#AskAMan

Anonymous and her partner were together from the time they were in varsity and they have a child together. 

She got a job first and made more strides in her career, while he struggled and was doing well financially which affected their relationship. She ended up breaking up with him because of his financial problems.

She then met a woman, who she fell in love with, things were going well in that relationship but she ended up going back to her ex because of her need to have her child living with their mother and father. 

This has now become a cycle and she doesn’t know what to do.

Anonymous has been dating a guy for about a year and a half now and he’s a great partner for the most part but the thing that annoys her about him is that he seems to be a bit of a pathological liar, especially when it comes to his finances….

Anonymous says there’s lots of drama in her mother-in-law’s life. Not only is she hiding her relationships with younger men, she’s also in fraudulent dealings that have affected her son, who’s anonymous’ partner….

Her mother-in-law seems to always go out of her way to derail her partner from getting work or making things work for himself. 

She doesn’t understand this behaviour and it’s now putting a strain on their relationship. Her and her partner are also intertwined in spiritual rituals that have complicated their relationship. 

Anonymous has been married to her partner for four years now and says they resolved some of the issues they had before they got married but those seem to be coming back into their relationship. 

She feels like her partner is too relaxed about how other women behave around him, he downplays it when they get touchy with him, with some of it happening in front of her. 

There’s also messages that she’s seen on his phone that she feels cross the line. He has given her full access to his phone. She’s worried about why they are so comfortable behaving that way with him.

Anonymous rekindled things with her ex about a year ago. He broke up with her the first time they dated because he felt like he couldn’t provide for her “as a man” should.

After getting back together they spoke about expectations they have of each other but she now feels like he’s expecting too much from her, especially in terms of house chores. 

They don’t live together and he expects her to perform all kinds of chores at his place and she doesn’t understand this. She wonders if this is a red flag.

Anonymous got back together with her ex recently after they broke up back in 2018 after he said to her that he didn’t feel like he was emotionally available. 

Things initially went well after they rekindled their relationship but then he started pulling away from her.

She thinks he’s feeling pressure and emasculated by her because she’s doing better than him financially and in her career. 

Anonymous feels like she’s not satisfying her partner sexually, and thinks the reason is because his previous partner had stretched her labia. 

She’s now thinking of stretching hers as well so she can satisfy him, but she’s not sure.  

She also thinks this is the reason why he’s cheating on her.