Aww Shift

In this episode, our guest is Simone Knego. As we go through the conversation today, it's not just about this idea of an ordinary year by the thing. It's more of how do you live a cool life. Cause that's what Simone has been doing. Not only she did it herself, but she also has kids that I'm sure lucky stinking kids as a mom that's out doing these crazy cool things and six of them, this means putting goodness into the world.

[2:45]  Why should we listen to you?

Because I always have a lot to say. I'm always welcoming. And because it makes my kids laugh because it is something that I always do. I sit down next to somebody start a conversation. And honestly, the best things that I've learned and the best conversations of my life have been with strangers.

[3:31] What are some of the pivotal, or might've called pinnacle things that you teach your kids that you also teach the world?

One of the biggest things I always say to them is the worst that someone can say is no. Always ask the question. You never want to go around doubting yourself. You want to believe in yourself. So we've focused on that.

[4:58] One story where you're like this small thing led to this big thing that most people wouldn't even realize as a connection?

I think it probably led to me writing my book. I am sharing my story with other people, talking about my family, life, experiences, and people saying to me through my self-doubt.  That, Hey, you're truly inspirational. You should write a book, and I'm like me, I'm just ordinary me, but that was a pivotal moment in time for me where I realized, we're, I'm an ordinary girl, but we have these extraordinary pieces inside of us that truly impact the people around us.

[6:15] How's the book kind of built around that concept

I think it goes back to me saying like, "I'm just an ordinary girl."

[9:00] How did your trip to Kilimanjaro even come to be a thing that you decided to do?

It was a moment in time. A friend called my husband and said he had climbed it the year before he asked my husband, Hey, they're putting a group together again this year. Would you be interested in going? And of course, I say, the way he told the story, it was one, two, three, no, thank you. A lot of people would say to me, well, I could never do that. And I'm like, but do you want to do that? They're like, no. So it's not that you couldn't do it. You don't want to do it. That's different. It was great because it was not only was it a challenge, but it was also mixed with philanthropy. So we were raising money for the Live Strong Foundation, and there are 16 of us that traveled as strangers.

[10:58] How hard is that mountain to climb is like the scale of 1 to 10

For me, probably a 10, but it's not a technically challenging climb. You don't have to wear crampons. You're not going across like ice fields. The hard part is that it's very long and it's high elevation.

[15:23] What are you excited about this next year?

As the kids get older, it is taking them on more challenges. This so that they kind of see, okay, I can do this. And it's fun to do it together. So those are some of the things that get back. 

[17:20] As you have your speaking business, what have you experienced?

It goes back to sharing all parts of your story. I think it's really important when I do any kind of public speaking that I'm sharing with people that they're not alone, like the things that you know, that we are all. 

[21:39] What promise did God make to the world when he created you?

That the people around me would feel kindness and compassion and that if they ever needed someone to talk to, I would be there. 

Key Quotes:

[9:39-9:43] "So it's not that you couldn't do it. You don't want to do it. That's totally different."

In today’s episode, we have invited Tanessa Shears. She is into the nuances of biohacking; to bottle your brain and body as an entrepreneur and be more productive. 

[6:07] Why should we listen to you?

I speak with passion and energy regardless of the topic. I love to find out about people. I love to walk the walk, talk the talk. Therefore, I need my energy to be so strong that it invites other people there.

[7:02] How did you land in the space of wanting to look at bio-hacking your brain for entrepreneurs?

I opened my business as a personal trainer, and it grew to six figures quickly while loving what I was doing. You’ll learn more, and you get more results for your clients. I can help people by learning how to share my energy from what I experimented with myself first, then my husband. 

[8:01] How long have you been doing this?

I was an Aquafit instructor in 2008, making my moves with an eighties music on the side of the pool deck. By naturally going to a group fit and interpersonal training, I decided to open my business. In 2014 it had just been growing and evolving, and it transforms.

[9:03] How you bio-hack, and how that works?

There are many definitions. I think of it as health solutions I can put into place to get the result. I want something measurable and repeatable to hack my biology. And there are different spectrums of it, like red light therapy or sleep bedroom hacks. You can do things like monitoring your Fitbit and putting strategies into place, which helps you get more deep sleep. 

[11:16] How do you get these people started?

I usually have a general order of steps I follow, but I often find that that only lasts for one or two weeks, and everyone takes off on kind of their train.

