#AskAMan

Anonymous has been with his partner for about 5 years now and they have a child together. 

Their relationship has been messy over the last two years and his partner now wants to leave him because she feels like he doesn’t communicate properly in the relationship and that he has anger issues…

Anonymous with her ex partner for about nine years and they have two children together. Their relationship ended after she cheated on her partner and he found out. 

She’s now in a new relationship and the guy is amazing to her and her kids. However,  she feels like she’s still healing from the wounds of her previous relationship. 

Anonymous has been with her boyfriend since late last year and they work together. 

She works in HR and when he had to apply for family responsibility leave in her office, she found out that his ex had just given birth to his child and he had been hiding that pregnancy from her.

Another issue in their relationship is family planning, anonymous wants her partner to share in the costs of the contraceptive she wants to use but he doesn’t agree. 

She’s wondering if he’s lying about the relationship he has with the mother of his children and whether she’s unreasonable for wanting him to contribute to the contraceptive. 

Anonymous met a guy back in 2017, they immediately fell in love and, soon after they started dating, they had a child together. 

The guy then moved overseas to pursue his studies and during his time abroad their relationship took a turn for the worst and it faded away. 

Seven years later he’s back in the country and she is now back together with him, but feels like he’s not present in their relationship, and he’s not really there for their daughter, who he hasn’t been supporting this entire time. 

Anonymous took him back in so they could be a family but she feels like it’s not working out the way it should.

Anonymous has been with his partner for about 8 years now and they have a 4 year-old child together. 

About two years ago his partner started becoming off-ish about sex and she eventually started scheduling sex between them to three times a month. 

This became a problem in their relationship and she told anonymous that if he wants more sex he can go outside of their relationship and find someone else to have sex with. 

Upon realising that he found someone to have sex with, she became upset and accused anonymous of cheating on her. 

She moved out of their home out of anger but was convinced by his family to go back to their home. 

Things haven’t been the same since she got back and she has now left their home again saying that she’s struggling with his “betrayal”. 

Anonymous still loves his partner and doesn’t know how to resolve this.

Anonymous and her partner have been together for 10 years and they’ve been married for about 3 of those years. 

She has a mental illness and she has relapsed a few times over the duration of their relationship, and the last relapse she had was as a result of her pregnancy. 

They now have one child together and she would like to have another child, as that was their plan, but her partner is not sure if having another baby is worth destabilising anonymous’ mental health.

Anonymous has been with her partner for about 4 years now, however, he was in what he described as a complicated relationship with the mother of his child when they met. 

Her partner then moved in together with the mother of his child as she was kicked out from her home and needed shelter. As it turns out they got back together and he has now paid lobola for this other lady. 

Anonymous has since had a child with her partner, and him and his family are now saying they want to take her in as a second wife.

Anonymous is not sure about any of this.

Anonymous has been with her partner for about two years now, after they met while working in the same company. 

He now works in another province and they are now in a long distance relationship. 

She feels like their relationship is not moving and doesn’t have much direction. She’s also found a woman’s pyjamas while visiting her partner, but he said they are his sister’s pyjamas. 

Anonymous is not sure what to read into their relationship as it currently stands.

Anonymous has been with her partner for four years and things were fine until she realised that her partner had a drinking problem and spent a lot of time with her friends partying. 

She brought this up often with her partner but her partner would respond by accusing anonymous of being controlling and not wanting her to have a good time. 

Communication remains a big problem in their relationship as they don’t seem to see eye to eye.