Authentically Kinky (formerly known as What Women and Other Wonderful Humans Want)

Opposite in every way possible, two friends navigate the world of things we’re all told never to bring up. Let’s get uncomfortable and figure out ways to stop the cancel culture mentality and keep friendships going while possibly disagreeing on all the most important things from relationships to religion, politics to pop stars, money to sex... we will embrace the uncomfortable and still find a way to laugh together at the end of each day.  

With specialty skills including aerial, pointe, fire, poi, & hula hoop it was only a matter of time before Kitty Kat DeMille ran away & joined the circus.  

A dancer all her life Miss DeMille has been practicing the art of Striptease since 2012  After getting her start with the Los Angeles based burlesque troupe The Dollface Dames, she traveled the country with the nationally touring dance troupes: Pin-Ups On Tour, Workin’ The Tease, and The Green Light District.  In 2016, she began dancing in strip clubs in Las Vegas and New Orleans.  In 2018, she became a professional Cuddler having worked with clients in cities such as Las Vegas, Los Angeles, Portland, South Florida, and the Bay Area.  

As a performer Kat is has entertained audiences all over the country (30 states) including the Sundance Film Festival, the Beverly Hills Hilton, the El Cid in Los Angeles, The Moth, The World Famous Magic Castle in Hollywood, LA Fashion Week, Dantes in Portland, Westside Comedy Theatre, Improv Olympic, Upright Citizens Brigade, The Hustler Club in Las Vegas, and the clubs of Bourbon Street in New Orleans.

Her work has been featured on and or at: BravoTV, BuzzFeed, The Huffington Post, Idiotest, Civilized, Wifey.tv, Datezie, Cannabis Talk 101, I AM & CO, Thrillist, E Online!, Funny or Die, Verge Magazine, The Daily Mail, The Willamette Weekly, The Santa Monica Observer, Imagine News, and The Funny Women Festival.  

Kat is currently the CEO of This Way Adventures, a Creative Media Company Focusing on Symbology, Sensuality, & Spirituality.  Projects include The Green Light District;  a cannabis based events and entertainment company producing events in the recreational marijuana states of the United States, BlingOSaurus; producer of large scale rhinestoned art installations; The Zelda Fitzgeralds custom crafted one-of-a-kind typewritten poetry on-site using nationally ranked poets featured at events in Las Vegas, Los Angeles, Ojai, Portland, Phoenix, and San Francisco; Edible Skinny a travel & food blog dedicated to making your life postcard worthy, and Sfumato  an existential vampire novel set at the Museum of Fine Arts in Boston. 

Lindsay Goldwert is the author of Bow Down: Lessons from Dominatrixes on How to Get Everything You Want (Simon & Schuster, January 2020) and the editor-in-chief of Money Date by Zeta, a online relationships and money magazine.


In 2016, she created SPENT, a podcast for the financially challenged that has been featured in The Atlantic, The A.V. Club, The Globe and Mail (Toronto), and others. She also hosted the podcast Teach Me How to Money, a top 100 Business Apple podcast, for Stash, where she served as the editorial director.


he has worked as a journalist for more than fifteen years at Glamour, Redbook, CourtTV, ABC News, CBS News, and Daily News (New York). Her writing has appeared in Quartz, AdWeek, Refinery29, Fast Company, Slate, and many others. She has appeared on multiple panels and podcasts to talk about women and finance, financial education, and more.


In addition to her years in journalism, Lindsay performed stand-up comedy all over New York City and co-produced a popular weekly show in her beloved neighborhood of Sunnyside, Queens. In 2009, she co-wrote the short film, “Nowhere Kids” which premiered at the Tribeca Film Festival.


Her other interests include reading books by dead authors, watching classic Hollywood films, and writing and solving mysteries in her head.

Jessie Sage is a phone sex operator, clip artist, and writer who covers sex work politics, relationships, and feminism. She is also the managing editor and co-founder of Peepshow Media and the co-host of the Peepshow Podcast. Her writing has appeared in publications such as The Washington Post, VICE, Men’s Health, Hustler, The Pittsburgh City Paper, The Pittsburgh Current, Cyborgology, and On Our Moon. She’s also made appearances in Hustler, Forbes, Rolling Stone, Healthline, Mel Magazine, NY Post, Wired, and more. In past lives she worked as a doula, and a university instructor teaching philosophy and women’s and gender studies. You can also find her on Niteflirt, Sextpanther, Manyvids, and Onlyfans.

