Aww Shift

In this episode, our guest is Matthew Korban, a Certified Health and Wellness Coach Executive. He has a vast amount of experience in coaching and has been in the industry for a long time. Matthew has always been spirited to help deal other people’s worries and woes during the peak of their executive careers. As someone who have been through near the death’s door, Matthew shares to us how he defied death, found his purpose in life and sow the seed of inspiration to the rest of the world.

[05:15] Why should we listen to you?

I have a lot to share to people like myself and entrepreneurs, who thought that they were doing the correct thing and by the time they figured things out, it’s already too late.

[06:15] Matthew’s death-defying journey

I was born in Beirut, Lebanon at the day when there was a Civil War. I was running for my life for the first 13 years of existence in the midst of the war.

[07:17] My mind was all about working hard and wanting to get away from the war. I love my country; I was born there but I dislike the fact that I lived in a war. I don’t have a childhood and I did not grow up like a normal child. I knew that I will eventually have a family and I want to give my children something different.

[10:49] After 20 years of working tirelessly, my wife suggested that I should seek medical attention because there was something wrong with me.

[11:56] I was told that I have five months to live and I have a severe case of internal injury. I have been planning my entire career, lavishing the attention I get but my relationship to my family has been on the sidelines, especially my health.

[13:31] Purpose and Drive

I prayed to God to help me overcome my struggles. I took the operation and before I closed my eyes, I saw my family, my children and the people I did not have the chance to see. I saw the people that I was missing

[15:09] I realized I was doing it all wrong, especially to my colleagues, peers and top-executives who are overloading themselves with work, neglecting their health, family and everything.

[15:47] When I recovered, I went back to school to get certified as a health and life coach.

[16:13] You don’t need to sacrifice everything; you can achieve balance by doing the right thing. All you need is to seek help and not go through a phase where a doctor dictates how long you will live.

[17:17] The 3-Step Process

I have developed a process to help people, the first stage is the discovery phase. It starts with discovering why they do what they do. The second stage is to pivot once the reason was discovered and the third is to calibrate and launch.

[19:56] Ideal Clients

I would love to say everyone but no one can cater the entire populace. I specialized on top executives. It’s very professional and stubborn audience but one thing that I can relate to, because I know exactly what they need and their worries.

[21:13] When someone says he/she does not need it, it means he/she needs it. It takes real courage to ask for help. I thought being a coach is the laziest job in the world but it was hard. Business people deals with services or products, I deal with human beings and that’s a big responsibility.

[24:18] What have you done for the world?

I’m trying to make a change. I coach my clients, speak on stages and podcasts. I’m writing a book that would hopefully help everyone. There are times where I feel tired and hearing my client’s celebration of blessing made me happy. I love working with people and this is my purpose.

[27:30] What promise did God made to the world, when He created you?

I hope people remember the good changes that I made and how it impacted to their lives.

Key Quotes:

[06:36 – 06:42] “The way we live as children reflects our adulthood later on.”

[16:33 – 16:36] “I still remember that moment, fear changed me.”

Learn more about Matthew Korban on:

Website: https://matthewkorban.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/matthewkorbanPP

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/matthew_korban/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/matthewkorban/

In today’s episode of the AWW Shift Podcast, our guest is Cindy Miller. She is a professional golfer who played on the LPGA Tour and is married to former PGA Tour Golfer, Allen Miller. She is a Certified Behavior, Motivation, and Emotional Intelligence Professional. She is also a speaker and author and currently plays in the Legends Tour. Her journey to being a professional golfer was filled with ups and downs but nonetheless, Cindy managed to rise from the top and reach her dreams, and today she will share with us what obstacles she faced and what adversities she had to overcome in her journey to success.

[5:16] What do you do on a daily basis?

I give golf lessons at Buffalo, New York. We work in a public driving range. My husband and I are the only married couple in the world that played on the PGA Tour, LPGA Tour, Champions Tour, and Legends tour. We're also certified behavior analysts and motivation people so we do a lot of corporate training with companies who have people that are unmotivated and underperforming and I love unlocking potential.

[6:37] Before Success and Being Driven

I don't know why I'm so driven. I'm a competitive control freak who I grew up in a household where my parents played golf and they would drag me to the country club. The pool was my babysitter and I would go swimming. They would drink at the bar, go home, and fight. I had to call the cops on my father when I was just 10 because I thought he was going to kill my mother so I grew up petrified my whole life.

[7:17] I knew my dad loved me and he would always tell me that I can do anything. And he was an entrepreneur. I was just petrified that he was going to kill my mother because I walked in one time and he had a knife to her throat so I don't know why I'm so driven.

[7:48] My only other option was the golf course and I was actually pretty good at it. My mom took me to an LPGA Tour event when I was 17 years old and I saw Laura ball who was a year older than me and I was awestruck. I thought “that's what I'm going to do and I'm going to beat her” so I came home and I said I want to play on the LPGA Tour.