[12:20] build into that foundation. We’re going to talk about sleep, food, movement, your brain, and how you’re processing your decisions that have created the result.

[12:37] When you start doing this, what’s the first focus. Is it mental, body, or do you do both at the same time?

I often like to focus on nutrition first. I think sleep is the thing that moves the needle the most. But I often find that I want to start with food because it brings up all the drama. And I love dealing with the drama, finding out why we’ve always done things a certain way. 

[17:07]  I also love the idea of one of the core concepts that I teach is the ability to tolerate discomfort. 

[19:40] How do you make this tactical and actionable for people?

What I do is I create spreadsheets to analyze not only all the sleep data are coming off of our trackers but watching everything going on. Like what days did we work out? How is that affecting our sleep? What was your energy like on this day? I create a detailed list of activities for them to complete the following week.

[22:32] Where are you at now with your whole practice of biohacking?

I have been watching my sleep and hot, cold contrast showers right now. I have been playing a lot with biorhythms specifically.  So I’ve started to lean into my chronotype and adjust my workout schedule to fit when it best serves me to maintain my energy.

[25:06] What promise did God make to the world when he created you?

To be the person that makes people want to keep coming back and invest in their health because they love being around the energy that fuels that for them. 

Key Quotes:

[13:49-13:54] “If you’re definitely in the realm of trying to create something like this world, you have to be able to manage you.”

[19:20-19:23] “You have to challenge yourself beyond what you’re comfortable with.”

In today’s episode, our guest is Jennifer Watson, an integrative physical therapist, health and soul and leadership coach, breakthrough & inspirational speaker, and entrepreneur. She is passionate about working with high-achieving women & men to achieve the health and the leadership they truly desire, post-trauma, and assisting this process through the healing power of mental wellness, your unique soul power, and your badass scars. Today, she is going to share how she wants to elevate the minds of conscious business leaders to unleash their full potential. 

[05:29] Why should we listen to you?

I actually want you to see the lighting that's more powerful than you probably ever realized before. And how I do that, and how I've done it in my journey, I've been working on that, holding that for a lot of years, and tapped into a lot of tools to get myself there and help others get there faster than I did.

[06:25] Where did you get the skills you work with? How did you figure it out?   

I've been an integrative physical therapist for 20 plus years, had a couple of different brick-and-mortar businesses. And what I found in working with people is obviously there's more than a physical component to wellness. And I started tapping into all areas of wellness including emotional, mental, spiritual, and I found when I did that in my practice, that not only help people heal but optimize their peak performance. But where I saw a piece that was missing and what I started getting into about three, four years ago, is the coaching aspect of creating the mental edge of getting people on a change to create mental edge together.

[08:36] Do you find that through your journey you've ever kind of been in a jar?

Yes. this is why believe in coaches because people can see objectively where you're at and actually could learn that from your team. When you're the leader of the team, you have to be humble enough to take in what they're seeing as well. True mastery of life and creating a mental edge is understanding that you're never in full mastery until you're six feet under.

 

 

[10:06] What is the journey?

I was planning my death around tax season because I thought it'd be less paperwork for my family. I was suffering. I was actually just a caged animal in my mind. I really got to that rock bottom. But once I got to actually see the pureness of who I really was because everything else had to be taken away in my journey, I had to take away the money. I had to take away the success of being an athlete. I had to take away everything that I thought made up me that actually was part of my depression story, and realize who I was, my identity. And I had to reach out to a lot of coaches and get support to make my way. It took a few months, maybe even some years to refine to get to the other side. I've healed my brain. 

[12:45] What do you think are some of the things that you learn from those moments?

I am enough. You really have to take that from your head. But we always have it up here in our head, but to take it 12 inches down to the heart and say, Yes, I am enough. And I think we really have to get to this space of knowing we are truly enough. I'm in this flow because I get enough. And I'm also at the right time, at the right place doing enough. And when you get that second component, I find it that just beautifully rises itself into this powerhouse person you can be and create the impact you want.

[15:11] What would you say you’re true identity?

My true identity starts core with my spiritual identity, my spiritual currency and my spiritual currency writes in with my co-creation with the Creator, which is God in Jesus Christ. That's where my identity starts all the time. I am a passionate leader that wants to help leaders be better leaders, that is truly my passion in this state, and is part of my identity.

 

 

[16:55] What's kind of the typical process for someone to work through their life?

