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What are the factors that matter – like, REALLY matter, over the long haul – versus those that don't, in your child's education?

(Quick heads-up: starting this coming Monday, July 15 I'm offering a program to help you do less for your child, and feel good about it! It's called "21 Days to Independence for your child… and for you."
In these 3 weeks we will cover: how to not be your child's personal entertainer; how to stop hovering, for your benefit AND theirs; how to help them resolve conflicts, and more! The program takes place right in your inbox, so it's super convenient as well as helpful.
Because I'm working closely with each participant, space is limited, and spots are filling up! Click weturnedoutokay.com/indy to learn more and register.)

I'm sure you'll agree that getting a kid's education right is critical.

It's not just critical while they're small. Screwing up a kid's education can impact their whole lives.

And yet, it happens every day, when even well-intentioned and goodhearted people focus on the wrong stuff.

Because you listen to this show, I know that you are well-intentioned and goodhearted. So I'm helping you focus on the right stuff today.

Find out what really matters in your child's education in this episode of We Turned Out Okay!

Plus in Parenting News: In this recent Education Weekly article, the idea of "growth mindset versus fixed mindset" is re-examined… We investigate in this week's Parenting News segment.

Join us!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/286 for:

• A cheat sheet on what's crucial to include in your child's education
• What does not matter.. what you can (and should) leave out of your young child's education
• Links to free guides on potty training, handling every temper tantrum, and more

And thank you so much for listening!

The show is sponsored this week by Julian Coffee, a unique and amazing coffee that comes from a family farm in Puerto Rico and that will help you start your day off right! Listen to today’s episode for the code that will get you 10% off when you go to juliancoffeepr.com or Julian Coffee’s page in Amazon.

This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Hey my friend! Next week I'm teaching a FREE workshop on independence, for your child and you, in the We Turned Out Okay Facebook group: click this link to take part or scroll down right here in your podcatcher to find out more!

 

When I first saw How to Raise a Boy,

the book today's guest, Michael Reichert, PhD, wrote, I knew I was in for a treat. Dr. Reichert 's writing is a skillful blend of personal stories and relevant, amazing research, and before I knew it I was highlighting, marking pages with Post-it notes, and pumped to speak with Dr. Reichert!

And, our conversation does not disappoint.
If you've got questions about:
 - Your son turning into a "mama's boy"
 - How to (in the words of one of our WTOO Facebook group members) "empower boys to be their best selves without being jerks"
 - Or even if you have questions about why – if you're raising girls and not boys – you should care;
You'll find this conversation relevant and compelling.

I'm so thankful to Dr. Reichert for coming on the show today, and I hope you enjoy our conversation, and learn from it, as much as I did.

Plus in Parenting News: I've just learned of an amazing new resource for parents, the Revive Show, a live Internet radio show, and you need to hear about it too. I learned of it when I was invited on as a guest, and I think you will love the show!

Join us!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/285 for:

• A cheat sheet on highlights from this wonderful conversation
• Key links we talk about in this episode
• The video of the week: OFF this week for the July 4 holiday, returning July 11, so hang in there : )

And thank you so much for listening!

I am teaching a FREE, weeklong workshop on how to get your child to be more independent so they don't have to rely on you!

We will address: how to stop being a helicopter parent, how to get kids to amuse themselves, independence with potty training and hygiene, food issues, and more, so join us if you need help with any of this!

This free workshop takes place all next week, July 8-12, in the We Turned Out Okay Facebook group… Click here to join the group!

This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Heads up on 2 counts:
First, I'm teaching a FREE Online Parenting Class I'm teaching this Thursday, "How to Help Your Kids Get Along with Other Kids!" Scroll down to read more and sign up!

Second, soon I am teaching a FREE, week long workshop on how to get your child to be more independent so they don't have to rely on you!
I'm teaching this workshop in the We Turned Out Okay Facebook group. Click here to join the group!

