Aww Shift

In today’s episode, our guest is Nada Lena, founder and CEO of Rise Up For You, Leadership and Career Confidence Coach, #1 Best Selling Author, and a 2x TEDx Motivational Speaker. With over 10 years of experience as a college professor and former top executive for an education corporation, Nada understands the importance of fusing education, empowerment, and leadership as she works with her clients and speaks to audiences worldwide. She has toured the world as a singer, has a Master’s degree in Administrative Leadership, and has coached and mentored close to 50,000 individuals around the world on self-empowerment, career strategy, and soft skills. And today, she is going to share with us how she rises after a dilemma and helped other people to be successful.

[4:58] Why should we listen to you?

I have a great balance of experience, hard work when it comes to schooling education. I think life experience and what we call street smarts are really important. I also think that showing discipline around a certain topic, and competency is important. And there's a combination of both.

[06:09] When was the time you're stumbling?

I used to be a performer. I used to tour around the world as a singer. I did that for about eight years. And when I got doing that got done doing that, I came back to California. I became an executive. And then I resigned and I let go of all that stuff because I got married, and I moved out of the country. And within two weeks of being married, my husband said he wanted a divorce. All I have is $100. And I just it was embarrassing and shameful.

[08:07] The second thing is leadership. I was a performer and an executive, with no idea about entrepreneurship, nothing about building a business. And with $100 I came back, and I just started building because I understood that I could figure out anything. So I might have lost everything externally. But I still had my health, I still had my mom, and my two brothers, and I still had my mind, and you can do a hell of a lot with all of that.

[10:50] Where do you think that strength came from?

The number one thing is confidence. Confidence is important. Our company is constantly researching this 82% of professionals today struggle from confidence. They say it's their number one challenge on 82% of the workforce. They’re saying that their number one challenge is confidence or confidence related. 

The second thing is gratitude and having a belief in something beyond yourself. When you have that you're able to recognize when things are out of your control. There are some things in life that you just can't control. You need to be able to bounce back and bounce forward.

[12:42] What do you think that you learn those moments?

The biggest thing I've learned, and I wrote my whole book about it is “what is success?” It's not just about making money and buying your dream home. All the things that bring positivity within yourself to are also important. The big moment for me while I was doing this was recognizing that success is not what society paints it to be sometimes, and you have to dig deep to figure out what it means for you.

[14:49] How did you stay that path?

It comes down to confidence. You have to value your voice more than other people's voices. It does come back to that tenacity.

 [16:40] Why it was important for you to have a clear mind?

I believe that we're all put on this planet to elevate the human condition to elevate humanity. But we cannot do that unless we start within first. And that's why I wrote the book rise it for you. I think it's important that we all can provide value to other people. But the most common mistake that we make is that we try to do that without doing it for ourselves first. And then we end up pouring from an empty bucket.

[18:31] What do you see becomes like the biggest initial hurdle for people?

There are two things: The first one is accurate self-assessment. If you can't see it within yourself, then it's hard for you to make that shift. And sometimes people don't understand that you can't see their verbiage or their thoughts.

[19:36] The second challenge is taking the action, experience, and then education. Those things can be unstoppable when you take action. The second biggest challenge is making the shift and changing the behavior so that you can create the transformation within yourself and other people.

[20:38] Who is your typical client base?

We have two divisions in our company. We have a corporate division, we work with small, medium, and large businesses that are struggling with company culture, and really need to help with their teams and their leaders and just enhancing culture on a people development level. Another half of our clients are working professionals that are leaders or business owners that are trying to move that needle and they don't know-how

[21:41 ]Where have you found a mistake where you need to rise?

It's empathy. I have to recognize that everybody has their journey. You have to be careful to understand that not everyone's motivated the same. Empathy has always been something for me that I have to work on. It doesn't come naturally for me.

[23:45] How do you address struggle in real-time?

I have an amazing tribe around me. And I have them assess me. I give them what I call a 24 point assessment, we use it on our clients. So the things that we give our clients. I'm constantly being assessed and getting feedback from other people. And I let them keep it anonymous if they want.

[25:45] What promise did God make to the world when He created you?

You really can reach your full potential. And it starts with you. And it starts with confidence. And I think that's what my gift is when I came to this planet.

Key Quotes

[14:18-14:24] “Success is not what society paints it to be sometimes, and you have to dig deep to figure out what it means for you.”

