Anonymous says he’s been with his partner for about 5 years, they live together and he’s even paid lobola partially.

Anonymous says his partner was pregnant at some point but unfortunately she had a stillbirth. Anonymous says things changed in their relationship from this point. Anonymous says she started drinking and partying more, and would blame anonymous for her stillbirth.

Anonymous says he broke things off with her because it was too much but got back together with her months later after she asked him to forgive her. 

Anonymous says she continued to be messy and he has now moved out again. Anonymous says he loves her and still wants to be with her but he’s not sure if it can work between them.

Anonymous says she met her partner in late 2023, she says they started as friends and it eventually turned into a romantic relationship.

Anonymous says from the onset, they were honest with each other, had great communication and even shared about their past relationship traumas.  

Anonymous says things have now taken a turn in their relationship after she found suspicious texts between him and another lady on his phone. Anonymous says she confronted him about this, he said they would talk about it, but that’s never happened. 

Anonymous says the communication in their relationship has broken down and she doesn’t understand where they are at in their relationship. 

Anonymous just wants him to be open and honest with her so she can better understand what’s happening between them.

Anonymous says she met a guy 4 years ago and 5 months into their relationship he told her that he was in a relationship with someone else, after initially denying this fact.

Anonymous says he told that her was with the mother of his child and they live together but their relationship is not great. 

Anonymous says despite this fact, he’s a great partner who takes care of her and is always there for her which makes it so difficult to leave him. 

She says 4 years later she doesn’t even know where he lives, he’s promised her that their relationship will eventually turn into something more but she’s not tired of the situation.

Anonymous says he his ex partner in varsity in 2019 and they started dating back then. Anonymous says post varsity, they moved in together and he was taking care of both of them financially at the time. 

Anonymous says their relationship was tumultuous, there was infidelity and lots of other conflicts in their relationship. 

Anonymous says he then got a job opportunity in another area and their relationship became long distant. This added fuel to the fire and they ended up breaking up. 

Anonymous suspects that she might have been cheating on him while they were still together. He’s tried to get back together with her, but it hasn’t worked out. 

Anonymous wonders if he did the right thing by giving up on their relationship, especially because they have a child together.

Anonymous called last year and told us that her husband can’t seem to keep a job as he finds jobs and then resigns unreasonably after a short period of working. 

At the time anonymous was advised to stand by her man, bring in the family and also check if there could be witchcraft involved. 

It’s 7 months later since she called Ask a Man and she says she’s tried all that and it doesn’t seem to be helping. Anonymous says she wants to give up now.

Anonymous says she’s been with her partner for 3 years now and and she gave birth to their child late last year. 

Anonymous says after giving birth she found out that her partner was cheating on her. Anonymous says they patched things up after the infidelity, however, she’s struggling to move on from the cheating. 

Anonymous says she still loves him and wants to be with him but needs help with forgiving him and moving on from his cheating.

Anonymous says she’s been married to her husband for 10 years and they’ve known each from childhood as they grew up in the same area. 

Anonymous says a few years ago, while her and her husband were going through a rough patch, she met someone else and says the connection with this person was strong and passionate. 

Anonymous says they’ve eventually worked things out with her husband and she agreed with her husband to let the  other guy go and focus on them. 

Anonymous says she never really stopped thinking about this other guy and he has now made contact with her after about a year and a half, and their connnection is very intense.

Anonymous says things are great with her husband but she feels like the other guy could be the one and wonders if she can live with never trying with this guy.

Anonymous has currently been with his partner of 10 years and they are in a customary marriage. Anonymous says his partner only realised after the fact that because they completed the lobola process they couldn’t sign a prenup as they are already in a customary marriage. 

Anonymous says his partner said at the time that she would never be happy in their relationship as she wanted to be married out of community of property because she doesn’t want anonymous’ children to benefit from her assets. 

Anonymous says years later his partner separated from him as she wasn’t happy. Anonymous says time has gone by and his partner is still saying she’s not ready to get back together with him.

Anonymous says she’s been with her partner for 10 years and he’s paid half the lobola to her family and 3 years ago and they now also have a child. 

Anonymous says her partner once cheated on her and after going their separate ways for about 6 months because of this, she eventually forgave and they got back together. 

Anonymous says it’s years later now and he’s been acting dodgy over the last few months. Anonymous says he tends to go out with friends and disappear on her without explanation. Anonymous says they fought about his behaviour last week and he left again and as it stands right now he doesn’t know where he is. 

Anonymous says she doesn’t know if she should stay in this relationship, as she suspects that he could be cheating on her again.