Anonymous says she was a dating a guy about 5 years ago and he was cheating on her and the girl he was cheating on her with would harass anonymous, to a point where anonymous got a restraining order against her but the guy said to her that he didn’t want any involvement in the situation.

Anonymous says they eventually broke up however she fell pregnant with this guy’s child and says he wasn’t supportive and only came back into anonymous’ life 8 months after the child was born and tried to get back into anonymous’ life, but that didn’t work out. 

Fast forward to now, anonymous says she’s now been in a relationship with someone else for 3 years and the father of her child is back in her life again and the same girl is back to harassing anonymous again. Anonymous says the guy wants to be back together with her, and said he’ll support the child only if they are back together.

Background: Yesterday anonymous called and spoke of a guy no.1 and a guy no.2. She said things were not great with guy no.1 because he was always cheating on her. Anonymous then met guy no.2 and dated both of them at the same time but eventually broke up with guy no.1, anonymous said she’s now with guy no.2 and called about their current issues. 

This morning we’re speaking to guy no.1 who says he needs to set the record straight: He says he wasn’t a serial cheater and things weren’t great between them because of the financial issues he was facing.  Anonymous also says guy no.2 is someone he knows and used to hangout with. 

Guy no.1 says he found out from a friend that anonymous was cheating on him with guy no.2 and he broke up with her. 

Guy no.1 says he’s back together with anonymous currently and after calling Ask a Man yesterday, anonymous told guy no.1 that she’s done with guy no.2 and they spent the night together last night. Guy no.1 is not sure what to do in this situation.

Anonymous says she met at guy no.1 early last year, they started dating and moved in together by December of last year. 

Anonymous says he cheated on her throughout their relationship and she then started dating someone else, guy no.2. Anonymous says she was juggling the two guys for a bit before breaking up with guy no.1. 

Anonymous says she’s now dating guy no.2 but she struggles with him because he’s insecure, unemployed,  and she feels like he’s lazy. Anonymous says he’s policing her and thinks it’s based on the fact that she was dating someone else when they met each other.

Anonymous says he’s been with his partner for two years and they lived together initially but decided to move into their own places at some point in their relationship. 

Anonymous says the situation in their relationship right now is that he went out with his girlfriend’s neighbours and on the way back home to his girlfriend’s apartment he ran into his girlfriend’s neighbour and they walked home together. 

When they got to the apartment block the girl realised she had the wrong keys and then took shelter with anonymous in his girlfriend’s apartment, and they ended up fetching the keys. 

Anonymous says he was at his girlfriend’s place with his cousin, something his girlfriend didn’t want, so when she got back home the next morning she was upset about this. 

Anonymous says his partner also later found out that he was in her apartment with her female neighbour and got upset about that. Anonymous says his girlfriend is now angry at him as she believes something happened between them.

Anonymous says she’s known the guy she’s currently dating for many years starting from when they were in varsity. 

Anonymous says years later after they started knowing each other they started a no strings attached relationship, however the guy disappeared on her after he got a job. 

Anonymous says during their time apart the guy tried to rekindle things with her but she was in a relationship with someone else, which lasted 5 years. When that ended, anonymous reached out to the guy and they started linking up again and eventually got into a more serious relationship. 

Anonymous says the guy now lives at her place, and at some point he was unemployed, so she was supporting him. Anonymous adds that she feels like he never shows that he loves her, he never posts her on social media or shows that he’s aware of her needs. 

Anonymous says he’s always going out and coming back in the early hours of the morning. She’s not sure if she should remain in the relationship.

Anonymous says she’s recently widowed and has now started dating again. She says she met a guy in October and they hit it off. 

Anonymous says things have been good and he treats her well, however, he revealed to her that he’s actually in a long distance marriage but things are not working out in that marriage because of some issues, including the fact that the guy travels around a lot because of his job. 

Anonymous says they’ve continued dating but now the guy sometimes doesn’t want anonymous to come over or leave her things at his place when she’s visiting because he’s worried his wife will find out about their relationship. 

Anonymous says she’s not sure if she should continue with this relationship.

Anonymous says she’s been her partner for 4 months and says that she crushed on him for a long time before they started dating. 

Anonymous says at the onset of their relationship he would get calls from a mystery lady who he initially said was his sister but it later turned out that it was actually the mother of his child & they his in what he described as a “complicated” relationship with her.

Anonymous says they continued with their relationship, however, while they were attending a function inside her partner’s complex he ended up in an altercation with a different lady during the function. Anonymous says he later confessed that the lady used to be a sneaky link and also that he’s actually still in a relationship with the mother of his child. 

Anonymous doesn’t know if she should stick with him. 

Anonymous says she met a guy in March last year and they started dating. She says things were fine until the guy found texts on her phone from another guy who was flirting with her, even though she wasn’t reciprocating. 

Anonymous says after this incident things were no longer the same in their relationship and the guy would always bring up the incident. Anonymous maintains that the texts with the other guy were innocent on her part, and she wasn’t doing anything with the other guy. 

Anonymous says since January this year, the guy has a habit of disappearing and reappearing in her life. He says he loves her but anonymous is not sure what to think of all of this.

Anonymous says her dating life has been a bit of a struggle, however she met a guy 3 months ago who she suspects is gay. 

Anonymous says she confronted him about this, she first revealed that she’s been with a girl and asked if he had been with a guy before. Anonymous says her partner told her that he’s only flirted with a guy before, and things didn’t go too far. 

Anonymous says he’s also only ever touchy with her when they are in public but doesn’t show the same affection privately. Anonymous says she suspects he’s in the closet and even ended up blocking him for two days because of this. Anonymous says they are communicating again now, but she’s still not sure.

Anonymous says he’s been with his partner for 13 years and a few years ago he started the lobola proceedings but ended up cancelling as his partner was started changing on him because he became unemployed. 

Anonymous says when this happened her partner said their child would no longer visit his parents as they are not married. Anonymous says he eventually found employment again and she’s still around but he’s told her that he’s not sure about her anymore because how she’s treated him in the past. 

The current conflict in their relationship now is the people anonymous has listed as beneficiaries of his estate ,which is his mother & their child. Anonymous is not sure about this relationship and her behaviour.