To change or not to change? That is the married-last-name question that actor, host and proud hyphenate Ashley Blaine Featherson-Jenkins (Dear White People, Trials to Triumphs) loves to answer. In this latest Ask Unladylike installment, Ashley and Cristen advise a listener in construction who's weary of being the "trophy worker" and an affianced unlady who worries whether taking her husband's last name is giving away part of her identity and/or caving to patriarchy.

But first, they bond over Bug Juice, aka the greatest reality show for tweens ever!!

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