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Caroline Holke has always had a pretty good life on paper- happily married with 2 kids, a leadership position in corporate marketing, and plenty of good friends and family. But she wasn't quite happy. This led her down the path of self-discovery which started with examining her relationship with alcohol.  

Today she is a Drink Less Coach. She helps women get rid of the sh*tty parts of drinking and this doesn't mean that quit drinking. 

Most people focus on what to DO to cut back on their drinking, Caroline has a skill for helping her clients tease out what thoughts are driving their drinking in the first place. Addressing the habit at the root cause is what helps create sustainable change. 

She works with her clients 1:1 to develop a plan on how to unbelieve these limiting thoughts and create a life that they wouldn't dream of numbing out of. 

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If you've been thinking about cutting back on your alcohol consumption or even ending your relationship with it, then listen in to see what Caroline has to say about her process of doing so. In this interview we also talk about the impact alcohol can have on your marriage relationship, depending upon your reasons for wanting to drink.

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What is going on when you can't stop thinking that they seem to be more interested in someone, or something, besides you?

It's like a little spark that gets ignited by something they say or didn't say, or something they did or didn't do, and suddenly, there is a war going on in your head.

"I feel cheated."

In this week's episode, I discuss how to know if it's your intuition trying to tell you to be on the lookout or if it's just that you're afraid.

Afraid:
❤️‍🩹 that this is your fault
❤️‍🩹 that someone is getting something that you want (their love & attention)
❤️‍🩹 you haven't been a good enough spouse
❤️‍🩹 you're being deceived

Then I'll talk about who is cheating who when it comes to the emotional whirlwind that can erupt in your mind when you think your spouse has found something more interesting than you.

Episodes referenced in this episode:
Ep 65: How Past Trauma Could Be Affecting Your Marriage
Ep 66: Becoming Bold - Breaking Down Barriers

Books referred to in episode:
Brené Brown's Atlas of the Heart
Joan Rosenberg's 90 Seconds to a Life You Love

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After getting a 100% response to an Instagram story about how you don't understand why you can't do what you want to do in your marriage, I decided it was time to tackle the topic.

What are some of the things you do instead of following through on what you want to do?

Do any of these resonate?
🎯 Wait for them to show up in a way that makes you feel loved
🎯Nothing because fear of their reaction has you stopped in your tracks
🎯You don't want to "give in", it feels like being weak
🎯You push them away and act all bizzzy
🎯Complain and blame
🎯Concede because, after all, maybe you are the root of the problem

What's your flavor?

Doing something different than what you've been doing can feel awkward and uncomfortable, just like getting up in the morning to do that workout that you haven't done since pre-pandemic. "What's the use? It's really not THAT bad, I promise; I'll eat better today to make up for it."

It's the same with your relationship with your spouse. Making changes means being deliberate and taking baby steps.

You know what works even better? Getting yourself an accountability partner.

An accountability partner that doesn't judge you, has your back, and has the best insight to keep you moving forward. (oh, by the way, I know a really good marriage accountability partner ;-))

This week on the podcast, I share 3 reasons why you might not be doing what you want to be doing in your marriage and 1 big solution for making forward progress.

Episodes referenced in this episode:
Ep 65: How Past Trauma Could Be Affecting Your Marriage
Ep 66: Becoming Bold - Breaking Down Barriers

Books referred to in episode:
Brené Brown's Atlas of the Heart

CBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving Relationship

Unlock deeper connection in your marriage with my free guide, Daily Prompts for Deeper Connection with Your Spouse—get it now!

Start feeling more connected and loved in your marriage today with my free Reclaim More Love in Just 3 Days process. This process will have you learning how to shift your focus, in a healthy way, and nurture thoughts that build connection and transform how you feel about your marriage.

More resources and how you can start the process of Awakening(YourTrue)You and being the partner who creates your best version of what marriage looks like for you: https://christinebongiovanni.com/

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There is nothing about you that isn't BOLD!

You are vibrant, energetic and up for all of the BOLD life has to offer.

