Anonymous says her boyfriend is a married man and they’ve been together for  2 years. Anonymous says their relationship is generally fine and he’s a good partner but he seems to be a narcissist. 

Anonymous says he tends to look down on her and can be patronising, and he wasn’t like that at the beginning of their relationship. Anonymous says he’s even suggested she lose weight. 

Anonymous says he’s promised to take her in as a second wife, however, at this point she’s not understanding his personality and why he sometimes treats her negatively.

Anonymous says she has known her partner for about 12 years now, since her first year in varsity.

Anonymous says after her partner’s aunt passed away, they took in the children and raised them till they moved out in 2019. Anonymous says she had a child with him in 2019 & 2020, but the first child unfortunately died two years ago due to illness. 

Anonymous says they got married around 2019, however over a couple of years his behaviour changed. Anonymous says he started looking down on her, complaining about her weight and how she runs their household. Anonymous also describes how he goes out drinking and comes back home demanding sex from her, he has also cheated on anonymous but is not remorseful for any of his behaviour.

Anonymous says she’s tried to complain to his family but they are not able to talk to him as he’s the breadwinner at home. 

Anonymous says she’s had enough and doesn’t know what’s holding her back.

Anonymous says she’s been married to her husband for 6 years now. She says when they initially met he was married, they hooked up, but he disappeared and came back months later after breaking up with his wife. 

Anonymous says they then dated and about 3 months into their relationship, she found out he was cheating, she forgave him and they moved on and got married. 

Anonymous says last year while she was pregnant and visiting her child who lives with her parents, she tried to contact him but couldn’t reach him, she returned back to their place only to find the place trashed and an open condom wrapper in one of the rooms. Anonymous says her partner later confessed that he had come back home with some girls who drugged him and stole from them. 

Anonymous says a similar incident has now taken place again,, she visited her family and he was busy with his shenanigans again.

Anonymous says she married her husband last year November and she gave birth to their child in August of this year. 

Anonymous says she came into the relationship with one child, so did her husband,  and says less than a year into their relationship her partner wants a divorce. Anonymous says she’s taken aback by this as the father of her first child also broke up with her a month after she gave birth. 

Anonymous is wondering what she’s doing that’s causing history to repeat itself. Anonymous adds that the current fight with her partner is based on how often her first daughter can visit their house, her husband wants the visits to be less frequent. 

Anonymous also says there was a change in how they communicate and time spent together when they got married.

Anonymous says he’s been with his partner since 2014 and they each came  into the relationship with a child. Anonymous says they started lobola proceedings in 2016, however he still needs to complete the process and they now have two kids together. 

Anonymous says they then started working together at the same place for a few years and everything was fine until he started working somewhere else, far from home, and their relationship became more of a long distance relationship. 

Anonymous says he found out that she was cheating on him with someone from work and when he confronted her about it, she explained that she was feeling lonely because she wasn’t seeing him as often as she used to. 

Anonymous believes she’s cheated on him again and again and thinks she’s back it again right now. Anonymous says he was planning on completing the lobola this year but he’s now wondering if he should just let go of the relationship.

Anonymous says she’s in her early twenties and in a relationship with a man in his mid-thirties. She fell in love instantly and they started dating. 

Anonymous says he found conversations on his phone that indicated that he was chatting with other ladies and she snapped and confronted him about this and it caused a rift between them. 

Anonymous says he is now not even taking her calls and she wonders if she overreacted and wants him back in her life.

Anonymous says when she first her current partner, he made it clear that he had someone else. Anonymous says she was ok with this as long as he doesn’t treat her like “the other woman”. 

Anonymous says there was then an incident while they were dating where she caught him red handed cheating, which led to her damaging his car, but they got back together after this incident. 

Anonymous says he then came to her asking for money and she refused. Following that he pressed charges against her for damaging his car and she was arrested. 

Anonymous says they didn’t chat for a while after this but they ended up getting back together and she fell pregnant. She says he was initially disinterested in their child but after a while he warmed up to the child. 

Anonymous says despite them being together, the other girl he cheated on her with is still in the picture.

Anonymous says she’s been with the father of her child for about 15 years and says their relationship has been turbulent during this period, especially after she gave birth. 

Anonymous says they’ve broken up and made up many times over the years because of multiple conflicts in their relationship, and they’ve both been with other people but keep finding themselves coming back to each other. 

Anonymous says one of the bigger issues is that her family doesn’t approve of her partner and she doesn’t know how to get out of this cycle.

Anonymous says he’s been with his partner for 6 years and says their relationship is generally good but he feels like his partner is financially irresponsible. 

Anonymous says his partner doesn’t budget properly and has accumulated a lot of debt. He says she also seems to be an impulse buyer. 

Anonymous says he’s confronted her about this and he advised her to change her behaviour however she hasn’t changed her spending habits. 

Anonymous says he’s frustrated by this and feels like he’s not progressing in life because of this behaviour.

Anonymous says she’s been dating her current partner for about 6 months and says from the start of the relationship, her partner told her that he had lost his wife about 3 years ago, however, he said he was ready to be in a relationship. 

Anonymous says in the 6 months they’ve dated, they’ve only been with each other 6 times. Anonymous says she addressed this with him, and he revealed to her that he is  in fact still grieving his loss and was afraid to admit to her when they met. 

Anonymous says when she questioned him about making time for her, he explained that he doesn’t have much time as he is a single parent and doesn’t have much time - anonymous is a single parent herself.

Anonymous says she’s not sure if she should stay in this relationship.