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When a coaching client of mine recently

posted an article by today's guest in our Ninja Parenting Community forums, I was introduced to one of the great positive parenting forces of our time: Dr. Laura Markham.

As soon as I visited her Aha Parenting website, and read some of the advice Dr. Laura shares, I knew you needed to be introduced to her too!

Today our conversation gets into vulnerability, trust, and resiliency. Dr. Laura helps us really enjoy our lives, and our kids.

I hope our conversation helps you gain a better understanding of this whole parenting thing. It sure helped me!

Temper Tantrums and Potty Training:

During today's break I share about two helpful free guides I offer.
While the podcast is long-form – your opportunity to look into the mind of a child development expert – the free guides are super quick.

You can watch the video, read the checklist, and immediately handle the temper tantrums or get started with potty training (depending on which guide you choose : )

• Click here for the FREE video and checklist to handle every temper tantrum
• Click here for the FREE video and checklist to successfully potty train your child

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/255 for:

• Links to Dr. Laura's website, which contains tons of resources for you
• Information on my latest book, 10 Secrets Happy Parents Know, officially out in the world!!
• The video of the week: "How to get my kids to stop fighting with each other"

And thank you so much for listening!

This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

I feel your pain about getting kids to do chores.

They whine, and complain, and with enough of that, we begin to ask ourselves "is this really necessary? I could have already had this done myself, and saved us all this trouble."

But if kids don't do chores, what happens? Are they any more or less likely to have a successful, fulfilled, happy life?

Today we dive into this topic. We explore the right chore mindset, and three practical steps you can take, regarding chores and your child.

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/256 for:

• My chore cheat sheet, explaining the mindset and practical tips to help you in the moment
• The scoop on my latest book, just out! One reviewer says "If you're ready for communication and mutual respect to replace chaos and misbehavior, do yourself a favor and read 10 Secrets Happy Parents Know."
• The video of the week: "How to have a well behaved child at a party"

And thank you so much for listening!

Temper Tantrums and Potty Training:

During today's break I share about two helpful free guides I offer.
While the podcast is long-form – your opportunity to look into the mind of a child development expert – the free guides are super quick.

You can watch the video, read the checklist, and immediately handle the temper tantrums or get started with potty training (depending on which guide you choose : )

• Click here for the FREE video and checklist to handle every temper tantrum
• Click here for the FREE video and checklist to successfully potty train your child

This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

HEADS UP: At the top of the show, we say we're going to tell you if we go into PG-13 territory. In the second half of this episode, I share about being sexually abused at age 7. You may want to listen away from your littles, or with headphones.

"Is it shyness or bad manners?" When a member of our private coaching community asked this question during a live members-only call recently, I knew I needed to get you a show about handling stranger anxiety.

We've got 12 ways for you to handle your child's stranger anxiety… and we talk about how stranger anxiety isn't necessarily a bad thing.

I hope this is a helpful episode as you head into the holiday season, and your young child is meeting lots of new people!

Temper Tantrums and Potty Training:

During today's break I share about two wonderful free guides I offer.
While the podcast is long-form – your opportunity to look into the mind of a child development expert – the free guides are quick-and-effective.

You can watch the video, read the checklist, and immediately handle the temper tantrums or get started with potty training (depending on which guide you choose : )

• Click here for the FREE video and checklist to handle every temper tantrum
• Click here for the FREE video and checklist to successfully potty train your child

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/254 for:

• A cheat sheet on the 12 ways to handle stranger anxiety
• Links to the articles I quote from today
• The link to the WTOO Facebook page where Wednesday 12/12 I'm doing a Facebook live Ask Me Anything to kick off the launch of my latest book, 10 Secrets Happy Parents Know, officially out today!!
• The video of the week: "My child is anxious around new people"

And thank you so much for listening!

This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Today I share how the stress I was under 7 1/2 years ago resulted in a lifelong tendon disorder.