Am I right about you?

I have seen so many of you take bold steps in your life, from stepping out of your comfort zone by enrolling in dance classes to ending your relationship with that glass or two of wine you have at the end of your day to "take the edge off."

I have a whole new meaning to the words "becoming bold," and to make it a bit more approachable, I broke it down into 3 significant phases.

In this week's episode, I share those 3 phases to discovering who you are and how to become bold enough to step out in faith to live that life,

AND how those steps will bring you closer to that marriage relationship you want.

I have discovered that true relationship vulnerability cannot occur until you know yourself intimately. You can never know who you want to be in your marriage until you do this work.

I am daring you to step into phase 1 of becoming bold this week with me and begin the process of opening the window into your soul? 

You will never regret that journey, the view there is magnificent! 

Episodes referenced in this episode:
Ep 65: How Past Trauma Could Be Affecting Your Marriage

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What if the unexplainable could be explained? ⁣
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What if actions you take that you have tried over and over to stop taking could be explained in a way that has you showing up in ways you've only dreamed of?⁣
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It could be that trauma might be between you and you showing up in your marriage the way you want.⁣
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This week I share how past trauma responses may have you blocked or stuck not moving forward from where you are to where you dream of being. ⁣
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I share a bit of my journey to discovering this barricade in my marriage, how this discovery allowed me to put a sledgehammer to that barricade and had me taking even bolder steps into what I wanted in my marriage.⁣
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Bolder steps into showing up as the woman I dreamt of being, and as I share my journey, I hope that it will help you recognize something you haven't been able to see in yourself.⁣

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More resources and how you can start the process of Awakening Your True You and being the partner who creates your best vision of what marriage looks like for you: https://christinebongiovanni.com/

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I'm guessing you haven't considered grief an emotion you might be feeling when you think about your marriage.

Maybe you'd describe it more as depressing, sad, lonely, and disappointing.

This week I'd like you to reflect on the possibility that what you might be feeling is grief.

Why would I ask you to do that?

Because if you discover grief, things that seem confusing might start to make sense.

Maybe you are grieving the perceived loss of what you had once thought your marriage would look like.

The value in discovering grief over other emotions like hopelessness, frustration, and disappointment is that grief can also show you that something beautiful is available to you.

Grief allows you to see what is missing and what you want while allowing you to begin the process of opening up to creating something different.

This week's episode is all about the grief you might be feeling in your marriage. I share how this discovery can propel you into something even better than you had once imagined your marital relationship to be.

Episodes referenced in this episode:
Ep 23: How To Process Those Emotions

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More resources and how you can start the process of Awakening(YourTrue)You and being the partner who creates your best version of what marriage looks like for you: https://christinebongiovanni.com/

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Many of you have asked how coaching can help you, so this week I decided to record an episode where I share the top three positive outcomes of working together with me, your marriage coach.

I have received SO MANY benefits from working with various coaches that I know I will never choose to go without my weekly mind cleaning. Our brains are sneaky; they like to tell us little lies that get in the way of us achieving our best life, and a coach helps us see those obstacles.

I prioritize the housekeeping of my brain because the cleaner my brain is, the better I can serve my clients, and the same goes for you.

 
Our work together clears all the garbage between you and your best life, including your love life, that slows you down and wears you out. 

I help you see what is in the way of you getting to where you want to go and help you see a more effective path.

Listen this week as I share how your work with me will lead you to a marriage and life you've been desperately seeking.

Episodes referenced in this episode:
Ep 62: How To Change Your Marriage Without Changing Your Spouse

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In AwakenYou, we get to the work of changing how you feel about your marriage without changing your spouse. It is the most rewarding life work I have ever done, and I love watching the transformation that people like you are going through to achieve marriages you never dreamed possible. In this week's episode, I share three ways we do this work, so listen in and discover part of the process! Exchange your feeling of powerlessness for being powerful in influencing change in your marriage.

Episodes referenced in this episode:
Ep 60: Differentiation: Could Your Differences Be Your Marriage's Assets?

