Many of us, especially as women, have been handed the same script:

• Love equals sacrifice.
• A “good mother” abandons herself without complaint.
• Suffering is noble.

And we wear those beliefs like badges of honor... sometimes to the point they start to destroy us.

In this episode of Ashes to Aligned, I share the moment a stopped me in my tracks — the moment I finally realized that my life matters too. You’ll hear the story of how I moved from constant caregiving and codependency into a new truth: you can love someone deeply and still choose yourself.

Together, we’ll explore:

• How early family dynamics planted the seeds of codependency
• Why we confuse sacrifice with love (and how that belief keeps us trapped)
• The turning point in my own journey where I finally set a boundary that changed everything
• What it really means to choose yourself without abandoning the people you love

This isn’t about being selfish. It’s about breaking free from the lie of sacrifice and learning that honoring your own life is one of the most loving things you can do.

💌 A gentle invitation:

Where are you sacrificing yourself in the name of love?

What would it look like to stand in your truth instead of silencing it?

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This week’s episode is a little different… because instead of just teaching Jack Canfield’s Success Principle #28 — Clean Up Your Messes and Incompletes — I’ve been out here living it.

I’ll be honest: I missed three weeks of podcasting. Not because I had nothing to say but because I had to face some big unfinished business in my own life. Between knocking out 20 hours of continuing education for my day job and completely cleaning out my junk-packed guest room, I realized once again just how powerful this principle is.

Here’s what you’ll hear in today’s episode:

• Why unfinished tasks quietly drain your energy and self-esteem
• How completing even small “incompletes” can restore peace and clarity
• The real-life impact of practicing this principle in my own home and work
• How this connects to healing when you love someone struggling with addiction

This one is about more than productivity — it’s about reclaiming energy, confidence, and peace of mind.

✨ Remember: you can love them without losing yourself. And sometimes, the first step is as simple as cleaning up what’s been left undone.

If you’ve ever felt like you were being pulled under by someone else’s addiction, this episode is for you.

In today’s conversation, I share one of the most powerful metaphors I’ve ever used to describe the emotional toll of loving someone who’s still in active addiction: quicksand.

We’ll talk about:

• Why trying to save them might be sinking you
• The different “circles” of support — and what to do when others don’t understand your pain
• What it really means to detach without abandoning the person you love
• And a deeply personal story about hearing from my oldest son, and how I coached myself through the urge to spiral

This is one of the most honest episodes I’ve shared — because the truth is, this work isn’t one-and-done.

It's layered.

It’s ongoing.

And some days? It takes every ounce of strength just to stay grounded.

But the more you practice, the more you realize:

You can love them deeply… Without going under with them.

💬 If this episode resonates, I’d love to hear from you. Send a message, leave a review, or share with someone who needs this reminder:

You don’t have to drown to prove your love.

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You’ve been holding everything together, doing whatever it takes to keep them safe, get them clean, and fix what’s broken.

But what if your efforts are slowly destroying you... and not actually helping them at all?

In this raw and personal episode, I share a defining moment from my journey — the day I physically collapsed from exhaustion while trying to hold my family’s chaos together.

And the quiet truth I heard in that moment changed everything:

"You could literally destroy yourself trying to save them and there's still no guarantee it would work... in fact, it probably wouldn't..."

✨ Inside this episode:

• Why sacrifice doesn’t equal support... it's actually the opposite
• How codependency and emotional burnout sneak up on us
• The subtle ways we trade our peace for their potential
• What recovery really looks like — and how to start yours, even if they’re not ready
• The truth about why letting go isn’t giving up

If you've been bleeding out for someone who hasn’t even asked for a Band-Aid… this episode is your reminder that you matter, too.

💜 You don’t have to wait for their healing to begin yours.

If you’ve ever felt like your life was spinning out of control while trying to save someone you love from addiction… this one’s for you.

In this episode, I share what it was really like living in what I can only describe as an emotional tornado — flung around by grief, fear, codependency, and the endless chaos that comes when someone you love is still deep in it.

I talk about:

• 🌪️ Why trying to manage their crisis will keep you in survival mode
• 💔 The day I promised I’d never say “they’re doing well” again — and what happened 10 minutes later
• 🧠 The wisdom from a family member in recovery that changed everything for me
• ✨ What it really means to step out of the storm (and how it doesn’t mean giving up)
• 🎙️ The podcast I was supposed to do with my son — and why I’m here doing it anyway

If your person is still out there in the wind — and you’ve been swept up in their storm more times than you can count — I want to offer this reminder:

• You don’t have to wait for their recovery to begin your own.
• Even if the chaos is still spinning around you, you can step out of the tornado.