My jaw was on the floor recently during a parent coaching call with one of our Ninja Parenting Community members, when she revealed that her child's teacher told her "there is no way to teach social skills."
Immediately I knew I wanted your thoughts on this… and if this is also your belief, I'd like to use today's podcast episode to change your mind.

Because of course we can teach social skills!
In today's episode I offer three ways to do so.

Please learn them, heed them, take them into your heart.

Because without these crucial skills – without humans passing them on to our offspring – our society breaks down.

And also life is a lot less fun!

Plus in Parenting News: I'm sharing about a new favorite podcast of mine, An Arm and A Leg, a podcast about the insanity of healthcare in the United States. It's a great show because it tells amazing stories, and finds a lot to be optimistic about, in a part of American society that I was feeling increasingly frustrated with… turns out I am not the only one.

Join us!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/284 for:

• A cheat sheet on the 3 ways you can teach social skills to your young child
• Key links we talk about in this episode
• The video of the week: "Can I teach my child social skills? And if so how?"

And thank you so much for listening!

How to Help Kids Get Along with Other Kids: FREE Online Parenting Class!

Does your child struggle to get along with siblings, classmates, cousins, or at the playground?
Do your kids push, hit, or even bite to get their way?
Let me help… Sign up for the Free Online Parenting Class I am teaching Thursday, June 27!

You'll learn:

• What's most important when thinking about kids dealing with siblings or other kids
• The 3 keys to good child and sibling relations
• How to overcome one crucial factor that impedes a child's ability to get along with other kids
• Which principles to adopt – and which to drop – in helping kids get along

Sign up to watch it live at 2 PM on Thursday, June 27 OR sign up to catch the replay at your convenience.
Start summer off right by learning how to help your kids get along with other kids. Sign up at the link below!
weturnedoutokay.com/siblings

The show is sponsored this week by Julian Coffee, a unique and amazing coffee that comes from a family farm in Puerto Rico and that will help you start your day off right! Listen to today's episode for the code that will get you 10% off when you go to juliancoffeepr.com or Julian Coffee's page in Amazon.

This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Here's something that you may not have thought of: developmental stages aren't just for kids.
Each of us grown-ups is still working on stuff developmentally.

Today we talk about the adult stages of development – a concept that really matters!

It matters in relation to our young children.
But most of all it matters to us, inside ourselves.

Plus in Parenting News: Friend-of-the-podcast Devorah Heitner, who always makes me feel better about life in our digital age, recently wrote a beautiful essay for the Washington Post. It's about how, had her mom been alive today, the learning disabilities she lived with may not have been a problem.

Join us!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/283 for:

• A cheat sheet on the later (i.e., adult) stages of human development
• Key links we talk about in this episode 
• The video of the week: "What really matters in a grown up's development?"

And thank you so much for listening!

How to Help Kids Get Along with Other Kids: FREE Online Parenting Class!

Does your child struggle to get along with siblings, classmates, cousins, or at the playground?
Do your kids push, hit, or even bite to get their way?
Let me help… Sign up for the Free Online Parenting Class I am teaching Thursday, June 27!

You'll learn:

• What's most important when thinking about kids dealing with siblings or other kids
• The 3 keys to good child and sibling relations
• How to overcome one crucial factor that impedes a child's ability to get along with other kids
• Which principles to adopt – and which to drop – in helping kids get along

Sign up to watch it live at 2 PM on Thursday, June 27 OR sign up to catch the replay at your convenience.
Start summer off right by learning how to help your kids get along with other kids. Sign up at the link below!
weturnedoutokay.com/siblings

This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Heads up: keep listening after the interview, because I read out Emily Orton's responses to questions that were asked in the We Turned Out Okay Facebook group. Her responses are awesome and I don't want you to miss them!

Sometimes we have down moments in our lives. Times where we second-guess ourselves and our choices; times where we're not sure what direction to go.
That was the case for Erik Orton, at a low point in his life when a project he put all his time and energy – and his family's financial savings – into, failed.

But something incredibly beautiful was born of that time. He and his wife Emily decided to change things up completely and go on an adventure!

