Part 2 of Episode 23 Psychological Warfare features special guest, Yemisi Abiona who is a Psychotherapist with over 18 years of experience. Yemisi Abiona helps us to define, identify the signs, and how to overcome the effects of psychological warfare in the workplace, within friendships, marriages and all forms of relationships. She uses the most recent debacle that happened between Phadera, Kandi and Porsha as a prime example of psychological warfare between friends. Yemisi Abiona has her own private practice in Clark, NJ and treats ages 3 years old and up. If you like to contact her, ask her a question or inquire about her services, she can be reached at [email protected] You can download this episode and entire podcast on Soundcloud, iTunes and www.yetundeodugbesan.com/podcast. #psychologicalwarfare #mentalhealth #ego #insecurity #bullying #toxicrelationshops #workplacehissues #badcoworkers #toxicbosses #realhousewivesofatlanta #phaderagate #askdryetunde #askypodcast

In Episode 23 of ASK Y Podcast, I talk about a topic that I have been meaning to discuss for quite sometime...Psychological Warfare! I have experienced it and I am sure many of you have as well but probably could not identify it or knew that there was an actual name for it. Ever feel the brunt of someone else's insecurity, have someone belittle, insult, question your "abilities" or try to make you feel less than...well that's Psychological Warfare whether intentional or unintentional. We have a special guest on this episode, Yemisi Abiona who is a Psychotherapist with over 18 years of experience. In the first part this 2 part episode she helps us to understand what psychological warfare is, what are its effect and why do people do it. In our next session she will give us advice on how to identify, how to overcome it and how to find a healthy way to protect ones mental and emotional state. #protectyourself #pyschologicalwarfate #mentalhealthawarenessmonth #insecurity #ego #askypodcast #askdryetunde #askyetunde

In our ASK Y Portal online, listener Monique asks, "How can I be more confident in the workplace and in general?" Episode 22 of ASK Y Podcast, will talk about five steps to boosting your confidence and five steps can also kill your confidence. First and foremost let's define what confidence is, confidence is a feeling of self-assurance arising from one's appreciation of one's own abilities or qualities. It shouldn't be a surprise that being more confident at work and in life can mean more promotions and more benefits overall. However, a pilot study at the University of Melbourne found some correlation between confidence levels as early as primary school and success in the workplace as adults. This doesn't just apply to the workplace, either. Confidence is a necessary ingredient to success. In order to dream big, you have to first be confident in you abilities to achieve it and conscious of things that can also destroy it. Download ASK Y Podcast on iTunes, Soundcloud and www.yetundeodugbesan.com

In Episode 21 of Ask Y Podcast titled, "Friendship and Business: Can it Work?" I talk about famous founders who started off as friends and went on to build successful businesses (E.g., Apple, Spotify, Google, Microsoft, Proactiv, Juicy Couture, YouTube, and many more). However, If you’re considering your own friend-based startup, asking and answering certain kinds of questions is exactly what you should be doing first. I reference a Forbes titled, "5 Questions To Ask Yourself Before Going Into Business With A Friend." This article provides you with 5 key questions you should reflect upon before jumping into a business or venture with a close friend or family member. They say, friendship built on business is better than business built on friendship. On thing that surprised me is the lack of women on the top ten most successful founders list who built companies with their friends. All the major founders are all males! I hope more women will be added to that list in the nearer future. Listen to this episode on iTunes, SoundCloud or Link in Bio. #business #friendship #canitwork? #jointventures #businessandfriends #womenentrepreneurs #menentrepreneurs #entrepreneurs #power #bosschick #forbes #inc

The idea of mentoring is a common one, but the idea of a champion is rarely ever mentioned. There is a difference between having a mentor and a champion. As you start to climb up the professional ladder, its important to have a Champion. Champions are rare and often hard to come across. They are people who can make decisions that will directly impact your career. They make things happen. They advocate on your behalf when you are in or out of the room. They bring you to the table or influence those who are making decisions that may affect you. Mentors may give you time, advice and sometimes they are willing to make a few introductions. Don’t get me wrong, this is great, but what distinguishes a mentor and champion is that a champion is willing to take more of a RISK on you. In episode 20, I talk about the important of identifying a champion, knowing the difference between a mentor and champion and how you can be a champion in someone's life. Listen to ASK Y podcast on iTunes, Soundcloud and www.yetundeodugbesan.com

If any female feels she needs anything beyond herself to legitimate and validate her existence, she is already giving away her power to be self-defining, her agency.

