Anonymous says she’s been with her partner since high school, however, in their matric year he impregnated another girl, she also fell pregnant around the same time and they continued with their relationship. 

Anonymous says they’ve been together for 24 years now but he did have an affair with another woman for about 2 years 10 years ago, but they’ve since moved on from that. Anonymous says they had agreed they would not have more kids, however, he has now changed his mind and as a result of family pressure, he wants to have another child, but she’s not interested. 

Anonymous says she doesn’t want another child as she feels like she doesn’t have the capacity to raise another child. Anonymous says this has now caused a rift in their relationship and she’s not sure if she’s being selfish for not wanting to have another child.

Anonymous says she’s been with her partner since November last year and says the relationship was fine until her partner introduced her to his family. 

Anonymous says her partner lives with his family and says the mother of his child is always there with his family. Anonymous says she brought up that she’s not comfortable with how often his ex visits but that only ended up causing a rift between her and his family and led to tension within their relationship. 

Anonymous says they also have other issues in their relationship, however she feels like he never wants to address any conflicts they run into in their relationship. Anonymous says he tends to go quiet and she’s always the one to reach out to him to try and resolve the conflict. 

Anonymous is not sure if she should remain in this relationship and wonders if she might be the problem.

Anonymous says she’s been dating her partner for 10 months and he is a radio presenter. Anonymous says she’s noticed a pattern in their relationship, she says overtime they have a relationship quarrel he takes it to air on his show, even tough he refuses to discuss those things with her when she brings them up. 

Anonymous says another issue is that he is not earning much and says she’s tried to motivate him to make career moves that would lead him to doing better financially, however, anonymous says he doesn’t really take her advice and has gone on air speaking about partners that try to control you. 

Anonymous doesn’t know how to feel about all this.

Anonymous says she’s been with her partner for 12 years and says she was a side chick for the first two years of their relationship. Anonymous says while in the relationship she had a one night stand and fell pregnant. 

Anonymous says her partner found out that the child wasn’t his, something he wasn’t happy about but decided to remain in a relationship with anonymous because he loved her. Anonymous says years later they now have two children together. 

Anonymous says her partner has been emotionally abusive towards her over the years. She adds that he lost his job at some point and stopped supporting her and the children. 

Anonymous says over the last year he started cheating on her and despite having money now, he is not supporting the children. Anonymous is not sure how to move forward.

Anonymous says she dated her ex for 5 years and he cheated on her multiple times. Anonymous says she eventually broke up with him because of his cheating ways. Anonymous says before she broke things off with him, he revealed that he was HIV positive. 

Anonymous says she moved on and dated someone else but ended that relationship because the guy was a bit dodgy. Anonymous says her ex now wants her back and she’s not sure if she should get back together with him because despite he’s cheating ways, he used to be good to her as a partne

Anonymous says she met a guy last year while she was in a relationship and that guy was also in a relationship. Anonymous says they wanted to break up with their partners but she made him delay his break as his partner at the time was pregnant and she advised that he wait until she gives birth. 

Anonymous says they kept their relationship a secret until his parents caught her with him. Anonymous says he’s still kind of with the baby mama, who lives with him and his parents, and says she’s not sure if he’s fooling her. 

Anonymous says he tends to not communicate when he’s not with her and says when he is with her, the mother of his child is always calling needing things from him. Anonymous says she’s not sure if she should hold on and wait on him to commit fully to her or just move on.

Anonymous says she met guy on a dating app three years ago and they ended up meeting up. Anonymous says she wasn’t attracted to some of his physical attributes when they first met and therefore didn’t continue anything with him. 

Anonymous says now, 3 years later, he reached out to her asking her to assist him in planning his mother’s birthday party, anonymous says they met up and even ended up having sex despite him being uncircumcised, something she has a problem with. 

It’s been 3 weeks since they reconnected and she even met his family. He now wants to marry her in the next two months but anonymous doesn’t know if she should marry him, especially because she’s not physically attracted to him and he’s still uncircumcised. She wonders if she can change his look.

Anonymous says her and her partner have been together for the last few years but she says last year he started changing his behaviour towards her and anonymous says he eventually told her that he was uncomfortable living with her as his family were not happy with that and they were scared he might impregnate her which would mean he would have 4 children with 4 different women out of wedlock. 

 

Anonymous says she moved out but went back after he called her saying he misses her. Anonymous says their relationship wasn’t great after she moved back and he confessed that he had fallen out of love with her. 

 

Anonymous says she moved out after this but he called again saying he misses her. Anonymous says they were meant to meet up but he didn't show up and he ghosted her. Anonymous says she then heard from his sister who revealed that he announced to the family that he's marrying another woman. 

 

Anonymous says a few weeks after hearing about the engagement he reached out to her and they met and he told her that he wants to be in a polygamous relationship, something anonymous didn’t show a keen interest in. Anonymous says he has now said to her that he doesn’t want his fiancé anymore and wants to be with her, he’s still together Anonymous is confused by all this. 

Anonymous says she’s been with her partner for about a year and a half now and things have been good, however they got into a serious fight in the last few months and things became really sour but they resolved the issue. 

Anonymous says since then she’s noticed that his behaviour is on and off and she never knows which version of him she’s going to get. 

Anonymous says she wonders if she can carry on with him like that, she says she loves him and is scared of losing him as he’s her first really serious relationship. 

Anonymous says she’s been with her partner for about 8 years now and they moved in together a year into their relationship. Anonymous says they couldn’t agree on buying property but she eventually bought a place in 2021 and they live together there. 

Anonymous says she gave birth to their child this year and they are now married but she feels like she’s carrying all the weight in the relationship in various aspects. Anonymous says he’s not there for her and their family in the way that she expected.