In this episode, Neelam welcomes Chandani Patel, the Inaugural Director of Equity and Inclusion at Roland Hall. They explore the often overlooked topic of perimenopause, particularly focusing on the experiences of women of color. Neelam and Chandani share their personal stories and insights, emphasizing the importance of open conversations surrounding perimenopause symptoms. Chandani discusses her background as the daughter of Indian immigrants and her professional journey in creating inclusive educational environments. Tune in for a candid discussion that aims to empower women through shared experiences and knowledge about well-being during this transitional phase of life.

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[00:02:10] Perimenopause in women of color.

[00:07:25] Mood swings and mental health.

[00:16:44] Women's health secrecy in culture.

[00:19:34] Hormone replacement therapy benefits.

[00:25:36] Shame around menstruation and aging.

[00:28:58] Strength training and wellness journey.

[00:36:47] Feminist parenting and household roles.

[00:44:46] Advocacy in relationships.

[00:50:08] Self-care for women of color.

[00:59:25] Embracing aging as a gift.

[01:05:03] Hormone replacement therapy myths.

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In this episode, Neelam welcomes Dr. Kathryn Bond Stockton, a distinguished professor and expert in queer theory, to explore the complexities of gender queerness and identity through the perspectives of children and their caregivers. With a rich background in equity, diversity, and literature, Dr. Stockton discusses her extensive work, including her recent book, "Genders," and highlights her contributions to LGBT studies. Tune in for an insightful conversation that addresses the challenges and joys of understanding gender identity in today’s society, as well as the importance of support from adults in nurturing the well-being of gender diverse children.

"The sheer act... of simply admitting that there are gay and trans children in our midst and wanting to have a loving embrace of those children... does absolutely zero damage to any other child."

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[00:03:35] Exploring gender identity in children.

[00:06:25] Childhood understanding of gender.

[00:09:09] Hollywood kiss and gender identity.

[00:21:07] Biological approach to gender.

[00:28:42] Gender identity and societal norms.

[00:39:05] Gender expression and identity evolution.

[00:46:10] Gender and sexuality discussions.

[00:50:54] Redefining masculinity in society.

[00:56:00] Self-examination in parenting.

[00:57:23] Lifelong examination of whiteness.

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In this heartfelt episode, Neelam welcomes her brother, Dhiraj Chand, for a unique sibling check-in that doubles as a love letter to their inner children. Dhiraj, a Deputy Chief Philanthropy Officer at the University of Utah, shares insights from his extensive 16-year career in higher education, focusing on transformational giving and the importance of building meaningful connections. The conversation delves into themes of social justice, personal growth, and the impact of storytelling, with Dhiraj reflecting on his role in introducing Neelam to the world of social justice and advocacy. Tune in for a blend of personal anecdotes, professional insights, and a celebration of family bonds.

"My inner child is very, very sensitive, but also it is very, I would say a bit judgmental, and it doesn't seek joy as often as it seeks safety and it seeks reliability."

Notes:

[00:06:20] Inner child exploration and growth.

[00:10:08] Inner child's expression and creativity.

[00:15:09] Inner child's confidence and resilience.

[00:18:10] Gender identity and childhood experiences.

[00:24:14] Inner child creativity and joy.

[00:28:33] Hospitality and personal boundaries.

[00:32:15] Coping through humor in families.

[00:35:06] The burden of self-criticism.

[00:39:45] Exploring queer identity and representation.

[00:44:24] LGBTQ representation in Bollywood.

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In this episode, Neelam welcomes Dr. William A. Smith, a distinguished professor at the University of Utah and a leading voice on the psychological impacts of racism. They explore the concept of racial battle fatigue, which Dr. Smith coined in 2003 to describe the chronic stress experienced by black and brown communities due to racism. With appointments in psychiatry, education, and ethnic studies, Dr. Smith shares insights from his extensive research and discusses its implications for mental health and education. The conversation also touches on his recent recognition as one of the world's top scientists, highlighting his significant contributions to the field. Join Neelam and Dr. Smith as they delve into the complexities of healing and the importance of mental health justice in today's society.

"Sometimes a partner might think there's something wrong with them, when it's just him experiencing these negative treatments out in the larger society, and really not trying to bring it home, but he doesn't have a space to process."

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[00:02:29] Racial battle fatigue's origins.

[00:06:04] Racial battle fatigue defined.

[00:12:27] Racial battle fatigue manifestations.

[00:20:03] Racial microaggressions and fatigue.

[00:23:06] Racial epigenetics and trauma..

[00:34:15] Racial battle fatigue impacts communities.

[00:39:43] Psychological impacts of racism.

[00:45:05] Mental health of black men.

[00:49:03] Black fathers' engagement statistics.

[00:51:43] Thriving beyond resilience.

[01:00:21] Movement as healing through dance.

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In this episode, Neelam explores the emotional implications of divorce with expert guests Nicole Salazar-Hall, a family law attorney, and Dr. Natalie Malovich, a clinical psychologist specializing in high conflict divorce. Together, they discuss the challenges families and children face during and after divorce, emphasizing the importance of navigating these emotionally charged situations with care and understanding. Nicole shares her insights on legal challenges in custody and property divisions, while Dr. Malovich highlights the significance of healthy co-parenting practices. This episode is a valuable resource for anyone looking to understand the complexities of divorce and its impact on family dynamics.

"If you are constantly crying at home, you're rolling your eyes, you're gritting your teeth every time your ex calls, the children are going to pick up on that."

Notes:

[00:04:49] Stigma surrounding divorce and children.

[00:11:35] Divorce and gender role changes.

[00:15:51] Father involvement post-divorce challenges.

