We're not always great at allowing others to interrupt our lives, to stop us to talk and we listen or call us and we actually answer. Or make a bid for connection and we don't turn away. We're not great at this at all. We don't like for our lives to be interrupted. We don't want to be stopped, to be inconvenienced. And that's kind of a selfish way to live. Let's talk about it. 

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We're jumping back into the podcast after a little break with a hot topic. Today, we're talking about modesty culture, how it negatively affected young women in the church, and how we can begin making a shift in thinking and how we handle modesty from this point on so we're not leading to more body shame. We're not about that anymore because that's messing up the relationship we have with ourselves. Cool? Listen in. 

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Dr. Camden Morgante on Modesty Culture: 

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Dr. Camden Morgante on Five Toxic Christian Cultures

Genesis 2-3

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So you know how we are getting better at expressing our needs to our humans? Well, it's very possible our humans might not be able to meet the need we have, the one we specifically requested they meet. And if we're honest, we often feel hurt, betrayed, and even attacked when they have to say no. We also feel anxious because now we have to figure out who else to ask. Let's talk about what it looks like to handle this with grace. 

Also, this is a see you soon episode! The podcast will be back in August! 

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Sometimes people will tell us something that is true or that has a little truth in it, and it can be super painful for us to hear. I value truth and clarity and honesty in my relationships. In fact, I don’t have time for people who won’t show up authentically. But sometimes that honesty hurts. Sometimes it hurts a lot.

Especially when it feels true.

What do we do when someone tells us something that is hard to hear or that reinforces a negative belief about ourselves? Or what if what they are saying has truth to it?

How can we respond?

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I think we're all a little angry right now. And grieving. And rightfully so with everything going on in our world and in our nation. So today, I'm just making space for that, but also for us who believe in Jesus to remember who we are. To not let our anger consume when it feels hard to love. We're in Colossians 3. Listen in. 

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Colossians 3:5-17 (TPT)

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My friend Mary B. Safrit, host of the Unsuitable Podcast, a podcast for single Christians, is our guest today. She shares about the importance of friendship to a single person and why it's so hard when friendships end. She then gives us five helpful practices when our friends leave that I think will be helpful for singles and non-singles alike. All of us know the pain of losing a friend, so I hope you enjoy today's episode written and recorded by my dear friend! 

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Another helpful episode on this topic: 

When to Say Goodbye: Episode 14

In this episode, we're talking about the concept of rupture and repair, often discussed in the field of psychotherapy. But we're not looking at rupture and repair in our relationships with others. We're looking at the process in our relationship with ourselves. How I treat myself matters, and it's time I took steps to repair any damage I've caused here. Listen in. 

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"On 'Rupture' and 'Repair'" from The School of Life 

Matthew 22:34-40

Episode 7: Forgive Yourself 

Episode 19: Listen 

To Bless the Space Between Us, John O'Donahue 

Sometimes we set limits in ways that are hurtful to others, like really hurtful. I asked a friend of mine to share a story of when this has happened to him. Listen in. 

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The Boundaries Bootcamp 

We can talk a lot on the concept of emotional boundaries. What if our emotions have too much of an affect on someone else? Or what if we can't seem to separate ourselves from the emotions of others? Come on in. What does it mean to have good emotional boundaries? Let's sit a while and chat about it. 

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One-on-One Coaching with me 

When we have good boundaries, we aren't taking as our own someone else's consequences for their decisions. But what if in some cases we do? What if we have to deal with their consequences for whatever reason? How can we handle that? Listen in. 

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