Anonymous and her husband met in 2016 and got married in 2022. 

She stopped working at some point and started her own business. A couple of years later her partner, who’s much older, was retrenched due to the Covid pandemic, she suggested different things for him to try including helping in the business, but he hasn’t done much since. 

Her husband got a large payout after he lost his job and when anonymous requested that he invest in her business he didn’t. He has now run out of money leaving her as the sole provider for their home. 

Anonymous is frustrated by his behaviour and feels like he hasn’t been a supportive partner.

Anonymous has been married to her partner for about 10 years now and they have two children together. 

She travels often in her job and back in 2018 ,when she got back from a work trip, she noticed suspicious messages on her partner’s phone with another woman, but she didn’t want to read too much into it and ignored this. 

This behaviour continued and upon her return from another work trip, the female friend texted and asked her husband to greet her mother-in-law, and on one occasion when anonymous fell pregnant the friend texted anonymous’ husband saying the pregnancy is a mistake. 

She has confronted her husband about this but he keeps telling her that they are just friends.

Anonymous started dating his partner back in 2017 after they’d known each other for a few years. 

They have a child together with his partner, however, he doubts that he’s the father of this child. The situation is a bit familiar for anonymous as he has his suspicions that his parents might not be his biological family. 

This background has made it difficult for anonymous to deal with the questions he has around the paternity of the child he knows as his son.

Anonymous is in her early 40s and she was married for 18 years before separating from her husband three years ago. She says came out of the marriage with very little and has spent the last few years rebuilding her life. 

She met a man who’s in his late twenties within the last year and months after they started dating he proposed and they are now engaged. 

They have been together for a year now and their relationship is going strong but she keeps feeling like it’s too good to be true. 

Anonymous adds that her partner knows about her one child but she hasn’t told him about her other son as that son is only 4 years younger than his partner. 

Anonymous met his partner seven years ago and says they moved in together at his partner’s family home, on her request, as he used to live at his work quarters when they met. 

He was initially ok with this living arrangement, however, over time he’s felt emasculated by this situation, with people in the community referring to him as “makoti”. 

He has spoken to his partner about moving out from her family home and renting somewhere else, but she’s completely against it. 

Anonymous also feels bullied in his relationship and adds that his partner doesn’t seem to respect him.

Anonymous started dating the mother of his child about four years ago and says things were great until he lost his job and was in the process of starting a new business. 

He cheated on her in the midst of all of this, she forgave him and said they should move as she felt he cheated because of the area in which he lived.

She helped him grow his business and he says things got busy in that business and he neglected her to a point that she broke up with him. 

She’s currently not allowing anonymous access to their child, he doesn’t want to go the legal route as he feels that could add to the animosity between them & he feels like he owes her a lot for helping him.

Anonymous met her current partner back in 2014 and their relationship was completely platonic in the beginning but they eventually started dating and now they are married. 

Her problem is that their relationship is not great as a couple because he just doesn’t meet the standards of what she wants in a partner. 

Anonymous feels like he’s a better friend than partner to her, she wants to break it off without ending their friendship.

Anonymous dated a man ten years ago and he was a great partner but things didn’t workout because he was struggling to get it up in the bedroom and he was an over drinker. 

It’s been about eight years now and the man has returned into her life and she has decided to give him another chance. Things are going well so far however the problems in the bedroom remain. 

They haven’t had a conversation regarding his erection issues, and he has now shared with anonymous that he is HIV positive.

Anonymous says he was in a long term relationship which ended about 3 years ago, he says they tried to make their relationship work a couple of times but it didn’t work out. 

Anonymous says he has since been in two other relationships and one of those partners ended things with him saying he isn’t man enough, while the second most recent relationship ended because the partner said he doesn’t have enough money. 

Anonymous says he feels like he keeps trying in relationships but wonders why he hasn’t had much luck so far. He adds that he’d like to start building a family.