We all want to raise responsible kids—ones who remember their tasks, help out without nagging, and grow into capable adults. But let’s be real: sometimes our own childhood baggage sneaks into the mix. Guilt, shame, and old expectations can make parenting feel heavier than it needs to be.

In this episode, I share practical tools to help kids take ownership (no yelling required), some common missteps we all make, and how shifting from “you” to “I” statements can change everything. I’ll also open up about my own struggles in this area—and the small, powerful ways we can move forward with grace and connection.

This one’s for every parent trying to teach responsibility without losing their mind. You’re not alone—and you’re doing better than you think.

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Ever feel like your kid just tunes you out the moment you start giving advice? You’re not alone. In this episode of aParently!, we break down a simple, effective way to share your wisdom—without the eye rolls or shutdowns.

Learn:

Why timing is everything

How to open the conversation with curiosity

What to say to actually be heard (and not just tolerated)

A real-life example where asking the right questions made all the difference

This isn't about being perfect—it’s about being effective. And it starts with a pause, a question, and a little bit of intention.

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🎧 Listen now and learn how to parent with connection, not just correction.

In this deeply practical episode, Coach Shawn explores what’s really going on when a child can’t let go of hate or resentment. Drawing from his experience as a foster dad and insights from trauma-informed child development experts, he unpacks how behaviors often mask deeper needs — and how parents can respond in healing, powerful ways.

"The EdAward: A Father’s Legacy and the Power of Showing Up"

When you grow up with a dad who shows up—really shows up—it changes everything.

In this deeply personal episode, I share the story of how my father, Edward Miller Hopkins, shaped the way I parent my boys—especially as a foster dad stepping into their lives after deep loss and trauma.

You’ll hear about legacy, acceptance, and the power of being the steady voice that says, “You’re enough, right now, just as you are.”

This episode is a tribute.

To the father who raised me.

To the boys who now call me Dad.

To any parent who’s ever wondered if they’re doing enough.

If there were an award for Damn Fine Dadding… it would be called the EdAward.

🔊 Listen now and remember—you’re doing better than you think you are.

Parenting is hard. Parenting a young adult who's still figuring it out—while you’re juggling bills, burnout, and a messy kitchen—is next-level hard.

In this honest episode, I share a story about my son, Miguel, and what I’ve learned (the hard way) about how the words we choose can build trust—or break it down. I talk through five common phrases I’m working to replace, why they don’t help, and what I’m saying instead. If you’ve ever yelled something you instantly regretted, or wished for a script when your kid shuts down, this one’s for you.

Because sometimes it’s not about saying the perfect thing—it’s about saying the better thing.

Parenting is hard. Parenting a young adult who's still figuring it out—while you’re juggling bills, burnout, and a messy kitchen—is next-level hard.

In this honest episode, I share a story about my son, Miguel, and what I’ve learned (the hard way) about how the words we choose can build trust—or break it down. I talk through five common phrases I’m working to replace, why they don’t help, and what I’m saying instead. If you’ve ever yelled something you instantly regretted, or wished for a script when your kid shuts down, this one’s for you.

Because sometimes it’s not about saying the perfect thing—it’s about saying the better thing.

🎙️ Episode Title: When Your Kid Lies

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Why do kids lie—and what should we actually do about it?

In this episode, Shawn shares personal stories, hard-won parenting insights, and 6 practical ways to respond to lying that help build trust instead of breaking connection. From emotional storytelling to real-life strategies, this short episode will help you see dishonesty through a new lens—and respond in ways that heal, teach, and support your child’s growth.

Whether you're dealing with little white lies or ongoing dishonesty, this one's for you.

✅ Understand the why behind the lie

✅ Replace punishment with trust-building tools

✅ Learn phrases that invite honesty

✅ And yes… maybe even skip that bathroom argument

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Podcast: aParently! A Podcast for Parents

This heartfelt Mother's Day episode is a tribute to my one-of-a-kind mom—Judy. Growing up, we butted heads, cracked each other up, and danced like nobody was watching. From walking home after pushing her buttons one too many times, to watching her love people boldly and without hesitation, my mom shaped me in ways I'm only now beginning to fully appreciate.

I’ll share some hilarious, touching, and real stories—from the car fights and church rule-breaking to the way she celebrated people like they were the only ones in the room. And yes, there are a few tips on how to be like my mama—starting with marrying a hunk.

If you’ve got a kid who pushes every button or a parent who just gets you (and sometimes drives you nuts), this one’s for you.

Happy Mother’s Day, Moms.

You're doing better than you think you are.

Worried your kid is heading in the wrong direction—anger, disrespect, or harmful habits? In this honest episode, parenting coach Shawn Hopkins shares personal stories and 3 powerful tools to stay connected and lead with love, even when your values feel worlds apart. You’re not alone—and you’re doing better than you think.

In this episode, Coach Shawn Hopkins shares ultra-practical tips to help you navigate those frustrating moments when your parenting strategies just aren't working. From kids shutting down to defying your every word, Shawn offers simple yet powerful shifts that can change the game. Tune in to learn how to shift your energy, deepen your connection, and turn tough situations into opportunities for growth and understanding. Whether you're a mom, dad, grandparent, or foster parent, these easy-to-apply strategies will help you handle those tough parenting moments with confidence and calm.