Learn more about Nada Lena on:

Website: https://www.nadalena.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nadalena_rise/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/riseupforyou

In today's episode, our guest is Shea Hillenbrand, an ex-Major League Baseball player, 2x All-Star, and now a successful entrepreneur. But by all this, it takes no one moment to learn the real story of these elite athletes. He's been through tough days in life, to the point that he had resigned at the beginning of his retirement.

[0:25] Why should I listen to you?

I'm transparent. I have the experience I have a heart of gold. There's nothing more than I want to do to use my experiences and stuff I've accomplished in my life.

[4:17] How to succeed again in Life.

I needed to have everything stripped from me and discover who I truly am. I like to help people rewrite their story, rewrite who they are. I'm so grateful for that to go to make it through the other side and rebuild and recreate a new belief system. I'm nothing outside of what I do. I'm nothing. Outside of who I am. I'm that guy to work, and I needed to get back to who I am.

[6:18] Breath away from death

Shea went to church when he had nothing left in his life. Even the religion, even being a Christian like was putting a band-aid on that wound. I was fighting that pain-driven game of being a professional athlete. I didn't know how to identify outside of that. Here lies a guy that's so many envies on the floor of his van. I had no idea how to fight. I was scrounging up change out of the cupholder of my van to feed my kids Little Caesars pizza each time I had them. My kids are going to school to tell all their friends.

[8:12] I'm nothing if I don't have baseball. And I was tired of fighting that pain-driven game. Shortly, the Lord brought his current wife into his life. She lifted him and helped him discover who he indeed was outside of baseball. You're not who you think you are.  You have gifts inside you. You've been given a second chance to figure out who you are.

[10:54] His wife Kristen is the first person ever to believe in Shea unconditionally and to love me unconditionally.

[12:11] Great lessons and Messages.

I want to be able to teach people how to be world-class performance habits. I want to help the guys who are stuck in that space of being good. I was slated to be a Hall of Fame Major League Baseball player, like $100 million. Everything I went through after baseball is what I needed to go through.  I needed to understand how to function and find fulfillment, find peace in the process, and live and become the most total version of myself daily.

[16:47] Trusting Yourself.

I couldn't trust anybody else when I played baseball when I was on top. And the only reason why is because I couldn't trust myself. I couldn't trust what I could do.

[17:50] He has to check himself for complacency. Being in a place of quietness is the biggest win I could ever achieve. There's nothing real could offer me; I'm on that mission of service, understanding how to master and grow, you're in charge of filling yourself up.

[18:35] Too many people now believe they are trapped. And on top of the universe, I was there. I found who I am, what happened to me. I'm still walking, trying to show people you can shift, breaking the bonds, the best version of me.

[22:19] What promise did God make to the world when He created you?

I've had a lot of challenges, struggles. And now I'm on my way back up to the top again. I've like God's promised people that he's coming. He's coming, and he's come full force to give you what I gave him to give me.

 

Key Quotes

[4:51 - 4:54] “People rewrite their story, rewrite who they are.”

[7:12 - 7:17] “Even the religion even being a Christian like was putting a bandaid on that wound.”

[16:52 - 16:54] “Our message is supposed to reach so many people's hearts.”

 

Connect with Shea Hillenbrand:

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/shinternational

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shea_hillenbrand

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/shea.hillenbrand

In today’s episode, our guest is Chris Van Vliet. He is a 4-time Emmy award-winning TV Host, Entertainment Reporter, and YouTuber based in Miami, Florida. Christ has traveled the world reporting from events like the Oscars, Grammys, and the Cannes Film Festival.  Chris’s broadcasting career began in 2005 after graduating from Wilfrid Laurier University with an honors degree in Communication Studies. His first on-air job was working as a news reporter and videographer for CHEX-TV in Peterborough, Ontario, before hosting the MTV-2 show “969” in Vancouver, BC, and then hosting “Inside Jam” on SUN TV in Toronto. And today, he is going to share with us how he built his company and becoming an award-winning personality. 

 

[10:51] Why should we listen to you?

My podcast is all about figuring out what makes great people so great. And I’m just fascinated by deconstructing the things that make people get to rise to the top. It is a lot of tips and tactics to get there. And my interviews are all about having these conversations and figuring out what you do in your life that I can steal from and apply to my own life to make myself a better person. I’ve had the great fortune of having conversations with Tom Cruise, Denzel Washington, Steven Spielberg, Meryl Streep, Oprah Winfrey.