A lot of things have been triggered in us. We've heard this before, old wounds, old traumas, old beliefs, old scars all want one old behavior. And what I say to all my coaching clients, this has been a beautiful year to let all that cheezy come up, whatever is triggering you, that's where I start with you. You have to be willing to contrast, you have to be willing to play with a lot of different things. And then third, we start then refining your craft. Once you find out what you're good at and what you love, then we start refining it, whether it be in personal goals that you have, professional goals. When you're on the inside of the bottle, no matter how much of an expert you are in different things, you need someone to help you out in that space.

[22:39]  What promise did God make to the world when He created you?

That I can influence in the most inspiring way that I could and that I would live my life fully every single day

Key Quotes

[19:01-19:04] “Entrepreneurship is a gateway to your spirituality and your identity.”

Learn more about Jessica Watson on:

Website: https://www.jenniferwatsonleadership.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jenniferwatsonleadership/

In today's episode, our guest is Anna Nyakana, an Award-Winning and Bestselling Author, Motivational Speaker, and Business Owner of NiyahZuri Books NiyahZuri Studios. She grew up in Connecticut and pursued writing and musical skills, but she ventured more beneficial for people's world. She started with children's books and is impacting not just kids but also adults.

[8:23] Why should we listen to you?

I'm a radical. I'm here to tell you that everything you may have thought is probably not true. The way that the world is formed against you. But I'm here to tell you that everything is working in your favor. So you're going to want to listen.

[5:36]How did you get to the point that you are impacting lives?

Understanding that I had a purpose and a destiny, and I was the only one who was standing in my way. Realizing that the only thing standing in between me reaching my fullest self was myself,

[13:28] Aww Shift Bad Moments 

In the neighborhood where I grew up, somebody told me that I only have three or four options in life: to become a young mother, sell drugs or join a gang, or end up in jail or dead. There weren't a lot of options in the neighborhood that I grew up in. We did not have any options to choose life. I got all the rejections from publishers and everyone when I wanted to create change and the impact that I wanted to impart. 

[16:58] Critical Moment

I was on Sirius XM radio and the Amazing Karen Hunter Show. That was so profound for me at that point in my career because she seldom had authors on her show, let alone someone who's an independent author that showed me that the work that I was doing so far, not only just in my state but now it's jumping state, nationally. People were paying attention, and it was making an impact.

[19:58] How do you infuse your work with adults? 

Making sure I'm constantly staying active, tapping into the tribe, giving daily doses of gems and fundamentals, and empowering. The Nizari movement is a daily dose of encouraging everyone to get out of their way, create that shift, be purposeful in their lives, and understand the value they are mattering in everything they're doing every day.

 

[25:23] What Mountains are you climbing now in your life? 

I've been creating a whole new set of understandings. When you reach that personal summit, you can now take a moment to look outwardly and see how far you've climbed. You look down at the value below that you're in maybe some months, or some years ago, you can see also who's underneath. I'm reaching a peak right now, personally, and I know once I get that peak, it's not going to be the end. For me, it's just the beginning.

[31:31] What promise did God make to the world when He created you?

I'm here to save the youth. But first, I need to learn how to save myself and teach others to do the same.

 

Key Quotes

[9:28-9:32] "the only thing standing in between me reaching my fullest self was myself"

[16:02- 16:03] "In a sea of no, I chose to give myself the Yes."

 

Learn more about Anna Nyakana: 

Website: https://annanyakana.com/home

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/niyah_zuri/?hl=en

Twitter:https://twitter.com/Niyah_Zuri?ref_src=twsrc%5Egoogle%7Ctwcamp%5Eserp%7Ctwgr%5Eauthor

In today's episode, our guest is Blair Nichols, the Director of Stages of Advance your Reach. He’s also a Coach, Consultant, and Co-host of Inside the Greenroom with PV3 Podcast. He has deep expertise in developing speakers for corporate events, conferences, and other thought leadership opportunities, including internal and external communications. Blair enjoys helping unique individuals and companies foster new strategies for operations, communications, business development, and partnerships to further develop and enhance their bottom line and brand. Today, he is going to tell us how we can share our message with our audience.

[5:34] Why should we listen to you?

I guess it just depends on where we pick up and why you should listen to me. A lot of the time, when people reach out to me, they want to know about how they can get on stages, how they can spread their message, and get help figuring out how they can really get heard.

[7:39] What do you think is a difference between a $2,500 speaker and a $25,000 speaker?