[9:36] I was running away from my house and running towards a dream.

[9:41] What separates you from others?

I was willing to be humble. I would sit and watch all the superstar scholarship athletes that were supposed to be great and I would go, “What do they do that I don't do? What do they do better that I don't do right now?” I would sit and watch them take golf lessons then I would go hit balls, then I would watch them play in tournaments.

[10:55] I asked for help. So many people are too proud to be okay with sucking. Look in the mirror and say “what do I need to do to get better?”. I qualified to play on that team in the top five and that's where we won our first national championship so I think you have to be willing to be humble and look in the mirror and ask for help.

[11:49] The transition from College to Professional Golfer

I went to the qualifying school and I missed my three. It's not like you're really bad, you're just not good enough so I got in the car and I drove to California by myself to play on the mini-tour to get experience and to learn how to play so I could qualify the next year, which I did.

[13:19] While I was at the University of Miami, I met Alan Miller who played on the PGA Tour for 15 years. He's played in the Masters five times. We just became golf buddies and then we ended up getting married so I went from LPGA Tour player to PGA Tour wifey pool. That was a blessing and I thought if I can't be the star, I'll make him a star.

[14:05] Marriage

Alan becomes an alcoholic who uses booze as a way to hide himself. He ends up quitting the tour and we end up teaching golf at a public driving range of Buffalo starting every year at zero. We've got kids and he tries to commit suicide so I file for divorce and the whole thing's just falling apart.

[15:33] I had filed for divorce and we went to divorce court but I lost the divorce. He had been in mental hospitals twice and he quit drinking but he was so depressed. So he goes away. They don't file the papers in the courthouse and  Alan comes back.

[18:03] Cindy’s it box

How bad does it have to hurt to be willing to move and to do so?

[18:24] You have to be willing to look in the mirror and say “Who am I? What are my strengths? What are my weaknesses?” You need this strength in that weakness and that weakness in the strength. It helps you know who you are and what you want to do.

[18:57] Once you know why you're here, what you want, and who you are, you have to do something about it. You have to plant a seed and start working on it.

[20:01] You need to stop digging it up to see if it's growing. Leave it alone and put it in the light. Water it and nurture it. If you do, there is no telling how good it will end.

[20:37] I don't want to have to teach somebody who doesn't want to learn because I'm not going to make you do something you don't want to do. I want to help people that want to get better and better. If you're going to whine about why you're not better then I'm not your coach.

[22:02] Just being yourself

Everybody's born for a reason. Everybody's got gifts and talents. I've tried to act like I'm real professional, and I trip and fall and spill stuff on me. Just be you or be the best you.

[22:42] How often do you care about other people's thoughts?

I will help anybody who wants to help themselves. I feel as though I have a gift and even if you doubt yourself, come here because I'm going to make sure that you know that you can do this. But you have to get off the nail, look in the mirror, do something about it, and plant a seed.

[23:28] I used to care about what people think and sometimes I do and I shouldn't. But that's not my heart. My heart is to help people. You have to be able to repel the ones that aren't supposed to work with you and attract the ones that are. Anybody that is willing, I'm willing.

[24:21] What promise did God make to the world when He created you?

“Here's my girl Cindy. She's gonna love people. She's gonna help them learn to believe in themselves once she learns to believe in herself on what she has done now.”

Key Quotes:

[13:03-13:06] “If you ask somebody for help, most of the time they'll give it to you.”

[17:02-17:08] “I believe you're born for a reason. So it is your potential, your passion, possibly your purpose in life.”

[22:54-22:57] “You got to treat people the way you want to be treated,”

Know more about Cindy Miller on:

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TWITTER: https://twitter.com/cindymillergolf

YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/user/thecindymillergroup

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What is Patriarchy Stress Disorder? What is the reason everyone has it? PSD talked about much, but it is an issue we should give attention to. Either you are a man or a woman, it’s possible you may have it but don’t be alarmed because we can heal from it and today’s guest has the cure for that. Dr. Valerie Rein is a women’s mental health expert and her main goal is to help people achieve the best mental health. She is a psychologist best known for discovering Patriarchy Stress Disorder and today, she will share with us all about PSD and what we can do as a man or woman to heal from it.

[6:26] Why should we listen to you?

I discovered patriarchy stress disorder. This is the invisible trauma of oppression that everyone has, but nobody has talked about. People wonder what’s wrong with them and the answer is nothing. We inherited this trauma of oppression that lives in ourselves and it shows up in how we think, how we act, the choices we make, and it's not our fault. We didn’t make it but we can heal it.

[7:26] It has unhooked me from things that conventional psychology, therapy, or self-help was helpless to help me with years of incapacitating anxiety and depression. That’s what I’m inspired and happy to talk about now why this thing is so important how it can change lives.

