QOTW:

What has been lighting you up this week?

Georgie: Swimming in the ocean

Engrid: Lizzo + discovering "Tiny Desk Concerts"

IN THIS EPISODE WE DISCUSS:

A topic asked by a listener: Being able to disagree with someone and still love them. We flipped it and also asked: "Why do you need someone you love to agree with you?"

Politics can be a really polarizing topic - extreme outlooks are often more related than they appear

Stepping away from the idea of "us vs. them"

We can accept one another without sharing the same beliefs

Acknowledging others experiences, finding common ground, and getting curious about where someone is coming from

The impact of not having the experience while growing up, of someone holding space for your beliefs to be different. If you felt like your beliefs had to align with those around you in order to feel safe, accepted, and loved.

We unpack this idea: "If they disagree with me on this idea or value, it means they disagree with me as a person

"Don't go [into a disagreement] with: 'my goal is to change their mind'" Don't take others' behavior personally

Getting curious about your OWN desire to prove or convince someone of your beliefs/ perspective

Being loved and having one's own values are NOT mutually exclusive

You don't have to make someone else wrong, to make yourself right

What if neither one of us is right AND neither of us are wrong [in our own world]

Knowing what happens to you when you've been triggered

The power of being radically honest & vulnerable in a fight/argument

Recognizing when you might be projecting

It's so enticing - especially when you feel hurt - to tell others what to do

How hard (but amazingly helpful) it is to share with someone when you feel hurt (even if you don't know why)

Whatever we are fighting with someone about on the surface, that's never actually what we are arguing about

Trying to reason your way through human emotions with logic isn't going to get you very far

GEMS:

"If I need you to think like me, in order for me to feel okay, or in order for me to feel like you like me...it means I believe I'm not enough as I am. It means I don't believe I'm lovable unless I am in full alignment with all of our thoughts and opinions"

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