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We end season one on a thankful note, thanking everyone that took time to listen, re-post, comment and make suggestions on what we could do better. 

With your continued support, we look forward to making the 2nd season even more exciting, interesting and successful.

There are no perfect fathers, just loving fathers: Fathers who stop the world for their children's happiness, Fathers who motivate their children to achieve amazing things, Fathers who are there for their children no matter what (A bank used this as their Father's day greeting and it resonated so much).

Truth, we maybe don't appreciate fathers as much as we really need too. The role of a father is always changing in our modern world.

What exactly does it mean to be a dad? The art of fatherhood is evolving as society and the traditional family changes.

Today's families are increasingly more diverse, including single parent families, blended families, same gender parents, unmarried parents, and multi-generational families. Over the past three decades, societal changes including the rise in numbers of women working outside the home, escalating divorce rates, remarriages, and blended families are causing shifts in both maternal and paternal roles.

Changes in parenting styles have given men more options for responding to obligations as fathers, husbands or partners. Today's dad is less likely to automatically rely on his own childhood experiences for fatherhood guidance. With the constantly changing roles of dads, what worked well for his father 30 years ago, may not work at all with the complex and varied challenges modern fathers face.

Brothers and sisters are, more often than not, children’s first playmates and adults’ oldest  friends. BUT sibling relationships play out in unpredictable ways with  unpredictable results. Brotherhood and sisterhood can teach social skills and help us learn to resolve conflicts or cause life-long social dysfunction.  

New research indicates that, for many brothers and sisters, sibling  relationships yield mixed results. More interestingly, that same  research, which represents an early attempt to sort through so-called Sibling Effects, keeps falling back on one key point: the effects of sibling relationships in childhood echos through the rest of our lives.

“Sibling relationships influence children’s adjustment and development about as much as parenting does,” Mark Feinberg, who teaches human development at Penn State University.

Rape is a sexual violation and a sexual violation is the most intimate and arguably the most profound of all violations that a human being could experience.  

Sexual abuse, in any form, is traumatic and often confusing for the victims.  Individuals, who are traumatized, especially at the hands of others, require support, understanding, and validation for what they are experiencing and trying to overcome.  Unfortunately for the victims of sexual abuse, there is often a cloak of silence surrounding these issues, making receiving support and validation a difficult task.

The Truth - For many individuals, profound traumatic experiences result in painful existential searching.  Victims may find themselves preoccupied with difficult questions about existence, good and evil, justice and fairness, spiritual beliefs, faith, and God.  

Many will and have questioned the very foundation of beliefs they have built their lives upon to this point.  This questioning can lead to a sense of being lost and adrift with nothing to trust or believe in.  Recovery will be dramatically affected by how well these issues are resolved for the victim. Victims frequently ask questions and struggle with issues that will be discussed at length in this section. 

The inability, or reluctance, to seek support and validation makes recovery especially difficult for mostr individuals.  Over the years, religious communities have been reluctant to broach these topics or help with dealing.

The responsibility of ministers and church leaders is great.  Religious leaders are often seen as the “mouthpiece of God” and have tremendous power and influence with believers and even to some degree with non-believers.  

Your reactions are normal and we can tell you for a fact that It’s not your fault BUT we are here to help you!!!

Sexual assault is never the victim's fault ... Never ever. No matter what was said or what clothing was worn, whether there was alcohol involved, or if the perpetrator was not a stranger ... no one has permission to do anything to you or your body against your wishes.

Statistics have shown that 76% of sexual assaults committed are by a 'familiar stranger'.

According to WHO January 2020 updates - Depression is a common illness worldwide, with more than 264 million people affected.

Depression is different from usual mood fluctuations and short-lived emotional responses to challenges in everyday life. Especially when long-lasting and with moderate or severe intensity, depression may become a serious health condition. It can cause the affected person to suffer greatly and function poorly at work, at school and in the family. At its worst, depression can lead to suicide.

Depression is a common mental disorder. Globally, more than 264 million people of all ages suffer from depression.

Some facts... Depression is a leading cause of disability worldwide and is a major contributor to the overall global burden of disease.

More women are affected by depression than men.

Depression can lead to suicide.

According to WHO (September 2019 updates), every year close to 800, 000 people take their own life and there are many more people who attempt suicide. Suicide is a serious public health problem;

Every suicide is a tragedy that affects families and communities, it has long-lasting effects on the people who are left behind. Suicide was the second leading cause of death among 15-29 year-olds globally in 2016.

Today, we have Dr. R. E Ogbolu, our in-house psychiatrist discussing suicide cues to watch out for, how to deal and ultimately consulting and treatment by a doctor.

According to Wikipedia, work–life balance is the lack of opposition between work and other life roles. It is the state of equilibrium in which demands of personal life, professional life, and family life are equal. Hmmmmmmm!? Equal, how possible is this honestly. Considering the general feeling of tension in the air as caused by the pandemic, we actually decided to bring this topic forward, earlier than scheduled and today, I hope this helped someone.

What does L. O. V. E mean to you! Can you use the 4 letter word just because? It should mean something to you, right? What does this four letter word mean to you?

In this episode, we are discussing depression with our consultant psychiatrist - Dr. R. E Ogbolu.

Depression, even if it's a depressive disorder, isn't a stigma. It's treatable BUT you can only get treated if you talk about it.