BDSM United Podcast

What does it mean to “push your limits” and who can push them? If you spend any time around other people in this lifestyle you will hear the phrase pushing your limits so today we are talking about what limits should and shouldn't be pushed. We also discuss how to do scenes involving pushing limits.

Everything in life has risk, in our vanilla life we learn how to work around those to survive. Every kink has some level of risk, we lower the risk with education and training. Some kinks can be riskier than others and can carry the increased potential for harm and even a fatality. Today we discuss Edge Play and define the differences between hurt and harm.

Being kind to each other and showing gratitude to your partner isn’t a kink or vanilla thing, it’s a human one. But because our identities in D/s can be very clearly defined, we can fall into a trap of taking our partner for granted. Submissives and Dominants alike should show and receive gratitude for what we bring to a relationship. Today we talk about ways we can show gratitude within BDSM.

Kink shaming is criticizing and degrading someone for their desire/need for a kink. It can also come across as shaming if you criticize the kink without directing it at a specific person. Today we talk about kink shaming and fetishizing someone as an object. We also talk about some ways you can be falsely accused of kink shaming.

Establishing your kinks and limits is a very important part of this lifestyle. It should be done before vetting a potential play partner, or entering a dynamic. Today we talk about and define kinks vs. fetishes, and discuss soft and hard limits.

It's always a good time for looking inwardly and working what is inside us. In pagan circles they call this "Shadow work" because the inward parts of us are veiled in mystery. Today I'm giving a review for a book I found helpful for digging deep inside to figure why I have my kinks and fetishes, and instead of trying to fix them, learning to love and accept them. Get your copy of "Existential Kink: Unmask Your Shadow and Embrace Your Power" at https://amzn.to/3ArNQYZ

For those in limited power exchange relationships such as D/s or those who aren't into S&M kinks, there are often benefits to correcting behavior and punishing broken rules through non-physical discipline. Here are some ideas for punishing your submissive without being physical or giving them spankings.

One of the most common complaints we get from submissives who are in marriages or relationships that are moving from vanilla to a power exchange relationship is this one: "I want to be Dommed and my husband/wife isn't doing what I need!" Today we talk about ways to ease the frustration of transitioning an already established relationship into a BDSM dynamic.

It might seem awkward to be talking about New Year's Resolutions months before the end of the year, but goals you actually want to meet take time to plan. Today's podcast gives you some ideas for resolutions you might want to make within BDSM and we talk about how you can take actionable steps to succeed in your resolutions.

Couples in the cuckold/hotwife lifestyle often say that their levels of connection, intimacy, and communication became better after they started experimenting with this fetish. While this fetish can be a positive thing in your life, it can also potentially cause a lot of tension and heartache too. Today we talk about cucking and many of its related kinks and what you need to consider before cucking.