—Bell Hooks

"I am too intelligent, too demanding, and too resourceful for anyone to be able to take charge of me entirely," said Jasmine Beauvoir. In Episode 19 titled Channeling Your Inner Boss, I provide 5 tips on how get yourself together internally. Being a BOSS is not only about the title and being an entrepreneur, its about firs being a BOSS in your own life. Being the BOSS of your dreams, goals and purpose and having no explanations, external validations and reservations about who you are! Download ASK Y Podcast on iTunes, SoundCloud and www.yetundeodugbesan.com

Putting off the big things in your life until there is a better , more perfect time is actually dangerous. What happens if that time never comes? Or what happens if it did come and you couldn't recognize it because it did not appear with angelic wings and bright rays of light. "Now is not a good time," is often a common excuse of many. Time doesn't align itself for your goals, it happens whether you act or not. I live my life with the mantra that where you are in life, whatever stage you are in, whatever resources or lack there of that you have...is always an ideal time to make the most out of yourself. We waste so much time waiting for the perfect time to finally get that business running, finally settle down, finally have a family etc., without realizing the clock never waits to readjust or reorganize itself, it keeps ticking. Episode 18 talks about getting rid of the idea of "perfect timing" and finding the courage get to work on achieving your dreams and goals NOW.

Millennials, a generation of people often misunderstood. This massive generation filled with 18-34 years old are labelled repeatedly in articles, blogs, studies and in even casual conversations as entitled, self-absorbed, lazy and overly idealistic. Is this impression of millennials true? Possibly to a certain extent. In this episode, I talk about how millennials are the generation that refuse to put up with people, places, situations and things that do not contribute to their overall development and happiness. Businesses, politicians, employers and more don't know how to deal with young people who hold them accountable for their ridiculous behaviour. Of course you would be angry at a 20 something year old who is sharp as a button, probably created your favourite app, is willing to create an opportunity for themselves and isn't enticed by the corporate life...maybe just maybe the millennials can teach us more about pursuing your dreams unapologetically. Listen to this episode and all other ASK Y episodes on iTunes, Soundcloud and yetundeodugbesan.com. #millennials #lovetohate #genx #geny #babyboomers #lessonstobelearned #asky #askypodcast #podcast #askyetunde #yetunde

Beware of predators. People who prey on potential, positivity, gentleness, beauty and take it for a sign of weakness. This episode is inspired by a quote written by Author C.Joybell C she writes, ...."Predators on anything that is happy and at peace they mistake for weakness. It's not your job to change these people, but it's your job to show them that your peace and gentleness do not equate to weakness..." The quote is much longer and it's titled, "Silk." Listen as I talk about predators and how to recognise them even if they come in the form on a family member, close friends, acquatainces, co-workers, helpers and others.

#asky #askypodcast #predators #silk #protectyourself

I literally had an "aha" moment this past weekend. Why is it that whenever people talk about passion (which I am guilty of) the word career follows? I understand wholeheartedly why it's important to find a job or choose a career path that you love. Let's face it, when it boils down to workplace productivity those who are passionate about their work produce the best results. I also understand that we spend most of our time at work which is why a heavy emphasis is placed on choosing the right career path or creating a business/start-up that your passionate about. But, I realized this past weekend, thanks to The Creativity Suite, that we are misusing the word passion. Society has trained us to believe that passion is inextricably linked to career. Whereas passion is something that is powerful enough to cut across every area of your life. We've spent so much time trying to find the fire in our careers that have lost or never thought to experience passion in love, relationships, family and more. I've ditched the whole career and passion mantra and created a better one for myself. I want to experience passion in every area of my life not just my career. Tune into episode 15 where I discuss my newfound epiphany on what passion really means. #askypodcast #podcast #passion #career