[9:04] Patriarchy Stress Disorder and being a Woman

This trauma is intergenerational and that means that it's more than we have experienced in this lifetime and we have inherited a lot.

[10:13] PSD is women fearing the smell of cherry blossoms and what that is for women is anything that puts us in our power, our authentic self-expression, our sexuality, our knowledge, or fully shining in the world, all of that steps over that line of what has been allowed to women under patriarchy because being in our power has been a punishable offense.

[14:03] How do we approach the conversation of Oppression?

Start with awareness and having conversations that change the lands from a woman being caught in this trap of thinking something is wrong with them. They need to fix themselves to identify that they’ve inherited it and it’s not their fault.

[14:58] We start with understanding what is getting in the way is not a character flaw, it's not that we’re holding ourselves back but it’s something in our nervous system. And we can heal it, we have that healing technology and it's grounded in epigenetics, neuroscience, biology, psychology, and it actually works rapidly that one of the keys to that technology is rewiring the nervous system to the feeling of safety and embodying it.

[15:56] What really matters is that yes, it can be healed and we can stop that intergenerational transmission of trauma in one generation. We have scientific evidence of that too when one generation heals, the next generation is free from the trauma.

[17:18] Feminism and Patriarchy

Feminism as a word is triggering too as a word because people mean different things. When I say patriarchy, I don't mean men and when I say men, I don't mean patriarchy. When I say patriarchy, it’s a system of inequality and oppression that has been in existence for a long time.

[18:27] We got to start undoing and dismantling these things somewhere and feminism has been this movement that has been bringing to the forefront of people's awareness that the radical idea that women are equal to men. That's what Feminism is all about.

[18:53] We got to start somewhere. We start with these conversations and we approach them humbly, understanding that we all have tons of unconscious biases and uncovering them is not always pleasant. It is shocking and unpleasant, but it's necessary for healing.

[19:37] Patriarchy is a system and people across the gender spectrum are supporting this system. The mind-blowing realization is understanding that women uphold patriarchy, perhaps even more so than men.

[21:51]  If we get men, women, and people across the gender spectrum to see the invisible, to see how that operates in our subconscious, to see how that shows up in our behavior, choices, thoughts, and relationships, then we can dismantle the upholding.

[24:09] What promise did God make to the world when He created you?

I want to say awakening. Seeing the invisible, helping people see the invisible so that they can do the impossible, and coming to a greater balance.

Key Quotes:

[20:58-21:04] “Women uphold the patriarchy because it has been essential for women's survival.”

[21:59-22:02] “We must see the invisible to do the impossible.”

To know more about Dr. Valerie Rein, follow her on:

Website: https://www.drvalerie.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drvalerierein/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/drvalerierein

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCEYKwkWCYCSkvpPA8W1ZegQ

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drvalerierein

Are you in the middle of a crisis? Do you want to get through life’s problems and be at peace? Problems are part of life but it can be overwhelming at times and become stressful yet there are ways on how to be calm and focused in the middle of a crisis. Our guest for today is Samantha Gordon. She is a communications expert, Yogi Expert, and the author of How to be Zen in a Crisis, and today, she will share with us all about her book and what you can apply to your life in order to be Zen in the middle of a crisis.

[5:16] What is the purpose of your Book?

It's called How to be Zen in a crisis, a practical guide for surviving and thriving during life's predicaments and even a pandemic, and the reason that I wrote this book is I had so many people reaching out to me and they ask me “how can I put my head back on straight during this crisis?”.

[6:46] I wanted people to get peaceful during the pandemic or any other life crisis because it does happen to all of us at some point and right now, it's probably happening to everyone and I wanted to reach everyone and be inclusive no matter what your faith or background is. That is the reason that I wrote this book.

[7:09] It’s a guiding handhold to get you through that point of stress to a point of resilience so you can make the best decisions for your life during the crisis and come out exponentially better.

[8:08] Why should we listen to you?

The reason that I even got into life coaching is that people wanted my advice. After I would give my advice to them, they ask me why am I not a life coach or that I should become a life coach because I’m delivering great advice and that prompted me into taking this personal development journey seriously and making it the focal point of my career.

[9:17] What are the Aww Shift Moments that shaped you?

I would say a pivotal time for me was just my upbringing when I was five years old. My family was uprooted to Australia so I was thrown into this completely different culture. 

[9:49] It was a completely different experience to be immersed in you. I think that's where really my communication expertise started at such an instant stage before I got my degree before I worked for these corporations, and before I got my television show, it really started just so simply by being brought up in a different country and having to navigate those different waters.

[11:06] I had struggles as everyone has and all of those struggles are what allowed me to create the content and the roadmap of how to be set in a crisis because you can't write about a crisis unless you've been through it. 

[11:27] It was actually such a blessing to have the pandemic though it sounds weird yet it was a blessing to have it happen because I had this information to share at this time already waiting and it was just a great opportunity to share it with other people and really give them what they needed.

