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What's your biggest parenting challenge?
I really want to help you with it! (For context, listen to this recent quickie bonus episode : )
Click weturnedoutokay.com/contact to go to my contact page and share what's toughest for you as a parent. Thank you sooooo much!

How do you react when your child makes a mistake, does something wrong, mouths off?

If you respond to bad behavior with lesson-teaching/consequences mode engaged – in other words, if you have "zero tolerance" for your child's transgressions – you're doing your child a disservice.

Even worse, you're doing your relationship with your young child a disservice.

That's what this episode posits, anyway. Take a listen and see if you agree!

PS The title and subject of today's episode came from conversations with my therapist.

"We can't have zero tolerance when we're talking about kids," he often says; "zero tolerance is for submarines."

If these two concepts seem completely unrelated to you, and your daily life with your young child, I encourage you to listen in to today's episode! All will become clear : )

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/266 for:

• A cheat sheet on the 4 ways kids are not like submarines – and what works better than "zero tolerance" when they do something wrong
• To share your biggest parenting challenge, and/or sign up for one of our free guides
• The video of the week: "How to handle your child's bad behavior"

And thank you so much for listening!

This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

I am struggling with something, and it would mean so much to me to hear from you about it…
I hope you'll answer me just one question, which I ask in this episode.

You can answer my question in 2 ways:

Click weturnedoutokay.com/contact and respond right on my contact page; or

Email me directly– I share my email address in this episode

Thank you SO much!

This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

What difference, you might be wondering, can it possibly make to my kids if I have good relationships with other grown-ups?

Actually, it matters quite a bit.

In this installment of the Raising Successful Kids series we talk about the impact of our relationships, including with our spouses and life-partners, on the eventual fulfillment and happiness of our children.

Join us!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/265 for:

• A cheat sheet on the ideas in this episode
• Key links from our conversation, including the resources I share, to help you understand this idea and move forward with it
• The video of the week: "How does my relationship affect my kids?"

And thank you so much for listening!

Temper Tantrums and Potty Training:

During today's break I share about two helpful free guides I offer.
While the podcast is long-form – your opportunity to look into the mind of a child development expert – the free guides are super quick.

You can watch the video, read the checklist, and immediately handle the temper tantrums or get started with potty training (depending on which guide you choose : )

• Click here for the FREE video and checklist to handle every temper tantrum
• Click here for the FREE video and checklist to successfully potty train your child
• Want to receive valuable ideas and tips on parenting, without either free guide above? Click here for my weekly parenting newsletter!

This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

I know it's difficult to imagine your child as a teen or young adult. 

But it will happen, and sooner than you think. If you just can't imagine it – if it even makes you a little frightened to think of – today's guest will inspire hope and excitement in you (he did for me : )

Today I'm excited to share a conversation with a guy who works with teenagers to help them achieve their goals, Blake Boles of the Off Trail Learning Podcast, UnschoolAdventures.com, and author of three excellent books for helping teens figure out what they really want out of life.

Hope you enjoy this glimpse into the future! Go to weturnedoutokay.com/264 for:

• Links to Blake's book, podcast, and website (where you can sign up for his newsletter, Update from the Blake-O-Sphere, and which makes me do a little happy dance each time I see it in my inbox)
• The video of the week: "From Toddler to Teen: What to Expect"

And thank you so much for listening!

Temper Tantrums and Potty Training:

During today's break I share about two helpful free guides I offer.
While the podcast is long-form – your opportunity to look into the mind of a child development expert – the free guides are super quick.

You can watch the video, read the checklist, and immediately handle the temper tantrums or get started with potty training (depending on which guide you choose : )

• Click here for the FREE video and checklist to handle every temper tantrum
• Click here for the FREE video and checklist to successfully potty train your child
• Want to receive valuable ideas and tips on parenting, without either free guide above? Click here for my weekly parenting newsletter!

This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Welcome to another episode on how to make it so our kids grow up into successful, fulfilled, happy adults!
In today's installment, we consider whether it's important that we parents work outside the home.
And we end up considering an even bigger, more mind-blowing question: how do we even define success and fulfillment?

