#AskAMan

Anonymous has been with her husband for about 10 years now. It took them a while to get married as her family was against them getting married. She eventually ended up marrying him without her parent’s blessing, which caused a rift between her and her family. 

Her husband had a close friend that he lived with while they were dating and anonymous did suspect there was something going on between her husband and his close male friend, she later found out, after looking through his phone that he did indeed have a relationship with his friend.

Her husband has said that he is not gay and that was just a phase, he has also cheated on her with a woman, however, anonymous is worried that he might be gay and he will want to be with another guy in future. 

Anonymous is in her early thirties and says she met her now ex boyfriend about two years ago, and things were fine between them until she found he was still speaking to his previous ex. 

They spoke about this and she told him she forgave him but she struggled to move on and ended up going on dates with other guys. He found out about her dates with other guys, they talked through it and moved on with their relationship. 

They also got into a lot of fights when they’d be out drinking…

Anonymous has known the father of her child for about 10 years after they met during their high school days. 

They dated for many years and had one child together, but they ended up breaking up because she was tired of him always being out with friends and not assisting in the household. 

Anonymous moved on to a new relationship but her ex started to visit more under the guise of seeing their child, this led to them having sexual relations, and anonymous even broke up with her new partner after they agreed to work on their relationship.

After breaking up with her new partner, her ex started to pull back from her. 

Recently, her ex came to a party at her home with his new girlfriend and anonymous ended up in a physical altercation with the new girl because she felt disrespected. 

Anonymous says her partner is always suggesting that they fix things even though he has this girl in this life. 

Anonymous has now blocked him but she’s not sure if she made the right decision.

Anonymous’ partner moved to another province after she found a job there. He helped her move and even bought furniture for her, however, his help was met with scepticism from his partner’s family, which left him feeling disheartened. 

Fast forward to now, they’ve had many back and forths in their relationship with anonymous feeling unappreciated.

His partner has now lost her father and has asked anonymous for space due to his grieving.

 

Anonymous and her partner have been married for six years now and they have two children together. 

Their relationship was ok until they had a huge rift, which left anonymous feeling like her partner’s family is too involved in their relationship. Her partner moved out of their house and told her that he now wants a divorce. 

She adds that her partner has also said he was actually only ever interested in having kids. She is trying to salvage their relationship but wonders if she should continue to pursue the restoration of their marriage.

Anonymous has been with his partner for almost two years now and they now live together with her two children. 

His partner was in the middle of lobola proceedings when she broke up with the father of her children and they had gotten a joint-mortgage for the house they lived in. Anonymous wants to marry his partner but he’s worried that his partner is still jointly linked to a major asset with her ex. 

He wants her to give up on the house so that they can move on with their relationship on a clean slate.

Anonymous met a man on a dating site about three weeks ago, and she’s enjoying getting to know him but he seems to only be available to her during office hours. 

She confronted him about this behaviour and he said it’s because he’s struggled with insomnia in the past and is often off his phone in the evenings to remedy this. He also added that he’s been single for a long time and is readjusting to dating. 

His communication, after hours, hasn’t improved, and anonymous is not sure what to read into this.

Anonymous has been with her partner for almost six years, they’ve been married for two of those years and they have a ten month old child. 

Their relationship is generally great, but the problem is a friend that her partner has, as she’s seen videos of them being cozy together and they’ve even exchanged messages declaring their love for each other. 

They’ve been fighting about this same girl for most of their relationship, however, she’s not sure if she should give up on what she’s built with him because of the relationship he has with this one girl.

Anonymous and her partner have been together for three years. He already had two children before they started dating and they have  since had a child together who is now 10 months old. 

They are in a long distance relationship and last week, when he came to visit her for her birthday, he was trying to post pictures of her on his WhatsApp stories when she noticed that he blocked 3 ladies from seeing his stories. 

She questioned him about this and he said it was people from work that he blocked from seeing his stories. Anonymous still finds this suspicious and wonders if he could be busy with other people.