Welcome to part 6a of Identities & Roles in the BDSM Lifestyle! Tops and bottoms are the participants in a scene where one or more kinks are performed. You do not have to be in a dynamic with the person you are in the scene with, and sex (at any level) is not a requirement. Your role can change with different scenes, partners or even during the scene.

Welcome to part 5 of Identities & Roles in the BDSM Lifestyle! Sadomasochism (SM or S&M) is giving and receiving pleasure from inflicting pain or humiliation on a consenting partner. This is a scene-specific kink role for a Top and a bottom. Today we define some types of S&M play and the roles involved in kinky S&M play scenes.

Welcome to part 4 of Identities & Roles in the BDSM Lifestyle! Bondage is a part of kink scenes for Tops and bottoms. Bondage can be something as simple as cuffs on during a scene, or at a more difficult skill level such as Shibari. Today we talk about the different types of bondage roles for Tops and bottoms, along with the 12 types of bondage and the types of ropes involved in the kink.

Welcome to part 3 of Identities & Roles in the BDSM Lifestyle! The Leather community started around the 1940s having strong roots in the gay biker community and who today we commonly call The Old Guard. Leather families are groups of Leatherfolk who have sworn to treat each other as family, to be there to take care of each other through life's ups and downs. In today's episode we look at writings from MasterTaino and MsTori to help define Leather Identities and the Leather Family.

Welcome to part 2 of Identities & Roles in the BDSM Lifestyle! Power exchange is where one person gives the other a certain amount of control over them and the relationship. Some level of power exchange happens in every relationship, both vanilla and BDSM. These identities have nothing to do with kink, or their roles in the bedroom/scene.

Welcome to part 1 of Identities & Roles in the BDSM Lifestyle! When first starting your journey in the BDSM lifestyle, you will read and hear a lot about “roles”. There are 2 definitions for “roles” in this lifestyle; 1. How you identify in this lifestyle, and/or within a dynamic. (For example: submissive). 2. What your role is in a scene, a role playing title that is directly related to the kink in the scene. 

Since we are an educational podcast, we tend to ask a lot of questions. Sometimes we take for granted that we all understand how to answer questions. So what better way to resolve this than to teach on answering questions! Communication is a hallmark of BDSM, helping us learn to communicate effectively is the aim of today's podcast.

One of the kinky things a lot of people are both drawn to and repelled by is that type of play we call Humiliation. We've discovered that no two Tops or bottoms mean quite the same thing when they use that term. It’s more of an umbrella term for lots of different types of emotionally submissive play. Under that umbrella are humiliation, shame, embarrassment, degradation, and objectification.

Although many into BDSM and kink scenes has heard of endorphins, very few people really understand what they are, how they work, and how one can correctly induce the body to produce them. This short primer will answer those questions, and serve as a guide for anyone Topping so that they may successfully send their bottom into Subspace.

Today's podcast is a how-to for how men should use a dildo because believe it or not, they aren’t just for females to get off on. In fact, we explore some other myths and misconceptions around dildos, aside from the main one: they're just for vaginas.