What level of intensity is your Power Exchange? How does your dynamic deal with change? Power Exchange can be messy and complicated because it involves people in a relationship.  Because the more they learn and grow, people often change. There will always be things on the distant horizon that you cannot plan for because they may not even exist yet.

BDSM United joins the Heathens Podcast for a special Yule celebration. We talk about celebrating this season and winter solstice from both right hand path and left hand path mystic traditions. And we talk about the best type of kink to enjoy for your Yuletime play scenes!

BDSM's Old Guard roots were once almost entirely homosexual men. It took almost thirty years before the scene became largely inclusive of homosexual women too. And then almost ten more before opening up to a significant amount of straight people. Today BDSM is considered pansexual in that it is open to all people, therefore it is good for us to understand words you’ll hear used in LGBTIQA+ communities.

BDSM's Old Guard roots were once almost entirely homosexual men. It took almost thirty years before the scene became largely inclusive of homosexual women too. And then almost ten more before opening up to a significant amount of straight people. Today BDSM is considered pansexual in that it is open to all people, therefore it is good for us to understand words you’ll hear used in LGBTIQA+ communities.

The world of BDSM is broad and incredibly diverse, encompassing everything from the use of a blindfold during sex to forms of consensual torture. People with an interest in BDSM used to be considered dangerous. Today however research suggests it is empowering, therapeutic, and perhaps healing.

Here are my personal BDSM book recommendations. Books have been a big part of my life for a long time, there is much to learn from them. These are some of the books that I teach from, as well. If you are new to BDSM this is definitely the list for you! 

Today we answer the question, "Is it okay for me to Call myself Master?" We briefly look at the various origins of the word and give some sage advice for those who think the honorific may fit them.

Today we talk about the identity misappropriation that happens when roleplayers use Dom/sub or Master/slave for their kinky scenes. Often times it is confusing because they feel a connection to our identities even though they are simply larping. We have a few suggestions for those involved in the kink of roleplaying.

Welcome to part 7 of Identities & Roles in the BDSM Lifestyle! Ethical Non-monogamy (ENM) is having a romantic and/or physical relationship with more than one person. ENM is an umbrella term for swingers, cuckolds, poly, open relationship/marriage, casual dating and more. While this is not really part of the BDSM lifestyle, the two lifestyles do cross over a lot.

Welcome to part 6b of Identities & Roles in the BDSM Lifestyle! Tops and bottoms are the participants in a scene where one or more kinks are performed. Today we look at more miscellaneous roles within kink scenes.