[12:16] Making the Shift

Depending on what situation you're currently in, the roadmap will look different for you.

[12:54] One of the chapters in my book is all talking about how to harness your energy and transform it into something that can make your life fantastic. Once you have that mind shift change, you’ll see that the overwhelming, terrorizing experience is actually a gift and you can do what you want with a gift.

[15:08] Being Zen

It's all about getting calm so that you can make the best decisions because when you are running around like a chicken with your head cut off, you are not making good decisions for your life at all and your relationships are going to be affected. It’s going to be a ripple effect and it can be in a positive way. It's all about harnessing your inner peace for a practical purpose.

[15:50] It’s about trying to get Zen and realizing that we inherently are peaceful deep within. Once we find our inner self and peel away all that is not necessary and not real. What’s real is that we are inherently loving and peaceful people and that we’re a community of people that are all one and it's really about connecting to that essence of life that is important.

[17:24] Admitting that there’s something wrong

You have to first self reflect and be brave enough to self reflect. It's going to be uncomfortable but you do have to lift up the rug and have a look at everything you've shoved onto there because otherwise, it's going to explode and we want to be able to deal with it in a very methodical and peaceful way.

[18:27] If you don’t admit that there’s something wrong with you, it's not going to help you. You have to be willing to take that step and realize that this is for your own good and that change is uncomfortable at first but ultimately, it is the best thing that you can do for your life.

[19:10] You have to allow these things to pass through so that you can get to that point of enlightenment and practical resilience because you don't want to stay stuck where you are. That’s not fun.

[19:38] What are things that people should quit doing right now?

Focusing on what they can change and focusing on all the negative aspects of their circumstance that they feel are different. You need to just focus on your opportunity, and simply just see where there is an opportunity.

[20:40] If nothing bad ever happened to you in your life, you're not going to have that opportunity to help others and have this transformative experience for your own life that is going to take you from just mediocre to just absolutely fantastic.

[21:29] What promise did God make to the world when He created you?

I feel like my gift to the world right now is reaching everyone. I'm allowing them to find peace where they don't have that connection to spirituality. I'm giving them a pathway. My journey right now is to at least hold their hand and allow them to find peace and resilience no matter what their background is.

Key Quotes:

[7:48-7:54] “It's all about just getting peaceful so that you can have the best life that you can possibly have.”

[20:37-20:38] “When you're broken, the light gets in.”

Learn more about Samantha Gordon

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https://www.facebook.com/SambaeZen/

In this episode, our guest is Jimmy Hays Nelson. He has been a high-performance business coach for over a decade. Jimmy's unique skill is helping his clients to seamlessly connect their personal stories to their product or service. Using his 20+ years of experience as a stage and film performer, he crafted his own personal story to create a 7-figure business and now dedicates his life to helping professionals craft their own stories to attract and impact the lives of their ideal audiences. Today, he’s going to share his story and how we can turn our lives around for the better.

 

Coach Jimmy’s Career

[4:05]

I've been helping people build businesses by harnessing the power of their story for 13 years in the health and fitness industry. In my 20 years of experience as a professional actor Is just helping professional storyteller, storyteller, and business builder man,

 

Why should anybody listen to you?

[6:05]

Because I have made a lot of mistakes in my career and if I can do anything, it’s to eliminate people's pain points. In life, we either get to be an example or a warning and I've had my fair share of being both and so what I want to do is give that pivot point and shrink it for people to get to success even quicker.

 

Jimmy’s Brag

[8:33]

What I get to do and help people master a story and their message, I get to impact more lives that way. If I get the opportunity to do workshops with people and find out what their message is and how they want to impact the world or if I get to be a little piece of helping them craft that story to have that impact, that's legacy and that's what I'm most proud of.

Receiving response 

[11:54]

That opportunity to tell a story and to get an emotional response from an audience was something that just always appealed to me.

 

Doubting himself

[14:11]

Sometimes when like it's revealed to us, we know what we're supposed to do but we immediately have a list of all the reasons why it'll never happen. My physical limitations were always the thing keeping me from just stepping into my greatness or that I had nothing within me that I'd been given a gift to impact other people because what I saw on the exterior did not look like success.

 

Making his own stage

[18:26]

I stopped waiting for somebody else to tell me I'm good enough to be on their stage and started making my own stages. 

[19:01]

And for me, that was the shift. And it was right about that time that I started building my brand and my business online. I'm gonna go all-in on me and I started investing in my own education.

 

The Baby steps

[20:25]

You can add value if you tell your story and show people the baby steps because there's something more attainable. To me, it's like how can I “How can I help you make those first couple steps?” because sometimes that's the hardest.

 

You are You

[21:34]

Nobody executes exactly the way I do. There's other motivational people in your space too, but nobody's going to deliver. Your stories are like your thumbprint, nobody has yours and that's why you can add value, regardless of who else is in your space. It eliminates competition because you're you.