 

[12:13] What was the path you took to get here?

I had a fisher price tape recorder, like with cassette tapes, and I would pretend to be a radio host. And that’s where it began. I just loved mimicking the radio hosts that I heard on the radio. And when I got into high school, I took a communication studies class where we would go out and film like a TV episode. Even though you got to be behind the camera and edit, and you got to run the camera. I loved being in front of the camera.  I love being able to elicit that response when you had a microphone in your hand. 

 

[13:37] I reached out to every TV station in my college town. Every radio station in my college town just sent them a random email. It said, “I’m passionate about broadcasting and Communication Studies major, can I come in and volunteer?” and see how it’s done in the real world. They didn’t need to, but one radio station brought me on on their street team. I handed out stuff at different events.

 

[17:14] What do you think best prepared you to be able to take that floor?

I think I just ran with it. I was not ready.  When I look back at those tapes from me being on the news for the first two years, it was not good at all. But I had the confidence that I knew that I put in the effort if I put in the time. Not unlike you and your football career 1% better, every single day is gonna make you that much better in the long run. I had a long-term vision of what I wanted to do. And I knew that I just stepped one or two right now. But I’d reverse-engineered where I wanted to be back to where I was now and when. 

 

[18:18] Do you have that kind of confidence in yourself?

I think you got to know that if you’re down right now or things aren’t where you want them to be right now, that doesn’t mean that that’s how it’s going to be forever. I think you know the kind of going back to the other story, about sending out these random emails maybe not hearing back, or maybe hearing no some people I think we’ll hear one known. 

 

[19:08] What are some of the behind-the-scenes stories, statements, comments that nobody would even know?

I’ve interviewed The Rock nine times. He promotes his films. I’ve interviewed him for you name any film he’s done in the last eight to 10 years. We’ve interviewed for it. The Rock was always at the top of my list, and they always say you shouldn’t meet your heroes button. But if your hero happens to be Dwayne Johnson, then you should meet your hero. We were backstage on Monday night Ross. So I got him in the setting that I was at. I got him in WWE. He has the star quality about him, where he is self-aware enough to know that he is the biggest star in the world and that this moment is important for you. 

 

[21:55] How do you think they got their man their operating levels our brain can’t even comprehend?

The first time I interviewed the Rock was nine years ago. The Rock in 2012 is not the same Rock that we see now. And I read a fascinating article about him in The Hollywood Reporter, and you think about like in the late 2000s like he was doing the Race to Witch Mountain, Tooth Fairy. Gameplan. 

These aren’t the movies we know the Rock for. And his career wasn’t going where the way he wanted it to. And he said he wanted to be Will Smith but bigger. His agent said, “No. You want to slim down. You want to be like you wanna be the Hollywood type.” Anyone that just doesn’t feel like me. He ends up switching agents. His new agent said, you’re the Rock, you’re this generation’s Arnold, be as big as you possibly can be. And you think about that shift that he made. He went from those roles to Fast and Furious Five GI Joe to Pain and Gain.

 

[24:33] What wakes you up when you get up in the morning right now?

My goal in life is to be pumped about what I’m going to do every single day and be able to go to sleep. I picked up my life in the middle of a pandemic and moved to Los Angeles last summer. I was hosting a great TV show in Miami called deco drive, and I was traveling the world interviewing a lot of the celebrities we listed. But I just knew I wanted more. I want more in every situation and one more from every single conversation. I want to be hosting a national TV show again. So, every single day, I’m putting in that work, and I love having these types of conversations.

 

[26:05] What promise did God make to the world when He created you?

I’ve had this insatiable drive. I’ve been all about goals and goal setting and like chasing after goals. I say vague goals get vague results. 

 

Learn more about Chris Vam Vliet on:

Website: https://chrisvanvliet.com/ 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChrisVanVliet 

Twitter: https://twitter.com/ChrisVanVliet 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chrisvanvliet/

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC-ULsqsUW_UB1F6i2rOo_uQ 

In today’s episode, our guest is Jason Marc Campbell, the host of the Impact at Work interview series and Superhumans at Work, a Mindvalley Podcast. He has a background in investment in real estate, private money collection, internet marketing, and sales. His forthcoming book on sales shows how moving you from terror to love will add plenty to yourself, the friends and even raise the trend for all.

