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One of the main reasons happy relationships turn "bad" is because you've lost your sense of self.

You have lost yourself in the relationship and are desperately looking to your partner to do something about it.

Then you get bitter when they don't.

All because you've never learned how to find safety within, a solid connection with yourself, and confidence to speak your truth for the betterment of the relationship.

This is why in AwakenYou, we start with you because without a solid foundation of safety, connection, and self-esteem, you're never going to find the fiery intimacy you so desire. 

In this month's Marriage Masterclass, I am going to help you:

• Learn the difference between healthy, secure self-esteem and unhealthy, insecure self-esteem
• Discover the truth about two different types of narcissism people struggle with so you can find empathy instead of rebellion
• See how healthy pride in yourself is correlated with cultivating positive impact in the lives of others, including those you love the most 

Episodes referenced in this episode:
Ep 23: How To Process Emotions

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This week I want to turn your mind upside down regarding how you feel about your marriage. 

Feeling disconnected, boredom and low levels of passion after the honeymoon ends are normal.

Yes, it's normal. 

Nothing has gone wrong.

Well, something has gone wrong, but it isn't what is happening in your marriage now; it's what happened when you were madly in love.

This week, I am digging into making the problems in your marriage normal, and when you listen to what I suggest, I think you will feel much better about how you feel in your marriage and the possibility of creating something different.

Episodes referenced:
Ep. 60: Differentiation
Connection Episodes
Self-Esteem Episodes

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It's time to stop trying to prove who's right and who's wrong!

IT DOESN'T MATTER.

Nobody cares, nobody is keeping score, and if you are, please stop.

You are in a relationship.

A successful relationship means team thinking, not ME and YOU thinking.

When the boat has been rocked the best action is to apologize for your part instead of fighting for it.

FOR THE SAKE OF THE RELATIONSHIP.

This week I am digging into why apologizing is so hard, why a good apology is so important, what constitutes a poorly and effectively constructed apology, and then lastly I look at how you can work through a situation where the other person won't apologize.

Episodes referenced:
Ep 75: How To Create Healthy Boundaries
Ep 65: How Trauma Might Be Affecting Your Marriage

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It makes sense that you wonder if you'd be happier with someone else when your radar is focused on those characteristics that drive you crazy.

And this wondering has ZERO positive outcome. 

Either you decide it's time to leave and figure it out,

Or you fully invest in figuring out how to be happy right where you are.

UNLESS, of course, you're ok with being unhappy, because that is 100% an option, an option you choose.

This week I am digging into what happens in your mind, and your marriage, when you feel hopeless in your marriage and start wondering if you'd be happier with someone else.

Register for my free monthly Marriage Masterclass, where every month I talk about different ways you can change your marriage without changing your partner. In August I will be talking about Healthy Self-Esteem and why it's a fundamental priority to having a happy marriage.   

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CBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving Relationship

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More marriages fail because of this one thing.

Marriage is a funny thing. 

When you get married, you are so in love with your spouse that you will do almost anything to prove your love without any expectations or need for reciprocity. 

You suddenly realize that you're doing these "anythings" with a bit of anger and resentment. 

Maybe you even stop doing the "thing" in quiet revenge, hoping they'll figure out it's time to start recognizing you for all you are and do.

What you haven't learned is how to set boundaries in a way that has you taking care of your own needs while being true to yourself about why you are doing what you choose to do.

In this week's episode, I am sharing the highlights from this month's Marriage Masterclass on boundaries, you will learn how to:

💥 Understand what boundaries are and why you need to know
💥 Start seeing where you need to set boundaries for yourself
💥 Gain the confidence you need to start implementing boundaries and start feeling better

Learn where your responsibility ends and where your spouses begins.

View course on my YouTube channel.

Resources referenced:
Boundaries: Cloud & Townsend

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CBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving Relationship

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Start feeling more connected and loved in your marriage today with my free Reclaim More Love in Just 3 Days process. This process will have you learning how to shift your focus, in a healthy way, and nurture thoughts that build connection and transform how you feel about your marriage.

More resources and how you can start the process of Awakening(YourTrue)You and being the partner who creates your best version of what marriage looks like for you: https://christinebongiovanni.com/

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When you see your marriage through the lenses of disappointment, frustration, and dissatisfaction, it's what you are constantly looking for: why you're disappointed, frustrated, and dissatisfied.

Even when we do something to bring our marriage together, those lenses tend to make the "good" things filter away while left seeing all the ways things went wrong.

And it makes sense.

Our brains will search out proof of what we think and ignore or discount the importance of what is going well.

This is why the work you do to correct this is so important.

The pair of lenses you are looking through will determine how you show up and influence your marriage.

The way you show up when looking through the lenses of disappointment, frustration and dissatisfaction will not have you showing up as lovable, giving what you hope to get.

It will have you showing up in a way that influences your partner to show up with their defensive tactics.

This week, I talk about the part you are playing in how you feel about your marriage and how to change your role into something WAY MORE POWERFUL.

 Start changing the role you play in your marriage today.

Resources referenced:
Transcend by Scott Barry Kaufman
Abundant Love Mini-Course

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CBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving Relationship

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When you feel a sense of lacking in your marriage, it's like a horse with its blinders on; you are zeroed in on what it is you aren't getting enough of.