 

Failing before Winning

[23:04]

You have to be willing to suck at something. You have to just be awkward and awful. You got to go through that part. When I coach people and I get done with my trainings, I always tell people that the first person to go screw this up is the one that's going to win, because that means you put it into the world. You're not waiting for it to be perfect, you go mess it up.

 

Sharing Personal Stories

[24:55]

If we can identify what that personal story is that ties to your products and services, that is the fastest way to separate yourself in a very noisy marketplace, and telling a personal story is the fastest way to create know, like, and trust with your audience.

[25:56]

I believe everyone has a seven-figure story if it's well crafted. And that's what I try to use my experiences to help them craft that. 

Key Quotes

[8:05-8:10] “Instead of having an excuse, man, shut up and listen, start learning, start activating some things.”

[11:10-11:13] “It's not just the resume, It's the things you've struggled with as well.”

[19:38-19:41] “You should not start telling people how to run the race until you've crossed the finish line.

 

Learn more about Coach Jimmy on:

Website: https://thecoachjimmy.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thecoachjimmy/?hl=en

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CoachJimmy

Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheCoachJimmy

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/user/CoachJimmyVids

In this episode, our guest is Emily Mishler. She is the Founder and Managing Director of the Cultivated Group. She specializes in business development, creative & brand strategy, strategic planning, and fundraising. Emily launched her first company at the age of 22 and has since raised and distributed over $20M of private investment for private clients, for-profit entities, and NGOs. Today, she will share with us her journey and how she overcame the obstacles and became the successful woman she is now.

Emily’s current activities

[4:14]

At the moment, I'm based in India and I love to travel which is a big part of my story. I also don't believe that I've quite mastered but I love a good pivot. So I lean into the art of creative living. I run three different companies at the moment and I just recently became an author.

Why should we listen to you?

[6:38]

I think sometimes we can be our own biggest obstacle and I am living proof and living example of not only the road less traveled but also learning how to get the hell out of my own way. And being able to shine the light on that and to not only shine the light but really live that out through example on to the businesses that we're building and the impact that we have in this world through those companies and not only that but our everyday interactions. I think it's worth a listen.

What are the 3 companies you are part of?

[7:22]

It’s called The Cultivated Group. We run three different consulting firms, two of which are very similar for startups and for nonprofits, they're two different substances. What we do is all business development. So it's connecting, we work on only impact-based projects to make the world better. 

[8:12]

What we do is all creative so it's the way that I like to think of it. It is the creative bucket. It is parts web development, parts social media management, parts, creative endeavors, and parts boutique publishing firm.

Where did this all begin?

[9:10]

There were a series of doors that just kind of flew open. I've always been much more of a yes person and much more of a leader towards the sign of optimism and opportunity than I am someone who's going to completely shut something down full force. I was always curious as a kid and just leaned into whatever was happening at the time. I had a turbulent childhood and it really made me realize how important helping to plant seeds for the next generation is going to be throughout my life.

[10:02]

It's been just a series of right choices, doing the right thing, and following the right feeling. And just saying yes to opportunities.

[10:34]

I eventually wanted to get a Master's and ended up doing that there was a master's in business will with a philanthropic specialization. I was leaning into that and I realized that I didn't really want to just solve one problem, I didn't really want to just be a part of one conversation, the world needs more than that. And I understood the case for specialization and I completely understand the case for focusing on one problem and driving full force towards that. But that's just not the way that I'm wired so rather than continuing to fight that, I leaned in and got curious.

Trusting Life

[12:20]

I have always erred on the side of Trusting Life. The way that I think about spirituality, connectedness and the world is through that lens. I believe we're all connected, we are all here, and we all have a purpose and mission to fulfill and a part of my life's purpose is being expressed through these companies and through the work that I'm doing, but also through the exploration that's given me that's led me to these answers and the solutions.

[13:26]

I think a lot of times in our lives, we're presented with opportunities and we don't necessarily want to see them and we don't want that opportunity to be an option because that feels like it will completely unravel the entire existence that we've just built up. But what we don't know is that life does have a plan and all we need to do is follow the breadcrumbs.

Playing with Life

[15:22]

Life throws and wrenches sometimes. You just have to see where you're at and keep on your toes. I think that there's an inherent playfulness to life so if you lean into it, it becomes more of a game and more of playful interaction with life into the challenges that sometimes feel like obstacles but is really helping you to grow and learn whatever you need to get further along the path that you're meant for.

Pivoting

[16:26]

I’ve had some of the most devastating moments while also having the most beautiful and honorable moments. I chose to pivot and push myself past what I knew to be possible at the time and what I knew myself to be capable of which also was interesting because it provided an example for my close friends and family that I had allowed him to that space, provided them an example of what was otherwise possible too.

Making Enemies

[17:21]

Watching somebody else go for it while you are while you're still continuing to turn the same stories but you have been training for a really long time and choose actively choosing whether it's conscious or to not move forward from that can be super triggering. 

Do you find it gets easier over time?

[18:37]

No, but you get stronger and you learn to identify generally what's for you and what's not. Your gauge gets stronger as your mental physical spiritual muscles also get stronger. But no, I've been confronted especially recently as I've continued this self-discovery journey, but also the entrepreneurial journey. 

Where do you see your book in the future with the issue you want to solve?

[20:18]

Kids should believe in themselves that they can do anything that I wish that I would have been able to have as a child despite all of the different circumstances that life presents you especially. Not only do they have the normal challenges of being a kid and figuring that out, but they also have a much more limited social interaction.  From that, an emotional and cognitive development perspective is different than anything we've ever seen. 

[20:50]

We're hoping to change the world from the inside out planting seeds of self-belief in kids, giving them life lessons, giving them access to tools, and giving them access to travel through these books, because right now, it's looking a little bit different than it ever has.

Do you see a Pivot in the Future?

[23:06]

I do. A lot of people said that they really love the messages of the book. What I've realized within the companies that we're running right now is that I don't want to be in charge of all the operations and everything to have to do with the entire operation from point A to point B at all times so I definitely eventually see a pivot.

What promise did God make to the world when He created you?

[27:00]

My initial response is love. We're all friends from all places and all spaces.

 

Key Quotes:

[7:41-7:72] “Be the change you wish to see in the world”

[13:53-13:56] “My job is to throw the first pitch the universe takes care of the rest.”

 

Follow Emily Mishler and her Company at:

Website: https://www.thecultivatedgroup.co/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thecultivatedgroup

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thecultivatedgroup/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/the-cultivated-group

Meredith Atwood joins us for today’s episode. She is a former attorney, author, podcaster, speaker, and coach.  Her book, Triathlon for the Every Woman: You Can Be a Triathlete. Yes achieved a must-read status for beginner triathletes. Today, she shares with us her journey o how she turned her life around from being in the darkest point in her life. Join us as she shares her experiences and how you too can be healthy, fit, and change your life for the better.

Why should we listen to you?

[7:26]

Because I have been probably in the darkest that anyone has been and I have been in the serious lows. I drank like a fish for 20 years and I've been severely overweight, out of shape, and just suffering. And that's such a word that people don't want to admit.

[7:58]

I think that my relatability is because I've been in the trenches and figured out a way to climb out. I fall back in sometimes and climb back out but it's that rebound effect.  I've learned the art of the rebound like when you fall down, you get right back up so that's where my audience I think has come and followed me.

Being real and sharing the truth

[10:05]

We're too busy in this avoidance culture or the numbing culture to just pretend things are okay and act like we have it all together. For me, I think I do disarm people by just shooting straight and telling my story about being suicidal or telling my story about being a drunk.

[10:39]

There's always a sense of realness when you're sharing your truth. Look in the mirror, what people are struggling with, and understand that everyone is struggling on some level.

What people find in her Work

[15:04]

One of the biggest takeaways people have with my book is identifying their people-pleasing. And this is a really big thing, especially for women. We're trying to make everyone else happy  at our own cost and just becoming aware of that. That’s the biggest thing I think people take away is to start to meet yourself with the truth, that it's gonna hurt, it's gonna stink and then you're free.

Knowing why

[16:06]

Figure out your “why”... why you want these things, and the truth about why you're doing it.

[16:18]

I think if you start trying to fix something, or change your habits without knowing why, and without knowing the extent of the damage, you don't get anywhere because you haven't seen the extent of it,

The Truth Onion

[17:26]

In my book, I talk about the truth onion that we all have a presenting problem. That is our onion. 

[17:51]

When you start to peel that away, you go okay but why? Why do why am I overweight? Why do I eat too much? Why don't I exercise? Why don't I take care of myself? Where does this come from? And you start to ask, and you will get to the center that is the reason which stinks and you probably cried along the way to get there. It's an onion, you're peeling to the core of the truth.

[18:23]

If you haven't done your own work, you can't help others but if you can see their onion, and you see their presenting problem, you can help them peel it.

Finding strength in what you do

20:05

If you're in a place where you know who you are and why you're doing it, it won't matter so much what other people say. The goal is to figure out your why and to be rooted in it and to find strength in it.

[20:58]

Being strong in who you are. In the beginning, you don't know who you are, when you're really trying to dig yourself out of some stuff. You don't know so if you can just go back to that, why? Why am I doing this? That's enough. You just got to keep that dream in focus.

Taking time to accomplish

[23:03]

It doesn't matter how long it takes to accomplish anything, the time is passing and you're missing out on every day, you don't show up to your dream every day, that you don't do what you say that you want. And you don't put that into motion, you are missing out.

Looking back into the Past

[24:26]

If you can look back to where you came from where a lot of the habits we've created, the nonsense that we've created, it started then, it came out of names and numbers and nicknames and events that started when we were young. That's where we were shaped.

