What pretzel are you twisting yourself into just to look successful? And what’s that “success” really costing you? For so many of us, the chase isn’t about achievement — it’s about negotiating for acceptance. Let’s be real: if you’re chasing someone else’s version of success, you’re not building a life — you’re auditioning for one. Forever the Pick Me.

✨ In this episode, I unpack:

Why chasing the “That Girl” version of success sabotages your confidence and makes you feel like an imposter when you do score a win.

How authenticity and self-worth create real opportunities and flow

Why nurturing your unique strengths is the fastest path to growth

The freedom and fulfillment of embracing who you actually are

The get-rich-quick strategy isn’t hustling harder — it’s owning your strengths, finding your people, and working in alignment. Instead of failing at being “That Girl” (and resenting those who are), this is your permission slip to thrive as This Girl. The one nobody can copy, water down, or ignore.

🎙️ Tune in and learn how to stop people-pleasing, overcome imposter syndrome, and finally define success on your own terms.

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As an architect, nothing feels better than knowing a space you designed brought someone joy, or peace. But it's not easy to tap into that zone when you aren't making space for any of that in your own life.  In this episode, you'll hear from architect Peter Sandiford how he stopped going against the grain and started working with his instincts, energy levels and the environment to uplevel his practice.

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It's all about energy, and if you're an introvert, you aren't getting it by peopling. Not that you're misanthropic.  You just need to be very discerning about what and who gets your precious energy and build in recovery time. Deep dive with me into this topic

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Tired of tiptoeing around tough personalities at work? Whether it's the micromanaging boss, the passive-aggressive peer, or the coworker who just rubs you the wrong way, this episode gives you the mindset and tools to navigate workplace personalities with emotional intelligence and influence.

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Having one of those days? Where you slog through, struggling to focus and not send the intern searching for a different career path because you had no tolerance for truly dumb questions? Before you actually start breathing fire or day drinking, take a listen to this episode.  I talk about a biological cycle called ultradian rhythm, a pattern of performance peaks and valleys that oscillates its way through your day, that no one talks about but everyone should. 

The the ultradian rhythm is a natural biological cycle that creates performance highs and lows throughout your day. Learn how to recognize these waves and use them to your advantage.

Discover practical strategies to prioritize self-care even on your busiest days and why pushing through when you're burned out is the worst move you can make.

Reclaim control, boost your focus, and build resilience—because the key to mastering your day isn’t working harder, it’s working smarter.

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What if joy isn’t a reward for success, but the secret to achieving it? In this episode, I give you the cheat code for prioritizing your life around the happy. Dive into The Joy Experiment—an exploration of how choosing joy over stress transforms your brain, boosts resilience, and unlocks long-term creativity and fulfillment.

Learn about the neuroscience of joy: dopamine, oxytocin, seratonin, and endorphins

How joy activates the parasympathetic nervous system and enhances cognitive flexibility, making you more decisive, resilient, creative and motivated.

How joy turns you into the ultimate influencer, growing your network and strengthening personal and professional connections.

Practical ways to retrain your brain for joy—on purpose

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Tired of people-pleasing and constantly chasing approval? It’s draining your energy, eroding your confidence, and keeping you stuck in self-doubt. The truth? You’ll never feel fulfilled trying to meet everyone else’s expectations. In this episode, learn how self-authorization helps you stop seeking validation and start living on your own terms—with clarity, confidence, and freedom.

In this episode, we unpack:

Why people-pleasing is exhausting and unsustainable

How seeking external validation keeps you stuck in self-doubt

The hidden cost of always needing others' approval

A mindset shift: Self-authorization as the antidote to burnout

You’ll learn a powerful strategy to break free from the cycle of approval-seeking by giving yourself permission to live and lead on your own terms. This concept of self-authorization helps you reconnect with your intuition, build unshakable confidence, and set healthy boundaries—without guilt.

If you’ve ever felt like you're constantly proving yourself or afraid to disappoint others, this episode is for you.

It’s time to stop outsourcing your worth. Tune in to discover how to:

Cultivate inner validation instead of chasing praise

Reclaim your personal power in work and life

Build stronger, more authentic relationships

Attract opportunities aligned with your true values

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Think you need to wait until you're "perfect" to go for that promotion? Think again. In this episode, we walk through a powerful Promotion Readiness Checklist tailored specifically for women in architecture. From project wins to mindset shifts, you’ll learn how to assess your leadership potential—and make your next move with confidence.

Whether you're eyeing senior designer, project manager, or principal, this episode helps you stop doubting and start leading.

Performance & Expertise: Are you delivering value that drives results?

Leadership & Influence: Are you guiding others and shaping outcomes?

Visibility & Advocacy: Are your contributions being seen and championed?

Confidence & Mindset: Are you standing in your power—or holding back?

Strategic Fit: Do your goals align with what leadership looks for?

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Sick of marketing that feels fake? Robert Bean of IMPACT shares how ethical persuasion and purpose-driven storytelling attract dream clients - no selling out necessary. Discover how your unique purpose, not the usual list of qualifications, is your most valuable marketing tool.

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During my vacation in Australia, I’e had some incredible opportunities to connect with the landscape, geology and culture. In this episode hear about the Aboriginal concept of the songline and its use as a ritual connecting place, mythology, and the human journey through life.