 

[5:18] Why should I listen to you?

People will listen to me because they find me interesting. But if you look back at the conversation, I’ll be that guy who asks many questions; it will probably not reveal that much about myself.  But that gives a clue as to how to usually communicate if you want people to have, you know, interest and be able to relate to you is to be able to ask some genuinely curious questions.

[10:29] Stages of Growth

In America right now, there are many these culture wars, like people that are like entrepreneurial hustle culture are against these people that are like pacifist or like trying to create equality for all. You have to clear that caricature. You need to get rid of that caricature to make your cause more impactful.

[12:47] Ways in monetizing

We love to be sold, but not in a way we don’t like. A lot of sales happen from a place that they don’t take the time to understand. We are paralyzed today by the Paradox of Choice. We’re looking for someone that we can trust that understands us, he says. That would be ideal; it’s attainable, it is reachable, and there’s a way to make sales that way.

[14:58] Selling with Love

Get clear on the impact, start with the effects you’re going to make for the buyer, then think about the impact on the world. The process of selling the understanding of human psychology is a hell of power, but it comes with responsibility.

[15:28]

I love speaking to the greens when it comes to those levels of consciousness. It’s a very, very powerful power. It’s a life-changing power, and it’s not just about making money; it’s about making a difference in the lives of other people and the world.

[16:01]

I tell people there are five loves in selling, and the first love is, love the impact. And if you start with impact first, this puts you in a powerful space because a mistake that most people make is they only, which is like a very personal selfish goal.

 

[18:49] Importance of Impact.

The goal is to make as many people have beliefs that will be cracked just a little more. The more the world is filled with people with those crack shells, the more people will start solving world problems. It’s not only going to make it better for my children but also the average children worldwide. When we start seeing people think differently, it’s going to get you there.

[20:08] Love the buyer.

I love the buyer to understand how much you spend time getting to know the people you sell to. It is where your work around the personas is essential. The simple, powerful exercise that I love walking people through is whatever it is that you’re selling.

[24:03] Get your knowledge.

Study all of the strategies so selling is not manipulative. Still, intuition, learn a vocabulary that people need to grasp because they will get the real meaning they want to deliver. 

[24:56] Love Yourself.

It is where you have to have compassion for yourself no matter where you are on the journey. We’re always doing our best regardless of where we’re starting from. Stop judging yourself and thinking that you need to sell in a certain way. Your style is wonderful, and you’ll keep learning.

 

Key Quotes

[8:18 - 8:21] “Finding things of value in providing that value.” 

[12:41 - 12:43] “Everybody loves to buy. Nobody likes to be sold.”

[14:36 - 14:40] “There’s going to be a big part of you that is missing if you’re not embracing this beautiful art of selling.”

[16:23 - 16:29] “Just think about the impact you make for the buyer but take a moment and think about the impact you’re going to make for the world.”

 

Connect with Jason Marc Campbell: 

Linkedin: https://id.linkedin.com/in/jasonmarccampbell

Website: https://podcast.mindvalley.com/tag/jason-marc-campbell/

In today’s episode, our guest is Dr. Daria Hamrah. He is an expert in cosmetic and reconstructive procedures of the head and neck and has been engaged in the oral and maxillofacial surgery field for the past 15 years. He is one of few maxillofacial surgeons to be fellowship trained in Facial Cosmetic Surgery and to hold a license to practice Facial Cosmetic Surgery in the state of Virginia. He is also an author, public speaker, and beauty blogger and has published and written columns and articles for the Washington Post.  And today, he is going to share with us how he got inspired and how he created a foundation to help others.

[4:45] Why should we listen to you?

I love talking to people that I meet for the first time. I think you can always learn something from talking to someone. And you asking me the question of what you're going to learn from me. I think a conversation can go anywhere. Sometimes you might not learn anything. It depends on who you talk to or how deep that person is or thinks.

[10:10] Where did this prototypical guy come out of?

It was just my desire to help people and make sure they are happy about themselves. You got to trust the process. You got to follow what you're passionate about. And then at the end, you're going to reach what you love doing because the whole time you follow your passion. The reason why people don't get there a lot of times is that they get impatient.

 [11:23] I don't even know where are the others are in their state of mind. I went back to my childhood, kind of figure out where it started. It just that inner drive or passion, drove me to what I'm doing today. In addition to trying to make people happy.

 [15:07] How did you decide to proactively do more to serve people?

