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I took a couple weeks off to mind my business and tend to my people 'nem in community. This week I'm reflecting on some changes I've been going through, what Self-care looks like in real-time, and insights from a recent consulting session with @TheRealityPriestess that gathered me.

We touch on grief as I am grappling with the end of life for my furbaby, Sir Avery James.

As always, I speak on the significance of coaching for Black women navigating corporate spaces, reflections on my own media consumption, and an #AskAuntie premier exploration of gender roles and intimacy!

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This week, I discuss the themes of healing, limiting beliefs, and the impact of societal pressures on self-perception, particularly for Black women. Get into the importance of self-inquiry, community engagement, and understanding the roots of self-hate with me! It gets sticky!!! The conversation explores how thoughts and feelings shape our reality and the necessity of building supportive communities for empowerment and liberation.

LA Fire Relief & Funding Support: These are my peoples who have experienced complete loss of their homes. While two of the families have met their funding goals, Sumaya's family is still in need. There are many organizations doing amazing work for the collective, these folks are particularly close to my heart. If you can, please support where you can.

Time Stamps

00:00 Introduction to Healing and Community Impact

04:27 Understanding Limiting Beliefs and Stinkin' Thinkin'

10:33 Navigating Information Overload and Community Engagement

15:01 Self-Inquiry and the Journey to Liberation

29:27 Empowerment and Self-Leadership for Marginalized Communities

30:23 Exploring Self-Worth and Community

33:15 Navigating Intrusive Thoughts and Emotional Responses

36:10 The Importance of Cultural Competence in Therapy

40:53 Understanding Boundaries and Self-Accountability

41:56 The Power of Feelings in Personal Freedom

45:19 Consumerism vs. Self-Discovery

48:58 Building Community and Connection

51:51 The Journey of Personal Growth and Contribution

56:15 AMHIK_outro.mp4

In this episode, Coach Ebony reflects on her journey through 2024 and sets intentions for 2025. She discusses the importance of healing, self-love, and storytelling, emphasizing the need to embrace one's narrative. The conversation explores the tools and strategies for personal growth, including goal setting and the significance of rest as a form of resistance. Coach Ebony shares her plans for self-discovery and joy in the coming year, highlighting the importance of living authentically and nurturing an open heart.

Chapters

00:00 The Power of Storytelling

08:09 Setting Intentions for 2025

17:09 Reflecting on 2024 and Personal Growth

24:49 The Importance of Telling Our Own Stories

32:59 The Journey of Becoming a Coach

40:27 Embracing Joy and Self-Discovery

52:52 Radical Self-Love and Resistance

57:34 AMHIK_outro.mp4

In this episode, Coach Ebony explores her journey with perfectionism and healing, emphasizing the nonlinear nature of healing and the importance of community support. She discusses decision fatigue, internal family systems, and the need to decolonize perfectionism, linking it to white supremacy culture. The conversation highlights the distinction between perfectionism and excellence, advocating for a more compassionate and joyful approach to personal growth.

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Tema Okun's White Supremacy Culture

Chapters

00:00 The Journey of Healing and Self-Leadership

02:51 Understanding Perfectionism

08:33 Healing: A Nonlinear Process

15:01 The Importance of Community in Healing

17:37 Navigating Decision Fatigue and Growth Grief

23:51 Future Focused Feedback and Its Impact

30:47 Exploring Internal Family Systems

38:02 The Role of Perfectionism in Identity

39:06 Exploring Perfectionism and Its Parts

41:01 Understanding the Role of Perfectionism

43:12 The Beautiful Intentions of Perfectionism

46:18 Decolonizing Perfectionism

49:24 Perfectionism as a Characteristic of White Supremacy Culture

54:35 The Impact of Perfectionism on Creativity

01:00:52 The Journey of Self-Discovery and Transformation

01:05:37 Redefining Excellence and Personal Standards

We welcome our first guest to the pod this week! *air horns* Astrologer, Political Comms Queen, Mommy & my BFF @Homegirl0racle pulled up to unpack my big FEELS about a French Manicure! We at the nail shop, y'all!

How do we know: Magic is Real? Get into the wand works of onychomancy, learn what you can manifest with your manicure, the cultural significance of Self-care, and MORE!

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It's been nearly 5 years since remote work put it's thumb on the scale of the myth of work/life balance. This week we reflect on the 3 components of burnout, and look at 6 solutions that helped me get over that hump and on my road to recovery.

Read this:

"Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle" by Emily Nagoski, PhD and Amelia Nagoski, DMA

And this:

"Against the Loveless World" by Susan Abulhawa

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Pluto enters Aquarius and I have things to say! This episode I discuss MONEY! Reflecting on the foundations of my financial literacy. I share how ancestral veneration taught me the value of cultural capital. We'll get into the emotions tied to money, how to identify and articulate our ACTUAL needs and ultimately become empowered sorceresses who make money do what we say!

This is still an independent production of me and my mini-schnauzer, Avery.

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Off the cuff, I don't want to talk about the election. But I did need to talk about how I know that Joy is a radical act of resistance. I didn't know I was big until I started getting smaller. The 5 P's of Self and other musings...

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I had so much things to say this week. They're all important. I turned on my video, let's see how long it takes for me to upload it to YouTube!

Here's the show:

1. Recording on the eve of the 2024 US Presidential Election was wild! I wrote a poem-ish thing about it.

2. The Glass Cliff is real but, The People Could Fly. So we stay Fly!

3. What does coaching have to do with it? What Black Women need.

4. The anatomy of a Discovery Call with @coachebonysaid

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If you're listening to this, I survived my journey to the Dept. of Motor Vehicles! In this episode I share a little bit about my journey. The price of resisting change, what a 250,000 year old cavern taught me about surrender, and what a pair of sweatpants taught me about facing my discomfort.

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