Aunty K asks Jamal how come he's so comfortable asking people questions and being the 'student' in conversations. 

Been on my mind after recently being home for Christmas and also meeting a bunch of new people in San Francisco. Got me thinking about how you're expected to act around old friends vs new friends. And how meeting new people / friends forces you into having new discussions and exploring new ideas. Lots of great insight by Aunty K as per usual. 

Funny how much more you can get done when you actually slow down and take your time instead of rushing to complete everything as fast as possible. It's easier, less stressful, and ultimately, you're able to get more done. 

Dr. Dre in the Defiant Ones mini series, when asked how he chose who to work with and who not to work with, responded with "if I feel f*cked up I leave". 

That's how the conversations starts and then it gets into trusting your gut, sharpening your intuition, and a bunch of other stuff in between. 

Book Aunty K references = https://www.audible.com/pd/Science-Technology/Scattered-Minds-Audiobook/B06XWB5K83

Travis Kalanick of Uber is advised by another Silicon Valley entrepreneur to stop relying on external validation so that he'll start relying on internal validation.

That's where the conversation starts and then it moves into talking about validation vs. approval and a bunch of other stuff in between.

Beating yourself up about little things that don't matter, and then beating yourself up about beating yourself up...that same old song. We chat about defaulting to gratitude in those situations, and in general, and how it can work well, but not all the time. Casual convo as usual, hope you enjoy.

This is the article we reference if you want to take a look: https://www.wired.com/story/how-mindful-meditation-can-save-us-from-the-tribal-abyss/

"I know I'm not in the right place when I feel like I'm playing catch up, when I’m thinking about how much work I COULD have gotten done instead of actually working, and when I'm comparing."

Lots of weird stigmas / negative connotations that come with 'anxiety'. There are really bad (chronic) cases of it that are much different than what we're talking about here. This conversation is all about regular, everyday anxiety and how we personally deal with it. No expert advice, just a couple people speaking on their own experiences!

This episode comes inspired by a thought from Derek Sivers that goes a little something like this: "Strong opinions are very useful to others. Those who were undecided or ambivalent can just adopt your stance. But those who disagree can solidify their stance by arguing against yours. Even if you invent an opinion for the sole sake of argument, boldly sharing a strong opinion is very useful to others."

Derek Sivers website: https://sivers.org

Link to page with quote: https://sivers.org/d1u

This episode comes inspired by a conversation between two wildly successful entrepreneurs and how they deliberately surround themselves with the 'right' friends. We pick that video/conversation apart and share our two cents. Also talk a bit about the Jay Z / New York Times interview from a few weeks ago, and how he says something similar about his friendships/relationships. 

Group Chat: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FI8Rt98lCPQ&list=PLggvbglvp_vUUybop9_nuohU5nuYf4cEj

Jay Z Interview: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XbuQAbG2AZ0