Nothing I do is planned. I don't sit there and plan what could I do next year, it's almost to a point I got a phone call from an old friend, and he asked me for my help. And that's how the foundation started. I believe the universe calls us all the time. We choose whether we're going to listen to the caller.

[19:42] What are the things that you think humanity could do that could be vastly life-changing?

I think not to worry too much about the future and just trust the process. I always tell people life is a process. 9 out of 10 things that you worry about never happen. Sometimes they don't trust themselves. This lack of self-awareness. I always tell people to spend a little time with themselves and find out what are they afraid of.

 

[28:59] What promise did God make to the world when He created you?

There's always someone there for you. You have to keep your eyes open. You're never alone.

 Key Quotes

[22:41-22:44] “If you don't spend enough time to look into yourself and see what you're passionate about. You will never find what you love.“

Learn more about Dr. Daria Hamrah on:

Website: https://www.novasurgery.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/nova.dariahamrah

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-daria-hamrah-0722783b

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drhamrah/

In today’s episode, our guest is Rocio Perez, an Inclusion and Diversity Thought Leader and Trainer. She stimulates the opportunity to allow clients to compete and develop predictable strategies that are effective, leading, and marketable.  She will help you become an even greater leader when you discover and apply your hidden talents through recognizing, harnessing, and strengthening existing capabilities as well as developing new ones. And today, she is going to share with us how she will unlock your talent potential.

 

[07:37] Why should we listen to you? 

People listen to me because they also find that they can TEDx the results in a very short period.  I have the courage, and I have the vision. I know my path. And I know what I’m passionate about. And here’s where I start my journey. And that’s when people are speaking from the heart, just like you when you speak from the heart. People listen because they hear the authenticity.

[09:49] What exactly is your day-to-day operation? 

I start with a journal. I have my journal, and I walk through the 21 step process. Who do I choose? To be today, and that’s my first question. And for instance, I have my journal and right here to me to do to create. The first question I asked myself this morning is who I choose to be, I choose to be later on. 

[13:14] How did you get through all this?

I was unfulfilled. I woke up one day, as I turned 34, and realized that I had a brain tumor. I had to be there for me because there was a sense of something missing, and then I discovered it for myself as well. Same things that I’m sharing with people I must do for myself to a different level. I didn’t hear that, and I was amazed. I didn’t hear that “we’re proud of you.” I didn’t hear that “you’re wanted” or “loved.”

[17:01] How can someone walk that journey?

It took me a long time to be transformed and become who I am today. If I choose to become someone new, I will choose someone different and more empowered. I’ve had people who couldn’t even sell something in a real estate home. Suddenly, they’re selling three homes in less than three months, and they’re the very person they were resentful for. 

[20:57] What if somebody continues on the pathway they currently are on?

3% of people in the world are the ones who do that. I come across many individuals who come to me and like our CEO and say, “What do I do?  This is not what makes my heart sing.” They make it to what’s called a midlife crisis. We’ve all been there, and some of us are earlier than others. Some of us get through a midlife crisis a few times throughout life.

 

[27:08] What promise did God make to the world when He created you?

I am here to help you let your world. 

 

Key Quotes

[20:12-20:16] 

“Who I am today is not who I need to be to become, who I want to be true.”

 

Learn more about Rocio Perez on:

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rocio-perez-authorkeynotespeakertrainer

In today’s episode, our guest is Joe Hawley, a former American football center who played for the Atlanta Falcons and the Tampa Bay Buccaneers of the National Football League (NFL). Hawley spent eight years in the NFL and retired after becoming a free agent in 2018 to pursue a passion project. He donated most of his belongings to Metropolitan Ministries of Tampa Bay and lived out of a custom diesel cargo van as he explores the country with his rescue dog. And today, he is going to share with us how he transitioned from being an NFL player to live out in a van and the journey to becoming a father. 

[07:28] Why should we listen to you?

I try to practice being as present as possible. What I’ve learned a lot about is trusting. I learned to trust things when I was on the road. When I was playing football, I created this identity. I played football for 16 years, eight years in the NFL. And when the decision finally came for me, I felt this calling to walk away from the game. There’s so much that goes into performing at such a high level all the time. The physical trauma, emotional and mental stress, and then I finally decided to walk away, which led me to decide to give away all my things to charity. 