And when you are zeroed in on what you aren't getting, your brain goes wild with fear, anxiety, and suspicion about what it is you should be getting more of.

More help.

More attention.

More love.

More sex.

More support.

More time.

It has you showing up in, well, not a great way, more of a way that gets you precisely the OPPOSITE of what you want!

This week, I talk about why you're so dissatisfied and how to start getting more of that satisfaction you desire.

Start going from dissatisfied to satisfied in your marriage.

Resources referenced in today's show:
The Five Love  Languages

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This week I'm spending some time contemplating "taking a break" and the impact it has on our future life and marriage.

The more I contemplate, the better I understand why so many of you keep pushing taking a break to the bottom of your list of things to do.

The more I contemplate the fear of taking a break, the better I understand why couples are afraid to "take a break."

What exactly does taking a break mean to you?

Does it mean you are lazy, so instead you fill your time with doing things that won't matter at the end of your life? Things that won't help you get to know yourself better, things that would help you get to know your spouse better? 

Things that might even push the two of you further apart?

Do you trust yourself enough to know that taking a break doesn't mean you'll never get to the things that matter?

Actually, did you know that taking a break will help you better understand what it is you need to do to get closer to the things that matter?

Actually.

What if taking a break helped you see all the beautiful things you already have, giving you time to appreciate them while allowing you to see with more clarity what it is you want to step towards next?

If you think taking a break is only something lazy people do, then this week's episode is for you. 

Whether taking a break for yourself or from your marriage, it might be exactly what you need to do to create what you want to create.

Download my free Abundant Love Mini-Course to help you to start thinking, and feeling, differently about your marriage.

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Episodes referenced in today's show:
The Self Coaching Model
Creating Your Love List

CBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving Relationship

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The human brain is sneaky.

Your human brain is SO smart.

It's SO good at figuring out all of the problems.

But the problem with you trying to figure out all of your own problems is that your brain has a bias.

Your brain's bias uses everything from your past to protect you and produces evidence from what is happening around you to prove its perspective.

You convince your brain that it's time to work on you, and you start feeling better as you work on yourself. 

Your life seems to be lighting up.

You're doing more of the things you love doing.

Oh, and your marriage seems to be feeling more...what is it?

LOVING!!

So what does your brain do? 

It starts to put it all together and gets to work.

It decides to whisper in your ear that this marriage stuff, all those problems you've been having, well, they ARE all your fault!

Yikes.

Get ready for it because it's coming for you if it hasn't happened already!

You're in good hands, though, because I recorded this episode for you to play on repeat so you can remind that intelligent brain of yours that everything is ok.

You can remind that brain that it can let its guard down because you are moving full steam ahead.

Get that brain used to this new life you are creating for yourself by checking out this week's episode of AwakenYou in your marriage, where I help dispel your brain's thought that your marriage problems are all your fault.

Download my free Abundant Love Mini-Course to help you to start thinking, and feeling, differently about your marriage.

Register for my free monthly Marriage Masterclass, where every month I talk about different ways you can change your marriage without changing your partner. Next month we will be talking about The Secret To Changing Your Marriage Without Changing Your Spouse: Creating Better Boundaries, register now! 

More resources and how you can start the process of Awakening Your True You and being the partner who creates your best vision

CBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving Relationship

Unlock deeper connection in your marriage with my free guide, Daily Prompts for Deeper Connection with Your Spouse—get it now!

Start feeling more connected and loved in your marriage today with my free Reclaim More Love in Just 3 Days process. This process will have you learning how to shift your focus, in a healthy way, and nurture thoughts that build connection and transform how you feel about your marriage.

More resources and how you can start the process of Awakening(YourTrue)You and being the partner who creates your best version of what marriage looks like for you: https://christinebongiovanni.com/

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Conflict exists between all of us.

It doesn't need to be a problem.

But for most of us, it is.

We keep it bottled up, pretending it doesn't matter.

We argue for our perspective.

Or we just walk away.

There is a better way, and when we understand that conflict is normal and why it's there, we can start looking at it.

When we can take an honest look at it and find the courage to share what is going on for us, we can discover reconnection, leading to an incredibly richer connection than we had before the conflict.

This week learn how to understand your conflict better while stepping towards a deeper connection with your spouse.

Episodes referenced in this episode:
Ep 23: How To Process Emotions

Books referred to in episode:
Getting To Zero: Jayson Gaddis

Download my free Abundant Love Mini-Course to help you to start thinking, and feeling, differently about your marriage.

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More resources and how you can start the process of Awakening Your True You and being the partner who creates your best vision of what marriage looks like for you: https://christinebongiovanni.com/

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CBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving Relationship

Unlock deeper connection in your marriage with my free guide, Daily Prompts for Deeper Connection with Your Spouse—get it now!

Start feeling more connected and loved in your marriage today with my free Reclaim More Love in Just 3 Days process. This process will have you learning how to shift your focus, in a healthy way, and nurture thoughts that build connection and transform how you feel about your marriage.

More resources and how you can start the process of Awakening(YourTrue)You and being the partner who creates your best version of what marriage looks like for you: https://christinebongiovanni.com/

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