I was so busy running our household and putting everyone else first, I did not pay attention to my health.

I really want you to learn from my mistake.

Today's show focuses on how our stress isn't just bad for us. It's bad for our kids, too.

We also dig into the stresses of "intensive" parenting (a.k.a. helicopter or lawnmower parenting). And as you'll see, that form of parenting stresses everybody out.

(Know what else stresses everybody out? Potty training, and temper tantrums… During today's break I share about a free guide I offer for each of these stressors:

• Click here for the FREE video and checklist to handle every temper tantrum
• Click here for the FREE video and checklist to successfully potty train your child)

In this episode I offer three ways for you to be less stressed, not just now as we get into the holiday season (and everyone is pretty well at the end of their rope) but about how you can be less stressed over the long haul.

It's Part 3 of the "how to raise successful, fulfilled, happy people" series, and I hope it helps you enjoy the time you spend with your littles!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/253 for:

• A cheat sheet on the 3 ways you can alleviate stress
• Links to the articles I quote from today
• What's up in the We Turned Out Okay universe, including tons of free resources : )
• The video of the week: "Good behavior at meals, good behavior at the park"

And thank you so much for listening!

This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Thanksgiving is supposed to be fun, right? It's time with family, one last deep breath before December's insanity.

But when our kids were small I used to worry.

It's such a big meal. It takes such preparations. And it goes on for such a long time… How could I keep my boys quiet and happy on this day?

Then, there were the issues of stranger anxiety, and of small kids in a crowded space, with lots of treasured knickknacks and plants for them to hurt or break "on accident"… How could I give them a sense of security, and everyone else the sense that "here's a kid who won't destroy everything in sight"?

In this bonus episode I give you 5 ways to alleviate these problems, just in time for tomorrow's celebrations!

I am SO thankful.

This is Ninja Parenting Community (NPC) member Jen, with her two little girls. Jen is a rockstar member of NPC! She brings not just great questions, but help and support for other members, a "parenting can be fun" sensibility, and also adorable pictures like this one. I am so grateful for Jen.

In this episode I share an announcement about something happening right now: the "I'm thankful" special, where you can join our exclusive parent coaching community for just $1 for the first month.

One member of the Ninja Parenting Community (NPC for short) recently shared in our forums:
"What a difference this has made!!!… I truly cannot thank you enough."

When she wrote those words I felt so grateful. To know that the work I do strengthens the bond between a parent and child; to know that I have expertise that brings families together?
Nothing feels better than that to me.

I am so thankful, and I want to share that gratitude with you.

If you've been thinking about jumping into NPC, but but you weren't sure that membership would be worthwhile, reread those words from NPC member Mama Llama above.

This is PJ Jonas and family; PJ, my guest in episode 173, shared so much about getting to the fun parts of family life. I'm so grateful for our conversation.

And then:

Imagine a December in which, when your young child acts up, you've got a place to come and get help right away.

Imagine bringing your kids to a family gathering without being fearful of what their behavior could be.

Imagine that instead of feeling gut-wrenching worry, instead of the guilt or sadness you feel when you shout or spank your little one, you could enjoy this special family time.

Then: click here to try NPC, for just $1, for your whole first month.

The "I'm grateful" special also includes a special discounted rate for every consecutive month you're in NPC (you can cancel at any time, so there's no risk)…

So make your dreams of happy family time a reality by clicking the link above!

(This offer ends the Thursday after Thanksgiving, Nov. 29. I know you don't want to miss out!
Click the link above today.)

Happy listening, and happy Thanksgiving!

This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

I did a happy dance a few weeks ago when I read that American Academy of Pediatrics has revised its guidelines on spanking and corporal punishment. This 67,000-doctor organization is coming out strongly against spanking, humiliating, and frightening children as discipline.