[24:47]

I think it's very informative to look back to where you came from and to see where the habits that you started when you were younger that no longer serve you now who has goals. That's the important chapter because that's where our beliefs were formed.

The Concept you turn in to your clients

[26:28]

The beautiful thing is, the more you're exposed to information and just talking about it, it's still movement forward. Anytime you're putting your skin in the game, there's this huge pressure to jump in, change your life, and fix it all. Life is not linear. It's not a linear process . We just have to embrace that and just accept that we got to go through whatever the process is.

What promise did God make to the world when He created you?

[28:06]

There would always be a sense of humor to come along with the hard stuff.

 

Key Quotes:

[8:34-8:38] “You can be in the depths and find a way out that there's always a light.”

[13:47-13:51] “If you lead with a joke even though it's your truth, that's a way to connect.”

[20:36-20:42] “Don't accept criticism from someone you would not accept advice from.”

[22:04-22:09] “Never give up on a dream, because at the time it takes to accomplish it, the time is gonna pass anyway.”

 

Follow Meredith Atwood on:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SwimBikeMom/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/swimbikemom

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/swimbikemom/

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/user/mnatwood

Website: https://swimbikemom.com/

Follow her podcast The Same 24 Hours on:

Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-same-24-hours/id775943089?itsct=podcast_box&itscg=30200

In this episode, our guest is Greg Dillon, founding partner of OneTeam Financial, LLC. As someone in the business industry for a long time, Greg is exemplary when it comes to retirement decisions to maximize your savings. Today, Greg will share to us how to plan your retirement and the ways of utilizing your savings and get the most out of it.

[03:43] Why should we listen to you?

We work for people who are preparing themselves to retire or people that are already in retirement. We have seen the good, bad and the ugly and it helps to craft our unique perspective of what a retirement looks like.

[04:12] How did you get into this industry?

I have always been interested to stock market. When I was young, I was a math nerd and started my career on Wall Street working with big clients, asset managers and institutions. I decided to work with individuals on 2012 where I found my passion in helping people. I wanted to establish close interpersonal relationships and be less transactional prior to my career.

[05:34] Education & Preparation for Retirement

Personal finance is not taught in our school systems and in my eyes, it’s precious than other subjects you learn that you never end up using. It’s never too young to start learning saving and you should start reinforcing the habits early, for your kids.

[07:10] Parents should open a Roth IRA account for their kids and utilize the money their kids earned during their summer jobs. They should explain how powerful compound interest is and how it’s going to have a huge impact on their life. Have them buy shares of stock at a company kids are interested in like Disney or Netflix. This way, they will have the reason to follow the stock and learn something from it.

[09:33] Struggle and Overcoming

I was an intern for a financial advisor during my teenage years and I enjoyed it. I went to college, got my degree and started to work on Wall Street. On 2012, my job was replaced by an algorithm, a machine.

[10:10] It was time to step back and think about what I wanted to with my life in the foreseeable future. Working with people was the first on my checklist. 

[11:22] My advice for people who is thinking of making a huge decision on their career, specially to people who do not have income and have no clients, is to join a team that you respect with knowledge and client-base that will help you grow.

[12:48] What sets your team apart from others?

We take a team approach. We believe that you can’t know everything hence we have different experts for different subject matter. We try to build our team with the best class of experts and create a collaborative approach. Our value proposition is to make sure that everything that you have works with one another might it be insurance, income streams, investments and that you have a comprehensive view of everything.

 

[14:24] I specialize in distribution planning. I help figure out how to draw and maximize your money for retirement.

[17:40] Plan for Retirement

I live a modest lifestyle. I don’t see myself retiring. I could see myself working a couple of days a week.

[18:11] You need to have something that you want to retire to. It might be hobbies or volunteer works, as long as you thought it through, you pull the trigger. We have worked with people who were truly tied to work and when retire, it mentally pressures them as they don’t know what to do.

[22:45] What promise did God made to the world, when He created you?

I would raise my children with family values and help them make a difference in the world with the thing they are passionate about.

Key Quotes:

[10:56 – 11:01] “Without my colleagues, who were also my mentors, I would have not survived.”

[18:06 – 18:10] “Sitting on a couch and watching Netflix is not a plan for retirement.”

 

Learn about OneTeam Financial on:

Website: https://oneteamfinancial.com/

 

Connect with Greg Dillon on:

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/gregory-dillon-cfa-cfp-158a055a/

E-mail: [email protected]

 

In today’s episode, our guest is Nathan Hirsch, Founder of Outsource School. He has been a veteran entrepreneur for a long time. Nathan is vehement about building proper and correct business protocols that would help ease the problem of an entrepreneur, especially in hiring the right people that would fit for their company. He recently sold an eight-figure business completely operated by virtual assistants and today, he will share to us his struggles, insights and tips to build a sturdy foundation for an upstart and flourishing company.

[5:07] Why should we listen to you?

My mission is to help entrepreneurs avoid bad hires and provide virtual assistants through an excellent hiring process. It becomes a lot of fun when you got that process down and we provide SOPs to be integrated in your business to get things done while doing less work.

[07:05] When is the right time for a business to run on its own?

It all comes down to an acceptable hiring process. It’s not random and hope for the right person to show up. You need an actual process for interviewing, on-boarding, training, managing and most importantly, standard operating procedures. Many people right now are focused on marketing but without people to hire, you are setting a ceiling on your business.

[08:36] Setbacks

Around a year of my Amazon business, I thought I found the person right for my company. I trained him well, I got less stressed out and my business was making more money. I went for a vacation only to find out that he wanted to leave. My efforts were all down the drain, I was devastated and come to learn that it was a wakeup call for me.

[12:20] Standard Operating Procedures

I start with “Whys”. Why are you doing the task, how it impacts the bigger picture, what does success and failure look like. The person needs to understand the bigger picture before diving to the steps.

[12:47] The beauty of the steps is, SOP evolves over time and it will improve continuously. You don’t need to create the best SOP in the world day one.

[13:22] You need to include the important reminders. A lot of businesspersons hide the important things and when the VA misses it, the owner gets frustrated and don’t want to hire virtual assistants anymore. When you break the SOPs into the why, the steps and important reminders, you have succeeded in creating an SOP.

[15:06] Outsource School’s Process

You get them to learn it on their own and you will accomplish two things; First, you will see how the person learns without mentoring and Second, you will improve your SOPs and amend the parts they are confused about.

[15:43] If they had a hard time understanding, you can part ways without wasting your time at a cost of a little money. You cannot just snap your fingers and have a prodigious hire who understands everything but you can create an efficient system that takes up a little of your time as possible.

 

[16:49] Dealing with software transitions

The first step is to try to not change software as much as possible. If you really have to do it, give your team a heads up, hold a meeting, listen to their feedback, answer any of their questions and make sure that everyone is comfortable with the change.

[19:09] What is success?

Success is freedom. I can be anywhere I want, whenever I want and have pure flexibility to do everything.

[20:14] Legacy for the children

Finances are not taught in school when you are young, and I am lucky my parents taught that to me. Not everyone wants to be an entrepreneur but if you mishandle your finances, you will run into issues in life and that is something I wanted to pass to my children.

[22:02] Business recommendation during the Pandemic

We have never lived in a better time to start a business affordably. Being able to see opportunities out there, do research and trial and error is important.

[25:35] What separates you from others at your age?

I am consistent while other people procrastinate on things.

[26:45] What promise did God make to the world, when He created you?

To give back to the people that did not have the opportunities that I had, specially to people living in the third world countries.

Key Quote:

27:05 – 27:08

“A lot of entrepreneurs don’t understand how fortunate they are.”

 

Learn more about Outsource School at:

Website: https://www.outsourceschool.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/outsourceschool1

Twitter: https://twitter.com/SchoolOutsource

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/outsourceschool/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpUwpdi4VdyTNjbSHeyIdaA

We always find dealing with small claims court a headache and can cause us multiple thousands of dollars when we don’t know what we are doing. We have Steven Lefkoff today to introduce us to the Gavel Program. Atty. Steven Lefkoff is a small claims court attorney who goes by the vision to help the community that is underserved. Join us as Steven helps us to understand the loops and ways to get over your cases in a small claims court.  

 [4:03] Why should we listen to you? 

What set me apart from other lawyers is I’m serving a population that is underserved.  I always think how I can help people. 

[6:40] What is the benefit of having an attorney in a small claims court

People lose cases they should win because they don’t have the right evidence, no witnesses and do not know what they do.  Having the right tools that you have will back you up on what you are fighting for. 

[9:14] Attorneys that lie

The industry is full of these kinds of people and they make it difficult for clients I help. 

[12:15] Where to start? 

When you hire an attorney, it brings the formality to the dispute. I recommend to work things out first and when you hit a roadblock you make the call. It saves you headache, time and money.  

[16:30] I launched Gavel which is an online program designed to help you understand and prepare for small claims court. First of a kind offering which is a big help to people who wants to understand and go through small claims court.  

[20:38] Being an entrepreneur and a lawyer

Having a law degree people sorts of trust you. Being in this position makes it easier to gain the trust of people in buying your product. 

[24:32] What God’s promise to the world when he made you? 

It goes back to helping people. In my case I help people in legal specifically in small claims especially they are underserved. 

Key Quotes: 

[7:00 – 7:17] “They don’t bring the cause forward either they are intimidated by the process and fail to step forward, but if you have an actionable claim the system is built to help you” 

[13:27 -13:36] “I always recommend by folks start by trying to work these things out by themselves” 

For more information on Steven Lefkoff and The Gavel Program visit:

www.Gavel.legal