way - so before we get there, I wanted to help you set yourself up to thrive this autumn and winter.

In this week’s Pep-Talk, I’m sharing how to tune into the energy of the season, look after your physical, emotional, mental, motivational and spiritual energy, and create your own Autumn–Winter Thrive Toolkit — because as the seasons shift, so do our needs.

And if you’d love to go deeper, come and do the workshop I ran for our club members - ‘How to thrive in the Autumn and Winter’ where I’ll guide you through it all, step-by-step, using the Time to Thrive framework.

Here’s to candlelight, early nights, and feeling grounded and energised all winter long.x Selina

What if the reason you’ve been feeling stuck, flat, or a little “off” lately isn’t because you’re doing anything wrong… but because somewhere along the way, you swapped your Plan A for a safer Plan B? The dream that once lit you up got quietly replaced with something that felt more “sensible,” more realistic — something you thought would tide you over until things felt easier, safer, more stable. But here’s the thing: that so-called sensible choice might actually be what’s holding you back.

We tell ourselves we’re being practical. We’ll go after the big dream later, when the timing’s better, when things feel less uncertain, when the world calms down a bit. For now, we’ll stick with what’s safe - what seems achievable. But before we know it, that ‘temporary’ Plan B starts to become THE plan. And somewhere in the process, we lose touch with the excitement, purpose, and possibility that comes from chasing what we really want.

This is something that has been coming up again and again lately - in my coaching sessions, talking with friends - and I even realised it’s what had been happening to me before I finally realised that I needed to go after my Plan A - my journals business.

And so, in this week’s Pep-Talk, I really wanted to dive into this topic and explore why so many of us at the moment are choosing Plan B over Plan A, how not going after what you really want can actually be the very thing getting you stuck and the magic that so often happens, when you do finally take the leap and go after Plan A.

🎧 Listen to this week’s Pep-Talk and let me know what you think in the comments!

x Selina

P.S. If you haven’t already ordered your ‘Goodbye 2025, Hello 2026’ journal, then make sure you do this week to get my brand new ‘Goodbye, Hello Audio Guide’ for FREE as an early bird thank you gift from me!

Hello lovelies,

How are you doing? Oh my goodness, it is nearly here! This Wednesday, Goodbye 2025, Hello 2026 finally lands!

I feel SO excited about the arrival of the journal this year. I can’t quite believe it’s our ninth printed edition - next year will be the ten-year anniversary!

And I’ve got some exciting news to share with you and some exciting things in store as part of this year’s launch.

Hit play and listen to the episode to find out what it is! 😉

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Every time you do one of 👇 these things, you’ll get an entry into the prize draw. The more you do, the more chances you get to win:

* Spot the journal in a shop. Take a photo and either:

* Tag me on Instagram at @projectyouprojectyou, or

* Email it to [email protected].

* Share a photo of you with your ‘Goodbye 2025, Hello 2026’ journal. Whether you’re journaling under a blanket with your dog, on a sunny balcony, or in total chaos at your desk - I’d love to see it!

Again - tag me on instagram @projectyouprojectyou or email me the photo

* Take part in the ‘Write it. Create it. Live it’ project. There are different ways you can choose to do this:

- join me for a recorded conversation on Zoom- record a video on your phone - write out your answers and send with a photo of you and your journal(s)

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Each time you send in a photo, tag me, or share your story, you’ll go into the prize draw!

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Prizes will all be sourced from independent makers and self-publishers around the world - feel free to suggest yourself or an independent maker or self-publisher that you love.

🗓️ The game runs from launch day (Wednesday, Oct 1st) until early January. Winners will be announced every month!

So order your journal before October 15th to get the free Audio Guide, and then let’s play. Spot it, snap it, share it - and you could win a prize!

x Selina

To kick off another series of Special Guest Interviews on Another Way - the official Project You podcast, I am joined by one of the UK’s leading Love Coaches - the woman who transformed my own love life - Vicki Pavitt.

Vicki Pavitt is a Love, Dating & Relationship Coach who helps big-hearted women heal dating blocks and create secure and healthy love. She’s an NLP and EFT practitioner, an attachment styles expert, and a former Dating & Relationship expert for Match.com. Over 12 years, she’s supported 1,000+ women through her signature Wholehearted Dating programme, with features across major outlets like Grazia, Cosmopolitan, Marie Claire, Elle, The Independent, and BBC Radio.

And for for 8 years she and I co-hosted the Project Love podcast (half a million + downloads).

And so I was SO excited to finally be reunited with my business wife and podcasting partner-in-crime, to dive deep into a topic that I find endlessly fascinating: the topic of how to transform your love life, with a wholehearted approach to love and dating.

In this conversation we get into:

* why so many of us find dating so hard to do

* how we can think we’re wide open and available to love, without realising we have our walls up to it (that was me when I first started to work with Vicki!)

* our attachment styles and how they play out in dating and relationships

* what to look out for in those early days of getting to know someone

* Vicki’s wholehearted approach to dating that has helped 1000s of women (including me) find love in the past 12 years

* How you can work with Vicki 🤗

👉 Hit play on the episode and let’s dive in!

Special for listeners: Dating Reset (limited-time bonus)

Vicki’s launching a mini-programme called Dating Reset — a focused, 1:1 reset to help you date with intention and feel actually good about it again.Check it out: https://www.vickipavitt.com/wholehearted-dating-reset-intensive

Bonus: On bookings made before Friday 26 Sept at 2pm (UK), you’ll get Vicki’s Online Dating Profile add-on free (worth £197) — personalised feedback on your current profile or help creating one from scratch.

Launch price: £497 (rising to £997 soon).

Not sure what you need?

Book a no-pressure Clarity Call with Vicki to explore which coaching path fits you best:https://www.vickipavitt.com/claritycall

How do you feel about the summer coming to an end?For me, saying goodbye to summer always feels hard.It is always tinged with sadness, as if all the fun is coming to an end.

In fact my end-of-summer blues got so bad a few years back that I finally decided I needed to do something about it.

And so, I created a guided journaling exercise called ‘Goodbye Summer, Hello Autumn’ to help me say a fond farewell to the summer as it came to an end and then plan what I wanted to make autumn all about, so that I could actually look forward to it.

And honestly that simple exercise has been an absolute game changer.

Now, not only do I not experience anywhere near the same degree of post-summer blues as I did before, but I actually enjoy the arrival of autumn.

And I never thought I’d be able to say that!

So if you have been suffering end-of-summer blues since the start of September, or simply want to step into autumn feeling clear about what you want to make this next season all about, then tune into today’s Pep-Talk and let me guide you through the exercise that has made a huge difference to me and a lot of my clients and members who have tried it too.

If you’ve been circling around a dream lately - or a change you want to make in your life - but you still haven’t yet taken, then this week’s Pep-Talk is for you. It’s a rallying cry to all of us with a big dream:

To stop thinking and start doing.

No more thinking about it, no more trying to figure out every step, no more waiting for the perfect moment to get started.

That time will never come.

Instead you simply have to decide: now is the time. No more waiting.

That is where I have got to with my big Project You dream.

I am ready to take the leap.

No more thinking about it, no more worrying about whether it will work - and what I’ll do if it doesn’t. It is time to dive in and start making it happen.

And so, if you have a big dream that you’ve been thinking about - or a change you want to make in your life - then this is your invitation to join me: let’s stop thinking about it and start doing it!

In this episode, I talk about:

* How to protect your dream from naysayers (even the well-meaning ones)

* The magic of imperfect action (because perfection is a dream killer)

* How to stay grounded and in your power when the rollercoaster ride of change gets bumpy

* Why surrounding yourself with cheerleaders is non-negotiable

* The power of turning your dream into a project

* Why it’s important to focus on how you want to feel throughout this journey

This is the episode to give you that loving kick up the bum to stop circling and start moving. Because your dream won’t become reality by thinking about it - it becomes reality by taking action, messy and imperfect though it may be.

So grab your dream, grab your courage - it’s time for us to make it happen!

x Selina

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Did anyone else feel totally ambushed last week by the arrival of September?! After sending out a Pep-talk about easing into September with good habits and solid foundations, I went on to completely ignore my own advice and found myself sucked headfirst into the back-to-school chaos.

Once I finally came up for air, I realised just how easy it is to let life sweep us up and pull us off-track. But instead of beating myself up, I’m giving myself some compassion and grace. Because the truth is - we’re human, and sometimes life is a bit of a whirlwind. And this week is a new week and another fresh start 🤗

And speaking of whirlwinds, today I want to dive into that big, scary question that always shows up whenever we take a brave leap or go after a dream:

“But what if it doesn’t work out?”

It’s a question that can arrive (usually at 3am) drenched in panic and fear, throwing us into a spin. So what should we do with this question when it inevitably arrives? Ignore it? Or listen to it?

Well, having witnessed a lot of people face this ‘what if’ question over my decades of coaching and having had to face my own middle-of-the-night ‘what if’ panic recently (because it always happens when you take a leap and embark on a big new dream), I have a lot to say on the matter.

And so in today’s Pep-Talk I look at how to answer that question in a way that calms your nervous system, dials down you inner Shitty Committee and helps you move forward with confidence and excitement - and without the crushing pressure that “this has to work or the world as I know it will end”.

So if you’re making a big change, chasing a dream, or just hearing that 3am voice whispering “what if…”, this P talk is for you.

Hit play and let’s dive in!

x Selina

P.S. If you haven’t yet heard, part of my big leap is waving goodbye to 1:1 coaching so that I can lean full time into my journals business. So if you want to book me in for a one-off Coaching Session or Coaching programme, then get in touch - this could be your last chance!

September always brings with it that unmistakable back-to-school energy. Even if you don’t have kids, there’s something about this month that whispers: fresh start, new chapter, time to begin again.

In this week’s pep talk, I’m inviting you to use that September energy to not just dive into new projects or recommit to old dreams, but to take a step back and ask: how do you want to design your days and weeks so you actually thrive over the next few months?

We’ll talk about the small but powerful daily rituals - morning, daytime, and evening - that keep your energy flowing, your wellbeing topped up, and your dreams moving forward. Because I don’t want you racing into September focused only on everyone else’s needs and forgetting about your own.

Grab your notebook, or Project You journal and let’s map out the simple habits and foundations that will help you feel good, stay grounded, and bring your big ideas to life in this final third of the year.

And if you want to come and join the club (👉 check out what’s on this September) - where you’ll learn how to create a life and career you love, one easy step at a time, hit the button below!

⚡️BONUS: Subscribe this September and get a Project You journaling notebook!

We can often think that the biggest obstacles in the way of making our dreams come are obstacles on the outside - not having X, Y or Z.

But often the biggest obstacles come from within. And one of the biggest of those inner obstacles is our identity.

Because here’s the thing: we can go through all the motions of making that dream come true, but if deep down we can’t imagine ourselves actually being the kind of person who has that dream as their reality…we’ll keep unconsciously blocking it from happening.

And so, in this episode I dive into this topic and explore:

* Why your identity plays such a huge part in making big dreams real

* How your inner Shitty Committee is often holding you back from allowing your identity to grow

* And how to evolve your identity to allow for your new dream to come true without changing who you are

So, hit play and let’s see if your identity is allowing you to go after your dreams or the very thing getting in the way - and what to do about it if it is!

x Selina