It usually just comes down to demand. If people are coming to you and inviting you to speak, it's a lot easier to ask for a fee than hustling and getting out there and trying to get on a stage where people don't know you.

[8:57] The greatest speakers that probably work with bureaus are in that 10 to 20, 25k range. Once you get above that, it's because you've got a bit of demand. Maybe you have a best-selling book or some name recognition. Once you get into that 25k to 30k range, that's where people are doing that because they've already got some sort of established platform that's generating that interest.

 [10:17] Sharing a message through purpose

If you have a message to share because you feel in your heart and will whatever you're called by and whomever you're called to share that, then that comes across more powerfully if you've got kind of a purpose behind your story.

[10:39] Storytelling has been around for thousands of years. But the people who end up getting paid a lot of money to tell stories are the ones that have that intention. They have an intention to make an impact on changing lives.

[11:09] It has to start from your why or your big purpose and why you want to get out there and do it. That's what sets apart the people you can tell is just a sales pitch, and those who have a story that's impacted them have led them to success, and they want to impart on other people.

[12:16] What are some of the biggest roadblocks that would give speakers more freedom?

The important thing to know is that every stage has value. It's about understanding why you can monetize at any stage

[12:39] If you have that best-selling book, that name recognition, or you've kind of established yourself, and you're able to turn down things because they can't meet your fee, then that's awesome. But that's a very small percentage of speakers out there. What's important to keep in mind is that you can build a business through stages and speaking where any stage can have value for you.

[13:38] Think about other types of products or other things that matter. You're not going to be selling on that stage, but you're going to be getting in front of an audience that, hopefully, you're going to make a connection with. Then they're going to want to follow you, and then you've got them in your world. When you have those other things to offer them, some of them will take advantage of that, and that's where stages start to become valuable.

[14:43] You want to take a step back first to reverse engineer to get to the point where it can be something that makes you money. It should be about that purpose, that impact, and those problems you're going to solve because that's what's going to bring the money to you rather than trying to get out there and sell something that people don't need.

[15:59] What are all the stages that people are missing?

Right now, in the virtual environment, you've got podcasts, webinars, summits, conferences, Facebook Lives, and all the different social media channels. Stages now are all these different platforms where you can get your message out in front of the ideal audience.

[17:30] A stage is any opportunity in a platform where you're connecting with an audience, and hopefully, it's the ideal audience you want to.

[18:23] What would be the best course of action for them to pursue right now?

You want to make sure you have clarity around the problem that the message is solving. You want to make sure that you're clear on who that message is for.

[19:00] You want to get a sense of both your message, the problem you're solving, and who you want to speak to. But as far as getting started as a speaker, speak anywhere.

[20:18] You have all of the tools available to get your message out there. It's just getting started and putting yourself out there in front of any audience you have access to and let it go from there.

[20:04] Is there a separation or thought that you have on whether or not someone should focus on social media to build their ability and make good speeches?=

So being a great speaker is all about practicing and being committed. Anyone who does this or anyone you consider like a superstar practiced their craft for many hours.

[21:51] Social media is one big way to split test your message to an audience that knows and loves you. A lot of speakers are lazy about how many platforms they want to be on. If you want to be a speaker and want to influence the world, you want to be on every platform.

[22:54] If you've got that clarity on your ideal audience and you can look into what platforms they're using and how to reach them, then you don't want to ignore them. You don't want to let that opportunity go to waste by not sharing content on other platforms.

[25:14] Putting in the effort

The next step is very much within your power. Get out there on stages that are available to you. Be willing to share your story with anyone that you meet. Think about how that core message can be done in a few minutes with a stranger that you just met if you get the opportunity to be on a stage and just continue to put yourself out there and be consistent.

[25:48] The people who are successful are the ones who stick it out, who put in the time and effort to build that, and knows that it's a slow build sometimes, but it's a compounding effect.

Key Quotes

[10:14-10:17] "Speaking is not a vocation. It's an advocation."

[17:18-17:21] "Every opportunity you have to share a message is really a stage."

[22:33-22:42] "You're leaving audiences out, and you're missing opportunities if you don't try to take advantage of anything that is really relevant."

Learn more about Blair Nichols on:

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/blairbnichols/

Website: http://blairbryantnichols.com/

Company Website: https://advanceyourreach.com/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/BBNichols

In today's episode, our guest is Todd Herman, the godfather of identity. This guy has an incredible brain. Not only is he a good human being, but he's one of the few people that makes my mindful inadequate. He's so smart, so caring, so serving, but at the same time, he works with Olympians. He's worked with the NFL network and building something with some cool content. 