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/262 for:

• A cheat sheet on the 3 practicalities of raising successful kids
• Key links that come up in this episode, including to a show that Ben and I are really loving (and which is relevant to today's episode)
• The video of the week: "How can I raise an independent, successful child?"

Quick program note, I mention in the episode that, if I can during the break, I'll share more about the Harvard business school and professor Kathleen McGinn. I was not able to do that this week. However in the show notes I link to both both the business school and the professor, so feel free to read up further if you'd like!

And thank you so much for listening!

Temper Tantrums and Potty Training:

During today's break I share about two helpful free guides I offer.
While the podcast is long-form – your opportunity to look into the mind of a child development expert – the free guides are super quick.

You can watch the video, read the checklist, and immediately handle the temper tantrums or get started with potty training (depending on which guide you choose : )

• Click here for the FREE video and checklist to handle every temper tantrum
• Click here for the FREE video and checklist to successfully potty train your child
• Want to receive valuable ideas and tips on parenting, without either free guide above? Click here for my weekly parenting newsletter!

This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

How can I stop my child from being so impulsive?
How can I stop her from hurting others with her bad behavior?
How can I stop him from alienating people because he's hitting, or spitting, or worse?

Sometimes it is scary how much anger and frustration our little kids have inside. And when it erupts, we can feel so powerless.

This week's We Turned Out Okay podcast episode guest, Maureen Healy, has written a book called The Emotionally Healthy Child, to help us deal with these aspects of our young children.

When I invited Maureen on the show, I knew she had written a wonderful book for us. A useful tool, helping us parents figure out how to get our kids' behavior to be more what we want to see.

But I was not prepared for the kind of depth that Maureen Healy brings to the conversation. This gentle, thoughtful woman can teach us all about what it means to be human, and how to truly connect with our loved ones, especially our children.

Hope you enjoy this conversation!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/261 for:

• A cheat sheet of favorite ideas from our conversation
• Key links from our conversation, including to Maureen's wonderful book, The Emotionally Healthy Child
• The scoop on my latest book! One reviewer says of 10 Secrets Happy Parents Know: I love how much "Karen" is in these pages… I can foresee myself using these chapter titles as self-talk mantras to remind myself to get out of discipline mode ASAP; that conflicts are opportunities; and so on."
• The video of the week: "Stop my young child being impulsive"

And thank you so much for listening!

Temper Tantrums and Potty Training:

During today's break I share about two helpful free guides I offer.
While the podcast is long-form – your opportunity to look into the mind of a child development expert – the free guides are super quick.

You can watch the video, read the checklist, and immediately handle the temper tantrums or get started with potty training (depending on which guide you choose : )

• Click here for the FREE video and checklist to handle every temper tantrum
• Click here for the FREE video and checklist to successfully potty train your child
• Want to receive valuable ideas and tips on parenting, without either free guide above? Click here for my weekly parenting newsletter!

This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

So, I never actually use the word toxic in the whole episode… instead of that, I talk about balloon-poppers. A much more fun name, I'm sure you'll agree!
In this episode I share four ways that you can protect yourself against toxic people, a.k.a. balloon-poppers.

Which is really important, not just for your health, but for your child's as well.

In this early part of the year, where we have more of a chance to think on introspective things, I hope this episode helps you feel happier inside! Bonus that in the long run it will help your kids find success, fulfillment, and happiness too!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/260 for:

• A cheat sheet on 4 ways to protect against toxic people
• The scoop on my latest book! One reviewer says "10 Secrets Happy Parents Know is a practical and easy-to-digest guide that sets the groundwork for the kind of family life you want."
• The video of the week: "How to avoid toxic people"

And thank you so much for listening!

Temper Tantrums and Potty Training:

During today's break I share about two helpful free guides I offer.
While the podcast is long-form – your opportunity to look into the mind of a child development expert – the free guides are super quick.

