#AskAMan

Anonymous was in a serious relationship with her now ex and they have an 8 month old baby. 

A few weeks ago she looked through his phone and found a text on his phone where he was courting another lady and flirting with her. 

This led to her breaking up with him. He has now tried to get her back, but she’s refusing.

Anonymous has been with her partner for almost five years, and she feels like there are too many voices in their relationship, particularly from her partner’s family, and it’s starting to negatively affect their relationship. The problem? She does not feel protected by her partner from his family, so much so, she is reconsidering going ahead with marrying him. She wants to know; how can she make him realise that his family’s voices are too loud in their relationship?

Anonymous has been in a long distance relationship with her partner for two years now and recently they ended up in an argument, that seemed small to her at the time, but they didn’t speak for two weeks afterwards. 

She expected him to eventually call her to apologise as she felt like he was at fault but he never did. She then gave in and called him to try and fix things, but he said to her he was over the relationship and broke up with her saying it’s because they have a communication problem.

Anonymous’ problems with her partner started when things became transactional between them. He’s an e-hailing driver and she says every time he’d drive her somewhere he’d ask her to officially request a trip with him because chauffeuring is his work. 

Things have also been tense between them because he feels as though she doesn’t prioritise him in their relationship. This has brought many fights in their relationship and she says he tends to be vicious with his words when they argue, but then turns around and showers her with lots of love. 

She’s feeling drained by all this and doesn’t know if the relationship is worth keeping.