Today I'm rebroadcasting my conversation with former AAP president, Dr. Benard Dreyer. Dr. Dreyer gave such wonderful advice for parents as we raise our kids, and to my surprise it's been more than 2 years since this interview first aired! Time flies.

In the preshow, before our conversation, I read from the newspaper article that had me doing my happy dance, "Spanking is harmful, ineffective, group says."

Hope you enjoy this episode, and that it helps you remember to keep your discipline positive!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/252 for:

• The link to the article about the AAP's stance on spanking
• What's up in the We Turned Out Okay universe, including tons of free resources : )
• The video of the week: Off this week, returning after Thanksgiving

And thank you so much for listening!

This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

"What's a reasonable consequence for when I ask my young child to stop running away, and he doesn't stop, at the park?"
This is the gist of a recent question from one mom in our We Turned Out Okay Facebook group.

I shared what I think is a pretty good answer… and then other parents in the group shared their ideas. These ideas were so great – and so different from mine – that I knew I needed to talk about this issue on the podcast.

So, hope you enjoy this episode, dedicated to helping you set limits, and enjoy more of your time, when you are at a park or playground or out in the world with your young child!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/251 for:

• A breakdown of how you can reign in your young child, without overdoing it or losing your mind
• What's up in the We Turned Out Okay universe, including tons of free resources : )
• The video of the week: "Good behavior at meals, good behavior at the park"
• The sign-up for our upcoming 'When to potty train, How to potty train' free online class

And thank you so much for listening!

This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

The term "parenting style" feels so nebulous.

But what if your parenting style – what you do in day-to-day interactions with your young child – makes it harder for you to connect, to be happy as you raise your family?

What if it affected, not just your young one's childhood, but their whole life?

Framed like that, the parenting style we bring isn't so much nebulous, as important.
Key, even.

Today's episode digs into the 3 different parenting styles, how they affect your child's life, and yours.

It's part two of our "raising successful, fulfilled kids" series, and I hope it's useful for you!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/250 for:

• A cheat sheet on these 3 parenting styles
• What's up in the We Turned Out Okay universe, including tons of free resources : )
• The video of the week: "Am I smothering my child with love?"
• The sign-up for our upcoming 'When to potty train, How to potty train' free online class

And thank you so much for listening!

This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Do you sometimes feel like you are raising your family in mighty frightening times?
So do I.

That's why, when I learned about the thing of beauty this week's guest created to combat fear, I knew I had to bring her on the show!

Mom, quilter, poet, and personal friend Cathleen Dinsmore recently created an amazing quilt-and-poem combination. The quilt is breathtaking – and, combined with the poem, fosters conversation around fear, and hope, and justice.

At weturnedoutokay.com you can view Cathleen's amazing quilt, read the beautiful poem, and prepare to be inspired by the incredible impact one person can have on alleviating fear and inspiring hope.

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/249 for:

• A look at Cathleen's racial justice quilt, her accompanying poem, and TONS of links that come up in today's conversation
• What's up in the We Turned Out Okay universe, including tons of free resources : )
• The video of the week: "Helping when Halloween scares your young child"

And thank you so much for listening!

This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

I am SO excited to bring you today's show!
I have good friend and colleague, Tricia Tomaso, a veteran preschool teacher and holder of a master's degree in special education.
Recently, Tricia helped me figure out the right mindset and steps parents can take while potty training – her amazing ideas come up in my Successful Potty Training Under Pressure course, in fact – and she has graciously agreed to come on the show and answer YOUR questions.

So! Today we take questions on:
– What to do if your child hits you, especially repeatedly
– How to handle it if you are a relatively low energy parent, and your child is a high-energy kid
– If you're worried that you are overinvolved with your kids
– And more!

Buckle in, this is a really fun and useful ride today!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/248 for:

• A summary of each "ask the expert" question and answer
• What's up in the We Turned Out Okay universe, including tons of free resources : )
• The video of the week: "I'm exhausted from doing too much for my kid"

And thank you so much for listening!

This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe