#AskAMan

Anonymous met a man online two weeks ago and things were going well and she met up with him at his place last week Saturday. While on this meet they went into his prayer room where they prayed and then he showed her a hut in the same room which he uses to praise & communicate with his ancestors. Anonymous says he invited her back this past Wednesday and they prayed in the room but this time around the ancestor responded and she could hear the ancestor’s voice saying he accepts her into the family. Anonymous says something is not adding up and she feels like this guy is too good to be true.

Anonymous and his partner have been together for 5 years and they have a child together. Anonymous also notes that they have a 6 year age gap between them. Anonymous says during the course of their relationship they ran into some financial issues and even ended up separating when his partner moved to a different city. Anonymous says they eventually got back together but things haven’t been the same since then and anonymous says they are constantly in conflict and he feels like his partner won’t hear him out. Anonymous is also feeling a bit insecure because his partner once cheated on him. Anonymous is not sure if the relationship is still worth it.

Anonymous and her partner have been together for 6 years now and they have a child together who stays with her parents. A few weeks ago her partner was supposed to fetch their son for a weekend visit  and her but delayed all of this because he was out with his colleagues. Anonymous brought it up and asked that he doesn’t inconvenience her but he turned it around and accused her of being nagging partner. Anonymous says he’s been repeating that sort of behaviour, gaslighting her and never taking accountability for his actions.

Anonymous broke with with her ex last year, however, in recent times she started having a thing with her ex’s friend and says they both want to be with each other but the friend is scared of getting together with her and making it official publicly because of his friend who’s anonymous’ ex. Anonymous says they are still friends.

Anonymous was seeing a guy last year and they broke up because the guy wasn’t treating her well, this is guy no.1. Then anonymous got back with her ex, guy no.2, and she fell pregnant in the early days of getting back together. Anonymous says guy no.1 was then trying to get back together with her and she shared this information with guy no.2’s sister who told her brother that anonymous had some relations with guy no.1 who even had food delivered to her while she was pregnant. They broke up because guy no.2 now suspected that the baby might not even be his. Anonymous says guy no.1 still wants her back and thinks the baby might be his.

Anonymous moved to a new place with her new born last year where she met a new neighbour and got into an “entanglement” with him. Anonymous says in the course of this she fell pregnant late last year with this man’s child and she hasn’t told him. She tried to terminate the pregnancy but she struggled to terminate successfully because of finances. She currently has two kids and doesn’t know how to deal with the fact that she’s now pregnant, she still hasn’t told the guy and also can’t tell her family. Anonymous is now considering adoption

Anonymous says he’s cheated on his partner multiple times during the relationship, his partner would forgive him and they kept on being in a relationship. Anonymous says he realised that what he was doing was wrong and affecting his partner badly so he decided to stop but it was too late. Anonymous says his partner is now cheating on him with someone else and anonymous says he saw, via texts, that she is having a good time with a new guy that she’s been having an affair with, anonymous’ partner is now saying she’s done with him, but he’s saying he’s struggling to let her go and wants to know if he should fight for her.

Anonymous says her partner went away to go see his family on Saturday but didn’t come back until Sunday. Anonymous says he’s done this a few times so she told him not come back and he said fine but he did come back and she hasn’t spoken to him ever since. Anonymous says she left him at the house and blocked him on the phone. Anonymous says her partner is now blackmailing her, threatening to share incriminating information about her with her boss.  Anonymous is not sure what to do. Anonymous says he blames her for ruining her life.

Anonymous has been with her partner for two years and she recently found out that she’s pregnant, however, shortly after that anonymous’ partner lost his job and it brought strain on the relationship especially because they are expecting. Anonymous says things were fairly fine however when anonymous’ partner received his severance pay he started acting weird and they fought about his partying which led to him moving out and living with his parents. Anonymous says he now wants to break up and says he can’t be with her anymore. Anonymous is not sure whether she should fight for this relationship.

Anonymous broke up with her partner last year after she found texts on his phone that indicated that he might be gay as he was in a relationship with another guy and his WhatsApp was filled with flirty exchanges with other men. Anonymous broke up with him without confronting him about what she found in his texts. She says she’s still in love with him and doesn’t know if she made a mistake by breaking up with him.