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Anonymous was previously in a long-term relationship and has a child from that relationship. 

She feels like she was never really happy in that relationship but stayed in the relationship because her partner was very financially helpful of her and her family, which led to her family pushing her to stay in the relationship even though she wasn’t happy. 

She eventually chose herself and realised she has a spiritual calling, through that journey she found a new partner…

Anonymous and his partner have been together for about 6 years now. 

When he entered this relationship, he already had 4 children from his previous relationships, they initially agreed that they didn’t want to have more kids but they now have two children together. 

His issue is her style of dealing with conflict in their relationship as she gets physically and verbally violent. 

The first time she got physical with him, he said to her that he would leave her if she reacts that way again, however, they got into a fight recently and she got physical again and even insulted anonymous’ first born son. 

She went away after this fight but she’s now back home and he is struggling to forgive her and move on.

Anonymous and his partner have been together for about 6 years now, they live together and have a child together. 

He says they both work, however, she earns more than he does. He adds that he’s very supportive of her and also helps with a lot of the duties in the house, however, she's not very supportive of him, especially when it comes to finances. 

Anonymous and his current partner have been together since 2010. 

Early in their relationship there was an incident where his partner saw him hug his ex while they were at a party and that turned into a conflict between them, they moved on but she never really got over that. 

Their relationship became long distance when he moved to another province for work and at some point when he went home he found her behaviour suspicious, confronted her and she confessed to cheating on him because of she felt lonely when he wasn’t around….

Anonymous met a guy back in 2021 when she was doing her final year in varsity, she quickly realised that he was in a relationship while they were in the talking stage and decided not to move forward with a relationship with him. 

Years later she reconnected with him but once again they didn’t get into a relationship as she felt like he was still recovering from a recent break-up. 

They reconnected again this year and this time around they finally got into a relationship. 

He said to her that he’s serious about her and wants to marry her one day but she feels like he’s not acting serious because he doesn’t want her to meet his children right now, just months into their relationship.

Anonymous recently started dating guy and says things between them have moved very fast but she’s starting to pick up that his financial problems are worse than what she thought they were.

She’s already in love with him and wants to help but this is all a bit too much for her as his financial problems are draining her pocket.

Anonymous says she’s in her mid thirties and has two children. She met a man earlier this year, they have a twenty-year age gap and things were going well.

She had her suspicions about the man being married so she asked him if he was and he admitted that he is married but his wife has cancer, they haven’t been intimate and he is looking for someone to be intimate with. 

They continued with their relationship, at some point she fell pregnant but miscarried. She then found out that he was actually also having an affair with his neighbour, so broke things off but they got back together. 

Their relationship has since been toxic and has affected her mentally and emotionally.

Anonymous has been with his partner for two years now, they have a child together, and he says the relationship has been great for the most part. 

His problem is that she’s always going out with her friends and he feels like she’s neglecting him & their relationship. He says she also gets very drunk and isn’t a considerate human being when she gets like that.

Anonymous says after his marriage ended he got involved with another lady but quickly realised after they went away together that she’s not the girl for him. 

After breaking things off she told him that she was pregnant, they agreed to terminate the pregnancy and went their separate ways. He blocked her after this but unblocked her months later only to realise that she kept the pregnancy. 

They were co-parenting well until she moved to another province and started avoiding anonymous. Her strange behaviour and rumours that she was seeing another guy led to him asking for a DNA test. 

She agreed to the test but has been dodging it for a couple of years now. He stopped supporting the child as a result of not being sure of paternity. He’s struggling to move on with this big question mark.

Anonymous says she got married very young, her husband is generally a good guy and her family & friends love him but she’s says something has always been missing in their relationship. 

She feels as though her loved ones never really listened to her when she would try to express this. She has now moved out from their home as a result of how she feels in this marriage.