I am a sex and intimacy coach and educator, Stanford lecturer, and author who has been examining the intricacies of sex and gender for the past 15 years. A champion for others overcoming shame and deepening pleasure, I help my clients experience the kinds of sexual interactions and romantic relationships they long for by teaching them how to create and sustain emotional, physical, and sexual intimacy.  

As a sociologist with a PhD from Stanford, I have a comprehensive understanding of the complex societal challenges that often lead to unsatisfying and disempowering sexual experiences. I draw on my extensive training in the Hakomi method of somatic psychotherapy as well as Somatica model of sex and intimacy coaching to support my clients to radically explore and courageously express themselves. 

I design workshops  and retreats and offer individuals and couples coaching to give others the tools to discover their desires and confidently pursue them. TurnON pleasure, intimacy and love!

Erica Lemke-Pembroke, MA, is a certified life coach, licensed, specialty-certified NewLife Story® wellness coach and sexual confidence coach. Erica has a master’s degree in community counseling, with a concentration in marriage and family therapy. She also holds a bachelor’s degree in kinesiology and a certificate in gerontology. She works with clients from a holistic perspective guiding them to connect with themselves – body, mind, and soul.
She has a passion for helping others transform their lives, particularly through dance, strength training and somatic awareness. This led to her work as a functional trainer and dance instructor. Her ability to tap into her sensuality and sexuality early on in her adulthood allowed her to translate her connection to authentic feminine movement with her clients.
She’s helped countless women understand how to recognize their authentic being and awaken their sensuality.
Erica became certified as a life coach through Coach Training Alliance, and deepened her studies in becoming a licensed, specialty-certified mentor coach and New Life Story® wellness coach through MentorPath®. This furthered her knowledge in neuroscience, strategic coaching, and positive psychology. Combining these disciplines with her passion for keeping one’s sensuality and sexuality integral to the whole person, Erica continues her mission of helping women become their most sexually confident selves.
Erica is a Californian, currently living in Utah. She enjoys intimate conversations about sex, adventuring outdoors, dancing daily, writing Haiku poetry and making memorable moments with friends and family.

Cleo Stiller a Peabody Award and Emmy Award-nominated journalist, author, television host and speaker. Her new book for Simon & Schuster titled Modern Manhood: Conversations About the Complicated World of Being a Good Man Today is a #1 New Release on Amazon and has been featured in Rolling Stone, Mother Jones, PBS, ABC News and more. Her television show Sex.Right.Now. takes a no stigma, no judgment and fact-based approach to conversations about health, gender and pop culture for which her team received multiple award nominations. Stiller is an Emmy Awards Judge for News and Documentary. Her work is widely covered by Fortune Magazine, The New York Times and more.  

Van is a proud nerdy kinky trans woman that resides in the capitol of Canada. She has been on HRT for almost 3 years and has had quite the journey from personal friendships, to even her family and forming a close relationship with her current partner. It has been over a year since joining the kink lifestyle and has been learning more about it and more about herself in any opportunity she can. It has helped her grow for the better for herself and to the people she has close to her.
Veronica is a kinky lesbian trans woman from the great white north who enjoys a wide variety of music, tea, and long walks on the beach. She was introduced to kink almost 2 years ago, and has loved what it has taught her about trust & communication.

I'm the epitome of Schadenfreude, though there is a lot more complexity to me than simply being a sadistic bitch. I have a dominant persona that somehow harmonizes with my own masochistic pleasures. Pain is a transcendent experience for me as a bottom, but as a sadist, pain is a vital need that fuels my soul. Over my decade-long journey in the kink world, I have slowly unveiled and accepted my authentic self, and my life is unbelievably blessed as a result. Because my life has been so enriched by kink, I believe in in giving back to the community that nurtured my kinky skills and knowledge. I teach workshops and I also mentor individually. So in a way, education is also a kink of mine. 

ApostropheRayne is a 15 year lifestyle who loves educating and sharing her experiences.  Most known for her skillful hands and inventive ways of putting a scene together.
Taming Tony is a STEM student and a kink lifestyle enthusiast!