[09:32] I bought a van, and I traveled the country trying to figure out who I was without the story that I’ve created for myself. These are the transitions and opportunities to reshape the story of who we are. I genuinely believe that courageous people step into their calling and dare to step into the unknown. 

[11:06] What was like the internal battle to do that?

It was a challenging experience. My fiance was not supportive of my decision. Sharing the decision with the person that was supposed to support me and love me became a problem. She worries if we had enough money. The decision isolated me, and it made me feel alone. I didn’t have a lot of support. I didn’t feel grounded anywhere. 

[12:47]

The most beautiful part about being on the road is constantly going into the unknown. It forces you to be acutely present at the moment as it unfolds in front of you.

[13:44] What’s the new transition feels like?

It was very divine timing for me. There is a lot of processing that goes into grieving, just like I did with football. There’s this grieving process and letting go of this old story of who I was. And I have this beautiful child to take care of and my wife. It’s tricky to process and work through that. 

[15:35] I am stoked about being a dad. It allows the opportunity to experience growth that I think I can’t get anywhere else. I think becoming a father is the next step that you can’t be fully prepared for. 

[17:53] What was the initial spark for this idea?

There’s nothing that prepares you for all the unique challenges in your life. That led me to decide to travel the country with my van and find out who wasn’t when I was on the road. Meeting a lot of people, and joining different mastermind communities, had a profound impact on myself-development. 

[22:38] What lesson is doing this teaching? 

The journey of an entrepreneur is just a self-development journey. It challenges us to step up and grow. They’ve done it in their entire lives and work through that stuff to focus on what they can do. Providing that support and that container for them to reach those levels and figure out who they are and what they’re meant to be doing.

[25:42] What promise did God make to the world when He created you?

To be a man that has a big heart and is of service.

Learn more about Joe Hawley on:

Wikipedia: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Joe_Hawley

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/joe.hawley

Twitter: https://twitter.com/manvandogblog

In today's episode, our guest is Kate Eckman. Her mission is to see the people truly she's with, whether her best friend, her parents, niece, or a stranger at the coffee shop. She feels that everyone needs to be heard. 

 

[0:55] When you go back to stages in your life that became important to you, did you experience some form of that?

 

I had a forward-thinking profession. For 17 years, I was a professional swimmer. As a result, I grew up to be a jock. I used to be an athlete. Since I was excelling, I felt pretty well-regarded as an athlete. People notice you when you're good at something, and they want a bit of it. So what if you're not the champion? What about when things aren't going too well? And I've seen that in several customers or colleagues who were professional players before their careers ended. 

 

[2:29] I believe that we all make decisions that aren't necessarily in our best interests, depending on who we are. We can get dragged into social norms we don't believe in, and I haven't done so. And I guess it's perplexing for some people that I don't make the same choices as anyone else.

 

[3:52] How did you kind of transition into what you do now?

 

I lost not one but two dear friends to suicide. And one of them was my ex-boyfriend. One was a best friend with who I was romantically involved on and off for ten years. So really, two of the loves of my life, and to call it a wake-up call is such an understatement. And I found myself in the middle of time square one morning, having a massive panic attack about six weeks after Sam died and just overcame with grief hadn't allowed me to fully deal with it because I had work to do and money to make, and people to impress. 

 

[4:54] Men are taught to bury their feelings, suppress their emotions, and the name of quote-unquote, being a man. And it's something that I want to talk about to help release the stigma, to normalize what it means to struggle or suffer or have a bad day, and to reach out for help and that there's no shame in that.

 

[6:15] What is it that you do when you look back at those moments?

 

We all have a decent concept of what we ought to do mentally. The practice is taking it from your head down to your heart and implementing it into your body. Then, move to your hands from your heart, where you can bring these techniques, values, and exercises into action. So, for me, it was a case of putting my money where my mouth is. It wasn't any sweet little fun that had to be good to look after my well-being, a sink or swim situation. And I knew that coming up with these activities was critical to my future. And so then, in our culture, it's all about that grind and hustle and makes it happen. What I've understood is to be still and quiet on the inside. 

[10:55] Five P’s

 

1. Presence. Just being all there. Showing up as you mean it.
2. Patience. 
3. Purpose. Your purpose is your why. Why is this important to you?
4. Preparation. When we are prepared, it increases morale which leads to improved outcomes. 
5. Practice. You just show up and everything is going to work out. 