You can watch the video, read the checklist, and immediately handle the temper tantrums or get started with potty training (depending on which guide you choose : )

• Click here for the FREE video and checklist to handle every temper tantrum
• Click here for the FREE video and checklist to successfully potty train your child

This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

This episode starts off as a review of my 2018 goals, and how I did with them.
But then it takes a dramatic turn: I actually had to record the second half of the show more than once. Why? Because when I recorded the first time, I didn't have clarity.

So I renamed the episode, and re-recorded the second half, and now I hope it is much more helpful than the first version would've been!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/259 for:

• A breakdown of the goals I had for 2018, and how I did with them
• A look ahead at 2019, and why being clear on what you want is important – not just for you, but for your kiddos as well
• The scoop on my latest book, just out! One reviewer says "If you're ready for communication and mutual respect to replace chaos and misbehavior, do yourself a favor and read 10 Secrets Happy Parents Know."
• The video of the week: "Make 2019 a great year... with just one word"

And thank you so much for listening!

Temper Tantrums and Potty Training:

During today's break I share about two helpful free guides I offer.
While the podcast is long-form – your opportunity to look into the mind of a child development expert – the free guides are super quick.

You can watch the video, read the checklist, and immediately handle the temper tantrums or get started with potty training (depending on which guide you choose : )

• Click here for the FREE video and checklist to handle every temper tantrum
• Click here for the FREE video and checklist to successfully potty train your child

This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Happy new year!!
As you climb out from underneath tinsel, and excess, and cranky kiddos, I wanted to share some success stories.
I hope to inspire you, right at the beginning of the year, by giving you some stories where things, well, turned out okay, to use the pun that I always swore I would never use (and have indeed not used until this very moment : )
So, today's is a re-broadcasted conversation, originally recorded way back in 2016, in which I spoke to dad and educator Erik Wagter. Erik's story is special: he and his wife are raising an autistic son, and early on they were told he would never lead anything like a normal life.
And they are helping him, every day, to lead a wonderful, if not completely normal, life. Besides, whose life is "normal"?
"Normal is just a setting on the washing machine" – one of my favorite quotes ever.

Also, I'm sharing two stories of success from our exclusive private coaching community, the Ninja Parenting Community.
Stories of parents just like you, and how they handled it when the going got tough.
I hope you find today's success stories episode inspiring and helpful!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/258 for:

• Links to many resources I offer, including my parenting books and the Ninja Parenting Community, the online place where I help parents through their toughest challenges, so they can really enjoy family time
• The video of the week: Off this week! Returning 1/10/19.

And thank you so much for listening!

Temper Tantrums and Potty Training:

During today's break I share about two helpful free guides I offer.
While the podcast is long-form – your opportunity to look into the mind of a child development expert – the free guides are super quick.

You can watch the video, read the checklist, and immediately handle the temper tantrums or get started with potty training (depending on which guide you choose : )

• Click here for the FREE video and checklist to handle every temper tantrum
• Click here for the FREE video and checklist to successfully potty train your child

This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Let's just say it: at this time of year, we don't always get the best behavior from our kids.
They're overstimulated. They're out of routine. In many end-of-year traditions they are being showered with gifts.

This can make them forget that life is about so much more than receiving presents from everybody who walks through the door (or whose door they walk through.)

So, today I wanted to help you deal with the gimmes!

Listen for three ways to gently help your child step away from the gifts.

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/257 for:

• My cheat sheet on dealing with the gimmes
• A free PDF that you can download called "Three principles of kids and gifts"
• The scoop on my latest book, just out! One reviewer says "If you're ready for communication and mutual respect to replace chaos and misbehavior, do yourself a favor and read 10 Secrets Happy Parents Know."
• The video of the week: "Teaching a child that it's better to give than to receive"

And thank you so much for listening!

Temper Tantrums and Potty Training:

During today's break I share about two helpful free guides I offer.
While the podcast is long-form – your opportunity to look into the mind of a child development expert – the free guides are super quick.

You can watch the video, read the checklist, and immediately handle the temper tantrums or get started with potty training (depending on which guide you choose : )

• Click here for the FREE video and checklist to handle every temper tantrum
• Click here for the FREE video and checklist to successfully potty train your child

This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe