When the guys and women you used to look up to are no longer around. It's your turn to shine. This is hard to digest. Like small children, nobody teaches us about the next levels of life. I didn't sit around asking my mother questions about the afterlife of middle aged. She worked very hard for several years but was there something else my mother wanted to be remembered for?

There's so much change and challenge. When you think you've got it, there's more change and challenge. It's a circle we continue to step in. It's not that we dislike change, it's just taxing on our emotions.

I love watching bad "B" movies. It slows down time. Not only that but it's enjoyable to see how the plot attempts to thicken with a little bit of shock and awe. We're also talking about the signs of getting old. Is it a sign when you start understanding the commercials geared toward the older adults? A exercise tool that's just two pedals that go round and round. Insurance beyond Medicare and bathtub you don't sit down in. Is this a sign of old age or is it the number of boxes stacking up but have never returned to get your money back?

The storms will always be heavy but we know there'll always be shelter. Knowing this helps create the courage to step up and out. We have to be visible and unafraid.