[6:50]  What do you see as some of the new times things people are dialing into that are being difficult, that identity is attached without them knowing?

So there are two things that I talk about with people. One of the big things that I help to try to encourage people to reshape as a way that they see themselves is that there is no one you. I can't put you underneath a microscope or any other device and see that there's just one identity that's there because the reality is we all sit on many fields of play in our lives.  We have many roles that we play.

[10:05] In 2008, the field of psychology completely shifted. And now multiple self-theory, which isn't a theory, is one of the root kind of pillars of that world. It states that the people who see themselves as having many identities, many selves that operate in the world, and they intentionally create themselves in a way that helps them win and lead a high-quality life are more fulfilled and resilient.

[10:55] The two things that people struggle with right now are role strain and role conflict.

[13:35] How do you reconcile with the concept of giving themselves grace and permission to go into this realm? 

Then I asked people two questions. Who created the ME? Did you choose the ME that you're talking about right now?  And then the other part of that is, who are you now? 

[17:09] How does it show up in real life for people when they want to make the change?

For some people, it's not about being someone different. It's about trying to find a way to allow this set of capabilities and qualities you have nested inside of you to more naturally come out of you, unencumbered by the concerns, worries, doubts, and judgments of other people and most likely yourself. 

[20:29]  And a lot of times, it comes straight back down to values and character strengths or traits. And the easiest model that you can go and use is the 24 character traits that Martin Seligman and Christopher Peterson from the positive psychology movement defined. And then if you take a look at those 24, you go if I was to put a list together, a five that would turn me into a powerful leader that I intentionally acted through every single day, would that give me what I think I want to achieve or how I want to show up? And the answer will be because the statistics and the data show s yes, it will. And then you go to the next role in your life. 

[22:35] Learning and developing the skill of talking to yourself in the third person is one of the most transformative things any human being could ever do because you start speaking to yourself in an I form in your head. 

[25:14] Are there things that need tools and be very beneficial?

I accept all forms of notes on the carrier pigeon's legs. So I tell people to ask the same question. You can go outside or should it be yellow flare I'll come to find you.

[27:02] What promise did God make to the world when He created you?

That when you meet me, you're going to be met with kindness.

Key Quotes:

[15:59-16:17] "Really honor the fact that who we are. We're creators. We can create. And just because you're here and now with an identity or a personality or a persona that has worked for you so far, that isn't who you will always be."

[22:35-22:43] "Learning and developing the skill of talking to yourself in the third person is one of the most transformative things any human being could ever do."

In today's episode, our guest is James Beck, a structural integration therapist and author who teaches corporate environments and culture services about healing pain. This person is passionate about helping other individuals remove pain physically, like helping high-performance athletes, chiropractors, personal trainers, and physical therapists. 

[4:41] Why should we listen to you? 

I came from a foster home called "Last Chance," where street kids who were physically abused are placed. I realized that I could help other people, just like how my father had helped me when I almost gave up on myself.  

[5:51] Moving to Los Angeles 

When I moved to Los Angeles, I learned how to write and knew that massage therapy could damage a person's psyche. I wanted to explore how far good touch can remove pain and do the opposite. I was also the therapist for American gladiators and the biggest loser.

[7:11] Feeling Empty and Resetting Life 

This was the time where I felt empty. It felt like my life was about me. I feel like I climbed the wrong mountain even though I have many opportunities around me. On April 1st, 2011, I invited all my friends over, and I said, take it all. By giving everything away, all my things, my mind was rewired to a survival level. 

[8:49] I went around the United States, and I served one family and every state of the country. I did not ask a dime for my time. I wanted to go around my country and make someone in every state feel priceless like I did.

[10:04] I did a coat drive a couple of years ago where we brought like 3000 coats and where I also realized how much pain the white people have caused them. I understood and served them, not only individually, different relationships. And there are simple principles that you can use to transform the dynamic of any relationship.

[11:45] Moving back to California 

I met my wife in California, who is a Lieutenant Colonel back then. I became a structural person and learned how to do high-level therapy. I would serve the soldiers under my wife's leadership, where every soldier had the same problem repeatedly, which was sacred iliac dysfunction. I also developed this level one certification to where any athlete or chiropractor, PT, massage therapists can balance.