Your peace is not betrayal.

It’s survival.

It’s strength.

It’s yours.

I’m so glad you’re here.

Take a deep breath. And let’s begin.

If you've ever been told "Just let go" — but no one told you what to grab onto instead — this episode is for you.

I used to think obsessing over my sons would somehow save them.

If I could say the right thing… do the right thing… maybe I could fix it.

But all I did was spiral deeper into burnout, resentment, and fear.

In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on my early days in Al-Anon — when I walked in angry, bitter, and overwhelmed — and the truths I stumbled into that changed everything. You’ll hear:

✨ Why obsessing feels like a strategy… but keeps you stuck

✨ How unmet expectations quietly erode your sanity

✨ What a dad in one meeting said that stopped me in my tracks

✨ Why “Don’t enable, don’t control” isn’t enough… and what to do instead

✨ And how a late-night mouse hunt with my son revealed the healing we never thought was possible

I’m also sharing the moment everything shifted for me — when I realized my peace couldn't hinge on someone else’s recovery anymore.

If you're stuck in survival mode, obsessing over someone else's healing… I want you to know:

You’re not selfish for wanting peace.

You’re not abandoning them by focusing on you.

And you don’t need to earn your healing.

You just have to choose it.

Come listen. Exhale.

And remember — you matter, too.

Trying to save someone you love from addiction? This will hit hard — but it might be exactly what you need to hear.

You’ve begged. Bargained. Scheduled the rehab. Stalked their location. Researched every treatment program at 2am.

But nothing changes.

What if the problem isn’t just them?

What if your helping is actually keeping you stuck?

In this episode, I share a personal story — and a (slightly ridiculous but super effective) metaphor — that reframes what it really means to let go and reclaim your own peace.

You'll hear:

• Why trying to manage someone else's sobriety never works
• What chips, ice cream, and rehab have in common (yep, really)
• How I got caught in a spiral of grief, fear, and guilt trying to save my sons
• And why letting go wasn’t abandonment… it was the first step back to myself

If you’ve been drowning in someone else’s chaos, this is your permission slip to stop — and start choosing you.

👉 Subscribe for weekly episodes filled with stories, nervous system tools, and soul-deep truths for women who’ve carried too much for too long.

Because their recovery isn’t yours.

But your healing? That’s where everything changes.

You've been pouring everything into helping them heal.

But what if you caught it too?

If you’ve ever loved someone through addiction and thought, “I’ll be okay once they get clean” — this episode will gently challenge that belief.

Through a powerful (and oddly comforting) flu analogy, I’ll show you how addiction doesn’t just affect the person struggling with substance abuse...

It spreads. Quietly. Invisibly. Through every corner of the home… and every inch of your nervous system.

In this episode:

• Why you might be the one who needs care now
• The overlooked symptoms of codependency, burnout, and emotional trauma
• What to do when “helping” becomes self-destruction
• The difference between being broken… and being sick from grief, fear, and survival mode

This isn’t a guilt trip.

It’s a soft wake-up call.

And maybe the invitation your soul has been waiting for.

Listen now — and take the first step toward treating yourself like you matter, too.

If you've ever asked, "How did I get here?" - this podcast is for you.

This isn't a podcast about addiction. It's about you - the one who's been holding it all together while falling apart inside.

Episode 1 introduces what Ashes To Aligned is all about: healing from codependency, setting boundaries (without guilt), reclaiming your peace, and finally turning toward your own life.

Whether you're in survival mode or finally ready to breathe again... you're not alone anymore.

If you’ve ever loved someone through addiction and felt like it was tearing you apart in the process, this podcast is for you.

I’m Alannah Lynne — coach, speaker, widow, and mom of two sons who’ve battled addiction.

But this isn’t really a podcast about them.

Ashes to Aligned is for the ones who’ve carried it all — the wives, moms, sisters, daughters, and friends stuck in survival mode, exhausted from trying to hold everyone else together.

Inside this trailer, you’ll learn what this podcast is really about:

• Healing from codependency
• Letting go of guilt-based boundaries
• Reclaiming peace in the middle of chaos
• And finally, turning toward your own healing

In future episodes, I’ll share raw stories, hard-won truths, nervous system tools — and the kind of hope that doesn’t sugarcoat reality, but does offer a path through it.

If their addiction has taken center stage for far too long…

This is your invitation to come home to you.