BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!

Studies of highly creative people and highly successful people, such as the one by the psychologist bestselling author Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, have shown that a dynamic set of seemingly opposing characteristics is a very important part of what makes them tick. 

“Contradiction” or perceived cognitive dissonance is hard for our brains to process, so we often categorize the world and people into boxes, think even of our of ourselves as being either at one or the other end or the other of the spectrum for many personality traits. The world isn’t so simple and neither are we. The good news is that our “contradictions” can actually be quite complementary, not only to each other but to our success in life.

We continue the endlessly glorious conversation about sexually connetion as a path to deeper understanding ouselves, the ability to explore more dynamic versions of ourselves, and more connection in our lives - inside and outside the bedroom. 

Tune in to learn why you deserve great sex, what the key ingredients are, and how it can positively transform countless other areas of your life!

Join us as we continue to change the culture & the conversation surrounding intimacy and relationships!

¿Cuál es tu definición del amor? Hablamos sobre esta pregunta y más con Lorena Bassani. Lorena es una periodista, entrenadora de conciencias, y pionera blogger. En adición de amor, hablamos sobre definiciones alternas del final feliz, tomar el control de nuestras vidas, como controlar nuestras emociones, y sus cursos.

Whether it’s meeting a new person or talking to someone in our family, there is a point at which (even well-intentioned) questions can come across as uninvited criticisms. How do we walk that fine line while trying to learn about someone else or draw it ourselves when someone else has stepped over our own boundaries?

Wife wants a threesome? Listen to this episode! This week, we’re joined by Dr. Justin Lehmiller, who has our dream job: sex researcher. He joins us to talk about his latest book, Tell Me What You Want, where he surveyed thousands of Americans about their most explicit fantasies. We talk about how sex changes over the lifetime (hint: middle aged sex rocks!), the most common male and female fantasy, how to talk about your sexual fantasies with your partner, and what your fantasies may mean.

Meg Jay, PhD is a Clinical Psychologist and an Associate Professor of Human Development at the University of Virginia. Her books have been translated into more than a dozen languages and her work has appeared in the New York Times, Wall Street Journal, Harvard Business Review and on NPR and BBC.

"Resilience" is of the defining attributes in facing adversity, but resilience isn't just "bouncing back" from a difficult challenge. In fact, resilience might be a lot different than you think—and you might be a lot more resilient than you give yourself credit for. In today's interview with Meg Jay, we talk about why you can't outrun your past, we normalize growing up with adversities, and give advice for how to recognize and reflect on them. We also talk about the importance of life's defining journeys and stages, why history doesn't have to repeat itself, how love heals us, and other healthy coping mechanisms.

Hani Lees Dresner is the Founder of the sex-positive ceramics company, Gashtrays. Hani emphasizes celebration vs exploitation of the naked body in her work and she believes that sex-positivity and body-positivity are crucial steps towards battling sexual and mental health. She sees her work as a “subtle protest” that aims to provoke conversation in a way that is approachable.

We talk about the story behind the Gashtrays movement, her nude-positive family, the hilarity of the human body, and the relationship between sexuality and creativity.

She also talks about us her beautiful handmade vulva and penis artwork and we announce our upcoming virtual workshop on May 1st where you will all have the opportunity to make your very own art to celebrate your body!

Nadia Boltz-Weber is a New York Times Best-Selling author of the book “Shameless: A Sexual Reformation," an ordained Luther Pastor, and the founder of House For All Sinners & Saints.

In our conversation, we dispel the shame that so frequently underlies our beliefs about sex and sexuality. Nadia brings a clever—and extremely comical—point of view to the topic of sex and religion. She argues that sex, sexuality, and pleasure aren't the opposite of religion and what the church stands for. In fact, she argues that, if you look closer, in reality they stand for and value a lot of the same things.

Nadia wants you to love sex and feel no absolutely no shame about it. She wants you to know that whether or not you believe in God—and especially if you do—you're supposed to celebrate it and feel REALLY F*CKING GOOD.

BBXX Founder, Sasza Lohrey, interviews her sister-in-law for a follow-up of our last of Humans of Intimacy, "Teamwork Makes The Dream Work," to get the other side of the story. We talk about her life story, what shaped her view of relationships growing up, common misconceptions of relationships, foundational qualities of a relationship, lessons in communication, the role of luck, how to stay positive in difficult moments, and lessons learning in parenting.

We discuss the five languages of apology, their relationship to the five love languages, tips for a healthy relationship, expressing apology, as well as the power of apology in conflict resolution.

Dr. Jennifer Thomas is a bestselling author, TEDx speaker, leadership consultant, and psychologist who helps people know what to say in any situation, including one of the most complicated situations of them all: when giving an apology.

She has co-authored the book, “When Sorry Isn’t Enough” with Gary Chapman, author of the bestselling book and the world-famous concept of the “5 Love Languages” in which they present relationship-changing research for understanding love, the power of language, forgiveness, the impact of a good apology, and the art of giving an apology in the right “language” in order to be recognized by the person on the receiving end.