[14:00] Impactful Situation 

I met some in Ohio, where she asked me to take her kids on a fishing trip. At first, I didn't know what I can teach them, but then instead of having it be about me again, learning to turn my mind off as how I can help you not be a part of the interchange at all, but just let the other person dictate everything. Then she started to pay forward to the community.

[16:45] Betrayal 

When I was in the Navajo nation, I thought it was tremendous and committed by that other person. I thought they were committed to me, but they were not, and I realize that I committed to the wrong person. You did not spend the time to figure out if this person was worthy of your word. You give your word before you did your due diligence.

[20:00] National News 

When I rolled out my stories, the national news agency picked them up. When you realize when you have the work and are just doing the work consistently and have your heart in the right spot, the magic happens. And that maybe if you are trying to scheme and strategize and everything, you could not have gotten that just by doing the work; it all turns into something.

[22:00] Communication 

Communicate on an absolute level, what you are going to, is it just as a human being, having it just be human and my pain connected with their pain, and since it was authentic and genuine, we were able to bond and grow through that. People do not realize that how you get into a flow state, enhance consciousness, and enhance performance is through service.

[24:09] What promise did God make to the world when He created you? 

It is to be reckoned with. I wanted to be a reckoning to myself. It is both a country reference and a spiritual reference.

In our episode for today, we have Courtney Epps. She is a tax strategist, an international speaker, author, and accountant. Courtney is also the owner of OTB Tax, a full-service accounting firm. One of her missions is to provide her clients with the highest level of professionalism and expertise. Join us today as we discover more about her and learn how she does her work.

[5:11] Why should people listen to you?

Because my whole purpose in life is to teach people how to save more money so that they can have more, and in return, I nourish more children, free more children, and free up more money for people. You must heal people financially first to be healed physically, mentally, and spiritually. 

[6:13] How did you start helping kids?

I had many medical issues in the past and have consumed great products. Three years ago, I was struggling with the fact that stuff does not drive me. Still, I am a very driven person, so I asked myself what drives me and what I can do daily to force me to do things that I do not necessarily want to do. Then, this non-profit called Manor Relief is the only non-profit that provides advanced nutrition for whole food. And we have gone from serving 500 kids a day to 14,000 children a single day. My goal this year is to provide 50,000 children a day.

[9:23] Reason for being a tax strategist 

The reason I became a tax strategist is that there are not a lot of us. I have not been able to find a person like me that works in small to medium-sized businesses.

[14:06] People you want to be part of your team

Taxes are stressful because of deadlines. The ones who pick up on providing nutrition and freeing up money for people love it. People do not have any experience. I would much rather have someone with no experience in the accounting world or even admin and teach them everything they need to know. Then I will have some come from college to train them and retrain their brains because the focus has always been just to prepare a tax return based upon the information given. It was not about how to save these people money and what I can do for these people. It is a very different world that we live in, and we spend 90% of my time is spent doing tax strategy sessions and teaching people how they are accounted for. 

[18:32] About your book

My book less taxing, more relaxing, is why you would be brain dead not going to business. People must be business owners. And then what is your plan B is the second book kind of to that. And that one is why your would-be brain-dead downtown, a home-based business. With everything going the way that it has been, with COVID and pandemics, there were 27 million people who lost their jobs. And I think the way that we all come back together and how this all gets better is that one parent can stay at home and be able to be with their kids and spend time with them.

[21:25] How do you address people that are stuck in the process?

We do not wait. I do not advertise; I do not market. I speak. I speak, and I will talk to the people who are willing to listen. It is like right now waking people up; you wake them up until they are ready to wake up. The ones that will not help and want to understand are why that book is more relaxed and less taxing is just explaining why there is a better way.

[28:20] What promise did God make to the world when He created you?

What God gave me is that I was supposed to end suffering financially. We must heal people financially, spiritually, mentally, physically, so we can bring more people to God To teach more, how to have more, live more, give more, save more. And then we can help more and free more and end more suffering. The greatest thing we can do right now is not to focus on ourselves.

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In today's episode, our guest is Chris Rainey. He is the CEO and Co-Founder of HR Leaders, a cross-industry learning community powered by the world's most influential HR practitioners. He's also the host of the HR Leaders Podcast and HR Leaders Live. He will be sharing with us his experiences from bullying, being a dancer, entering into the Sales Industry. He talks about how he was earning double the amount of what a doctor is earning at just age of 18 and how learning more gets you to earn more.

[12:08] Why should we listen to you?

I would say because I'm a good listener. I have been a good leader, husband, and everything in life has been a good listener. A great conversation starts with more listening and talking hence, why I became a podcast host for that perspective.

[12:40]

I have a lot of good to give in terms of my heart. When you speak to people, there's always this hidden agenda. When I have a conversation, I always think about how I can add value. I've kind of learned over my career and even childhood of starting the conversation there. I think about how I can add value to this person's life. I feel like starting a conversation with that can lead to some incredible things.

[14:12] Giving value back to others

I get the most satisfaction out of actually improving other people's lives or giving value back to them.

[15:18] How did you get to that point of being the person you are?

I grew up in a single-parent household with four kids moving from hospitals and public housing around the UK, where there are five of us living in a room, basically, which is not easy. Surrounding the way we got there was a lot of drugs and violence in the household.

[16:08]

At the time, I thought that was a big weakness. But I discovered later on that that was my biggest strength coming from that place. I think that's where you have humility because of what it's like to have nothing.

[16:29]

That, for me, is one of the reasons why I take the time to know how I can help people that I know I can help from the position I'm in now. I'm lucky that I can do that. That's where I come from.

[17:00] People taking granted

If I give and the person just keeps taking, then it's really a kind of a one-way relationship where you're doing it for the wrong reasons. That relationship very quickly ends. But I'd always try and see the good in people and start off the conversation there.

[17:30] What are you doing in life?

I work with Chief HR officers from the world's leading global brands. These are companies with 100,000 plus employees. The policies, practices, culture, and the work they do is impacting millions of employees and their lives around the world. The practices that people take away from our podcasts and how they execute back in their business are impacting millions of people all over the world.

[19:32] What is the journey to your career?

I was just sick of being bullied. I remember having this conversation with myself that you either continue down this road, or you're going to do something about it.

[20:44]

All of the bullies were on the basketball team. I thought that if I can become an incredible basketball player, bearing in mind that I've never played a sport at this point, then they will leave me alone because I'll be on the team.

[22:23]

The moment where the bullies just left me alone because I became basically the best basketball player in school over the next year or so was the moment I realized that I'm in control of my life.

[22:41]

I realized that I could be really bad at something in a very short period of time with dedication and a process and being able to fail forward and understanding that that's okay. That's how this works. It changed my entire outlook on life.

[23:19]

In the entertainment industry, it doesn't always work like dancers. I can take the summer off and just chill, or I can learn something because at this point again, I was hungry. I've always wanted to try sales. I felt like there's always something about it and that because I was poor. The ability to pick up a phone with someone who has never spoken to you and generates revenue always fascinated me.

[28:47] From part-time to 14 years

I literally delve deep into anything I could get my hands on, like human psychology, learning people's micro-expressions on their faces to read out, and all sorts of crazy stuff, and it transformed my life.

[29:21]

I didn't think I'd be growing up working in human resources, running a business, traveling around the world, and working with these brands. I realized along the way that it wasn't about me. It's about doing some work that can impact millions of people.

[30:09] What are the key lessons you have from these moments that other people have either never learned or takes time to learn that you wish that people just knew?

[30:38]

 I'm not good at anything. No one is good at anything when they first try it for the first time. It's unlocking and giving yourself permission if it's not meaningfully given it to you right now. Take a chance. What's the worst thing that can happen?

[32:11]

You have to have a growth mindset. Without that, you're not going to get very far. That's something I took away from all of the sports that I played from having a growth mindset. I used the same application when it came to business.

[32:34]

The Internet exists, Google exists, and YouTube exists. There's no excuse. There's never been a better time ever to be alive if you want to grow and build something or learn something.

[33:35]

Seek discomfort. When I get comfortable, I think I'm not doing enough or I'm constantly seeking discomfort. Operate from discomfort, and you'll get used to it.

[34:29]

You gotta put yourself out. You've got to get out of your comfort zone. Nothing worth doing happens when you're in a comfortable position.

[35:30] What promise did God make to the world when He created you?

He made a promise that Chris will always be there to invest in those that want help.

[36:18] I was here to give back to people, which is why I started to show that you spend every day just trying to give back.

[36:46]

I realized that my vulnerability and my humility is my superpower because it allows people to unlock their best self by seeing that.

Key Quotes:

[13:34-13:37] "Most people in this world, they're always trying to get something from your brain."