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Start feeling more connected and loved in your marriage today with my free Reclaim More Love in Just 3 Days process. This process will have you learning how to shift your focus, in a healthy way, and nurture thoughts that build connection and transform how you feel about your marriage.

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Getting to the place where you know down to your core that you have the power to change your marriage WITHOUT changing your spouse is a journey that starts with disbelief.⁣
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Stage one is where we feel completely powerless to change our marital dynamic because we believe our happiness is in our spouse's hands. When they change, THAT is when we will be happy, it's a deep, dark hole that we keep falling into, making our life miserable.⁣
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Stage eight is where we fully believe that being happy in our marriage is entirely within our own power to create. ⁣
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Change takes time, but change isn't impossible. If you've been taking steps to improve your marriage but often feel stuck thinking things will never change, please listen to this episode to help normalize your experience and keep moving forward. ⁣
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When you understand the stages of awareness while going through the work of changing habitual patterns, you will be able to measure your growth and see how the work you have been doing is truly moving you forward. ⁣

To celebrate my first anniversary I am giving away a $100 Amazon gift card this week! Review the show, send a screenshot of your review to [email protected] and I will enter you into my weekly drawing! If your name isn't drawn I will keep it in the lottery until April 19 when the giveaway ends.

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Register for my monthly AwakenYou Masterclass, if you liked this episode then April's masterclass is a MUST ATTEND because it's all about Creating More Connection! It's what we all want more of, we want to feel valued, appreciated, loved, and connected to the one we are married to but many of us get to a space in our marriages we're feeling empty. This month I want to help you break down the barriers that have you feeling disconnected so that you can start the process of reconnection.

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Start feeling more connected and loved in your marriage today with my free Reclaim More Love in Just 3 Days process. This process will have you learning how to shift your focus, in a healthy way, and nurture thoughts that build connection and transform how you feel about your marriage.

More resources and how you can start the process of Awakening(YourTrue)You and being the partner who creates your best version of what marriage looks like for you: https://christinebongiovanni.com/

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Do you feel a bit uninspired, bored, or indifferent when you think about your marriage? Does it feel like you're living with a roommate instead of someone who inspires you to live life to the fullest? ⁣
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Maybe you feel fully dependent on your spouse to make you feel good, or you may have swung to the other side of the pendulum and separated yourself into an independent relationship that has you holding back from what you yearn for in your marriage?⁣
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Healthy, intimate, interdependent marriages are where each spouse shares their inner selves and accepts their partner as they are, whether or not they agree with the other. It's called differentiation, and it's a concept to consider when trying to figure out how to bring more acceptance and love into your marriage. In this week's episode, I will shed some light on how to liven up a dying relationship just by considering your partner's perspective instead of rejecting it.⁣

Continuing my celebration of AwakenYou's first anniversary, I am doing a giveaway over the next two weeks, so listen and get yourself entered to win a $50 Amazon gift card!

Episodes referenced in this episode:
Ep 35: Emotional Regulation In Your Marriage
Ep 38: Self-Soothe To A Happier Marriage

To celebrate my first anniversary I am giving away a $50 Amazon gift card a week. Review the show, send a screenshot of your review to [email protected] and I will enter you into my weekly drawing! If your name isn't drawn I will keep it in the lottery until April 19 when the giveaway ends.

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Register for my monthly Marriage Masterclass, if you liked this episode then April's masterclass is a MUST ATTEND because it's all about Creating More Connection! It's what we all want more of, we want to feel valued, appreciated, loved, and connected to the one we are married to but man

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Unlock deeper connection in your marriage with my free guide, Daily Prompts for Deeper Connection with Your Spouse—get it now!

Start feeling more connected and loved in your marriage today with my free Reclaim More Love in Just 3 Days process. This process will have you learning how to shift your focus, in a healthy way, and nurture thoughts that build connection and transform how you feel about your marriage.

More resources and how you can start the process of Awakening(YourTrue)You and being the partner who creates your best version of what marriage looks like for you: https://christinebongiovanni.com/

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