#AskAMan

Anonymous and his wife have been together for about 22 years, and have been married for about 13 years now. 

He feels like his partner is “self righteous”, doesn’t give him an ear and always thinks she’s right in any conflict they have in their relationship. He also feels like she doesn’t give him space to express his emotions. 

They are always arguing and their conflicts have gone out of hand, even happening in front of their kids. 

He’s exhausted of this toxic relationship and environment they now find themselves in.

Anonymous and his wife have been married for about 18 years now and they have three children together. 

Along the way, he cheated on his partner about three times and he was caught each time. His wife then cheated on him in retaliation. Things got messy and about 5 years ago she left their married home with their children, but after two months away, she returned back to their home and they got back together.

Things have been ok for the last five years but they are struggling to rebuild trust in their relationship. 

Anonymous met a lady at her local clinic as a client, they spent a lot of time together and says she now finds her self having strong feelings for this lady. 

She wants to share her feelings with the lady, but there are some complications…

 

Anonymous started dating his partner a year ago, and says they both came into the relationship carrying a lot of relationship trauma and this led to them being paranoid and even spying on each other. 

He loves his partner a lot but says his partner is struggling to trust him. He’s never cheated on her but says when they were going through some challenges in their relationship, she found an Instagram DM in which anonymous was asking for another lady’s number. 

They separated after this incident but ended up getting back together. He says things haven’t been the same ever since, as she’s constantly scanning his phone and bringing up things from the past, despite what he describes as a change in his behaviour. 

Anonymous called us in September last year  as he was caught between is main partner and his side, and couldn’t decide which one to forward with. 

After he called us last year he decided to continue with his long-term partner and they got married. 

Everything was fine until his ex-side girl reached out to him. They met, but now the side says she wants nothing to do with him. He says he was over her but after seeing her last week, all the feelings are now back.

Anonymous met a guy early in 2025 and after a lengthy talking stage, they started dating in March last year.

Everything was going well in the relationship, but three months in,  she got a call from a woman who claimed to be this man’s wife and despite his initial denials, this was confirmed.

Anonymous and her partner have been together for about four years now and says things have been going relatively well between them. 

She recently had a minor car accident and the doctors advised that she might experience some changes in her period as a result of the impact of the accident. 

A week after the accident her and her partner had sex but shortly after this he accused her of cheating on him, saying that her sex with her felt different and her vagina had a different smell to what he’s used to.