[00:18:23] Major vs. minor trauma.

[00:27:33] Biases in the justice system.

[00:32:08] Unresolved childhood traumas in divorce.

[00:35:05] Male victims of domestic violence.

[00:41:06] Parenting during divorce challenges.

[00:51:32] Discernment therapy for divorce.

[00:57:04] Grieving the loss of relationships.

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In this episode of Are We Well?, host Neelam Chand welcomes Dr. LaShawn Williams, a licensed clinical social worker with over 13 years of experience, to discuss the often overlooked impact of ADHD on black and brown communities. With a rich background in higher education and a focus on healthcare and wellness, Dr. Wills shares her expertise in guiding individuals, particularly women, through challenges like divorce and relationships. The conversation delves into acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), a mindfulness-based approach that emphasizes accepting one's circumstances, identifying core values, and taking actionable steps toward a meaningful life. Join us as we explore the nuances of ADHD and the importance of understanding mental health within marginalized communities.

"I had always wondered if I had ADHD, but I'd grown up for those 40 plus years just thinking something was wrong with me."

Notes:

[00:01:27] Acceptance and Commitment Therapy.

[00:06:00] ADHD's impact on communities.

[00:11:31] ADHD as an identity.

[00:15:45] Information processing in ADHD.

[00:20:58] Academic struggles and support.

[00:24:32] ADHD diagnosis and self-discovery.

[00:29:38] Compassion for ADHD experiences.

[00:31:30] Strong Black Woman Stereotype.

[00:37:53] Time blindness and coping strategies.

[00:41:18] ADHD and anxiety connection.

[00:45:04] ADHD medication insights.

[00:55:27] Understanding ADHD in children.

[00:57:56] ADHD awareness and support.

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In the Season 2 launch of Are We Well, Neelam dives into deeply personal conversations about healing and identity. This season brings even more powerful and insightful stories, exploring experiences that often go unnamed. Topics include living with ADHD, navigating perimenopause, coping with grief, engaging in inner child work, addressing money wounds, and unpacking the societal pressures faced by Black and Brown communities. Neelam also reflects on the importance of supporting our children’s journeys of self-discovery while continuing to heal our own identities. 

In this episode of Are We Well?, host Neelam Chand engages in a heartfelt conversation with Morgan Williams Brown, who shares her personal journey through grief. The discussion highlights the profound impact of loss, particularly following the passing of her brother, Cameron. As the founder and CEO of Blended Studios and former CEO of EverWoke, Morgan reflects on how their experiences have shaped their professional life and purpose. The episode emphasizes the importance of navigating grief and its relevance in the lives of many who have faced similar challenges. Tune in for this powerful and relevant conversation that speaks to anyone who has experienced grief.

"And then there's the day after where you realize life happens forward and you are still there. And what do you do? Who do you become?"

Notes:

[00:02:20] Twin bond and unique relationship.

[00:06:06] Grief journey and processing loss.

[00:12:27] Pressure of handling loss.

[00:20:14] Transformation through love and fear.

[00:29:39] Emotional boundaries in grief.

[00:35:44] Dreaming big after loss.

[00:45:04] Leap of faith to evolve.

[00:50:40] Living forward after loss.

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In this episode of Are We Well?, host Neelam Chand welcomes Poonam Kumar for an insightful discussion on breaking generational traumas and patterns inherited from family and ancestors. As South Asian women, they explore the complexities of their unique backgrounds, including the differences in their maternal influences. Poonam shares her impressive career journey as the Principal Advisor of Communications and Branding for the Americas at Rio Tinto, along with her previous roles in public service and media. Together, they dive deep into the significance of addressing and healing from inherited traumas, setting the stage for a powerful conversation on personal growth and wellness. Join Neelam and Poonam as they celebrate sisterhood and the journey toward healing.

"Perfection and people pleasing and going above and beyond overachieving is the way to have a voice and be recognized, otherwise you fall."

Notes:

[00:02:05] Adoption and family dynamics.

[00:05:30] Gender roles in South Asian culture.

[00:09:49] People-pleasing and self-respect.

[00:12:15] Setting boundaries and guilt.

[00:16:35] Family dynamics and expectations.

[00:20:46] Male patriarchy and cultural expectations.

[00:23:06] Toxic patterns and self-worth.

[00:28:33] OCD and family dynamics.

[00:31:01] Family care dynamics and responsibilities.

[00:34:05] What is Indian identity?

[00:37:19] Breaking generational trauma patterns.

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In this episode of Are We Well, host Neelam Chand is joined by Areesh Ahmed, co-founder of Oak River Group, to explore the themes of self-doubt, self-sabotage, and the inner critic through a spiritual lens. With nearly two decades of friendship, Neelam and Areesh delve into how these challenges have impacted Areesh's journey as an entrepreneur and his personal life. Areesh shares his experiences working with major retail brands like Nike, Amazon, and Macy's, while also opening up about his recent spiritual growth and vulnerability. Tune in for an insightful conversation that combines entrepreneurship with the quest for inner well-being.

"At some point you have to kind of realize that that inner critic isn't the real you."

Notes:

[00:02:44] Inner critic and self-doubt.

[00:07:00] Setbacks and personal trauma.

[00:09:25] Self-love journey during COVID.

[00:12:43] Cultural expectations and personal identity.

[00:16:46] The inner critic and spirituality.

[00:21:04] Merging spirituality and religion.

[00:27:05] Experiencing higher power through spirituality.

[00:30:48] Spiritual journey in nature.

[00:34:12] Consumerism vs. Nature Experience.

[00:37:16] Vulnerability in entrepreneurship and spirituality.

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