[23:55-23:58] "I'm always going to have a job because something has to be sold."

[28:44-28:47] "The more you learn, the more you earn."

[31:12-31:17] "Fail forward. Try it. What's the worst that's going to happen? It's either that or liver of regret."

[31:53-31:57] "How not to do it is the best way to do it."

 Learn more about Chris Rainey on:

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Twitter: https://twitter.com/ChrisRaineyHR

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChrisRaineyHR/

Company Website: https://hrleaders.co/

In today's episode, our guest is Ron Worley, from homeless, addicted, and alone to a multi-millionaire. and the author of "Ditches to Riches: How to Survive Your F&%$ed-Up Life and Create a Kick-Ass Business. He reveals his chaotic past, personal reflections, pivotal decisions, and life lessons. He also shares how every man needs a woman to support him through happiness and pain.

 

[8:13] Why should I listen to you?

I'm pretty vulnerable, which I put myself out there right away to most people. Right off the bat, as you said, you see a big smile. And you're going to have a good interaction with me, and I will be honest with you. And a lot of times, my wisdom is all I've got.

 

[9:21] Highlight and lowlight real moments

I was a drug addict; by the time I was a senior in high school, I was full-blown into every drug that you can imagine, and it destroyed my life. I let it ruin my football career in college, and I got kicked out of college a couple of times, which led me to my career path into bail bonds. I was successful, but I'm still a heavy drinker and womanizer and all-around wrong person because I lost my marriage and children. I got into cocaine badly in my later 20s, and that's how I ended up homeless was too much cocaine. I couldn't support the habit after I lost my job. 

[10:40] After a few years of beating with alcoholism and drug addiction, along the way, there are attempts in my life, and I ended up in suicide mentally. I did everything I could not be alive. And my whole path was to try and die. I was busy and what was I going to do? So I got out of that hospital, spent a couple more weeks drugging and partying. I woke up from that car accident in the hospital. And the right person told me to eff off. And that was my final bridge.

[12:16] And with the stipulation that I got sober. And so I did spring forward from there into sobriety. So I spent that first year just enjoying getting my kids back getting a job. And ultimately, they don't remember anything from those days. And all three of them have grown up to be very successful young people.

 

[13:43] How much do you tell your kids of the past?

I waited for critical positions in their lives when they screwed up. To let them know that, you know, I've also done that. And here's how bad I did it. Here's how much worse it was for me. But you can see where I'm at today. So not a big deal. It's a road bump, it's a speed bump in the middle of your life, and it's not the end of the world to be in trouble right now.

 

[17:32] How come people who have been stuck in a ditch for a long time are unable to climb out?

They don't realize there's an out, and there was a period. I know it's challenging to get off rock bottom, but there's a path to get out to on your way out for people who have never been in that low point of their life. I mean, everybody's rock bottom is different. But when you're in drug-induced alcoholism, intense, nobody will talk to you.

 

[18:57] Turning point to get out of this place.

When my mother's told me to eff off, and I'm sitting in the hospital, I asked her for some help to get me out of the hospital and whatnot, and a place to go. And she said, no way, you can't come back here. I was embarrassed that I had nobody. And the only way I could see to get my mom's good graces back in my mind needed my family.

 

[21:26] The path journey from ditches to riches

I always tried with bail bonds; I always had spare time. It's not. It's not digging ditches for 40 hours, and it's answering the phone. I'm pretty free to do other things. So, I quickly learned about systems, how to build systems in your company. And I learned how to hire professionals to do a good job. That way, I could continue to do my bail bonds because that one was the one that required me. 

 

[25:20] Cool wisdom about the book

After years into my sobriety, about eight years into it. I came up with ten values that suited my family and me, and all got behind them. We put a big poster on the wall that said, the worldly way. We put values into our business. And I was able to then talk to my employees about their hearts. But ultimately, I tell everybody, you should have your list of 10 values. That that was all born in the world away just, it works so well for me. 

 

[30:38] What promise did God make to the world when He created you?

He promised that I would give light and comedy to every situation and be a rock for the people around me.

 

Key Quotes

[27:28-27:34] Should have your mantra you know something to beat your chest to and be proud of.

 

Connect with Ron Worley: 

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ronaldworleyii 

Book:https://www.amazon.com/Ditches-Riches-Survive-Kick-Ass-Business-ebook/dp/B08HX9BD2V 

Website: https://ronworley.com/