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Anonymous has been with her partner for 5 years and they have a child together. Anonymous says last week she went to her partner’s house and found him there naked with a girl in the house. Anonymous says her partner says he was naked because he was getting ready for church and the lady ended up in the house after a night of partying. Anonymous doesn’t know whether to believe him or not. Anonymous says it’s not the first time his suspected him of cheating as she once found lady’s underwear in his house.

Anonymous and her husband live with his family and the situation has gotten tricky. Anonymous says she wants them to move out of the house and find their own place with their kids, but her husband refuses and even told her to build her own house. Anonymous has since build a house for herself and her kids and her husband is not happy about this. Anonymous says her husband is now unemployed and she’s the only one working, but her husband is not helpful at even in taking care of their children.

Anonymous says her relationship was fine but she does sometimes go through some mental health issues that affect her mood. Her partner voiced that he struggles with her mood swings and anonymous says she took action to improve her behaviour and she thought everything was fine but it came up again and they broke up. Anonymous says she feels like she did improve and had one slip up but he’s not hearing her and says he doesn’t want to get back together with her. Anonymous doesn’t know if she should keep fighting for this relationship. Anonymous thinks he might still be hung up on his ex.

Anonymous and her previous partner have two kids together and broke up after 11 years last year because her partner cheated. Anonymous has since met someone else and they have been together for 6 months, the issue now is that her ex and father of her children says he doesn’t want anonymous’ new partner spending time with his kids and has raised safety issues.

Anonymous is married to a man who’s 16 years younger than her and says the issue in their relationship is her partner and his friends. Anonymous says she feels like her partner is always prioritising friends and partying and she can’t do it. She says he came into the relationship knowing this but it’s now becoming a challenge in their relationship. Anonymous says aside from that he is a great husband at home.

Anonymous and her partner have been together for about 18 months and she says it’s been amazing. Anonymous says in the last couple of months her feelings for her partner have suddenly changed and she doesn’t know why because he has done nothing wrong. and the relationship is fine. Anonymous doesn’t know why she’s feeling this way and wishes to go back to being in love with her partner again.

Anonymous says she cheated on her boyfriend last year and confessed what she had done because she felt guilty. Anonymous says months later he seems to still not be over the fact that she cheated on him and even got angry that she was being friendly with their neighbour’s guests over the weekend. Anonymous says her partner did cheat on her multiple times before but had stopped in the recent years of their 5 year relationship. Anonymous doesn’t know how to convince him that she won’t do it again. 

Anonymous says she’s been in the talking stage with a man for the last year. Anonymous says everything is going well and the vibe is good. But every time she brings up the conversation of them making things official the guy says she’s putting too much pressure on him. Anonymous is not sure if she can move forward being in limbo.

Anonymous and her partner have been married for 11 years and she says she earns more than him which is the thing that has now recently caused issues in their relationship. Anonymous says she’s supported her partner for many years but now he’s not coming through for her in her time of need. Anonymous says she needed money to fix her car but her partner instead lied to her and used the money on his children from a previous relationship to pay for school supplies and school fees. Anonymous says he lied to her about not getting his bonus and getting half a salary. She feels like he’s using her.