Their memoir, Seven at Sea, describes the year they spent in a sailboat, traveling the world with their 5 children, the youngest of whom has Down syndrome.

If you're stuck, if you're feeling bogged down or not sure which way to turn, I hope this conversation helps you find a way.

Plus in Parenting News: A compelling New York Times article by Professor Emily Oster, author of the forthcoming book Cribsheet, about how parents aren't necessarily paying attention to the child-rearing stuff that matters most.

Join us!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/282 for:

• A cheat sheet on the highlights of our conversation, which goes far, far beyond their year on the beloved sailboat Fezywig
• Links that come up in today's conversation
• The video of the week: "How to get out of a parenting rut"

And thank you so much for listening!

Temper Tantrums, Potty Training, and Picky Eaters:

Today I share about three helpful free guides I offer.
While the podcast is long-form – your opportunity to look into the mind of a child development expert – the free guides are super quick.

You can watch the video, read the checklist, and immediately get the help you need : )

• Click here for the FREE video and checklist to Handle Every Temper Tantrum
• Click here for the FREE video and checklist to Successfully Potty Train Your Child
• Click here for the FREE video and checklist to Handle Your Picky Eater
• Want to receive valuable ideas and tips on parenting, without either free guide above? Click here for my weekly parenting newsletter!

This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

I know you're wondering: what is this untapped force? It's… Wait for it…

BOREDOM.

Several factors have combined to illustrate for me the amazing power of being bored.

I share about these factors in this episode, and I also share about how they are helping me understand that us humans need boredom in our lives. We need to "get comfortable with being uncomfortable," as next week's guests on our show will share. (To find out who they are, you'll have to tune in next week. All I can say here is that I am so excited to bring you such a wonderful and life-affirming conversation : )

Today, I'm sharing 3 practical ways you can foster boredom, bring it into your family's life, without going insane!

Plus in Parenting News:

Join us!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/281 for:

• A cheat sheet on the 3 practical ways to bring boredom into your family's life, without going bananas
• The video of the week: "What to do when you hear the words "I'm bored""

And thank you so much for listening!

Temper Tantrums, Potty Training, and Picky Eaters:

Today I share about three helpful free guides I offer.
While the podcast is long-form – your opportunity to look into the mind of a child development expert – the free guides are super quick.

You can watch the video, read the checklist, and immediately get the help you need : )

• Click here for the FREE video and checklist to Handle Every Temper Tantrum
• Click here for the FREE video and checklist to Successfully Potty Train Your Child
• Click here for the FREE video and checklist to Handle Your Picky Eater
• Want to receive valuable ideas and tips on parenting, without either free guide above? Click here for my weekly parenting newsletter!

This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Welcome to another installment of Educating Little Kids! (When it's a book, it will have a better title, promise.)
We dive into development today, and if you're wondering "why should I care about child development," I hope this episode makes that clear.

Really and truly, it's a good thing to know.

Today we dive into the stages of development – stages all of us humans are going through – to give you a sense of where your child is developmentally.

Plus in Parenting News: How our own biases can stop us from seeing what is actually right in front of us.

Join us!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/280 for:

• A cheat sheet on the first 3 stages of human development
• The video of the week: "Why should I care about child development?"

And thank you so much for listening!

Live Q&A and Open House Tour

Ever wished you could check out the private coaching community that I run for parents of young children?
Do you have questions about if it could work for you, even in your busy, insane life and with whatever technical skills you possess (especially if you feel like they're not very good)?
You're in luck! On THIS coming Thursday, May 30, I am throwing open the doors to the Ninja Parenting Community!
I'm taking you right inside, and showing you:
– What our members love about it
– How the community helps parents turn family time into "the best time of the day"
– And I'm taking questions too!

It's free… I'm so excited to bring you in and show you around!
It's live… But even if you can't be there live at 2PM EST, signing up gets you the replay so you can rewatch as many times as you like.
It's where my heart and soul is… because I get to work closely with so many amazing parents.