 

2 extra P’s

• Pause. Goes back to spiritual fitness where instead of reacting right away to that nasty comment, the rude email, the upsetting situation, the person who cuts you off in traffic, you take a moment and pause, and it really is about getting still and being non-reactive.
• Be a Person. It is about embracing our natural, messy human tendencies to want to obsess, to want to try to control. Just be a freaking person, show up and have fun for and forget the rest.

 

[15:49] I've learned, especially writing and editing this whole book during COVID is that we, as humans can do whatever we decide is important enough.

 

[16:32]  When's the book coming out?

 

April 27th. 

 

[17:11] Who's the best candidate to actually read this book?

 

The best candidate to read this book is anyone who can read. Because we are busting through fewer real roadblocks here that everyone experiences, I'm talking about emotional gravity, everyone has some extra emotional pounds. They need to shut off fear, doubt, and insecurity, stress, overwhelm exhaustion. Pick your battle. Everyone has something that they're facing. I think everyone is struggling, and this is my book like yours. It's a fun, easy read. It's so many entertaining stories. And then a lot of just practical exercises and meditations.

 

[19:07]  What promise did God make to the world when he created you?

 

Life is meant to be fun. We need someone to remind everyone to bring out their infectious and enthusiasm and show up in our lives with joy. And we're meant to be here, to love ourselves, love each other, and be the sunshine. My mantra is I am the sunshine. So God was like, if you're having a rainy day, I'm bringing this woman to you to bring the joy.

Key Quotes:

 

[1:15-1:23] “When you're really good at something, people see you because they want a piece of that. But what about when you're not the champion? What about when you're not doing well?”

 

[2:29-2:39] “I think we all make choices that aren't always what we really want to do based on who we really are. We sometimes get sucked into societal standards that we don't really believe in.”

 

[7:42-7:57] “You might have to look at yourself and see things you don't really want to see. You have to feel things that are unpleasant. You have to forgive yourself, you have to forgive other people. You have to acknowledge those times you got it wrong and not shame and blame yourself.”

 

[8:53-9:11] “It's never going to be about having the hot partner, having the hot body, having the mansion, having the cars, all that is nice. It really is that inner confidence and strength and resilience that we need to build.”

In today's episode, our guest is Amy E. Smith. She is a life coach, communication expert, and hypnotherapist. Her primary focus is on helping people find their voice and speak up for themselves. She is also the owner of The Joy Junkie, where she teaches high achieving women how to speak up for themselves by accessing their confidence and self-worth. Today, she will share what it's like to work with her and a brief discussion about hypnotism.

 

[7:10] Why should we listen to you?

I've been through various experiences in my life that have driven me to do the job that I do today. I believe that people who work in the personal growth field should get a solid education and career. So I have a slew of various certifications and credentials. 

[7:46] 

I've been working in this space for almost 15 years. There's tenure, life experience, and actual academia behind the work that I do. I feel very strongly about having a scientific basis for personal development. 

[9:14]

I'm skilled at breaking down substantially bigger ideas or things that seem awkward or nonlinear into very quantifiable bits and measures and making them implementable.

 

[10:29] When you start talking to people, how do you communicate these complex ideas down at a simplistic basis form?

We express abstract concepts using metaphor. In hypnosis, there is a breakdown between the conscious and subconscious faculties of the mind. Without digging too far into the idea of the psyche, there is a slight barrier between conscious and subconscious. 

[11:13] 

When I describe the vital element of the mind, also known as our "inner critic," it behaves essentially as a guard dog. As a result, it keeps everything in sync with the ingrained things in their subconscious mind.

 

[13:09] What actions do you have people take once they’ve kind of put the guard dog asleep?

You still have to have radical personal responsibility in what you do day in and day out in your actions. But hypnosis can help make those actions more automatic.

[13:56]

Our patterns and values are stored in the subconscious mind. Logic, willpower, reason, and logic are all in the conscious component, accounting for just 10% of the total. That is why willpower alone will not get you to the desired destination if you do not innately believe something in your subconscious. Those two things must be in sync.

 

[16:23] What do you do to get people to take the step to get into the work that you know will improve them?

I have only added hypnosis to my bag of tricks over the last two years. I've always been working with the conscious faculty of the mind through coaching. One way that we do that is through repetition and creating things that become a habit. 

[17:00]

Our examples of hypnosis have been incredibly theatrical and hyperbolic. We haven't seen in a large swath of media or models of hypnosis and the power it can create. Still, if we understand what is happening scientifically, that is so much more reassuring and calming. 

[17:33]

Many people, when they’re praying, they are in a state of hypnosis. Meditation is a state of hypnosis.

 

[20:31] Can I access the theta wave intentionally while sitting at home?

Yes, that’s what hypnosis is. That’s where I take somebody who’s not going to sleep necessarily, and we just get you to that theta wave. Everybody experiences things very differently. Some people have Hypno-amnesia, where once we count them out back into more of an alpha brainwave state, they don’t remember, and sometimes, people remember absolutely everything.

 

[23:02] What does it look like to work with you?

I speak, but I don't have a book. I have a proposal that I'm working on. I talk about two significant components. One is the internal piece, which is genuinely believing that you are enough. It's your worthiness and belief that you deserve the things you want in your lifetime. And the other is the external piece where I help you stand your power. 

[24:29] 

There are many situations in which we are not taught. For example, we are not told how to persuade adult children to leave the house or convince our families that we do not believe in the religion in which we were raised. There are so many things about which we haven't been given words.

 

[26:30] Why do you only work with women?

I used to work with anyone and everyone. I did have a couple of men in my program, and it just completely shifted the dynamic. I was craving more of a sisterhood.

[28:26]

I'm optimistic about some of the younger generations that seem to be more open. There's so much more awareness around mental health and the access that we have to social media.

 

[29:50 Why do you think that you are on this planet here?

To genuinely help people believe that they matter so that they can start advocating for themselves so that they can start speaking up for themselves.

31:30

I feel so convicted that women need to believe in their worth. They need to take a stand for it and not apologize for their power.

 

Key Quotes:

[9:08-9:11] “I think we need to own our brilliance in a lot of ways.”

[21:33-21:45] “You can’t be made to do anything that you don’t want to do. You can’t be made to do anything outside of your own free will and desire for your life.”

Learn more about Amy E. Smith on:

Website: https://thejoyjunkie.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/thejoyjunkie/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/thejoyjunkie?lang=en

In today’s episode, our guest is Simone Knego, author of the best-selling book, The Extraordinary UnOrdinary You, a wife and mother to six children, and an entrepreneur. She details her trial by adopting three of her six daughters, her climb on Mount Kilimanjaro, and all those amusing, frightening, and inspirational tales that have come along the way in her latest best-selling novel, The Extraordinary UnOrdinary You. Simone holds both the Accounting Bachelor and the University of Florida Master of Accounting and is also a CPA member.

[5:19] Learnings from Marriage

You can choose to give up or not. There are moments that everybody fights and disagrees, but you cherish the moment you have with them.  The most important part of marriage is the commitment to each other—as a family.

[6:40] Splitting time to be successful

For a long time, I struggled to get through things. But what I realized is that prioritization makes a difference. And the things that you don’t finish today, they’ll still be there tomorrow.

[7:34] Developing Yourself

I struggled for a long-time, seeing value in myself looking at what I was doing. Raising good humans is one of the most important things we can do. I didn’t see it like that. I saw it as if I’m not making a difference at all.

[10:22] Choices in Life

I used to talk about myself negatively. I have a choice to be happy or miserable. I changed how I talk to myself and the things I say to others about myself.  I define success as happiness—it’s a choice.

[12:52] Experience from adopting kids

I focus on not allowing her kids to be “an island.” You need to have open conversations with them about the world around us and let it and ask them to talk about how they feel and experiences they had and find you know their self-esteem being proud of who they are. Ensure that we had this conversation about seeing color—because that’s part of who you are.

[17:16] Sharing thoughts with kids

Get them out there to talk about everything that you need to talk about. It is important to share stories because you can change someone’s mind. You can change the world; you can genuinely and positively impact the people around you.

[18:57] Triumph as a parent

Being friendly and with empathy, our family is built on these aspects. We are all human. It’s just the most important thing for me, and I want my children to be decent people and be raised as good people.

 

Key Quotes

[8:10 - 8:14] 

“The little things you do every day are to inspire other people.”

[10:28 - 10:31]

 “I have a choice to be happy, or I have a choice to make myself miserable.”

[16:08 - 16:12] 

“Seeing the world as a big place and wanting to venture out into the world to see more.”

Connect with Simone Knego: 

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/simone-knego-7965701a3 

Website: https://simoneknego.com