Aunty, Please!

This week, Lama and Shaya dive into the concept of virginity and the myth of hymens. We ask some hard-hitting questions that'll make you question everything you think you knew about virginity. We discuss the very controversial 'virginity testing' and its place in our society today, as well as the ethical, psychological, physical, and social implications of it. Be ready to think critically and confront your own biases about women and their sexuality. 

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***TRIGGER WARNING: DEATH, MOURNING, LOSS, EULOGIES***  We understand that death is a difficult topic for a lot of people to discuss. Although we may be comfortable discussing it, we encourage you to take note that this episode may be triggering especially if you've ever lost a loved one. Please listen with caution or at your own risk.

HELLO PUMPKINS & HAPPY SPOOK-TOBER! So of course, this episode is about DEATH & EULOGIES!! We get into how Shaya been writing her wills since she was 12 and how Lama thinks somehow we're all mostly insignificant. Where would you die if you could choose and what tagline would best describe your eulogy; we get into all of this in today's episode. ENJOY!

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Welcome to the first episode of Season 1 of SEXY CHATS. We explore the State of Sex Education in Malaysia from the struggle of creating urgency to implement CSE within our school system to navigating the still-taboo conversation of sex that is so evident in the way our educators speak and policies constructed.

5th NRC11 Nation Building Series: Sex education in Malaysia: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rhdPl87uIEI

Let's Talk about Sex Education | Olivia Richman | TEDxHartford: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LvjUGUOFWV8

News Articles:

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Hello, hello, we took a bit of a break there but we're back! This week, Shaya and Lama discuss motherhood and parenting! We explore what we would be like as parents and how we would navigate that. We also dive a little into gender roles and the necessity of having a mother and father as parents. Listen to Lama and Shaya talk a whole lot of nonsense for people who fear pregnancy and childbirth. Btw, do YOU know what 'cappin' means? Cause we didn't! 

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DISCLAIMER: Shaya's house was under renovation during the recording of this episode. We apologise for the background noise!!

In this episode, Lama goes on a few tangents and takes a small dive into slut-shaming, morality, and some of the reasons why we don't want to talk about the big elephant in the room: SEX.

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VICE Article: https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/xg834k/syed-saddiq-malaysia-youth-politician

Why Do We Fear Talking With Our Kids About Sex And What You Can Do About It?: https://educateempowerkids.org/why-do-we-fear-talking-with-our-kids-about-sex-and-what-you-can-do-about-it/

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Continuing from last week's sexpisode - we discuss Lama's struggle with vaginismus, both our struggles to NOT dissociate whilst having sex, how our virginity renews every new moon, and a special lil' herb.

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Round 1 of the sex questions has commenced!!! Lama and Shaya give brutally honest answers based on their own encounters. Brace yourself for the lessons they had to learn the hard way and they hope you do better.

Here are a bunch of resources that we have compiled for your curiosity!

Instagram:

Malaysia

@ohheymissking

@hellospotgirl

@womensaidorg → Women’s Aid Organisation

@awammalaysia→ All Women’s Action Society

@arrow_women → Account championing women’s sexual and reproductive right

@rraamalaysia → Non-profit Malaysian Sexual and Reproductive Health and Rights Advocacy Group

@sistersinislam → NGO advocating for women’s equality, justice, freedom & dignity

Pink Triangle Foundation http://ptfmalaysia.org/v2/ → HIV/AIDS testing & counselling, gender identity and sexuality, sex workers, LGBTQ+ community. DISCLAIMER: Does NOT provide free services, but is affordable!!

@standupmy → StandUp Malaysia (NGO against SGBV)

@queerlapis → Queer Lapis (online LGBTQ+ Community)

@gsakotakinabalu → Queer Collective based in Kota Kinabalu

Australia (Melbourne)

@chantelle_otten_sexologist Melbourne Sexual Health Clinic → Free testing and medicine for STD/I

@pleasurecentredsexology

General @thefatsextherapist -> non-binary enby brown sex therapist

FOLLOW US on Spotify at Aunty, please! to stay up to date with episodes as we post them and on Instagram @auntyplease Follow Lama @natashajlama and Shaya @atshaya5 on Instagram!

Round 1 of the sex questions has commenced!!! Lama and Shaya give brutally honest answers based on their own encounters. Brace yourself for the lessons they had to learn the hard way and they hope you do better.  

Here are a bunch of resources that we have compiled for your curiosity! 

Instagram:  

Malaysia 

@ohheymissking 

@hellospotgirl 

@womensaidorg → Women’s Aid Organisation 

@awammalaysia→ All Women’s Action Society 

@arrow_women → Account championing women’s sexual and reproductive right 

@rraamalaysia → Non-profit Malaysian Sexual and Reproductive Health and Rights Advocacy Group 

@sistersinislam → NGO advocating for women’s equality, justice, freedom & dignity 

Pink Triangle Foundation http://ptfmalaysia.org/v2/ → HIV/AIDS testing & counselling, gender identity and sexuality, sex workers, LGBTQ+ community. DISCLAIMER: Does NOT provide free services, but is affordable!! 

@standupmy → StandUp Malaysia (NGO against SGBV) 

@queerlapis → Queer Lapis (online LGBTQ+ Community) 

@gsakotakinabalu → Queer Collective based in Kota Kinabalu   

Australia (Melbourne) 

@chantelle_otten_sexologist Melbourne Sexual Health Clinic → Free testing and medicine for STD/I 

@pleasurecentredsexology  

General @thefatsextherapist -> non-binary enby brown sex therapist      

FOLLOW US on Spotify at Aunty, please! to stay up to date with episodes as we post them and on Instagram @auntyplease Follow Lama @natashajlama and Shaya @atshaya5 on Instagram!

Am I The Asshole? In this episode, Lama and Shaya dive into three real scenarios from Reddit to point out who was the asshole in each situation. We cover a range of topics about relationships, consent, having children,  respect, having your own peanut butter, and when it is okay to snitch on a friend! Come laugh with us and tell us who you think the asshole is?  FOLLOW US on Spotify at Aunty, please! to stay up to date with episodes as we post them and on Instagram @auntyplease Follow Lama @natashajlama and Shaya @atshaya5 on Instagram!