Don't miss out on discovering this secret to happy parenting…
Click weturnedoutokay.com/tour to sign up!

This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Today's guest, Jacky Lamenzo, ate "only off the kids menu" well into her adulthood.

Then, she had the opportunity to go to China for a year, and knew something was going to have to change.

Could she make the change? You bet.

In our conversation Jacky shares what she did to stop being a picky eater, and also about her delightful children's book that helps parents and kids with picky eating now.

And here's the cool thing: before we even get to the picky eating, we talk about so much other interesting stuff, everything from what Jacky did when she felt that her work wasn't being valued, to bonding over studying in Florence, Italy!

Also! Click here to sign up for the "5 Ways to Handle Your Picky Eater" Free Guide, which I tell you all about during today's break!

Plus in Parenting News: Is STEM bad for our democracy? I ask for your help in coming up with a new acronym, one that goes beyond both STEM and STEAM.

Join us!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/279 for:

• Cheat sheet on the 3 ways moving to China helped solve Jacky's picky eater problem (and how that can help in your family life)
• Links that come up in today's conversation
• The video of the week: "3 ways to stop picky eating"

And thank you so much for listening!

Live Q&A and Open House Tour

Ever wished you could check out the private coaching community that I run for parents of young children?
Do you have questions about if it could work for you, even in your busy, insane life and with whatever technical skills you possess (especially if you feel like they're not very good)?
You're in luck! On Thursday, May 30, I am throwing open the doors to the Ninja Parenting Community!
I'm taking you right inside, and showing you:
– What our members love about it
– How the community helps parents turn family time into "the best time of the day"
– And I'm taking questions too!

It's free… I'm so excited to bring you in and show you around!
It's live… But even if you can't be there live at 2PM EST, signing up gets you the replay so you can rewatch as many times as you like.
It's where my heart and soul is… because I get to work closely with so many amazing parents.

Don't miss out on discovering this secret to happy parenting…
Click weturnedoutokay.com/tour to sign up!

This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

"She will not eat with us at the dinner table. No matter what we have for dinner she won't eat it. She just says "yucky" and won't eat anything. Help!!!"
So writes Megan, mom of a two-year-old girl who is a seriously picky eater.

I bet, if you've got kids, you know Megan's struggle. I certainly do!

There is help. Today I share 4 things to consider when you've got a child who refuses to eat.

Also! Click here to sign up for the "5 Ways to Handle Your Picky Eater" Free Guide, which I tell you all about during today's break!

Plus in Parenting News: We talk about the new and lovely NYTParenting website and newsletter, which I love and I bet you will too.

Join us!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/278 for:

• A cheat sheet on the 4 factors to consider when getting your picky eater to willingly eat
• The video of the week: "My child literally won't eat anything"

And thank you so much for listening!

This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Do you tend to think along the lines of "I don't need to worry about teaching… that will be taken care of when my child starts school"?

I want to push back on that idea today. Because the opposite side of this coin is "I am not a teacher and what I do here at home does not matter."

What we do at home really and truly matters.

And today, we're talking about 3 ways you can take advantage of this.

In this week's Parent News segment: We consider the Parent Police… anyone who disparages our personal and family choices.

Join us!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/277 for:

• A cheat sheet on the 3 ways to utilize this idea, "learning begins in the home"
• The link to our We Turned Out Okay Facebook group, where I do a Facebook live each Monday morning and this week I'm sharing a useful way to view, or think about, our children
• The video of the week: "What's most important for my young child to learn"

And thank you so much for listening!

Temper Tantrums and Potty Training:

Today I share about two helpful free guides I offer.
While the podcast is long-form – your opportunity to look into the mind of a child development expert – the free guides are super quick.

You can watch the video, read the checklist, and immediately handle the temper tantrums or get started with potty training (depending on which guide you choose : )

• Click here for the FREE video and checklist to handle every temper tantrum
• Click here for the FREE video and checklist to successfully potty train your child
• Want to receive valuable ideas and tips on parenting, without either free guide above? Click here for my weekly parenting newsletter!

This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe